How to make a real man out of anyone “What kind of a man is he? Can he support me?” “Is this a man? He can’t hold the door in front of a lady! ”“ Well, a man! Even the suitcase didn’t help to take it out of the car! ”“ A man, but he was worse than a woman.

Tip Seven Find out at a glance who you can rely on. Signs of a person's reliability It often happens that we see a person for the first time, and at the same time we need to find out how much we can trust him and whether he is worth dealing with. Learn at a glance

Tip Twenty-two How to Deal With Overly Talkative People We all know how tiresome people who are overly talkative can be. They chat incessantly, jumping from topic to topic, and sometimes do not notice that no one is interested in listening to them. They interrupt

Council twenty-three Man in a state of stress. How to help? Tensive and even extreme situations only mobilize some people, force them to gather their strength and act actively. Other stressful situations suppress. If such an overwhelming effect of stress

Tip Twenty-Four How to Deal with Sassy and Unceremonious People Sassy and unceremonious people climb into your life as if it were their own territory. For them there are no boundaries, prohibitions and decency. They command, criticize, demand obedience, are rude to the fullest.

Tip twenty-five Strategy of behavior with lovers of jokes and ridicule A developed sense of humor is a wonderful quality that not only decorates life, but also helps to survive difficulties. But it happens that humor turns into a formidable weapon - when they begin to

Council twenty-six If you are in command Often there are people who are very fond of leading and commanding, even if they are not leaders by position. Some do it gradually, others openly and even rudely. They wouldn't feel so at ease

Council twenty-seventh If someone pesters with constant complaints There is no person for whom everything would always go smoothly and smoothly. But some take responsibility for their lives and solve their own problems, while others look for the guilty and endlessly complain about life. Sympathy for

Council twenty-eighth Strategy of behavior with know-it-alls and lovers to teach others how to live We all sometimes need the advice of a specialist or just a wise person. But neither the sage nor the specialist, as a rule, gives advice when they are not asked for it. Whereas in life

Council twenty-ninth Do not give in to flatterers Flattery only seems pleasant and harmless, but in fact it has ruined many worthy people. Flatterers are rarely selfless. In most cases, they want something from you. Believing their flattering speeches, you will not notice how

Are you good at understanding people?

Are you good at understanding people? Are you able to find a common language and understanding even with those who are not at all like you?

It is often said: "An alien soul is darkness." But actually it is not!

Both in the appearance and in the behavior of each person, one can see many signs and signals that indicate what his true essence is. When we do not know how to "read" these signs and signals, then the first, and not only the first, impression of a person often misleads us. And then there are disappointments, resentments and belated bitter insights: “How wrong I was in it!”

We are all very different, the diversity of human individualities is truly inexhaustible. In addition, a person's character can manifest itself in many different ways, and in these manifestations, not everything is what it seems. People consciously or unconsciously can wear all sorts of masks. People sometimes feel one thing and say another. Facial expression, smile, and behavior can be deceiving. This does not always mean that people are hypocritical, much more often this is a consequence of an unconscious desire to protect themselves from the outside world. All this prevents us from understanding each other, but the truth is that without such an understanding it is impossible to establish normal constructive contacts with other people. And without constructive communication with their own kind, a person in the modern world is simply not able to survive.

To understand another person means to find the only correct approach to him. When you read this book, the expressions “I don’t understand him,” “He’s kind of strange,” “I don’t know how to approach him,” etc. will disappear from your vocabulary. You will learn to deal with a variety of people, with different characters, beliefs, life values. You will be able to see the essence behind external manifestations, to discern what is not striking, and even what some people would prefer to hide. For someone who knows the special secrets of behavior, the appearance of a person, who knows how to find the right approach to help another open up, there are no and cannot be secrets.

How to approach someone who seems unapproachable? How to find out what is hidden behind the appearance? How to win over even the most unfriendly-looking person? How to convince another that you are right? This is not as difficult as it seems at first glance. A little bit of the necessary knowledge and experience, and you will learn how to pick up the keys to any person in any situation.

Picking up the keys to a person does not mean at all using him for your own purposes and manipulating him. No, the methods proposed here are quite ethical and do not contradict the norms of morality and ethics. Picking up the key to a person means doing a good service to yourself and to him. After all, having understood the strengths and weaknesses of the other, the motives of his actions, his true goals and objectives, you can build mutually beneficial communication with him, and this will only benefit everyone. On the other hand, you can easily, without problems, get away from unnecessary or simply harmful contacts, because you will learn to easily recognize hidden enemies, ill-wishers or those who waste your time and energy in vain.

In this book you will find thirty simple tips who will teach you:

♦ understand all the diversity of human individualities;

♦ unravel the mysteries of human character and behavior;

♦ understand the strengths and weaknesses, goals and motives of the other person;

♦ find the most acceptable ways of interacting with different people;

♦ win over people and achieve the goals you need in communication.

These tips simple but extremely effective. After all, they are based on the latest achievements of practical psychology and other human sciences. The main thing is to be confident in your abilities, do not be afraid of anything, and very soon you will become a real connoisseur of human souls.

I wish you success!

Tip one
Light your inner light and people will be drawn to you

Every time you are about to enter into communication with any person, imagine that a soft warm light is shining inside you. And the eyes give off a warm glow, like a light bulb is on in your head.

In order to be able to pick up the keys to any person and establish contact, first of all, you yourself must be ready for this contact. Remaining internally closed, wary and unsociable, one can hardly count on the success of communication. This does not mean that you need to open your soul to every first person you meet, trust everyone indiscriminately and let anyone into your life. The task is different - remaining oneself, preserving the inviolability of the boundaries of one's life territory, to learn how to create for oneself and another a comfortable environment that is most conducive to communication. To do this, you only have to practice a little in creating an appropriate internal mood and learn the secrets of effective interaction with other people.

Get benefits at the very beginning of communication

Pay attention to what kind of people everyone is unconsciously drawn to without exception. To those that seem to radiate warmth and light. This can be learned.

And at the same time, it is not at all necessary to constantly smile and portray hospitality on your face.

When a small flashlight seems to be burning inside you, even people who do not know you instantly feel that you are a person who is open to communication and friendly, that communicating with you, firstly, is pleasant, and secondly, it is safe. Thus, you immediately remove barriers and wariness between you and the interlocutor. We can say that you are already helping him to get rid of tension, relax and calmly, with confidence, perceive what you say. Do you feel what advantages it gives you at the very beginning of the contact?

Be open yet protected

The main thing is to kindle this inner light consciously, learn to control it. Then your goodwill, openness and inner warmth in communication will be your strong point and will never turn into your vulnerability. Many want to take advantage of an open and benevolent person, mistaking his openness for weakness. If you manage your inner state, control yourself, then your inner light will not at all prevent you from standing up for yourself if necessary, but, on the contrary, will only help in this. Because such an inner glow, in addition to everything else, also protects you from unwanted influences. With a little practice, you will notice that your inner light allows you to maintain not only a great mood in any situation, but also a sober, clear head that will accurately tell you how to direct the dialogue in the right direction.

Workshop

Practice on your own first. Imagine that your eyes are like light bulbs emitting light. Look at the world around you with such eyes. Try not to “stretch” a smile and generally maintain a normal facial expression. If a smile arises by itself - allow it to arise, but only if it happens completely naturally, without the control of your will.

Then imagine that the light fills your entire body. Now the rays of light come not only from the eyes, but also from the heart. Hold this state for as long as you can.

When you can do this easily enough, practice turning on the interior light somewhere in a crowded place, such as on the street or in transport. See if it changes how other people react to you.

Try to turn on the inner light and, keeping it, talk to some stranger - a saleswoman, a minibus driver or a random passer-by (who you can ask about the time or clarify the route of your movement). Remember: you do not need to demonstrate anything on purpose, you do not need to try to give your face a friendly expression, and your voice - ingratiating intonations. All you need is to kindle the inner light.

Make it a rule to turn on the inner light in any situation when you have to communicate with others. Over time, this will begin to work out for you automatically. Do not be surprised if very soon the people with whom you communicate begin to speak of you as a very good, pleasant person who is surprisingly accommodating.

Larisa Bolshakova

How to find a key to any person: 30 most important rules

Are you good at understanding people?

Are you good at understanding people? Are you able to find a common language and understanding even with those who are not at all like you?

It is often said: "An alien soul is darkness." But actually it is not!

Both in the appearance and in the behavior of each person, one can see many signs and signals that indicate what his true essence is. When we do not know how to "read" these signs and signals, then the first, and not only the first, impression of a person often misleads us. And then there are disappointments, resentments and belated bitter insights: “How wrong I was in it!”

We are all very different, the diversity of human individualities is truly inexhaustible. In addition, a person's character can manifest itself in many different ways, and in these manifestations, not everything is what it seems. People consciously or unconsciously can wear all sorts of masks. People sometimes feel one thing and say another. Facial expression, smile, and behavior can be deceiving. This does not always mean that people are hypocritical, much more often this is a consequence of an unconscious desire to protect themselves from the outside world. All this prevents us from understanding each other, but the truth is that without such an understanding it is impossible to establish normal constructive contacts with other people. And without constructive communication with their own kind, a person in the modern world is simply not able to survive.

To understand another person means to find the only correct approach to him. When you read this book, the expressions “I don’t understand him,” “He’s kind of strange,” “I don’t know how to approach him,” etc. will disappear from your vocabulary. You will learn to deal with a variety of people, with different characters, beliefs, life values. You will be able to see the essence behind external manifestations, to discern what is not striking, and even what some people would prefer to hide. For someone who knows the special secrets of behavior, the appearance of a person, who knows how to find the right approach to help another open up, there are no and cannot be secrets.

How to approach someone who seems unapproachable? How to find out what is hidden behind the appearance? How to win over even the most unfriendly-looking person? How to convince another that you are right? This is not as difficult as it seems at first glance. A little bit of the necessary knowledge and experience, and you will learn how to pick up the keys to any person in any situation.

Picking up the keys to a person does not mean at all using him for your own purposes and manipulating him. No, the methods proposed here are quite ethical and do not contradict the norms of morality and ethics. Picking up the key to a person means doing a good service to yourself and to him. After all, having understood the strengths and weaknesses of the other, the motives of his actions, his true goals and objectives, you can build mutually beneficial communication with him, and this will only benefit everyone. On the other hand, you can easily, without problems, get away from unnecessary or simply harmful contacts, because you will learn to easily recognize hidden enemies, ill-wishers or those who waste your time and energy in vain.

In this book you will find thirty simple tips who will teach you:

♦ understand all the diversity of human individualities;

♦ unravel the mysteries of human character and behavior;

♦ understand the strengths and weaknesses, goals and motives of the other person;

♦ find the most acceptable ways of interacting with different people;

♦ win over people and achieve the goals you need in communication.

These tips simple but extremely effective. After all, they are based on the latest achievements of practical psychology and other human sciences. The main thing is to be confident in your abilities, do not be afraid of anything, and very soon you will become a real connoisseur of human souls.

I wish you success!

Tip one

Light your inner light and people will be drawn to you

Every time you are about to enter into communication with any person, imagine that a soft warm light is shining inside you. And the eyes give off a warm glow, like a light bulb is on in your head.

In order to be able to pick up the keys to any person and establish contact, first of all, you yourself must be ready for this contact. Remaining internally closed, wary and unsociable, one can hardly count on the success of communication. This does not mean that you need to open your soul to every first person you meet, trust everyone indiscriminately and let anyone into your life. The task is different - remaining oneself, preserving the inviolability of the boundaries of one's life territory, to learn how to create for oneself and another a comfortable environment that is most conducive to communication. To do this, you only have to practice a little in creating an appropriate internal mood and learn the secrets of effective interaction with other people.

Get benefits at the very beginning of communication

Pay attention to what kind of people everyone is unconsciously drawn to without exception. To those that seem to radiate warmth and light. This can be learned.

And at the same time, it is not at all necessary to constantly smile and portray hospitality on your face.

When a small flashlight seems to be burning inside you, even people who do not know you instantly feel that you are a person who is open to communication and friendly, that communicating with you, firstly, is pleasant, and secondly, it is safe. Thus, you immediately remove barriers and wariness between you and the interlocutor. We can say that you are already helping him to get rid of tension, relax and calmly, with confidence, perceive what you say. Do you feel what advantages it gives you at the very beginning of the contact?

Be open yet protected

The main thing is to kindle this inner light consciously, learn to control it. Then your goodwill, openness and inner warmth in communication will be your strong point and will never turn into your vulnerability. Many want to take advantage of an open and benevolent person, mistaking his openness for weakness. If you manage your inner state, control yourself, then your inner light will not at all prevent you from standing up for yourself if necessary, but, on the contrary, will only help in this. Because such an inner glow, in addition to everything else, also protects you from unwanted influences. With a little practice, you will notice that your inner light allows you to maintain not only a great mood in any situation, but also a sober, clear head that will accurately tell you how to direct the dialogue in the right direction.

Workshop

Practice on your own first. Imagine that your eyes are like light bulbs emitting light. Look at the world around you with such eyes. Try not to “stretch” a smile and generally maintain a normal facial expression. If a smile arises by itself - allow it to arise, but only if it happens completely naturally, without the control of your will.

Then imagine that the light fills your entire body. Now the rays of light come not only from the eyes, but also from the heart. Hold this state for as long as you can.

When you can do this easily enough, practice turning on the interior light somewhere in a crowded place, such as on the street or in transport. See if it changes how other people react to you.

Try to turn on the inner light and, keeping it, talk to some stranger - a saleswoman, a minibus driver or a random passer-by (who you can ask about the time or clarify the route of your movement). Remember: you do not need to demonstrate anything on purpose, you do not need to try to give your face a friendly expression, and your voice - ingratiating intonations. All you need is to kindle the inner light.

Make it a rule to turn on the inner light in any situation when you have to communicate with others. Over time, this will begin to work out for you automatically. Do not be surprised if very soon the people with whom you communicate begin to speak of you as a very good, pleasant person who is surprisingly accommodating.

Tip two

The outside must reflect the inside. Naturalness is the most expensive business card

Learn to hold yourself so that your words, actions and all external manifestations are fully consistent with what you really think and feel.

Naturalness, organic behavior is one of the main conditions for success in communication. Imagine a person who is hunched over, shifting from foot to foot, looking at the floor and at the same time saying: "I am absolutely sure that I can handle this job." Obviously, these words will cause distrust among those around, because they will feel that the phrase uttered by this person does not agree with his true state. And after all, it is not excluded that he really is an excellent worker, but his inability to be in agreement with himself works against him.

Imitate the other person's gestures
Mastering this art is not difficult at all. If you observe people who are genuinely engaged in conversation and each other, you will notice that they unconsciously repeat each other's movements and gestures. For example, they can sit in the same positions, cross their legs in the same way, etc. All this suggests that they are attuned to each other and they feel good and comfortable with each other. If you want your interlocutor to be comfortable with you too, start doing the same, only consciously. Namely: when talking with a person, notice his postures, gestures and copy them. But try to make it not very noticeable, so that the interlocutor does not think that you are teasing him. To do this, repeat his gesture not immediately after him, but after waiting a few seconds. For example, he took his chin with his hand. Wait a few seconds and also grab your chin with your hand. Moreover, such an adjustment can be done both in direct and in a mirror version. In the first case, if the interlocutor took his chin with his right hand, you also take it with your right. In the second case, you take your chin with your left hand, as if imitating its reflection in the mirror.

Copy the manner of speaking, the speed of speech and breathing
There are other customization options as well. You can copy the way the interlocutor speaks and the speed of his speech. A more subtle way is to adjust to the interlocutor's breathing. Having caught the rhythm of his breathing, you begin to breathe in unison. This can give unsurpassed results: genuine trust and real intimacy will be established between you.
As you begin to master the art of tuning, you will soon notice that you begin to get it by itself, automatically. This means only one thing: you become an excellent conversationalist and a true master of communication. You will begin to understand people like never before, learn to correctly understand and evaluate their feelings and states, and perhaps even actually read their thoughts. Soon there will be no secrets left for you as to why people behave the way they do.

Workshop
Being in a large company or in another crowded place, choose a stranger and, trying not to draw attention to yourself, start copying his movements and gestures. Very soon you will feel that you understand him much better. Perhaps it will become clear to you how he feels, what his mood is. It is possible that you will even feel sympathy for this person. Continue to adjust to it, still doing it as discreetly as possible, trying not to draw attention. And watch his reaction. If he is not quite thick-skinned, he will feel a thread stretching between you, although he will not understand how and why this happened. As a result, you will definitely meet eyes, and his gaze will most likely be friendly. Maybe the stranger will even smile at you, or maybe you will get to know each other in the end. Although you don't seem to have done anything special for this! Such is the power of adjustment. Use it in all your contacts, and a positive result will not keep you waiting.

Tip six
Master the technique "How to become a leader in communication"

Having applied the techniques of adjusting to the interlocutor, do not stop there. Take the next step: gently and delicately help the interlocutor adjust to you. This will help you become a leader in communication and make your words and behavior much more persuasive.
Surely there have been situations in your life when you needed to convince another person of something. For example, that he should become your business partner. Or that his plan for building a country house leaves much to be desired and you have a much more attractive option for using money. How do you behave if your opponent is stubborn and does not want to concede? Maybe you start to get nervous, annoyed, and then raise your voice, speak excessively emotionally? As you have probably seen more than once, these techniques are ineffective. You are more likely to come to a quarrel than to an agreement.

From similarity in movements to a unifying mood
By applying the method of conducting the interlocutor, you can much more easily convince him that you are right, while not putting pressure on him. But do not forget: in order to convince the interlocutor of something and become the leader in your dialogue, you first need to adapt to him. The easiest way to do this, as we know, is by quietly copying his gestures and movements. Our body is one whole. Our body and our inner state are directly connected. The similarity in the movements and plasticity of two people automatically leads to the similarity of their general mood. Therefore, adjusting to the interlocutor, you will create for him and yourself a common atmosphere, a general state.

Take control of your communication
Now you can fully take control of this state in your hands. If, adjusting to the interlocutor, you repeated his gestures, then now you should use the opposite technique: make a gesture or take a pose that differs from the position of the interlocutor's body. If the necessary connection between you has already been established, the interlocutor will unconsciously repeat your movement. In this case, you turn from a slave into a leader. Make a few more light, casual gestures and see if the other person repeats after you. He, of course, does this unconsciously, without noticing it himself. And for you, this is an important sign: it's time to take the course of your conversation into your own hands.

come to a consensus
Right now, you have more chances to convince the interlocutor that you are right, win him over to your side, and just make friends. However, remember that all this must be done gently, without pressure. The free will of every person is sacred, and no matter how hard you try to bring the interlocutor into the state you need, you are unlikely to be able to force him to do something against his will. Adjustment techniques are not violence against a person, but only a way to create a warm friendly atmosphere where the spirit of mutual understanding and cooperation reigns.

Workshop
In your daily business and personal communication, observe yourself and your interlocutors as if from the outside. Note to yourself when you manage to get into a general interested mood during a conversation, and when you don’t. Notice the similarities and differences in your facial expressions, gestures, movements. You will be able to see that, speaking with a pleasant interlocutor, you involuntarily copy each other's movements, even if you did not specifically set out to do this. Now you can consciously practice the techniques of pacing and guiding. Notice what has changed in this communication. Has it become more enjoyable and effective? Over time, you will learn to apply these techniques automatically, they will turn out to be simple and natural for you, and you will not even have to think about it.
When you have practiced enough in applying the technique of leading an interlocutor, it will be very easy for you, even without adjusting to his gestures, to bring him into the state you need. All you need for this is to be in this state yourself and not lose it during communication. Try to do the following: tune in as benevolently as possible, light up the inner light, as if illumined from the inside with a smile. In this state, approach some stranger who is in a different state (for example, a salesperson in a store). Ask a question without leaving your state. Your goal is to achieve in a minimum of time that your interlocutor, if not smile, then at least soften and begin to speak in the same calm tone as you. Note that this must be achieved not with the help of words, but only with the help of your inner mood. You should not call on something upset person to urgently cheer up and even more so to reproach for his unhappy appearance. It is better to approach him with a warm and friendly attitude. You can talk about any neutral topic, it's not about words, but about the inner message that stands behind your words. And then, perhaps, you will still wait for a return smile, which will be the best reward for all your efforts.

Tip Seven
Find out at a glance who you can rely on. Signs of a person's reliability

It often happens that we see a person for the first time, and at the same time we need to find out how much he can be trusted and whether it is worth dealing with him. Learn to distinguish reliable people from unreliable people at a glance!
A reliable person is one who will not deceive or let you down, who will fulfill what he promised and will not quit in difficult times. A reliable person is someone who takes responsibility for their actions and honestly admits their mistakes without trying to shift the blame to someone else. We all would like to deal with just such people - both in personal and business relationships. But every now and then mistakes happen when we cannot recognize an unreliable person in time, for which we then pay.

An unreliable person unwittingly gives himself away
But there are subtle signals, signs with which an unreliable person gives himself away from the very first minute of communication, although he himself, of course, does not realize this. However, having the necessary knowledge and experience, we can “read” this information in the appearance and behavior of the interlocutor and, as they say, figure it out, very quickly determining how reliable it is.

Catch the eye
First of all, you need to look the interlocutor in the eyes. A reliable person will answer you with a direct, open and friendly look. He will not look away or lower his eyes, will not look around or into space. You will not get the impression that he is looking at you, but seems to see emptiness. In the eyes of a reliable person, you will read a sincere interest in communicating with you.

Watch Behavior
If a person speaks to you, but at the same time you get the impression that he does not seem to see or hear you, but is actually only busy with himself (admires himself, preoccupied with the impression he makes), there is a serious reason to doubt his reliability. .

Hear what he says
Listen carefully to what and how the person tells you. Do you have the feeling that something is not being told to you, that they want to hide something from you? Perhaps, with exaggerated optimism, the golden mountains are promising you enthusiastically? It is possible that this is just an attempt to manipulate you, but in fact this person is not going to keep his promises. Or maybe, on the contrary, he warns you not to expect much from him, and at the same time refers to some circumstances beyond his control? Most likely, you will not receive even the little that he promises you.

How trustworthy people behave
When a reliable person offers you some kind of joint business, he will always describe the situation clearly, clearly and realistically - so that you will hardly have any questions. He will speak with you politely and kindly and will never say anything that can hurt, offend or humiliate you. And attentively, without interrupting, listen to what you want to tell him.
It is very easy and pleasant to communicate with reliable people - they are usually simple and sincere in communication and, moreover, they accept other people as they are, without judgment or criticism. The only condition for communication to be effective and successful: when communicating with such a person, you yourself also need to be reliable, be responsible for your words and actions and fulfill your obligations.

Workshop
Think of times in your life when you trusted someone and he deceived you. Try to remember what signals in this person's behavior told you from the very beginning that he was not to be trusted. You will certainly find that there were such signals, you just did not notice them. Most likely, this person did not look you directly in the eyes and there was something in his words and behavior that offended you. Now you know how a person's insecurities manifest themselves, and don't make that mistake again.
Somewhere in a crowded place, watch how people communicate with each other. How do they look at each other during a conversation - with an interested look in the eyes or shifting or absent eyes? Are they friendly or not towards each other? When one of them speaks, is he tuned in to the interlocutor or is he only busy with his person? Learn by these external signs to distinguish who you could call a reliable person and who not.
Watch your acquaintances: how does a person behave about whom you know for sure that he is reliable? How does he speak, how does he look, how does he smile, what is his facial expression? Remember these signs - they will help you to continue to immediately recognize a reliable person. Also watch someone you know is unreliable. Remember the characteristic signs of his behavior in order to learn to notice them in other people.
Observe yourself, analyze your behavior in different situations. How do you behave when you cannot guarantee that you will keep a promise? Are you honest and direct about it, or are you trying to "blow the fog"? Keep an eye on your well-being when you behave like a reliable and responsible person, and you will notice that you feel good and comfortable, you are natural and open. It is not only pleasant to communicate with reliable people - it is also extremely pleasant to be a reliable person yourself.

Tip Eight
What is important to learn about a person in the first place in order for communication to be effective: an extrovert or an introvert?

One of the fundamental differences between people is that we are all divided into extroverts and introverts. Learn to distinguish one from the other - and you will get a lot of advantages from communicating with both.
The extrovert is oriented to the outside world, that is, it seeks to communicate. An introvert, on the contrary, is focused on the inner world, that is, more immersed in himself. An extrovert is active, he needs communication like air, he has a lot of friends, he can hardly stand loneliness. An introvert is a pensive dreamer, a contemplative, he has few friends, and he feels great in solitude.
However, by the degree of talkativeness and sociability, it is not always possible to determine whether we are an extrovert or an introvert. If you tell an extrovert something very interesting to him, he may well forget about his talkativeness. And an introvert may well prove himself as a cheerful sociable interlocutor, relaxing in a pleasant company, where he feels safe.

An extrovert in communication is charged with energy, an introvert spends energy
To truly determine whether we are an extrovert or an introvert, we need to know that an extrovert in communication is energized, so that he can communicate tirelessly for an unlimited amount of time. The more he communicates, the better he feels. An introvert spends energy in communication. This is manifested in the fact that he gets tired of excessive communication, gradually droops, and he needs solitude in order to restore his strength again.

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Here are 30 psychological tricks that will help you find a common language with completely different people. If you are afraid of communication, do not know how to avoid a conflict situation, find a compromise, an approach to any, even a very difficult person, overcome overt and covert aggression - this book is for you. Here you will find not only theory, but also exercises that will help you become a desirable conversationalist, an excellent companion, the best subordinate and beloved boss. You will gain skills, without which it is impossible to imagine a successful career and normal relationships in the family. With the help of well-built communication, you can not only like people, but also unravel their intentions, notice and “neutralize” an unfriendly person in time, and figure out a scammer.

A series: Psychological key for any situation

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by the LitRes company.

Are you good at understanding people?

Are you good at understanding people? Are you able to find a common language and understanding even with those who are not at all like you?

It is often said: "An alien soul is darkness." But actually it is not!

Both in the appearance and in the behavior of each person, one can see many signs and signals that indicate what his true essence is. When we do not know how to "read" these signs and signals, then the first, and not only the first, impression of a person often misleads us. And then there are disappointments, resentments and belated bitter insights: “How wrong I was in it!”

We are all very different, the diversity of human individualities is truly inexhaustible. In addition, a person's character can manifest itself in many different ways, and in these manifestations, not everything is what it seems. People consciously or unconsciously can wear all sorts of masks. People sometimes feel one thing and say another. Facial expression, smile, and behavior can be deceiving. This does not always mean that people are hypocritical, much more often this is a consequence of an unconscious desire to protect themselves from the outside world. All this prevents us from understanding each other, but the truth is that without such an understanding it is impossible to establish normal constructive contacts with other people. And without constructive communication with their own kind, a person in the modern world is simply not able to survive.

To understand another person means to find the only correct approach to him. When you read this book, the expressions “I don’t understand him,” “He’s kind of strange,” “I don’t know how to approach him,” etc. will disappear from your vocabulary. You will learn to deal with a variety of people, with different characters, beliefs, life values. You will be able to see the essence behind external manifestations, to discern what is not striking, and even what some people would prefer to hide. For someone who knows the special secrets of behavior, the appearance of a person, who knows how to find the right approach to help another open up, there are no and cannot be secrets.

How to approach someone who seems unapproachable? How to find out what is hidden behind the appearance? How to win over even the most unfriendly-looking person? How to convince another that you are right? This is not as difficult as it seems at first glance. A little bit of the necessary knowledge and experience, and you will learn how to pick up the keys to any person in any situation.

Picking up the keys to a person does not mean at all using him for your own purposes and manipulating him. No, the methods proposed here are quite ethical and do not contradict the norms of morality and ethics. Picking up the key to a person means doing a good service to yourself and to him. After all, having understood the strengths and weaknesses of the other, the motives of his actions, his true goals and objectives, you can build mutually beneficial communication with him, and this will only benefit everyone. On the other hand, you can easily, without problems, get away from unnecessary or simply harmful contacts, because you will learn to easily recognize hidden enemies, ill-wishers or those who waste your time and energy in vain.

In this book you will find thirty simple tips who will teach you:

♦ understand all the diversity of human individualities;

♦ unravel the mysteries of human character and behavior;

♦ understand the strengths and weaknesses, goals and motives of the other person;

♦ find the most acceptable ways of interacting with different people;

♦ win over people and achieve the goals you need in communication.

These tips simple but extremely effective. After all, they are based on the latest achievements of practical psychology and other human sciences. The main thing is to be confident in your abilities, do not be afraid of anything, and very soon you will become a real connoisseur of human souls.

I wish you success!

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The following excerpt from the book How to find a key to any person: 30 most important rules (Larisa Bolshakova, 2010) provided by our book partner -