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Question:

What is Araf? And will there be people who will remain in Arafah forever without entering Paradise?

Answer:

Araf is a high wall, located between and . Allah Almighty said in the Quran: “There will be a fence between them, and on the fences there will be people who will recognize each of them by their signs. They will cry to the inhabitants of Paradise: “Peace be with you!” They will not yet enter Paradise, although they will desire it. When their eyes turn to the inhabitants of Fire, they will say: “Our Lord! Don’t place us with unjust people!” The people on the fences will turn to the men whom they recognize by their signs and say: “What you collected and your arrogance did not help you. Are these not those about whom you swore that Allah would never show mercy to them? They will be told: “Enter Paradise! You will not know fear and you will not be sad” (al-Araf 7/46-49).

Who are the inhabitants of Araf?

There are different opinions about who will be the inhabitant of Arafah. According to one opinion, the inhabitants of Araf include those who have not heard the call of any prophet, the children of idolaters and unbelievers who died before adulthood, as well as Muslims whose good deeds and sins are equal.

There is also an opinion that the inhabitants of Araf will be only those who have not heard the call of the prophets, as well as the mentally disabled.

The most correct thing in this matter is to accept the term “Araf” as mutashabih, and entrust the true knowledge of the meaning of this term to Allah Almighty, since there is no exact information about who exactly will be the inhabitant of Araf. And in the above verses there is no clarification on this matter. What is certain is that Araf really exists, and that it is a place between Heaven and Hell.

Will the inhabitants of Araf enter Paradise?

According to Imam Ghazali, the inhabitants of Araf belong to the category of those who escaped (akhlun-najat) from punishment in Hell. They will spend some time in Araf, and then Allah Almighty, in His mercy, will enter them into Paradise (Ihyau Ulumid-Din 4/57).

The hadiths report that some of the inhabitants of Hell will be taken out from there and introduced to Paradise. For example, Bukhari and Muslim narrated a hadith from Ibn Masud (radiyallahu anhu) in which the Messenger of Allah (sallallahu alayhi wa sallam) explains the condition of the person who will be the last to emerge from Hell: “This person will leave Hell crawling. The Great and Almighty Allah will tell him: “Enter Paradise!”

Based on the fact that the person who is the last to emerge from Hell will be given a place in Paradise equal in size to ten worlds, we hope that the inhabitants of Araf, on whom the wrath of Allah did not fall, will, by His mercy, enter Paradise.

If you fall in love with a traumatist, you need to understand that he does not need love as sexual and emotional pleasure, but healing. In society he feels quite normal and even more than normal. But it is important for him to feel normal (full) in close relationships.

A traumatist (a person who received emotional trauma in childhood) sees the world in a unique way. Having not received enough love and acceptance at one time to feel interesting, valuable, worthy of respect, such a person is convinced that the whole world consists of his “moms” and “dads” - people with a limited supply of love, warmth, and support. He is also very selective in finding a figure similar to his parents (internally, of course), and then in a relationship with her again and again tries to achieve or deserve the warmth and love he needs so much.

Traumatic in relationships

As a blind person, he passes by people who have the resource to provide support and warmth, or, out of fear, he rejects them.

...Often in my therapeutic groups discussions arise about “are there people” who know how to “love just like that,” appreciate “for nothing,” and also know how to open up in relationships, not be afraid of their vulnerability and talk about feelings.

Since the vast majority of my clients are women, they doubt that there are “those” men described above.

For a traumatist, such doubts are completely natural, because in relationships with other people he is in an unknown zone of experience: can someone really love and accept me just like that, and not because I am useful, I don’t bother my loved ones with my needs, and especially if I don’t want to meet someone’s expectations?

However, the answer to this question lies on a different plane:

There are not “people who are able to love me just like that,” but people who have the internal resource to accept and appreciate another person, even if he is somehow different from themselves (or not “as it should be”).

In other words, there are not only parents and their projections in the world, but also other people - capable of valuing themselves and others, getting closer, opening up, talking about feelings and relationships, creating a level of contact that was previously unknown to the traumatized person.

They gained such experience due to healthy relationships in the parental family, or as a result of therapy, or due to other reasons that are not so important in the context of this note.

And these others can and are capable of creating relationships of a different quality, if, of course, the traumatist is ready for this.

And readiness is determined by this:

• If you have already learned to treat yourself with tolerance and respect, if you are already able to accept yourself in your childhood feelings, in your weaknesses and inabilities;
• If you have learned to accept other people's interest in you, without considering it something dangerous, if you are ready to accept involvement in you - as much as another person is able to give it to you, and appreciate it;
• If you are aware of your needs and know how to talk about what you want and what you don’t like, and are also ready to protect your rights to your feelings and experiences;
• If you know how to take responsibility for these very feelings and experiences, without remaining at the point of “they didn’t give me enough, and therefore they should” or “no one in the whole world is able to understand me.”

If you are able to open up yourself...

Then one of two things will happen:

• You will encounter the “old” experience when the person you want to approach will still be slammed shut, will not meet you halfway, and you will feel it.
• You will encounter a new experience in which you will discover completely new aspects of relationships and being in general. And you will feel it too.

And then you yourself will be able to choose what you want - back to the past, convincing of your worth and earning recognition from someone who has not grown the resource to accept, appreciate, respect.

Or discover yourself, other feelings, new experiences, new pleasures in contact with a person who, thanks to his resource, values ​​the same things as you. published .

Veronica Khlebova

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P.S. And remember, just by changing your consciousness, we are changing the world together! © econet

I have already mentioned that a traumatist (a person who received emotional trauma in childhood) sees the world in a unique way.

Having not received enough love and acceptance in due time to feel interesting, valuable, worthy of respect,

Such a person is convinced that the whole world consists of his “moms” and “dads” - people with a limited supply of love, warmth, and support.

He is also very selective in finding a figure similar to his parents (internally, of course), and then in a relationship with her again and again tries to achieve or deserve the warmth and love he needs so much.

As a blind person, he passes by people who have the resource to provide support and warmth, or, out of fear, he rejects them.

…Often in my therapeutic groups discussions arise about “are there people” who know how to “love just like that,” appreciate “for nothing,” and also know how to open up in relationships, not be afraid of their vulnerability and talk about feelings.

Since the vast majority of my clients are women, they doubt that there are “those” men described above.

For a traumatist, such doubts are completely natural, because in relationships with other people he is in an unknown zone of experience: can someone really love and accept me just like that, and not because I am useful, I don’t bother my loved ones with my needs, and especially if I don’t want to meet someone’s expectations?

However, the answer to this question lies on a different plane:

There are not “people who can love me just like that”
There are people who have the inner resource to accept and appreciate another person, even if he is somehow different from themselves (or not “as it should be”).

In other words, there are not only parents and their projections in the world, but also other people - capable of valuing themselves and others, getting closer, opening up, talking about feelings and relationships, creating a level of contact that was previously unknown to the traumatized person.

They gained such experience due to healthy relationships in the parental family, or as a result of therapy, or due to other reasons that are not so important in the context of this note,

And these others can and are capable of creating relationships of a different quality, if, of course, the traumatist is ready for this.

And readiness is determined by this:

If you have already learned to treat yourself with tolerance and respect, if you are already able to accept yourself in your childhood feelings, in your weaknesses and inabilities,

If you have learned to accept other people's interest in you without considering it something dangerous,

if you are ready to accept involvement in you - as much as the other person is able to give it to you, and appreciate it,

If you are aware of your needs and know how to communicate what you want and what you don’t like, and are also ready to protect your rights to your feelings and experiences,

If you know how to take responsibility for these very feelings and experiences, without remaining at the point of “they didn’t give me enough, and therefore they should” or “no one in the whole world is able to understand me”

If you are able to open up yourself...

Then one of two things will happen:

you will meet the “old” experience, when the person you want to approach will still be slammed shut, will not meet you halfway, and you will feel it, or you will meet a new experience in which you will discover completely new sides of yourself relationships and existence in general.

And you will feel it too.

And then you yourself will be able to choose what you want - back to the past,

Convince of your worth and earn recognition from someone who has not grown the resource to accept, appreciate, respect,

Or discover yourself, other feelings, new experiences, new pleasures in contact with a person who, thanks to his resource, values ​​the same things as you.

Veronica Khlebova

Question: What is A'raf? And will there be people who will remain on A'rafa forever without entering Paradise?

Answer: It is known that the inhabitants of Heaven can look at those people who have gone to Hell. Moreover, the Holy Quran states how they will talk to each other:

وَنَادَىٰ أَصْحَابُ الْجَنَّةِ أَصْحَابَ النَّارِ أَنْ قَدْ وَجَدْنَا مَا وَعَدَنَا رَبُّنَا حَقًّا فَهَلْ وَجَدْتُمْ مَا وَعَدَ رَبُّكُمْ حَقًّا ۖ قَالُوا نَعَمْ ۚ فَأَذَّنَ مُؤَذِّنٌ بَيْنَهُمْ أَنْ لَعْنَةُ اللَّهِ عَلَى الظَّالِمِينَ

« And the inhabitants of Paradise after they entered it called to the inhabitants of Fire: “Behold, we have found what our Lord promised us through the mouth of His messengers, with the truth [received reward and bliss], have you found with the truth what your Lord promised you [have you received punishment]?” They said: "Yes." And a herald among them exclaimed: “The curse of Allah is on the oppressors. " (Surah Al-A'raf, 44)

That is, after the inhabitants of Paradise settle in it, they will call upon the inhabitants of Hell. The description of this event in this and subsequent verses with a past tense verb, despite the fact that it will occur in the future tense, emphasizes the certainty that this event will certainly occur.

لُوا إِنَّ اللَّهَ حَرَّمَهُمَا عَلَى الْكَافِرِينَوَنَادَىٰ أَصْحَابُ النَّارِ أَصْحَابَ الْجَنَّةِ أَنْ أَفِيضُوا عَلَيْنَا مِنَ الْمَاءِ أَوْ مِمَّا رَزَقَكُمُ اللَّهُ ۚ قَا

« And the inhabitants of Hell [the martyrs of hell] cried out to the inhabitants of Paradise, asking for help: “Pour on us at least a little water or what Allah has given you, or give us at least a little food!” They will say: “Verily, Allah has forbidden both (water and food) to the disbelievers. " (Surah Al-A'raf, 50)

As for A'raf, then this is a huge dividing wall (which is called a barrier) on which people will be between Heaven and Hell. The Holy Quran says this:

« And between the inhabitants of Paradise and the inhabitants of Hell there is a huge dividing curtain (which is called a barrier), and on this barrier there are people who recognize all the inhabitants of Paradise and the inhabitants of Hell by their signs (such as, for example, by the whiteness of the faces of the inhabitants of Paradise and by the blackness of the faces - inhabitants of Hell). And the people at the barrier will call out to the inhabitants of Paradise, greeting them: “Peace be with you!” And they (the people at the barrier) did not enter Paradise, although they really desire this.

And when their (the people on the barrier) eyes are turned to the inhabitants of Hell, they will say: “Lord! Don't put us with people who are oppressors!

And the people who were on the barrier announced to the people whom they recognized by the signs of the inhabitants of Hell, who were the leaders of the unbelievers: “Neither the property you collected in earthly life, nor your followers, nor what you were arrogantly proud of!” (Surah Al-A'raf, 46-49)

The people who are at the barrier of A'raf are those whose good deeds are equal to bad ones, and they hope for the mercy of Allah. They are not the inhabitants of Heaven, nor are they the inhabitants of Hell. They will be held at this barrier until Allah Almighty makes a decision on them. Huzaifa (may Allah be pleased with him) narrated:

« People who are at the barrier of A'raf are those whose good deeds save them from Hell, and whose bad deeds do not allow them to enter Paradise" (Hakim)

When these people look at the inhabitants of Heaven, they greet them, and when they look at the inhabitants of Hell, they say: “O our Lord, do not count us among the people who are oppressors.” That is, they ask Allah Almighty not to place them with the inhabitants of Hell.

Almost all the time they are busy looking at the inhabitants of Paradise, but sometimes they are turned towards the inhabitants of Hell, and, seeing the situation of its inhabitants, they turn to Allah Almighty with such prayers.

It is undeniable that the A'raf barrier really exists, and that it is a place between Heaven and Hell.

Will the inhabitants of A'raf enter Paradise?

From Abdullah Ibn Abbas (may Allah be pleased with them both) it is narrated:

وأصحاب الأعراف يدخلونها بشفاعة النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم

« People who are at the barrier of A'raf will enter Paradise through the intercession (shafaat) of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) " (Tabarani)

That is, they will spend some time waiting for the decision of the Almighty Allah in A’rafa, and then the Almighty Allah, thanks to the intercession (shafaat) of the Prophet (ﷺ), by His mercy, will enter them into Paradise.

Also in the hadiths transmitted from the Prophet (ﷺ), it is reported that some of the inhabitants of Hell will be taken out of there and introduced into Paradise. For example, in the collection of hadiths of Imam Al-Bukhari from Anas ibn Malik (may Allah be pleased with him) it is reported that the Prophet (ﷺ) said:

يخرج قوم من النار بعد ما مسهم منها سفع، فيدخلون الجنة، فيسميهم أهل الجنة: الجهنميين

« Some people will come out of Hell after their skin darkens. They will enter Paradise, and its inhabitants will call them people from Gehenna " (Bukhari)

The collection of hadiths of Muslim also quotes from the hadith of Abu Hurairah:

حَتَّى إِذَا فَرَغَ اللَّهُ مِنْ الْقَضَاءِ بَيْنَ الْعِبَادِ ، وَأَرَادَ أَنْ يُخْرِجَ بِرَحْمَتِهِ مَنْ أَرَادَ مِنْ أَهْلِ النَّارِ ، أَمَرَ الْمَلائِكَةَ أَنْ يُخْرِجُوا مِنْ النَّارِ مَنْ كَانَ لا يُشْرِكُ بِاللَّهِ شَيْئًا ، مِمَّنْ أَرَادَ اللَّهُ تَعَالَى أَنْ يَرْحَمَهُ مِمَّنْ يَقُولُ: لا إِلَهَ إِلاَّ اللَّهُ ، فَيَعْرِفُونَهُمْ فِي النَّارِ يَعْرِفُونَهُمْ بِأَثَرِ السُّجُودِ ، تَأْكُلُ النَّارُ مِنْ ابْنِ آدَمَ إِلاَّ أَثَرَ السُّجُودِ ، حَرَّمَ اللَّهُ عَلَى النَّارِ أَنْ تَأْكُلَ أَثَرَ السُّجُودِ ، فَيُخْرَجُونَ مِنْ النَّارِ وَقَدْ امْتَحَشُوا ، فَيُصَبُّ عَلَيْهِمْ مَاءُ الْحَيَاةِ ، فَيَنْبُتُونَ مِنْهُ كَمَا تَنْبُتُ الْحِبَّةُ فِي حَمِيلِ السَّيْلِ

« When Allah Almighty completes the judgment of the slaves and wants, by His mercy, to take out of the Fire those whom He wishes, He commands the angels to take out from there those who did not associate partners with Him. These are those whom Allah decides to have mercy on, who said that “There is no god but Him.” They will be recognized in Hell by the marks of prostrations, because fire will devour the entire body of the sons of Adam, except for the marks of prostrations, for Allah forbade fire to devour the marks of prostrations. They will come out of the Fire burnt, and living water will be poured on them, after which they will grow as seeds grow in the silt brought by a mudflow." (Muslim)

Also, based on the fact that people who were cast into Hell will come out of Hell and will be given a place in Paradise, we can say that the inhabitants of Araf, on whom the wrath of Allah did not fall, will, by His mercy, enter Paradise.