A. Demkin
If your soul hurts... What to do if your soul feels bad?

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What to do if your soul hurts, if your soul feels bad?

10 steps to overcome the crisis.

10 steps of personal experience of overcoming a mental crisis. One of the possible solutions.

“Without sorrow there is no salvation, but the Kingdom of Heaven awaits those who endure.”
Venerable Seraphim of Sarov

Each of us has had, has and will have moments or periods when the soul feels unbearably bad, when the soul hurts and grieves. I don’t want to see anyone, talk to anyone. I don’t want to eat, I don’t want to move... At such moments, I can’t believe that someday my soul will get over the pain and learn to rejoice again. It is impossible to look into the future in such a state. You see only a blank wall in front of you and bitter losses or mistakes behind you. Can't sleep at night. There is no strength for anything... It is very, very difficult to get out of such a state of mind. My soul hurts, my soul feels bad...

I present to your attention 10 effective tips on what to do when everything is bad. Go ahead and sing!

There are moments in life that even incorrigible optimists and die-hard metal workers cannot endure.

It seems that everything in the world has turned against you: family, bosses, strangers in minibuses and shops, even nature has been pouring nasty cold rain on it for days now.

It seems that it couldn’t get any more disgusting and you just can’t find the answer to the question, what to do when everything is bad.

Even if everything is bad for you today, you need to think that tomorrow everything will definitely get better, and not: “I will die an ugly, sick, useless old maid.”

Dream about good things and the Universe will definitely respond to your call.

Take action.

Problems rarely resolve on their own.

Before you give up, you must be sure that you have done everything in your power to resolve the conflict.

Just because you sit down and whine all day long about how unhappy you are and why life is so unfair, your situation will not change for the better.

Humble yourself.

There are tragedies that we cannot influence.

I am talking, first of all, about the death of loved ones.

Yes, it hurts you a lot, yes, you think that this is unfair, but there are tests that we must endure with honor, so that when we meet our loved ones and relatives in another world, we will not be ashamed.

Did you understand everything? Now “hand over” your depression to Stanislav Bodyagin’s pawn shop! 🙂

How much is he willing to pay for it?

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Unfortunately, life circumstances do not always work out the way a person wants. This may lead to depression or stress. It is better to avoid such a state and try to put yourself in a positive attitude.

What to do?

What to do when everything is bad in life? Not every person can easily overcome life's difficulties and solve any problematic situations. Some people need practical guidance on what to do when life gets tough. Sometimes a person goes through periods when it seems to him that everyone is against him. In these situations, it is important to remember that people’s thoughts have the property of being translated into reality. Therefore, when a person thinks that everything is bad for him, this is actually what happens. Even the weather can be inclement during these periods of life. Troubles follow a person everywhere: at home, at work and even on vacation.

In order to get out of this state, you need to pause and think about whether everything is really that bad. Ideally, you need to look at yourself from the outside. You should also remember that Therefore, you can pay attention to the life difficulties of other people. Then, perhaps, your problems will not seem so significant and large-scale.

How to fight and what to do when everything is bad in life? First, you need to understand what life situation provoked a bad mood and a depressive mood. As a rule, all incidents that lead to loss of strength have long been known. These include: personal feelings towards the opposite sex, financial difficulties, conflicts at work. Of course, this list is incomplete. For example, depression may begin due to the passing of a loved one. But here we are not touching on such a serious problem, but will touch on the simpler experiences of people.

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So, now let's talk about personal experiences associated with the opposite sex. Both men and women can worry about a breakup. In this case, you should take this problem philosophically and think about what would be better: continue the conflictual relationship and be in an uncomfortable state for yourself, or let the person go and try to improve your personal life on your own. You also need to know that life is set up according to the principle of a pendulum, that is, you need to remember that if a person is now going through a crisis, then after a short period of time the Universe will give him positive moments that will make his soul happy and light. There are often cases when a problematic situation turns into a good outcome. At this moment, it is worth thinking about the fact that if it had not been there, then further favorable developments of events would not have happened.

Financial difficulties are also one of the most common sources of low mood in people. Men especially worry about this. They think that they are not able to provide for their family. The wife can also “add fuel to the fire.” Instead of support, the spouse begins to demand money from her husband for the family, children and household expenses. Women should not be blamed for this situation, since by their nature they want their children to not need anything, to be beautifully dressed, with shoes, and to attend good schools and sections. Men need to calm down and think about the possibility of changing the area of ​​implementation of their professional skills. Or change, make new acquaintances, etc.

Professional environment

How to behave if a dark streak has come in life? What to do when everything is bad in the professional sphere? If we talk about conflict situations that occur at work, then here you should adhere to the following rule: you should not take them to heart. Everything that happens in the work team should be left there. We need to look for solutions, and not delve into the conflict and the situation itself. You should not strive to please everyone in the work team.

People come there to make money. Therefore, communication with colleagues should be built in a businesslike manner. Of course, there are friendly teams that move to a closer level of communication. But it will still be better if relations with employees remain neutral.

Reflect on what is happening

What to do when everything is bad in life? Now we will give practical advice. First of all, you should sort out your experiences, that is, figure out what is the cause of the depressive state, and what to do if everything is bad. Next, you need to think about whether there is a possibility of resolving this situation. If yes, then you need to take action to solve this problem. If there is no opportunity to turn the situation in your direction, then it is better to refuse to resolve it and let it go.

For example, when a person has a personal conflict with an employee in a team, he should consider the option of dismissal and changing jobs. You shouldn’t think that if you quit one large company, you won’t be able to get a job at another. It is better to think that there is a more advantageous offer for the implementation of professional skills. And then you won’t have to think about what to do when everything in life is bad.

Positive thinking

You need to learn, that is, to look at all life's troubles through the prism of a smile and a good mood. You need to be able to turn any problem to your advantage and extract positive aspects from it.

For example, if a person has financial difficulties and is struggling to survive, it is worth thinking about the fact that perhaps he should change his field of activity and do something else. There is a possibility that he is not in his niche, and his current work does not bring him either moral or material satisfaction.

Forget about bad habits

Don't become dependent on bad habits. People's behavior such as alcohol and tobacco abuse during periods of experiencing any difficulties is common. Should not be doing that! Because bad habits will not solve those problems that require attention. In addition, they will take away a person’s vitality and health. Time will also be lost that could be better spent on solving necessary problems.

Sport

Sport is an excellent support for getting out of depression. Firstly, physical exercise helps improve blood circulation in the human body. And this is directly related to the stimulation of the brain. Secondly, stress on the body allows you to escape from accumulated experiences. People can look at it sensibly and evaluate the situation in which they find themselves. In addition, excellent physical shape will allow you to feel confident and free in any situation.

Good deeds

Doing good deeds also helps relieve depression or stress. Currently, there are many charitable foundations and volunteer organizations that provide assistance to people in need. It is quite easy to join such movements.

They will be happy with any help that is offered to them. As mentioned above, everything is learned by comparison. When a person sees with his own eyes what life situations other people are in, their problems will seem funny and insignificant to him.

Burn the bad

You should force yourself to get rid of negative thoughts. Don't constantly think about how bad everything is. In order to tune in to a positive perception, you can write on a piece of paper what brings you dissatisfaction, and then burn this piece of paper. You also need to learn not to cling to bad thoughts. But there is no point in pushing them away either, since in this case the emphasis is also placed on them. You just need to ignore the negativity and let it pass by. But if a positive thought comes to your mind, from which a smile appears, then you can spin it in your imagination, imagine yourself in different situations that bring satisfaction, give harmony and make you happy.

Contact a professional

What to do if everything is bad? The psychologist's recommendations should help in solving this problem. If you can’t cope with the problem on your own, then you should consider turning to professionals for help. Psychologists, priests, confessors, as well as friends and relatives can help. You should choose someone whose conversation will make your soul feel better. You need to believe that if you share your experiences with other people, they will decrease. Perhaps someone will help with good advice or action.

Positive thoughts will help you get out of a difficult situation faster, so force yourself to think that everything will be fine tomorrow. Then the question of what to do if everything is bad in life will not arise. There is a practice that boils down to the fact that you need to learn to think about good things as if they had already happened to you. You can practice on simple desires, which are not difficult to achieve, and then move on to more complex tasks. At first, it will take more time to implement your plan. But in the future, the use of such practices will give positive results in a shorter time.

Take action

What to do if everything in life is bad? Action will lead to a quick resolution of the problem. You shouldn’t wait for the weather by the sea and think that everything will resolve itself. It is better to take all possible actions to resolve the conflict. This applies to both work moments and personal experiences. Everything possible should be done to get out of this situation.

Accept what is happening

If a situation occurs that is impossible to influence, then you need to come to terms with it and accept it. Here we are talking about the passing of a loved one from life. You should also learn to approach life philosophically; you should not blame anyone or anything for your problems. If this happens, then it is necessary. We cannot influence any situations that happen to us. Therefore, it will be better to learn to overcome the trials that fate has in store for us.

Conclusion

Today we will discuss a topic such as “heaviness in the soul”. Many people complain that they just can’t get rid of this unpleasant feeling. We will look at the origin of this feeling, its various types and ways to get out of this unpleasant state.

First of all, let's translate this abstract expression into a more concrete direction. How does this feeling manifest itself? It manifests itself as a vague feeling of anxiety somewhere in the chest. There is a feeling that a weak electric current is being passed inside. “The heart is fluttering.” It’s a very unpleasant feeling, it’s not surprising that people want to get rid of it. So, heaviness in the soul is a feeling of anxiety.

In what cases does anxiety occur?

It arises when some unsolved task hangs over us, when we feel the approach of some kind of trouble, when we need to fix something and when we are in some kind of limbo and the unknown is pressing on us.

What do these situations have in common?

First of all, they are united by the need to find a solution and the need for immediate action. Feelings of anxiety motivate us to act and try to avoid some of the negative consequences of inaction.

Thus, you need to understand that “heaviness in the soul” is not a disease, but a symptom. Our feelings motivate us to act before it is too late. Thus, it would be wise to fight not with the feeling of anxiety, but with the situation that caused it.

I will give an example from my experience. One of my acquaintances, a man in his early forties, who complained of a feeling of anxiety in the formulation “heaviness in his soul for several months now.” After I started asking him about the events in his life that preceded the onset of anxiety, it turned out that before they arose, he had a strong fight with his son. Over these few months, they never made peace (why is a separate topic), but he in no way connected his emotional state with the situation that preceded it. For some reason, my friend did not want to connect these two events. During the work, we sorted out the reasons for the quarrel and this man wanted to make peace with his son. Soon he did this and the heaviness in his soul went away.

In this example, the person subconsciously felt that reconciliation was necessary, but his resentment prevented him from doing so. At the same time, he did not want to connect the situation and his condition, trying to get out of the internal conflict (a feeling of resentment and a desire to make peace).

Thus, heaviness in the soul indicates some unresolved life situation, which, however, may not be realized. Based on the above, working with anxiety should consist of clarifying the circumstances that preceded its appearance. This makes it possible to identify that “urge to action” that causes a feeling of heaviness in the soul.

I note that a person is not always able to do this on his own, since this may be hampered by a person’s false ideas about what motivates him.

Resolving the situation.

It’s good when a situation can be resolved easily, but it also happens that it is too difficult or impossible to resolve. This happens when the resolution of a situation does not depend on us, but on other people, or other circumstances beyond our control. Unfortunately, it is not always possible to explain to our feelings that we are powerless in something.

What to do in such a situation?

It's simple. Feelings require action from us, which means this action must be ensured. If we ourselves cannot cope with a situation, perhaps other people can cope with it. You need to ask people for help. Asking for help is also an action that will make you feel a little calmer. In addition, there is a high probability that help will actually resolve the situation.

Unfortunately, there are situations that cannot be resolved either by you or by other people. In such cases, a person needs moral support from other people.

In such circumstances, diverting your attention from the difficulties can help.

For example, in the event of the loss of a significant loved one, in addition to other negative tendencies, a feeling of anxiety may also be observed. There is nothing you can do about such a loss, so distraction can help in such a situation. Perhaps something can help. But this is another, much more complex topic, which we will not dwell on in detail now.

What not to do?

Many people choose to deal with anxiety using various chemical means, such as alcohol, sedatives, drugs, etc. It is important to understand that they are not able to help overcome anxiety, but can only slow down our nervous system. Thus, this can only make a person more inhibited, but not calmer. In addition, these drugs have a number of side effects, for example, they can cause sleep problems, which will interfere with psychological recovery. Therefore, you should never drink alcohol or sedatives to make your soul feel better. This can only trigger new unsolvable situations that will cause additional anxiety, which in turn forces you to increase the dose. Thus, a person can fall into a vicious circle.

This is where we will end today. I wish you only lightness in your soul. Good luck!