Why are some people attracted to you? Energy interaction of people

How to attract the people you need? 10 psychological tricks.

1. The response to kindness, or the Benjamin Franklin effect

The story goes that Benjamin Franklin once wanted to win over a man who didn't love him. This man was looking for a rare book that Franklin had. Benjamin found out about this and lent him this rare book, and when it was returned to the owner, Benjamin simply thanked him. As a result, they became best friends.

As Franklin said: “The one to whom you once did good is ready to return you with kindness much greater than yours ...”

2. Ask for more than you want to receive.

This effect is very simple and akin to bargaining in the market. The effect works almost always. You are obliged to overestimate your requirements if a person needs you. At first, you are likely to be rejected. Don't resist, give it time. In 95% of cases, the person interested in you will respond again and offer a little less than you requested, but at the same time, it is guaranteed to be higher than you originally pledged.

3. Imposed desire to help

Reception, very similar to the previous one. In order to awaken in a person an independent desire to help you, ask him once for something that he definitely won’t agree to. Having received a refusal, you have created for yourself a person who considers himself indebted to you. Most likely, he will turn to you on his own more than once with a desire to help, because inside he will have a feeling of guilt.

3. The name of a person as a magical sound

Dale Carnegie, author of How to Win Friends and Influence People, says using someone's name in a conversation is an incredibly powerful argument. The name of a person is the most pleasant sound for him. Saying his name in a positive context, you grow significantly in his eyes.

4. Flattery is everywhere

She is everywhere and always. To begin with, it is important to understand that flattery must look natural, otherwise it can do more harm than good.

If you flatter someone who has high self-esteem, then you are more likely to succeed. Such people love themselves and love flattery, while they do not notice it. And those who have low self-esteem see any positive assessments as a dirty trick and deceit.

5. Mirror

If you want someone to like you, copy them. People with this skill are considered chameleons in society, from the outside it is noticeable how they are constantly changing and adapting to each individual. However, this skill must be at least a little developed in order to attract the people you need.

The work of actors-parodists is based on this principle. All celebrities who have been parodied from TV screens are often good friends of these actors.

6. Ask for favors from the weary

When someone is tired, he is more receptive to all requests. The reason for this is that a tired person gets tired not only physically, but also mentally. If the boss is tired, then it is easy for him to allow you to finish tomorrow, but you must finish it without fail and with high quality. This will give you some respect in the eyes of the boss. After all, you kept your word.

7. Start asking for small things.

It's simple, ask a little at the beginning, and they will open credit of trust for you. According to this principle, people become dependent on social movements. For example, at first you are asked to support an action against deforestation, you support it, then again and again. A trifle, but you are already ready to give more. Are you ready to support the action against deforestation in distant Tanzania or join the Green Party and make contributions.

8. Don't correct people when they're wrong.

Carnegie also wrote in his famous book that you should not poke your nose at a person's obvious mistake immediately after you find it. If you want to change the point of view of a person, then approach this carefully. Even if you have a loser in front of you who blames anyone but himself for his troubles, you should not shout in your face. Agree with him for the moment and gradually try to change his point of view. Otherwise, you risk becoming enemy number one.

9. Repeat phrases and expressions of the right people

This principle is akin to the “chameleon” principle, when a person repeats the person with whom he is interested in communicating with facial expressions and gestures. Words can caress the ear if they are like an echo. It is necessary to pronounce what a person has already said, what he heard inside his head.

10. Head nod

Scientists have found that when people nod while listening to someone, they are more likely to agree with them. They also found that when someone nods in front of him, the person, like a parrot, repeats. Thus, the nod stimulates the listener's agreement. Everything is based on our favorite principle of imitation...

1. Be busy. It is the cheapest medicine on earth - and one of the most effective.

2. Act like you're already happy and you'll actually be happier.

3. Don't criticize, don't judge, don't complain.

4. If you want to find happiness, stop thinking about gratitude and ingratitude and indulge in the inner joy that self-giving brings.

5. Remember that your interlocutor may be completely wrong. But he doesn't think so. Don't judge him.

6. Know how to take the position of another person and understand what HIM needs, and not you. Whoever manages to do this will have the whole world.

7. If a person tries to use you for his own purposes, cross him out of your acquaintances.

8. If fate gives you a lemon, make lemonade out of it.

9. Never try to settle scores with your enemies, because by doing so you will do yourself much more harm than they do.

10. Do like General Eisenhower: never think for a minute about people you don't like.

- your appearance. Neat, discreet clothing should suit you and emphasize your personality. When the harmony of the external with the internal is felt in you, it will no longer matter whether you are in a simple suit or in an extravagant dress - you will be interested in your whole image.

Be friendly and welcoming, but do not lose yourself behind these manifestations. Often, in order to, we look intently into the eyes, constantly smile and nod, but this is hardly so attractive from the outside. Especially if you are not an outgoing optimist, your behavior will come across as cloying and somewhat hypocritical, so be yourself.

Try to listen carefully and with interest to the person and, if necessary, ask questions. But in parallel with this, do not forget to express your original position on some issue, and if it seems interesting to a person, he will look at you differently, and a mutual connection will form between you.

Keep an open posture and don't hide in a corner. Freedom in movement and movement testifies to inner freedom, and this quality is very attractive to people, especially those who themselves are somewhat constrained and clamped. Find that very middle where you can feel at home and at the same time be tactful.

By repeating the name of the person you want to attract, you are unconsciously giving him a compliment. As children, we were often called by name, but as we get older, this happens less and less. A person often sees his name written on paper, so these sounds, unexpectedly uttered by you, will undoubtedly enliven the interlocutor, please and fill him with a sense of gratitude to you.

Be kind and open. You should feel a sincere attraction to a person, a desire to help him in something, to share some periods with him. If a person feels that he can trust you, that you are a non-random passerby in his life, then there are much more chances for future communication. He should not think that you need something from him, everything should be just the opposite - his need for you must appear. To do this, mentally send your positive energy to a person, direct it in his direction.

At the end of the conversation, make a small hook, in the popular one it is “drop or anchor”. You must do something that will not end your communication, but will suggest some kind of meeting in the future. It can be something as simple as inviting the person to go to an exhibition of interest to both of you, or to visit you where you have a collection of stones.

The strongest magnet for a man is an attractive woman.

Attractiveness as a quality of personality - the possession of the ability attract, bring people closer to you, arouse interest in yourself.

I am like a magnet. And not because I attract people. I just stick to the fridge.

Attractiveness - the ability to attract people to your line of life. Attractiveness is when the vast majority loves you. An attractive person does not force anyone into the orbit of his life. People, like bees to honey, voluntarily flock to him.

Why do they love me? Why are people drawn to me like a magnet? Attractiveness often asks itself such questions and does not find an answer. First of all, in an attractive personality, people are attracted by her confidence in herself and in her abilities.

Power is always drawn to. The Force is calm, balanced and satisfied. A person who is satisfied with life causes enduring sympathy. No one likes the eternally dissatisfied whiners and bores. Napoleon Hill - the king of success wrote: “I have great wealth that no one can take away, which can never be squandered, never lost due to a fall in the value of shares or unsuccessful investments. My wealth is satisfaction with life ... "

In an attractive person, charisma, charm, charm are clearly expressed. He is successful both at work and in the family. People are overwhelmed with complexes, and when they meet a person who is free from complexes, some kind of pernicious obsession, they involuntarily reach for this benevolent energy. Everyone wants to get into the orbit of success, where they don’t burden you with their problems, where they give you joy, inspire and inspire, instill enthusiasm, optimism and a crazy charge of psychological vigor.

An attractive person is kind and forgiving. In communication, he keeps his false ego on a short leash. People feel it right away. Confrontation arises immediately when the false ego wakes up. The man spoke to himself in a benevolent tone - everyone listened attentively with pleasure. As soon as he turned on his egoism, the ego of those around him wakes up sharply, gets excited and begins to call the mind and feelings to protest. As soon as egoism appears in words, the desire to prove one's importance and significance, disputes, abuse and squabbles immediately arise.

An attractive person has strong views and principles. This circumstance does not deter people. On the contrary, they respect his world outlook, because, firstly, it has passed the test of practice, as evidenced by the success of an attractive personality, and secondly, it is presented in such a benevolently calm tone that people do not have the slightest intention to tear at a vest and with foam at the mouth to prove to everyone that he was right.

Attractive person makes friends with a smile. When people are in trouble, attractive people are indispensable. Their presence alone inspires confidence that all problems will be solved in a safe way. Openness, sincerity and naturalness are the calling card of attraction.

An attractive person never imitates anyone. An extraordinary, inquisitive mind, free from inertia and moss, provides an opportunity for the manifestation of originality and originality. An attractive person has found his life purpose and successfully implements it in practice. He always remains himself. Therefore, his life is bright and full of interesting deeds and accomplishments. The love of an attractive person in his work attracts people, most of whom are forced to engage in disgusting work, which gives only the means of everyday existence.

An attractive person is a master of limitations, that is, the ability to keep the necessary distance. In communication, he does not allow relationships to slide to a state of coldness and aloofness, but he also does not allow others to unceremoniously invade their personal space, turning relationships into familiarity, familiarity, and, even more so, into an endless French kiss. Attractiveness knows how to place restrictive barriers. She knows that feelings tend to go through stages of hunger, satiation, satiety, and disgust. If you hug and kiss all the time, there is a risk of getting fed up. And you must always be attractive and desirable.

Philosopher Vyacheslav Ruzov says: “Unlimitedness always leads to satiety. And what satiety requires is novelty. Therefore, a restricted schema is an opportunity to preserve love, relationships, and attraction. Therefore, the system with restrictions just creates the proper level of sexual attractiveness in the family. Unfortunately, the absence of restrictions removes this level of sexual attractiveness and ordinary, satiety appears, and therefore the search for a new one. If we talk about cheating, then it is the restrictions in the family that this is the scheme that creates this proper level of attraction to each other. No wonder many spiritual traditions recommend that a husband and wife sleep in separate rooms. Such a distance increases the attractiveness and desirability of the spouses to each other.

If a couple's relationship is based on sex, it is difficult for them to last more than seven years. The attractiveness of the spouses is rapidly rushing to zero. There is a desire for diversity in sex. Psychologist Ruslan Narushevich claims that when this thirst for ever-increasing happiness in intimate relationships reaches its limit, and you feel that you can’t get anything new here, collapse begins, because each of the spouses begins to think that the problem is that it’s just “not enough spouses” or “few women” simply – one woman is not enough for me. A person begins to think seriously and adjust the theory to fit it. Because his appetite for ever-increasing happiness is natural. But since he is looking for him all the time on the "lower floor" - it turns out that this is a collapse, a divorce.

A man should always discover something new in his wife. Only then does she become attractive to him. Or stay. You will say: “Well, why should a wife be a clown all the time? Any new tricks to master? All the time somehow to show themselves or to build something. Or an artist? No. It turns out that the more a man listens to a woman, the more she begins to understand herself. The more she understands herself, the more she discovers something new in herself and begins to believe in it. And then it starts in a new way. For example, women whom a man actively listens to can dramatically change their hairstyle. Boldly. Even though I've been afraid all my life. Or maybe, for the first time in many years, make up. Because she realized that she was not so bad, that you could talk to her for an hour and listen to her.

Therefore, the attractiveness, the novelty of bodily and spiritual properties for a woman comes through communication. Realization through communication. And for a man - through solitude and reflection. Therefore, in a family it is very important that each of the spouses receive both. That is, each, respectively, what he needs. That is, a man received moments of solitude or moments where he would improve.

How does a man become attractive? A man becomes attractive, improving. Yesterday it was like this, today it is an order of magnitude higher, today it is even higher. And how does this appearance of various - novelty of bodily and spiritual qualities happen for a woman? You just need to open them and that's it. There is no need to attract anything. Just believe - believe that there is a lot of beauty in me, you can believe in it if you start telling someone, and he listens to you attentively and admires it. Admires the mind, admires the ideas, admires the way things look, talks to you, laughs together at what is funny. Compassion for what you sympathize with. This is how a woman begins to show a wide variety of qualities and becomes attractive.

Petr Kovalev 2014

I will tell you a few secrets, applying which, you can stay in the heart of a person for a long time.

They are simple, and you may even guess about it, but ...

For some reason, not everyone manages to use them constantly and for their intended purpose.

Why? I will talk about this in detail.

Secret 1:

We rejoice in life.

A person who openly enjoys life becomes very attractive to others. People reach out to them, and flock like moths to a bright light. The only question is how to become such a person?

The fact is that we all interact with each other in order to exchange energy, no matter how trite it may sound. But it is so…

So, desire to communicate with you, other people directly depends from the amount of this energy you have. And, more specifically, in the sexual center.

Why exactly here?

Because it is the second chakra that is responsible for a person receiving pleasure from life, from everything that is in contact with him. Whether it is another person, an animal, a flower, a tree, and even an inanimate object…

If a energy in this center few, you will not be able to enjoy life to the fullest and ... Naturally, you can't this joy pass on to others, there is simply nothing to convey - they themselves have little, enough only to maintain their own body.

But, if you fill your sexual center with enough energy, people will immediately feel it. There will be no indifferent - that's for sure. The invisible light that you will begin to radiate into the world around you will attract new fans and friends to you.

Secret 2:

Appreciate yourself dearly.

People will value you only as much as you value yourself. And not a penny more.

It is very difficult to adequately evaluate yourself if you have problems with sexuality. More precisely, with the amount of sexual energy.

People begin to have difficulty communicating. This causes them to shrink, put on masks and act stiff. Girls are heavily painted, men pump their bodies, a lot of money is spent on clothes and image ... But, the result is often zero. And our self-esteem starts to drop wildly.

And because as a result of these actions, we we want to become what we are not inherently. We want to get sexy. But we do it in some artificial way. And it is foolish to think that the people around us will not feel it.

After all sexuality- it's such a thing she either is or she is not.

Fortunately, this is fixable. Just go the other way - get filled with sexual energy from the inside, not from the outside. And then you will not need to spend a lot of money on clothes and put on tons of cosmetics. And self-esteem and self-confidence will definitely increase.

Secret 3:

Recognize the importance of a person and he will recognize yours.

Accept a person with all his shortcomings and virtues. I assure you that if you look closely, there will be much more of the latter than you might have noticed before.

Acceptance of another person, compliments and praise not only do not detract from your own merits, but also make you quite attractive in the eyes of others. Just say it all sincerely .

This will be easy to do. If you have enough sexual energy.

Remember sexy people Not only love give compliments and praise others. It seems that when they do this, they themselves enjoy what they say.

Learn also, and you will not end up with those who want to talk. Work with sexuality, accumulate energy in the second center. It will bring you an unprecedented experience of life.

The funny thing is, when the amount of sexual energy starts to increase in you, you will suddenly like those people who you didn’t like at all before and even caused irritation. And all because you will see them, and the situations associated with them, from a completely different angle. Then the compliments will fly by themselves.

Secret 4:

We are genuinely interested in people.

It's even easier here. A person with a well-developed sexual chakra does not need to make any effort. He and so likes to chat and does it with pleasure. He is interested in people, the way they act, think and speak...

Communication takes a fairly large amount of energy, so people who have little of it are given a lot of work.

Conclusion: pumping the sexual chakra.

Secret 5:

Smile always.

A smile attracts and disposes. In sexual persons, she simply does not leave her face. They don’t even need to make an effort - they just live like that.

Let's get sexier. We smile at everything we see around us: the world, people, nature, animals… If it’s hard for you to feel it yet, don’t be sad. Try to play it, based on examples of how sexy people do it.

And keep increasing your energy.

How to do it? I will cover it in future articles.

Konstantin Dovlatov.

In our universe there is still a huge part of the unknown and what we cannot understand with our minds. However, many world scientists prove in practice that there are so-called laws of positive attraction that can be successfully used by the human mind.

Having understood the theoretical structure of the laws, they can be resorted to in everyday life in practice, thus ensuring the inevitable fulfillment of desires.

Positive psychology is quite easy to use, its essence lies in the search, comprehension and application of circumstances which directly affect the harmonious existence in society and the successful development of the individual. Scientists who study the factors of positive psychology believe that thought is the invisible, but material essence of things. And her power has such capabilities that it can physically affect both the body of its owner and the surrounding people. Therefore, it turns out that everything that happens in the life of a certain individual is created and attracted to him by his mind. That is, all that is required for this is to seriously want and the embodiment of the desired will occur thanks to the power of thought.

But we must not forget that exactly the same action occurs with negative thoughts. That is, to fill life with joyful and happy moments surrounded by people whom you want to attract to yourself, you should comprehend the law of positive attraction, starting from good intentions.

The law of positive human attraction in step-by-step preparation

1. Definition of desires. This is the main rule on which the subsequent effect depends, because the exact representation of the goal must be real in order to be implemented. You need to decide on your desires and present a clear picture of what you want to achieve in the end. If desire is a certain person whom you want to attract into your life, you should not imagine in your imagination that he will arrive on a golden horse or in a crystal carriage and bring with him unprecedented gifts from heaven.
2. Thinking must be positive. Before the time to tune in to an unsuccessful outcome of what was planned is wrong. It’s better then not to even start this lesson anyway, the efforts will be wasted. Only confidence and the right, positive attitude will help attract similar energy and successfully achieve what you want.
3. Spatial perception. Through eye contact with the outside world, a person receives most of the information. Therefore, your desire must be perfectly represented in the form of a picture. For example, a photo of the person you want to attract into your life. If such a person does not exist and you just want to see a sensual and kind person near you, you can depict him on a piece of paper, absorbing the positive vibrations of your thoughts into him, and for this it is not necessary to have artistic skills. Thanks to visualization, the picture will be imprinted in the mind, saturating the power of thought.
4. Prioritization. Decide on the most important things - this will help make the power of thought subject to you. A little free time spent on bringing order to your head and positive energy will make it much easier to communicate with the outside world.
5. confirmation factor. It can be a short phrase placed on a sticker near the computer or on the bathroom mirror containing a verbal formula for the realization of the desired, which, when repeated daily, is affirmed in the subconscious and helps to stimulate a positive impact on life changes. The main thing in this factor is not to carry out the repetition mechanically, the essence of the effect depends on the bright emotional coloring and real desire.
6. Delete the negative. The mental attraction of a person will begin to act in your interests at full capacity only when you cross out all the negativity that has accumulated throughout your life. It is impossible to immediately get rid of everything bad and stay in full positive. You will have to work hard on yourself and on your thoughts in order to achieve complete balance over thought processes. But having achieved a result and rid your head of bad thoughts, you will not let them back in.

How to attract a person in practice

At the beginning it is always difficult, nothing works out, but the main rule is Don't give up when you're in trouble. It is quite logical that ridding the mind of negative factors is not easy, because their roots are stuck deep in consciousness. To do this, there are trainings that will help you relax and gradually get rid of the negative.

Waking up in the morning on a day off, focus on the person you want to attract into your life. Then get into a comfortable position, whether it's a chair or sofa or you prefer to lie on the floor, close your eyes, relax, feel your body, listen to it work. Then concentrate on the desired person and look at yourself from the outside.

Gradually, you will learn to relax, and if you perform this exercise daily, first you will feel good and calm, your mood will improve, thereby stimulating the development of the power of thought. But do not turn these classes into a cult, move forward confidently, but without fanaticism. Patience and complete control of your thoughts and feelings.

It may seem implausible, because it is difficult to explain, but success in mastering your thoughts is due only to your faith in your own strength. If you are unsure, you are overcome by doubts, you constantly hesitate - you will not be able to achieve results. But if you firmly decided that you can manage your life according to the script you wrote with the people you want to see near you, your power of thought will get stronger, just like a child who just got into our world is getting stronger every day.

At first glance, it may seem that the power of thought and the attraction of the desired person to yourself is just an unrealistic fiction or a fairy tale for stupid people. And the simplicity of the training cannot lead to any results at all. However, the fact of the power of thought has been scientifically proven. Just try not to let negative thoughts take over, try to develop a sense of confidence, expectation of success and a positive vision of the world, it will turn your whole past life upside down and you will succeed.

If you turn on your imagination and try to imagine how thoughts work and their forces that can attract what you want to yourself, you could observe the following picture: a person is standing, he is holding flowers in both hands - these are thoughts, forces come from all thoughts in the form of vibrations, they all different, there is a sickly look, there are dark and crooked ones, but there are also light, beautiful, bewitching specimens that seem to breathe with confidence and happiness. People constantly pass by a person with flowers, they go quickly, as life goes by.

Sometimes a person with flowers sees the person with whom he so wants to communicate, maybe they are even people, but they all pass by as if not noticing him. All because a man with flowers stands at a great distance from passing people, and there are so few good thoughts in his hands that the vibrations that they exude are muffled by dark, bad waves. There is not enough strength to reach the desired person passing by. This is how a person lives with his bad thoughts, but as soon as he opens his hands a little, half-withered bad flowers fall to the ground and people reach out to the person.