The main values ​​in the life of every person. The most important thing in a person's life or an individual value system

Have you ever asked yourself what is important in a person's life? Probably asked. But the answer to this question, which has been raised more than once by philosophers, writers, poets, you have not been able to find. But the fact is that each person has his own important things in life, which are difficult to call even things.

Wealth, recognition, dubious authority - all this, many of us, consider the main thing in life. But if you think about it, it's all gone. Agree, you won’t earn all the money, and will you be happy having spent your whole life on earning money, but not being able to spend this very money? Lying in bed with a debilitating disease, but having a lot of money, will it do any good? And recognition - it does not always happen. There are people who, due to some of their qualities, can bypass you on a steep turn in life, and your recognition will go to them very quickly. Dubious authority? What is its use if it is doubtful, and is it so important for everyone ?! Too many people believe that in a person's life, those things that come and go without leaving anything useful are important. But are they really that important?

Unfortunately, people do not consider it important what makes them human, their human qualities. After all, what makes us human? Kindness, responsiveness, sincerity ... For some reason, these qualities of the human personality are given less importance than money or success. And very in vain! After all, even rich people who have not done anything good in their lives do not get as much satisfaction from their existence as people who, although not rich, remain people. The main things in life are not things at all, but the spiritual qualities of each of us, which must be protected and developed.

Many will say that this is nonsense, and why have these qualities if you live in poverty? But have you ever wondered what life is like for rich people and how they got what they have? In most cases, wealth and recognition do not come just like that, but are associated with losses, tears, and pain. It often happens that a person loses himself for the sake of an extra penny. He ceases to adhere to his principles, ideals, puts on the mask of a successful person, and behind the mask is emptiness. A person, in pursuit of material values, very often loses spiritual values, loses what makes him a man, a man with a soul.

To live in poverty, but to remain human - is it right? Also no! Each of us, if we want to remain human, in the whole sense of the word, needs to find a reasonable line between spiritual and material wealth. The time of asceticism and self-giving for the search for spiritual benefits has already passed, and people simply need material wealth. The main thing, in the pursuit of material wealth, is not to lose your soul. A person, in all circumstances, must remain a person, and not sell the spiritual that is in him, that kindness, sincerity, desire to be useful, for some pennies that you spend and forget. And in the soul, the sediment will remain ...

Why all this talk about high values, about self-sacrifice, kindness, honesty? Everything is very simple. Today, in difficult times, more and more people are losing their "I" or selling it for some material benefits. But, judge for yourself, everything material, sooner or later, loses its power. But what is spiritual, what makes us human, remains and passes to our descendants. In any circumstances, even the most difficult, try to remain human. So that after years or even centuries, your descendants could be proud of you and pronounce your name with honor ... Be people, and all wealth will be at your feet. The most important things in life are not things at all...

What is the sense of life? How to live a full and happy life? What is truly valuable in life? Am I living right?

These are the main questions that we are all trying to find the answer to ... In this article, I offer you a new opportunity to reconsider your life priorities and find answers to these "eternal" questions for yourself.

When I became seriously interested in this topic and began to search, I found that the best answers to these questions are given to us by people who in their lives have come face to face with their death.

I studied bestselling books about people who found out they were going to die very soon and changed their priorities in life; collected various studies on the topic "what one regrets before death"; added a bit of Eastern philosophy, and the result is this list of five true values ​​​​in the life of every person.

"If it weren't for my illness, I would never have thought about how wonderful life is"

originality

Everything in life has its purpose. Every living being on the planet has its own mission. And each of us has a role to play. Realizing our unique talents and abilities, we gain happiness and wealth. The path to our uniqueness and mission lies through our desires and dreams since childhood.

"Individuality is the highest value in the world"(Osho).

One woman (Bronnie Wee) worked for many years in a hospice, where her task was to alleviate the mental state of dying patients. From her observations, she revealed that the most common regret people have before death is the regret that they did not have the courage to live the life that was right for them, and not the life that others expected from them. Her patients regretted that they never realized many of their dreams. And only at the end of the journey did they realize that this was only a consequence of their choice, which they had made.

Make a list of your talents and abilities, as well as a list of favorite things in which they are expressed. This is how you find your unique talents. Use them to serve others. To do this, ask yourself as often as possible: "How can I be useful (to the world, to the people I come in contact with)? How can I serve?"

Quit the job you hate! Do not be afraid of poverty, failures and mistakes! Trust yourself and don't worry about the opinions of others. Always believe that God (the Universe) will take care of you. It is better to take a risk once than to regret later that you lived a gray and mediocre life, "killing yourself" at an unloved job to the detriment of yourself and your loved ones.

Always remember that you are unique and your mission is to give the best of your uniqueness to the world. Only then will you find true happiness. So conceived God (the universe).

"Unlock your divinity, find your unique talent, and you can create any wealth you want"(Deepak Chopra).

Self-discovery and spiritual growth

Stop being an animal!

Of course, we need to satisfy physiological needs, but only in order to develop spiritually. People are mainly chasing material well-being and are concerned, first of all, with things, and not with the soul. Whereas the primary meaning and purpose of human life is to realize that he is a spiritual being, and, in fact, he does not need anything material.

"We are not human beings with occasional spiritual experiences. We are spiritual beings with occasional human experiences."(Deepak Chopra).

Realize God within you. Man is a transitional being from the animal to the spiritual. And each of us has the resources to make this transition. Practice the state of "Being" more often, when you have no thoughts, and you do not need anything, when you simply feel life and enjoy its fullness. The state of "here and now" is already a spiritual experience.

"There are people among us - not many, but there are - who understand that it is necessary to start saving money for old age even while it is far away, so that a certain amount has time to accumulate ... So why not take care of what is more important at the same time money, about the soul?(Eugene O'Kelly, "In pursuit of the elusive light").

And there is no need to improve yourself, you are already perfect because you are spiritual beings. Explore yourself...

"To know oneself as well as possible in order to be as big as possible for the world is the most important task of man"(Robin Sharma).

Even when you achieve your goals, true success is not about the achievement, but about the changes in consciousness that have taken place as an inevitable consequence of your progress toward those goals. It's not about achieving goals, but about what happens to you in the process of achieving it.

openness

How often, in the face of death, people regret that they never had the courage to express love to their near and dear ones! They regret that they often suppressed their emotions and feelings because they were afraid of the reaction of others. They regret not allowing themselves to be happier. Only at the end of the journey did they realize that to be happy or not is a matter of choice. Every moment we choose a reaction to this or that situation, and each time we interpret events in our own way. Be carefull! Watch your choice every moment...

"What goes around comes around"(folk wisdom).

What needs to be done to become more open?

1. Give free rein to your emotions and feelings. Ride the coolest attraction and scream at your pleasure; share your feelings with other people; become an optimist - rejoice, laugh, have fun, no matter what.
2. Accept yourself and life as it is. Allow yourself to be who you are, and events will happen by themselves. Your task is to dream, move and watch what miracles life brings you. And if something does not turn out the way you wanted, then it will be even better. Just relax and enjoy.

"I die and have fun. And I'm going to have fun every day I have"(Randy Pausch "The Last Lecture").

Love

Sadly, many people only in the face of death realize how little love was in their lives, how little they rejoiced and enjoyed the simple joys of life. The world has given us so many miracles! But we are too busy. We cannot take our eyes off our plans and current concerns to look at these gifts and enjoy them.

"Love is food for the soul. Love for the soul is the same as food for the body. Without food, the body is weak; without love, the soul is weak."(Osho).

The best way to raise the wave of love in your body is gratitude. Start thanking God (the Universe) for everything that he presents to you every moment: for this food and a roof over your head; for this fellowship; beyond that clear sky; for everything you see and receive. And when you catch yourself getting irritated, immediately ask yourself: "Why should I be grateful now?" The answer will come from the heart, and, believe me, it will inspire you.

Love is the energy from which the world is woven. Become a missionary of love! Give people compliments; charge everything you touch with love; give more than you get... and move through life from the heart, not from the head. It will guide you on the right path.

"A path without a heart is never joyful. In order to reach it, one has to work hard. On the contrary, a path that has a heart is always easy; it does not take much effort to love it"(Carlos Castaneda).

Relations

When life passes, and in everyday worries we often lose sight of our relatives and friends, at the end of the path we will feel devastation, deep sadness and longing ...

Spend as much time as you can with those you love and appreciate. They are the most valuable thing you have. Always be open to communication and new acquaintances, it enriches. As often as possible, give people your attention and admiration for them - all this will return to you. With joy and disinterestedly help, give, and just as joyfully accept gifts from others.

"Bliss is also contagious, like any disease. If you help others to be happy, by and large, you help yourself to be happy"(Osho).

P.S. Recently, I came across an interesting poll on the net: "What you will regret before you die." 70% of participants answered "When the time comes, then we will know" ...

So what will you regret at the end of your journey?

The main values ​​in the life of every person

What is the sense of life? How to live a full and happy life? What is truly valuable in life? Am I living right? These are the main questions that we are all trying to find the answer to ... In this article, I (the author of the article) offer you a new opportunity to reconsider your life priorities and find answers to these "eternal" questions for yourself.

When I became seriously interested in this topic and began to search, I found that the best answers to these questions are given to us by people who in their lives have come face to face with their death.

I studied bestselling books about people who found out they were going to die very soon and changed their priorities in life; collected various studies on the topic “what one regrets before death”; added a bit of oriental philosophy and as a result this list of five true values ​​\u200b\u200bwas obtained in the life of every person.

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If not for my illness, I would never have thought about how wonderful life is.

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originality

Everything in life has its purpose. Every living being on the planet has its own mission. And each of us has a role to play. Realizing our unique talents and abilities, we gain happiness and wealth. The path to our uniqueness and mission lies through our desires and dreams since childhood,

Individuality is the highest value in the world.
Osho.

One woman (Bronnie Wee) worked for many years in a hospice, where her task was to alleviate the mental state of dying patients. From her observations, she revealed that the most common regret people have before death is the regret that they did not have the courage to live the life that was right for them, and not the life that others expected from them. Her patients regretted that they never realized many of their dreams. And only at the end of the journey did they realize that this was only a consequence of their choice, which they had made.

Make a list of your talents and abilities, as well as a list of favorite things in which they are expressed. This is how you find your unique talents. Use them to serve others. To do this, ask yourself as often as possible: “How can I be useful (to the world, to the people I come into contact with)? How can I serve?

Quit the job you hate! Do not be afraid of poverty, failures and mistakes! Trust yourself and don't worry about the opinions of others. Always believe that God will take care of you. It’s better to take a risk once than to regret later that you lived a gray and mediocre life, “killing yourself” at an unloved job to the detriment of yourself and your loved ones.

Always remember that you are unique and your mission is to give the best of your uniqueness to the world. Only then will you find true happiness. That's what God intended.

Discover your divinity, find your unique talent, and you can create any wealth you want.

Deepak Chopra

Self-discovery and spiritual growth

Stop being an animal!.. Of course, we need to satisfy physiological needs, but only in order to develop spiritually. People are mainly chasing material well-being and are concerned, first of all, with things, and not with the soul. Then, as the primary meaning and purpose of human life is to realize that he is a spiritual being and, in fact, he does not need anything material.

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We are not human beings having spiritual experiences from time to time. We are spiritual beings having a human experience from time to time.
Deepak Chopra

Realize God within you. Man is a transitional being from the animal to the spiritual. And each of us has the resources to make this transition. Practice the state of "Being" more often, when you have no thoughts and you do not need anything, when you simply feel life and enjoy its fullness. The state of “here and now” is already a spiritual experience.

There are people among us, not many, but there are those who understand that it is necessary to start saving money for old age even at a time when it is far away, so that a certain amount has time to accumulate ... So why not take care of what is more important than money, oh soul?
Eugene O'Kelly, Chasing the Elusive Light

And there is no need to improve yourself, you are already perfect because you are spiritual beings. Engage in self-discovery.

To know oneself as well as possible in order to be as big as possible for the world is the most important task of man.
Robin Sharma

Even when you achieve your goals, true success is not about the achievement, but about the changes in consciousness that have taken place as an inevitable consequence of your progress toward those goals. It's not about achieving goals, but about what happens to you in the process of achieving it.

openness

How often, in the face of death, people regret that they never had the courage to express love to their near and dear ones! They regret that they often suppressed their emotions and feelings because they were afraid of the reaction of others. They regret not allowing themselves to be happier. Only at the end of the journey did they realize that to be happy or not is a matter of choice.

Every moment we choose a reaction to this or that situation, and each time we interpret events in our own way. Be carefull! Watch your choice every moment.

What goes around comes around.
folk wisdom

What needs to be done to become more open?

Give free rein to your emotions and feelings. Ride the coolest attraction and scream at your pleasure; share your feelings with other people; become an optimist - rejoice, laugh, have fun, no matter what.

Accept yourself and life as it is. Allow yourself to be who you are and let things happen. Your task is to dream, move and watch what miracles life brings you. And if something does not turn out the way you wanted, then it will be even better. Just relax and enjoy.

I die and rejoice. And I'm going to have fun every day I have.
Randy Pausch "The Last Lecture"

Love

Sadly, many people only in the face of death realize how little love was in their lives, how little they rejoiced and enjoyed the simple joys of life. The world has given us so many miracles! But we are too busy. We cannot take our eyes off our plans and current concerns to look at these gifts and enjoy them.

Love is food for the soul. Love is to the soul what food is to the body. Without food, the body is weak; without love, the soul is weak.
Osho

The best way to raise the wave of love in your body is gratitude. Start thanking God for everything that he gives you every moment: for this food and a roof over your head; for this fellowship; beyond that clear sky; for everything you see and get. And when you catch yourself getting irritated, immediately ask yourself, “Why should I be grateful now?” The answer will come from the heart, and, believe me, it will inspire you.

Love is the energy from which the world is woven. Become a missionary of love! Give people compliments; charge everything you touch with love; give more than you get...and move through life from the heart, not from the head. It will guide you on the right path.

A path without a heart is never joyful. You have to work hard just to get there. On the contrary, the path that has a heart is always easy; it doesn't take much effort to fall in love with him.
Carlos Castaneda

Relations

When life passes and in everyday worries we often lose sight of our relatives and friends, at the end of the journey we will feel devastation, deep sadness and longing ...

Spend as much time as you can with those you love and appreciate. They are the most valuable thing you have. Always be open to communication and new acquaintances, it enriches. As often as possible, give people your attention and admiration for them - all this will return to you. With joy and disinterestedly help, give, and just as joyfully accept gifts from others.

Bliss is also contagious, like any disease. If you help others to be happy, by and large you are helping yourself to be happy.
Osho

Maxim Dudkin

(1906-1999) - Soviet and Russian philologist, culturologist, art critic, academician of the Russian Academy of Sciences (AN USSR until 1991). Chairman of the Board of the Russian (Soviet until 1991) Cultural Fund (1986-1993). Author of fundamental works on the history of Russian literature (mainly Old Russian) and Russian culture. Here is a fragment from the book: Likhachev D.S. Letters about kindness. - St. Petersburg: Nauka, Logos, 2006.

What is the sense of life

You can define the purpose of your existence in different ways, but there must be a purpose - otherwise it will not be life, but vegetation. You have to have principles in life. It’s good even to state them in a diary, but for the diary to be “real”, you can’t show it to anyone - write only for yourself. Every person should have one rule in life, in his goal of life, in his principles of life, in his behavior: one must live life with dignity, so that one is not ashamed to remember. Dignity requires kindness, generosity, the ability not to be a narrow egoist, to be truthful, a good friend, to find joy in helping others.

For the sake of the dignity of life, one must be able to refuse small pleasures and considerable ones too ... To be able to apologize, admit a mistake to others is better than play up and lie. When deceiving, a person first of all deceives himself, because he thinks that he has successfully lied, but people understood and, out of delicacy, kept silent. Lies are always visible. People have a special feeling that they are lying to them or telling the truth. But there is no evidence, and more often - I don’t want to get involved ...

Nature created man for many millions of years, until it created it, and this creative, constructive activity of nature must, I think, be respected, we must live life with dignity and live in such a way that nature, working on our creation, is not offended. Nature is creative, it created us, therefore we must support this creative trend, creativity in our life and in no case support everything destructive that exists in life. How to understand this, how to apply it to your life, each person should answer this individually, in relation to his abilities, his interests, etc. But you need to live by creating, to maintain creativity in life. Life is varied, and consequently, creation is also varied, and our aspirations for creativity in life should also be varied according to our abilities and inclinations. How do you think?

In life, there is some level of happiness from which we count, as we count height from sea level. Starting point. So, the task of each person, both in large and small ways, is to increase this level of happiness, to increase it in life. And his personal happiness also does not remain outside of these worries. But mainly - those around you, those who are closer to you, whose level of happiness can be increased simply, easily, without worries. And besides, it means raising the level of happiness of your country and all of humanity in the end. The methods are different, but something is available for everyone. If the solution of state issues is not available, which always increases the level of happiness, if they are wisely resolved, then this level of happiness can be increased within your working environment, within your school, in the circle of your friends and comrades. Everyone has such an opportunity.

Life is, first of all, creativity, but this does not mean that every person, in order to live, must be born an artist, ballerina or scientist. Creativity can also be created. You can simply create a good atmosphere around you, as they say now, an aura of goodness around you. For example, a person can bring into society an atmosphere of suspicion, some kind of painful silence, or he can immediately bring joy, light. This is what creativity is. Creativity is continuous. So life is eternal creation. A person is born and leaves a memory behind. What kind of memory will he leave behind? This needs to be taken care of not only from a certain age, but, I think, from the very beginning, since a person can leave at any moment and at any moment. And it is very important what kind of memory he leaves about himself.