Sviyash Alexander - Reasonable world. How to live without unnecessary worries - read a book online for free

Abstract

This book will make your life intelligent! It will help you find peace in your soul, while remaining an active participant in ordinary life. Here you will find simple explanations of the reasons why you have to experience negative experiences and life does not turn out the way you want. And understanding the reasons for the events happening to you, you will be able to consciously manage your life!

The book provides many specific examples, recommendations and exercises that will allow you to enter a state of peace of mind, consciously manage the events of your life and dramatically increase your ability to achieve life goals that are significant to you, whether it be personal life, career, business or any other goals. .

Our system is neither magic nor a religious system, although it considers the process of interaction between people and the forces of the Unmanifested World. But it will make your life more calm and comfortable!

The use of the system proposed in the book does not require great special efforts and changes in the usual rhythm of life.

Alexander Grigorievich Sviyash

REASONABLE WORLD or HOW TO LIVE WITHOUT EXCESSIVE EXPERIENCES Second edition, supplemented

Introduction

The time for miracles has passed, and we

Finding the reasons

Everything that happens in the world.

So, dear reader, you are holding this book in your hands. Why exactly this one? Maybe your choice was unconscious? Or were you drawn to the title? Or maybe you are already familiar with our works and they left some trace in your soul?

In any case, we are glad to welcome you to the pages of this book and hope that you will not only have the strength and patience to read it to the end, but also put into practice the ideas and recommendations outlined in it. We are confident that this will bring you tangible benefits.

What is our book about? Let's answer this question right away so that you understand whether it is worth reading such a voluminous work or will it be a waste of time?

It is human nature to strive for something. A successful career, prosperity, love, family, children, education, recreation, creativity - this is not a complete list of our everyday needs. I want everything to be good. But, unfortunately, this does not work for everyone. Maybe you have sometimes stopped the crazy run through life towards these or similar goals and asked yourself: why am I doing all this? And did you find the answer to this question?

Unfortunately, most of us live in a world of problems and experiences (mostly of a negative nature). Why is all this happening? And is it possible to make sure that problems are solved easily and quickly, the necessary goals are achieved and life gives only pleasure? How to learn to live calmly and joyfully, without unnecessary worries?

If this and other questions have been on your mind, then this book is for you.

Alexander Grigorievich Sviyash

REASONABLE WORLD or HOW TO LIVE WITHOUT EXCESSIVE EXPERIENCES Second edition, supplemented

Introduction

The time for miracles has passed, and we

Finding the reasons

Everything that happens in the world.

W. Shakespeare

So, dear reader, you are holding this book in your hands. Why exactly this one? Maybe your choice was unconscious? Or were you drawn to the title? Or maybe you are already familiar with our works and they left some trace in your soul?

In any case, we are glad to welcome you to the pages of this book and hope that you will not only have the strength and patience to read it to the end, but also put into practice the ideas and recommendations outlined in it. We are confident that this will bring you tangible benefits.

What is our book about? Let's answer this question right away so that you understand whether it is worth reading such a voluminous work or will it be a waste of time?

It is human nature to strive for something. A successful career, prosperity, love, family, children, education, recreation, creativity - this is not a complete list of our everyday needs. I want everything to be good. But, unfortunately, this does not work for everyone. Maybe you have sometimes stopped the crazy run through life towards these or similar goals and asked yourself: why am I doing all this? And did you find the answer to this question?

Unfortunately, most of us live in a world of problems and experiences (mostly of a negative nature). Why is all this happening? And is it possible to make sure that problems are solved easily and quickly, the necessary goals are achieved and life gives only pleasure? How to learn to live calmly and joyfully, without unnecessary worries?

If this and other questions have been on your mind, then this book is for you.

This book is the first step into the Intelligent World. To begin with, let us explain what an unreasonable or irrational world is. This is the world in which most of us live. This is a world in which people are dissatisfied with life and each other. They are constantly striving for something, often without realizing where. They want something all the time, but most of the goals remain pipe dreams.

This book will give you a chance to get out of this irrational world and take a step into the Reasonable world, where you yourself will be the master of your life. A reasonable world is the world in which you can make conscious decisions, because you know the causes and consequences of certain life events. Not the hectic and unpredictable world in which most people live. If something doesn't work out for you, you'll know why. If you want something, you will know how to achieve it.

Is all this possible? We claim that it is available to almost anyone. In any case, to those who do not find it hard to finish reading our book to the end.

You can find some of the thoughts expressed here in three earlier books: How to Shape the Events of Your Life with the Power of Thought, What to Do When Things Don't Go the Way You Want, and How to Cleanse Your Court of Karma. Here we have put these blocks into a single system of views that allows a person to understand the causes of most of the events that happen to him and learn how to manage them. How well it turned out, you be the judge.

Experiences - from the unknown future. Since you will be able to make conscious decisions after absorbing the ideas presented here, you will not have any ground to worry about. After all, any experience is a misunderstanding of the underlying causes of your problems. And the prediction of your future troubles arising from this uncertainty.

You do not know the patterns by which certain events in your life occur. And the unknown is always scary. Previously, people were afraid of incomprehensible thunder, lightning, fire. Today they are afraid of an unpredictable future, which, as it seems, does not depend on the will, desires and practical efforts of a person.

In fact, this is not true at all. We create our own future! Well, of course, not quite themselves. Many forces unknown to us take an active part in this. And if you know the laws and requirements that guide these forces, then you can consciously predict your future. It will become known, and you will have no ground for worrying!

This book is the rules of life. We hope that this book will become for you something like the rules of the road - only the rules of the road in life. Here you will find those unspoken laws that our whole life is subject to. These are the very traffic lights, signs and signs that people often do not notice or do not want to notice. In this book, we will try to make them visible and understandable.

How you dispose of the information received is your own business - a person has great freedom of choice. Of course, you can also run a red light. You can go where the "brick" hangs. Take risks if you have health! But if you want to stay safe and sound, then you can’t do without following the rules. Moreover, if you meet certain requirements that the Higher Forces impose on us, then you can count on receiving support from them. Sounds tempting, doesn't it?

Our theory is only the first step towards a great Goal. The book sets out a system of views on the world, which we called the General Theory of Karmic Interactions. It reveals the requirements that are made by the Higher powers to a person coming into this world. Fulfillment of these requirements makes a person's life more calm and comfortable.

Of course, our "General Theory ..." so far contains only a small fraction of the system of knowledge that could lay claim to this grand name. These are only the first and timid steps towards systematizing the knowledge that a person needs to consciously manage his life.

Someday a person will learn all the rules and laws of the existence of our material and non-material worlds and will consciously manage his life. The life of the current and, perhaps, the future. The development of such a system of reasonable relationships between man and the forces of the Unmanifested World is our distant and great Goal.

Worlds Manifested and Unmanifested. We want to apologize in advance to those of our readers who hold atheistic views on life, because in this book we will use a number of special terms, including the concept of "Unmanifested World". What does it mean. Our world is the Manifested world. That is, one that can be felt, measured, seen or heard. But this, as you understand, is not the whole world.

Our senses are limited in their capabilities, so scientists and inventors are constantly coming up with new devices or ways to get to know our Manifested World better. But the capabilities of the instruments are limited by our level of knowledge, technology, etc.

Every year (or even a day) we learn something new about our own world. And apparently, this will continue for quite a long time. That is, in addition to our Manifested world, there is also the Unmanifested world, which we have not yet learned to feel or measure.

What is this very Unmanifested world? Yes, everything that we do not know today. And much more is known than is known. For example, each of you is visited by questions from time to time: is there a God, angels, demons, aliens, etc.? If there is, what are they? What are the limits of human capabilities? Why do we live? Will there be a Last Judgment? Why did something suddenly happen to me that cannot be, because it can never be? Etc.

Any person can come up with many questions for which there are no answers with evidence. There are as many versions as you like, but there are no exact answers.

Therefore, in the book we will use the term "Unmanifested World", in which we will invest the broadest meaning. We use this term to denote everything that is unknown to man. This is in a broad sense.

And in a narrow sense, we use this term to designate the place where, perhaps, there are intelligent entities that help (or hinder) us to go through life. We will put forward some versions about the structure of this very Unmanifested world. And we will not invent everything anew. And we will try to somehow rely on the Christian tradition, that is, on the knowledge (or theories) that humanity has developed over the millennia of its existence.

Why do we use the term Creator. Referring to the Supreme Being who created this world, we use the term "Creator" without indicating the name accepted in one or another religious system. We suggest that you turn to him with prayers or other rituals accepted in your belief system. Therefore, the system of knowledge set forth in our book can be used by Christians and Muslims, Buddhists and Hare Krishnas, atheists and Theosophists, etc. And if we indicated that one should pray, for example, only to Jesus Christ, then we would thus exclude representatives of many other religious denominations. And why is it so depriving them?

Part 1
We remove obstacles on the way to the desired goal

This book is about how to become more successful on the way to your desired goals.
The natural state of any person is to strive for something, set some goals and achieve them. Unfulfillment of our aspirations gives rise to dissatisfaction and other claims to ourselves, to people or to all Life as a whole.
Meanwhile, a person is born for joy, development, self-knowledge and spiritual evolution.
It is clear that not everyone is able to experience these feelings to the fullest. Some are born and live all their lives in poverty, illness, conditions of restriction of freedom and other deprivations. Others are born and live in conditions of high material security and security. It is clear that the latter have more opportunities to fulfill their high destiny, since they do not have to fight for survival. Or need, but to a lesser extent.
But life shows that the presence of a stable income, own housing, a car and other material goods often does not make a person happier. Why?
This usually happens because people, regardless of their current situation, always striving for something else, want to achieve something, change or improve just that area of ​​life where they fail to do something.
According to one of Parkinson's laws, “the level of a person's needs is growing at a faster pace than his income level,” that is, a person tends to want something all the time, no matter how much he has. This is fine.
But not everyone is able to realize their desires. As a result, instead of joy and self-knowledge, people are immersed in various kinds of negative experiences that by no means decorate their lives. Is it possible to somehow change this situation? Our experience shows that it is possible.

Everyone wants something
Most of the desires of people in our materialistic world are aimed at improving material well-being, increasing security, achieving success and arranging their personal lives. People live by desires. Desires make our life rich and fulfilling.
Even if a person has moved away from ordinary worldly desires and plunged into spiritual or religious activities, then he still has desires - for example, to quickly “enlighten up”, quickly communicate with God or someone else - within the framework of his belief system. And even if a person does not know what he wants, then most likely he wants to know what could become desirable for him.
There are people without desires and goals, but they are few, and we will not consider this way of life. Let's be realistic, that is, let's focus on how to get more and faster from Life, without spending too much effort on it. That is, how to become more effective in achieving the desired goals. It turns out that this is quite possible, you just need to remove obstacles from your path.

Chapter 1
What gets in the way

Most people are only as happy as they choose to be.

A. Lincoln

If a person is born for joy and self-knowledge, then what can prevent him from achieving any desired goal that will make his existence even more joyful?
Theoretically - nothing, but practically - many obstacles stand in the way of any person.
Consider only main internal limiting factors that block the achievement of the desired result, without touching the economy, politics, natural conditions and other external circumstances of life. There are not many such internal barriers, but they have a huge impact on the lives of the vast majority of people.
People step on the same rake, passing them on to each other by inheritance, by friendship, and in many other ways.

Different strategies for achieving the goal
Theoretically, there are two different strategies for achieving any desired goal.
The first is the path of strength, struggle, overcoming difficulties.
In the animal world, the analogue is the behavior of a bison or a wild boar, who are not afraid of anyone and demolish all obstacles on the way to their goal. Some people act like this in life, stubbornly and with passion overcoming numerous obstacles. We can say that their whole life is devoted to the struggle. They even like obstacles, because they allow you to experience life in its entirety - as long as you have enough health, of course.
It is clear that in order to achieve success along this path, considerable courage, inner confidence in victory, great energy, and innate leadership qualities are required. Not every person has such a set of qualities, so there are not many winners at all.
The second option is the path of calm and confident achievement of your goal., practically excluding participation in conflicts, struggle, overcoming great difficulties.
This is the path of the sage who does not waste his strength fighting people who are unaware of what they are doing.
The second path suits a much larger number of people who do not have outstanding leadership qualities. We will consider it exactly.
We will learn to move towards the desired goal, listening to the signals that Life constantly sends us, and using its help and support.
Life interacts with us all the time, only we are not used to listening to its prompts and giving it the right orders. Nobody taught us this, so we make a lot of mistakes, which are the reason why our desires do not come true.

We live in a world of abundance
In principle, in our world there is almost everything so that any person can enjoy life and develop spiritually. It has a lot of material goods: money, cars, housing, clothes, food and much more.
There is a lot of beauty, happiness, love, men and women, children, joy, work, creativity and everything else in the world.
Another thing is that all these incalculable riches are distributed quite unevenly, some have something in obvious excess, while others, respectively, lack it.
Why does this happen and can it be changed, but not by forceful division of everything for everyone - we have already passed this path - but in some other way? Most likely you can.
This will happen if each person does not wait for mercy from God, the government, or some other external source of benefits, but begins to use his potentially huge opportunities to create the life that he wants to have.
In principle, people do this, but they make many mistakes that lead to disappointing results.
Therefore, the first thing to do on the way to the desired goals is stop making the same mistakes. To begin with, we simply list them, and then we will consider each in more detail.

Unconsciously ordering trouble for ourselves
The first and most common mistake is that we ourselves unconsciously order trouble for ourselves. We do not follow our thoughts, and yet they are the sources of the reality in which we live.
Thought generates actions, actions generate results. Our endless fears and doubts are a direct order of what we receive a little later and with which we struggle for a long time and unsuccessfully. It would seem that man is a rational being, why does he do this? Maybe we are a civilization of masochists? But after all, not everyone does this, some people are good at shaping quite decent things and events for themselves. Probably, the rest of the “martyrs” would do well to learn to behave in the same way.
In the second chapter of the first part of the book, we will look at how people unconsciously use their potential to create all sorts of trouble for themselves.

You are on one of the 6 sites included in the Space of Self-Development system. All these sites, as well as 17 books by Alexander Sviyash, will help you understand and use the ideas of the Intelligent World (another name is the Intelligent Way) to improve your life.

What is the Smart Way? This is not a separate technique, like the Helinger constellations. It's not some kind of therapy where you bring your body or soul and they do something to you. But then you can't repeat it yourself. You become dependent on a specialist.

A reasonable way is a holistic system of views on life (one might say - a philosophy of life), which allows you to solve your problems on your own and start living the way you dream.

You weren't told about it, but every person is born in order to live his life happily. For this, you are given a huge potential from birth, which you do not know how to use. You have not been given instructions on how to use your great powers. Just remember the neural networks that you carry in your head, their capabilities cannot be repeated by all modern technology. And you don't use them properly.

Meanwhile, the life that you have now is the result of your unconscious creativity. You create your life through the implementation of your system of views, beliefs, beliefs. Which was laid in you from birth by your parents, the people around you, the media and other craftsmen. Well, plus your personal bad experience.

No one told you that you can change your “stuffing” at any time, and as a result, your life will change radically. You think that everything is predetermined, that you are "guided through life" and given you different "lessons". Only you will not understand in any way who and where "leads" you and why you need these painful "lessons".

These are all inventions of people who find it very convenient to manage crowds of people who are not aware of their capabilities.

As you understand, without your desire and your efforts it is impossible.

We do not need to believe, we are not a religious organization. Just take and try. Get it - use it. If it doesn't work - forget it.

RP tools are given once, you can use them for a lifetime to solve any problems. your problems. Not anyone else.

But it must be noted that Changing yourself often leads to changes in those around you. For example, you are in conflict with your husband (wife, parents, child, boss) for a long time. When you remove the emotional block charged to fight him from your body, the block charged to fight you disappears in his body. And your relationship can be restored, up to the return of love.

But this is optional. That is, RP tools are not tools to change other people..

In methodological terms, the Smart Way has the most complete and most developed set of tools to date for changing yourself in the way you need.

The RP technique includes 4 steps and is called TOSL - Technology of Conscious Personality Self-Transformation. She is detailed set out in the book "Start life again. 4 steps to a new reality"- you can download it for free below.

TOSL includes the following steps.

Step 1. First you need to erase from your body those emotional blocks that have arisen in your body in the course of negative experiences over all the years you have lived. Usually these are emotional blocks “charged” to fight with oneself, with men / women, with parents, with money, with one’s body, etc.

If you have not been cleansed, then there are dozens of such blocks inside you. No pills will take them out. We suggest doing this using the "Effective Forgiveness" technique. This is NOT a religious practice, there is no need to turn to any higher powers. You yourself were irritated, offended, blamed yourself - and forgive yourself.

Step 2. Then you need to identify what your current beliefs are causing you problems in life, there are many of these beliefs. This is the result of unsuccessful programming of your behavior by your parents, society and your personal negative experience. These are your "negative beliefs".

Then you need to make up the so-called "positive beliefs" according to certain rules, and upload them to your subconscious. We suggest using the "Effective Self-Programming" technique for this.

As a result, these positive statements will become your new beliefs.. And you unconsciously begin to be guided by them.

And new positive beliefs generate positive consequences. That is, you can easily increase your self-esteem yourself. You yourself can get out of the conflicts that destroy your life. You can easily restore the relationship you need. You will be able to correctly find your beloved / beloved, so as not to disperse again. You will be able to arrange for yourself the desired career advancement. You can "correct" yourself and easily open your successful business. Or restore the "fallen" business (if it is fundamentally possible, of course). You can free yourself from many diseases. And stay healthy for as long as you want.

It's all possible. Nature has given us such a resource of "correcting" ourselves, which few people use.

Step 3. You identify and correctly formulate your goals and upload them to your subconscious mind. As a result, you move into a super-efficient state of excitement, which ensures that you quickly achieve your goals.

Attention! Do not confuse. It's not about miracles. And about a sharp increase in the effectiveness of your efforts and the way to your goals.

Step 4. You consolidate the changes received in the course of work on yourself - in order to avoid a “rollback” to previous beliefs and the failures resulting from them.

It's all. As you can see, it's like psychology. But this is not a therapy, but a Technology to successfully achieve your true goals.

The RP technique contains only tools to influence oneself, that is, with a sufficiently developed intellect, a person can use it independently.

If you do not have the ability or perseverance to use the RP tools on your own, then you can take the help of our specialists - come to consultations or trainings, where they will explain in detail how you need to use them correctly. Contact the Center for Positive Psychology The Smart Way www.sviyash-center.ru

The RP methodology is described in 17 books. Books were written as new materials were developed and new elements of the methodology were discovered. And today it is in development.

Some of the books you can download on the page below.

Sorry for not being able to put all my thoughts on one page.

We will be happy to help you if you want to become a little more reasonable and happy person. And put some effort into it.

Jujit W. Wallerstein and

Joan B. Kelly

Consequences of divorce of parents:

Experiences of the child in the period of late latency

Translation by E. Egorova

For some reason, the problem of the latent development of a child has not been studied deeply enough by psychologists, in contrast to the development of his younger and older brothers and sisters - during infancy and growing up. Although no one disputes the particular importance of latency in personality formation, which Erickson described as "a very decisive stage in the social development of the child," much less is known about the relationship between parents and children during this intermediate period of development, and they are less comprehended than relationships in previous years. or subsequent years thereafter. Moreover, comparatively little attention has been paid to the various consequences of interrupted or retarded development during latency. Although many school-age children are being treated, the focus of researchers is usually on failed attempts to resolve conflicts that arose earlier in development. There is very little information about latency in the works devoted to the problems of adults; the condition of a person in this age period is almost not transmitted and is not restored in most of these studies. The fact that "we learn comparatively little about latency by studying adults" Bornstein explains by the distorted and idealized picture that adults recreate in memory, recalling the "ideal of latency", namely, the successful containment of instinctive impulses during this period.