“At first it was difficult to do. The exercises seemed far-fetched, difficult. It was not easy to force myself to fulfill them. There were often doubts. But the result of such exercises exceeded all my expectations. Life has become easier!

In the training of emotions, the key to flexibility of the psyche

So, in the theoretical part, we found out why emotional balancing exercises are necessary. These exercises will allow us to develop emotional flexibility - the backbone of health, both physical and energetic.

Why do the Sam Chung Do system and the Norbekov school insist on training the range of emotions? Because it is the key to the flexibility of your psyche. A kind of "stretching" of emotional "muscles". If emotions do not quickly and smoothly move from one mode to another, this threatens with a nervous breakdown, and the result of a breakdown will be a violation of health. Therefore, emotional “flexibility” is simply necessary to maintain health. You need to control your own emotional state.

It lies in the ability, even in peak situations, to keep oneself in a state of inner (almost infantile) serenity, putting destructive emotions on a strong chain. Fear, as a signal, warns of danger, but paralyzes our ability to act if given free rein. Anger perfectly mobilizes our energy resources, but a flash of rage deprives us of reason and provokes us to take erroneous steps.

Reader, do you know what it is to rejoice from the heart, what it is to cry, what is the balance between these states? Have you forgotten what this means?.. Our life is weaning us from the natural expression of feelings. More familiar is the eternal semi-finished state: unhappy, unhappy, inability to relax (without the use of doping like alcohol or cigarettes, etc.).

Well, the sarcastic reader will say, you are all so convincingly scolding the average modern person. Well, what exactly needs to be done? Is there a recipe?

The recipe is not a recipe, but a perfectly acceptable way out. There are exercises for the flexibility of emotions. Like stretch marks for the muscles or the spine. What is the goal, you ask? - Your mood, mood.

MOOD SHOULD BE ABOVE AVERAGE

What should be the optimal mood? Your mood should be slightly above average. Such a slightly positive coloring. It should not be negative (life is not good, you can’t fix anything) or too positive, like rose-colored glasses, a kind of “puppy delight”. Such distortions, deviations occur due to the inflexibility of the emotional range - the inability of emotions to flexibly follow the corresponding thoughts.

It is this ability that we will train now.

First, we will launch the thought into action, setting the mood. And we will strive to ensure that the emotional background slowly catches up with this thought, resonates. To begin with, let's do a little exercise - so that the reader himself feels how dependent our well-being is on our emotional mood.

EXERCISE "MASK"

Recall the saddest, most difficult moments of your life. Cause sadness in yourself, maybe grief. Look at your reflection in the mirror. Give the face an expression of deep sadness, the corners of the lips are lowered, the eyebrows are mournfully drawn together. Your face is a tragic mask. Try to keep this imprint of grief on your face. Now listen to yourself. How do you feel now, at this moment, when you are full of sadness?

How are you feeling? Not very good? .. It doesn't matter, frankly. Grief, fatigue, loss of energy, etc. After strong sad or negative experiences, you feel as if you have been carrying huge stones all day. Old diseases remind of themselves, new ailments are discovered, and so on.

Here come the tears. Enough sadness. Let her come out with tears.

So, down with sorrow and sorrow! Difficulty adjusting quickly? Imagine that you are standing under a small waterfall. A stream of water washes you, taking away all sad experiences, freeing you, giving you strength and vigor! You feel an unshakable calm.

Now - simply and mechanically lift the corners of the lips. Your face is a bit like a laughing theatrical mask. But still! Such a small thing is a smile, and your face immediately becomes friendly, takes on a joyful expression. And let your smile be somewhat artificial. Reinforce this artificial joy with the most pleasant memories for you.

Imagine that in your palms, folded like a ladle, there is water that has dissolved in itself all your joyful experiences, your best moments, all the most pleasant for you. Lower your face into your palms. Feel the influx of joy, feel how joy fills you. Now listen to your feelings. What happened to your smile? Does it look natural?

What has changed in how you feel? If you want to analyze the changes in your feelings, you will notice how cheerfulness gradually appears, you feel much better, there is no hint of a breakdown, etc.

An excellent result, you say, but what is all this for?

WHAT WE LEARNED BY MASK EXERCISE

You managed, rejoicing and sad, to make sure that these states are reflected in your well-being. Such a simple exercise made you understand how much this or that emotional mood can change your well-being.

The exercise also showed us how important it is to be able to voluntarily change the emotional mood. Such a skill is very useful in a difficult conflict situation, it will allow you not to be led by emotions, help you overcome the consequences of a shock, get out of a depressive state, and help manage your mood.

To do this, you need to stretch or, as we say, “shake” emotions.

This is extremely important! It is necessary to eliminate stagnation in your emotional background. It must be flexible and elastic.

An illustrative scheme, according to which your emotional training sessions should be built, contributing to the speedy preparation of the soul for reunion with the image of youth and health.

Emotional training swings our spirit's towing truck so it can roll out of the hole it's stuck in without hindrance.

Many of us have shattered nerves, tears are near, we ourselves often do not understand why we suddenly break down and unfairly offend loved ones. All these are signs of an emotional (mental) balance disorder. If this condition persists for a long time, it can lead to neurosis, and after some more time to more serious disorders.

We consider tears a sign of weakness, we are ashamed of them, even when they appear out of place. This is especially true for men. We are often shackled by dubious conventions, our emotions are suppressed by false attitudes, we have become unnatural, we have forgotten how to behave. Remember how natural children are in expressing their feelings. Is that why their laughter is so contagious and their crying so intolerable?

Let's also be children for a little bit - sincere, pure, absolutely free. Let us, too, let our emotions go free and allow our feelings to prevail over reason, at least for a short time.

You ask: “Why do we need this?”

To find a sense of deep inner serenity, comparable to that of a child, is the answer. Remember how easily a child goes to rest. A second or two, the tears dried up, the face lights up with a radiant smile, the eyes shine. The kid forgot everything, forgave everything and is ready for a new game. We need to restore emotional flexibility to our spirit so that, swaying like a tree covered by a whirlwind, it acquires the ability to withstand the onslaught of worldly storms and always then returns to a neutral, peaceful state.

Life is a theater and people are actors. The maxim is well-known and common, but inviting to the game, which we will gladly join now.

Emotions greatly affect our internal state and, as a result, our external appearance. Therefore, in order to look good and constantly be in high spirits, we need to learn how to manage our emotions. How to do it? At this stage - with the help of feedback.

If our emotions affect our appearance, then our appearance should influence them, and the actors are well aware of this. Quite simple things help them get into the right image.

Let's become actors. Let's try to play the role of a ruler embraced by boundless calmness. We play honestly, without prejudice, having relaxed physically and completely freed the brain, for which we push all extraneous thoughts - one by one - into an imaginary square or circle, like into a wastebasket.

Necessary reminder. While working with figurative rows, your eyes should be closed.

So, they closed their eyes, sat up straight, straightened their shoulders, raised their heads, lit up their faces with a slight smile ... You are the most just king (or ideal queen) in the world. You are perfection itself, you are full of nobility, dignity. You are indulgent to everything that surrounds you, and to everyone who depends on you. You are proud, internally free and completely liberated: you know - all is vanity of vanities, but you are personally removed from all this, you are absolutely invulnerable ...

Now taste the bitter pie.

Remember something from your past that you can’t even think about without crying.

Help yourself to get into the role… slightly open your mouth, relax your lower jaw, give frequent, shallow breathing, start sobbing a little and remember, remember, remember… Childhood, youth… Go over all your grievances, sorrows, losses, disappointments… that seems wet cheeks - everyone has something to complain about, something to cry over. Do not hold back your tears ... do not be ashamed of them, remember that they are healing for you, they free you from all the stupidities and injustices of your past, from everything that tormented and crushed you, from everything that hung like a stone on your soul ... (Fix with an edge consciousness, this moment - everything that crushed and tormented you, forever irrevocably leaves.) Try to switch to sobs, do not hold them back, intensify as much as possible ... And it’s good, and enough ... Tell yourself - stop!

Move on to calmness, set yourself up for calmness ... Raise your head, straighten your shoulders, do not forget: you are an actor (actress) ... What happened here? We seem to have cried a little? Well, nothing - all this is in the past, everything is gone forever. But how glorious it is now in the soul, how calm ... (Remember this moment too.)

And now - swallow the mix.

Let's remember something from which ... well, just die and not get up! (Let's allow ourselves to relax, let's tune in a cheerful mood.) Who is the easiest to laugh at? First things first, above yourself. And also over friends, over friends, over relatives. So many things happen to them, so many fun things in life! We laugh sincerely, contagiously, from the bottom of our hearts. We do not hold back, we turn to laughter ... and again we say to ourselves - stop!

And again blessed peace. (It’s already easier, already the soul is slipping into it, like a ball into a familiar hole ... a familiar, desired, basic state of the soul.)

Let's get back to sadness.

The body is relaxed, the shoulders are lowered, the head is bowed, the hands are limply thrown to the knees... Ah, why did it suddenly become so sad, where did such melancholy come from? Everything somehow does not warm, everything goes at random ... and the children do not call, do not write, and the friend is gone, and life goes on ... what did he do on this earth, why did he trample the soil, why did he live? Everything is hopeless, everything is meaningless - and there is nowhere to go, and there is no one to say a word to ... Tears come?

And returned to peace. Everything is fine and we want everything, but without fanatical urges to jump up and run somewhere. The soul likes the state of balance, it is comfortable; comfortable, and you would like it to always be so.

And so (and only so!) Of course it will be, but not now, not in the next couple of minutes. Because in the next couple of minutes you have to try to be scared. And seriously - eerily, to the point of tremor in every cell of your gray matter.

Enter the role of a terminally ill, desperate person. You have no way out, no choice, you are absolutely helpless, abandoned by everyone, in front of you is nothingness. A week, a month - how much is left? No matter how much is left - it does not matter, there is no way to escape. Try to physically feel this horror that gnaws at a doomed person every second. Inevitability, inevitability are real things. You used to sympathize with people in such a situation, now this abyss has opened up under you, and there is nothing to lean on, nothing to grab onto ... you are powerless, nothing will help you.

Everyone knows the feeling of fear. Fear plays a useful role in alerting us to danger by stimulating hormonal releases into the bloodstream that prompt us to react defensively. But as soon as you give it free rein, it will turn into a paralyzing nightmare, it will crawl into all corners of the being, nestle in every cell of your skin. Stop when despair becomes unbearable, and in this state, think about what to do? Get into a corner? Whine, howl, scream? Or, having gathered all the courage, worthily say goodbye to those who are dear to you and loved by you, and at the same time to everyone with whom your path crossed in this life? To forgive, to forgive, to ask for forgiveness for everything that I once did wrong, for all the suffering that I brought to someone ... Maybe that I once did not understand something, did not forgive, did not regret, turned up my nose , accumulated insults, bent, breaking someone else's, one's own - maybe this is precisely the main reason for what is happening to you now? Perhaps you are now being rewarded for your past deeds? You will see, just this thought will immediately bring relief and remove fear. On this note, without delay, start up from the abyss!

You woke up, woke up, you feel incredible joy. You are young, alive, healthy, the nightmare has dissipated, it turned out to be a bad dream. And thanks to him. The contrast seems to renew you. Every cell in your body trembles with the desire to live. All things are seen in a new light, all roads are open, all horizons are clear! Remember this state (and appreciate your past experience, if only for the fact that it is it that initially serves as a trampoline for your high jumps). In this mood you should always wake up. However, it is not at all necessary to see nightmares in a dream.

Moreover, you should stay in such a mood all the time. At first (especially when cats scratch your soul), learn to artificially awaken the joy of life in yourself until it starts to come to you by itself.

Train your emotions daily, adhering to the above scheme, but try to build your imagery. You need to properly develop your spirit so that it gains flexibility so that the pendulum of your well-being does not get stuck in extreme positions, but always comes to a neutral. In addition, such activities greatly enrich the inner world of a person. Some time will pass, and you will be surprised to notice that others are drawn to you. Why? Because a mystery has appeared in you, a mystery, because you have changed. You have become wider and deeper than the character who stood in for you while you wandered away from yourself.

Don't be embarrassed if something doesn't work out for you at first. Believe in success and tirelessly activate your creative abilities. To increase your efficiency, look for your own details for each training position, uniting them with storylines that are close to you personally. At first it will seem difficult, but then the “ice will break” and you will find them with ease. Creative pursuits develop our imagination, helping to form the image of youth and health as soon as possible and prepare us to merge with it.

This merging is best facilitated by meditation - a state of deep concentration or, in other words, a person's special spiritual disposition to receive positive (light) vibrations (waves) of the macro- and microcosm that permeate the world space.

You should learn to easily, almost automatically, enter this state with the help of appropriate figurative constructions, which will be discussed in more detail in the next chapter.

Chapter 4

The importance of meditation in the practice of self-healing.

Etc the images of figurative series, mentally sorting through which the student enters an emotional state that contributes to the merging of his essence with the image of youth and health.

The ancient Eastern sages believed that a person has two ways of communicating with the Almighty. The first of them is prayer, when a person speaks, and the Creator listens to his words. The second way to communicate with the Creator is meditation, when a person is silent and absorbs everything that the Lord inspires him.

Thus, meditation - we emphasize once again - is a special state of deep concentration of a person in his spiritual disposition to perceive the positive (light) vibrations of the universe. A student, starting self-healing training according to this method, must learn to freely enter this state, because it:

a) has a calming effect on the human psyche;

b) greatly enhances the effectiveness of all exercises of the methodology;

c) contributes to the organic fusion of the inner essence of the healer with his individual image of youth and health.

Meditation puts things in order in our inner world, correcting spiritual deformations, forcing our bodily and spiritual energy to work in harmony, either directing it to eliminate certain defects, or directing it towards the general improvement of the body and spirit of the student.

Meditations of directed influence, addressed to the improvement of a dysfunctional organ of the body, ensure the high efficiency of all types of non-contact auto-massage, which will be discussed in chapters 3 and 4 of the book. Meditation of the cleansing act of forgiveness plays a special role in the process of self-healing. This action will be discussed in more detail in Chapter 5.

Meditations of a general plan create a special mood in the soul of the person being healed, without which the reunification of his essence with the image of youth and health is almost impossible. This mood is achieved by mentally traveling along a series of visual, auditory, tactile, olfactory and dynamic images, arranged in a certain order.

The return on such journeys is greatly increased when these figurative rows are selected by the students themselves, but at first you can use the options below. Experience shows that for many students the last of them is the most pleasant and close.

The first meditation

We relax the whole body, close our eyes, breathe calmly ... we feel a slight coolness, we relax the muscles of the face ... We imagine that each of our cells becomes light, airy, as if weightless.

With each inhalation and exhalation, our hands slightly go forward ... inhale-exhale ... the body becomes weightless, light ... we mentally look at our hands from the side ... we take our head back a little ... lightness, lightness ... the body becomes light. Perfectly…

Our hands move apart, then reach for each other... We mentally move a little to the side... How the feeling of our own body dulls, how it becomes easy, calm... What are we thinking about? We scatter one after another, remove those thoughts that interfere with us, to the side ... to another ... third ... fourth ... Fine. We remove faster, give lightness, airiness, weightlessness ... Lightness, freedom, divine calmness ... We give ourselves the suggestions that we need. We imagine our face - fresh, young ... our body - elastic, light ... our muscles - elastic, light, free ... We walk, leaning on our fingertips - this is how they walk in ballet ... We smile, we are calm ... Each of our organs, each cell works freely, easily... We say to ourselves: I will be healthy - and soon. I will!.. Deep sleep, good appetite. The mood is calm... Clarity in the mind... Clarity in the head... Clarity in actions... Full control... Let's give up... Great.

The second meditation

It’s vague on a gray background ... a square, a circle, a triangle ... a brighter square, a circle ... a triangle ... a light square, sharper edges, a circle ...

The circle turns into a ball with cloudy edges ... brighter, more clearly - edges ... Give the ball a color ... gray ... lighter, lighter, more ... more ... gray turns into blue, grayish blue ... Blue brightens, turns into blue, light blue , white - with a touch of sea color, yellowish, yellow, tangerine, tangerine ... - reddish yellow, orange, scarlet, red, purple, pinkish, pink, hot pink, lilac, greenish lilac, light green, yellow-green, bright green, dark green, purple green, purple, light purple…

Now, as if some kind of flower is floating before your eyes ... try to see, feel each petal ... the bug crawls ... the ladybug busily searches every fold with its antennae ... There are lint on the petals, pollen inside, a smell ... below you can guess the table ... old, old ... with blackened legs ... Tablecloth old, but clean, clean ... there is a pot on the table, cast iron, old, but polished to a shine ... We put a flower in a pot ... A small window ... a curtain ... we look out the window ...

We mentally look at ourselves ... bare feet are scratched, heels are hard from walking barefoot ... we look at our hands, they are surprisingly small ... we open the window ... sunny ... The warm smell of flowers, grass ... blue, clear sky ... clouds in some places ... We walk along the path, there is silence around ... quiet, calm, nothing interferes ... only the leaves tremble, as if someone touches them and they rustle ... the trampled earth warms the heels ... There is silence in the soul ... relaxation ... high, high lark, sets in love, sings ... Singing lark ... far away behind the hills there is a forest, a calm, resting forest... a cool, resting forest... We look at the clouds, at the water... crystal clear sand... We begin to slowly soar up to the clouds... any desire is subject to us... we rise up, into the clouds... look around, down... heat... cool the air in the forest... We hear the mooing of cows wandering home from the field... we return to the house and we... Our feet are dirty, dusty... Grandmother, grandfather, parents are at home... they don't notice, peacefully talk about something of their own...

We fall asleep, we fall asleep, there is no strength ... Rough hands, calloused, take, stroke hair, put in a clean, cool bed ... voices ... the child grows ... heavy ... did not reach the bed ... and we dissolve ... we no longer feel anything ... sleep.

Waking up, we lie with our eyes closed... There is a pot of baked milk on the table... We raise our hands... we lower them...

Childhood is a starting point, we look from childhood, look back at our life ... Is it worth it to be nervous, offended, angry, tense, strive to surpass someone there? ..

Life passes ... with love ... passes ... with hatred ... passes ... Everything is in our hands ...

Everything is in life - both joy and sorrow ... We are looking for heaven - it comes ... we are looking for hell - it comes ... What is better - life in heaven or hell? The choice is ours… We create difficulties for ourselves… Any riches of the world will not preserve happiness… Just now we were children, and now there is silver in our hair… We don’t know what happiness is… yesterday we laughed, now we suffer… what is in the future - love or tears? .. the choice is ours… everything is in our hands…

The third type of meditation

Twilight... warm... the seashore... the sounds of music are barely audible... as if tango... yes, beautiful tango... the melody seems pleasant, familiar... very pleasant, very familiar - it evokes memories... A small orchestra is playing - on a tiny stage, on the very seashore … it’s late, everyone’s already gone… the musicians play only for you… You are in a light light dress, next to the one you always dreamed of… you dance, you are almost weightless, you obey the rhythm, the music… you are happy, your soul trembles with divine bliss … The melody takes you higher and higher… spins… spins in the dance of happiness… You literally dissolve in it… You are happy.

Good books, poems, music are also able to tune a person to the desired wave, close to his inner essence. Read more, think, meditate, try to broaden your horizons in every possible way.

Chapter 5

The value of training emotions in the process of creating an image of youth and health.

The desire to be healed - as it should be.

The tuning fork effect.

The cleansing value of the act of forgiveness.

Let's talk again about our emotions, feelings, desires, because every moment of our life is colored by them.

We already know something about them, for example, that they have a direct impact on our health, and also that between them and our posture (appearance) there is not only a direct, but also a feedback. Now we need to learn the following thing: it depends on how we work with emotions - whether we live on this earth happily ever after or sadly, pulling our strap with a creak, waiting for the end.

The goal of a person who decides to train according to our system is to become HEALTHY and YOUNG. “I want to be young and healthy!” - such a person says loudly to himself and thereby expresses a thought, that is, outlines the idea of ​​\u200b\u200bthe task. “Well,” the body answers, “I also really want this. But your thought alone, master, is not enough for me to do a good job. Give me some clearer guideline, tell me more precisely what I should strive for. “Be your way,” the person says and connects figurative thinking to the matter, that is, he begins to form his personal ideal image of health and youth so that the dry thought acquires “flesh”.

An illustration of what the image we create should be is the example of a girl who was healed of diabetes mellitus, which we spoke about at the end of Section I of the book.

From the point of view of our methodology, there is nothing strange in this case. The girl was just lucky to intuitively find her image of health, and she managed to completely merge with it. In other words, her personal image of health became her essence, and nature completed the rest. This happened, firstly, because the girl VERY WANTED to become healthy (“like everyone else”). And secondly, her age most likely played into her hands (that well-known “difficult” transitional period in the development of the human personality, when a person is no longer a child, but has not yet had time to grow up). At this age, adolescents are characterized by very contrasting swings of emotions and very strong movements of feelings. Plus, a biologically planned restructuring was going on in the girl’s body, so the image of health “came in time” at the right time.

“It still looks like a fairy tale,” you say, waving your hand. - Well, okay girl, a young developing organism. But my body is fading, old. Where can I get strong movements of feelings? Of course, I want to get well, but I feel only one thing - that my sores, not today or tomorrow, can slap me!”

It's good that the girl's story seems like a fairy tale. This only proves once again that there is much more reality in fairy tales than we allocate to their lot.

As for the “strong movement of feelings”, which you do not have, then by training emotions, we are just solving this problem. We are just developing, warming up our spirit, bringing it “to the right condition”, so that our desire to heal and rejuvenate reaches the right heat point and helps our image of health organically merge with the spirit and flesh of our being. “Of course I want to recover” is a sluggish, amorphous phrase. Wanting is not easy. Want to be able to. After all, the success of our work mainly depends on HOW we want.

To clarify this issue, let me offer you a little test.

Imagine that you have a board in front of you. Stable, strong, able to support your weight. It is slightly raised above the floor. You are invited to go through it. Can you do it? Certainly. Do you want to? Unknown. Maybe yes, maybe not. Well, okay, the company seems to be good, everyone is going, and the girls (or boys) are watching. I'll go, so be it. And you go. But in your brain you still have a doubt swarming - do I need all this?

You walked the plank because you wanted to. But the desire was implicit, weak, provoked by a small target calculation (it would be good for girls to like it, and companies at the same time). You had a choice: to go or not to go. And if you hadn't gone, you wouldn't have lost much. Nothing would have happened either if you stumbled.

Now another option. In front of you is the same board, but it has already been raised high (three or four meters above a pile of stones or asphalt). Now you can walk on it? Probably yes, but first you think hard about whether it is worth the risk? There is already a clear calculation in your thoughts, reasoning, and the fear of hurting yourself in case of failure is placed on one side of the scale. If the plank is thrown to the beloved's balcony, you will undoubtedly walk on this board. The risk remains, but the reward awaits the winner. What drives you? The desire (great desire) to receive a prize. But, mind you, even now you may well refuse a dangerous walk. By doing so, you, as they say, will remain with your own. Health is more expensive, and the beloved will be killed or eventually come down to you somehow. The desire is great, but sanity (or laziness) wins.

Third option. The board is thrown over the abyss. In the arms - a child, behind - a mortal threat, a fire. How long will you think about this? Yes, you, without hesitation, run (or, stepping carefully, pass) along this board. You will automatically mobilize all your strength to save the baby. You have something to lose, there is something to be saved for. The desire to overcome the obstacle, in comparison with the other two options, will triple, multiply tenfold. As a matter of fact, in you, except for this desire, there will be nothing left (no “I can - I can’t”, “I want - I don’t want”, no ulterior or third-party thoughts).

Capture this moment. He clearly shows HOW you should want healing, HOW you should strive for the desired goal.

That's why we train emotions. That is why we artificially immerse ourselves in the black abyss of despair, then soar like a candle to clear heights, permeated with the joy of being. We make our desire to get healthier and younger INTENSE and QUALITATIVE. We know that there is a deadly threat behind us, a fire, but it is not enough to know, we need to merge with this knowledge for a while, we need to clearly imagine all this horror. Only in this state, our body mobilizes all its resources in order to “run the board”, only in this case the process of restructuring will really become an avalanche.

But here, as in any other business, there is a danger of both "not bending" and "going too far." Your desire to be healed should not be insufficient or fanatical. A weak desire provokes uncertainty, too strong - haste. Slowly moving (the topic of the board), you can lose your balance, hurrying - fly away to the side. Intuition, which is developed in us by the same training of emotions, will help to find the optimum. Here is an image for you, as a rough guide: your desire is a hand, your health is a bird. The fingers of the hand should be squeezed so as not to strangle the fragile creature and at the same time not allow it to fly away.

When your artificially created ideal image of health and youth comes into a state of correspondence with the general mood of your body, the “tuning fork effect” will appear. Both structures will sound in unison and, having combined in all positions, will become a single whole. What is needed for such a merger to occur?

Please note that the methodology does not in vain emphasize that the image of health and youth that we create must be ideal, that is, clean, light, bright, free from impurities. The state of your soul should be just as pure, free, bright. Otherwise, the structures will not match, the ball will not settle into a cluttered hole.

What pollutes the soul? Emotional "slags". Envy, anger, despair, irritation, oppression of old grievances - continue the list yourself. The training of emotions produces a revision of our emotional state, it pulls apart, rakes the emotional blockages that accumulate in the back streets of our subconscious and depress our spirit. However, only one meditative action can free us from this rubbish, namely the meditation of the act of forgiveness.

To forgive means once and for all to put an end to something wrong, unfair, bad, and thereby lighten your soul. Just as the human body needs to get rid of harmful toxins, the human soul also needs to be cleansed. Forgiveness is the act of this cleansing, which has a beneficial effect on the health of our soul and, consequently, on the physical health of our body. The correctness of this statement was brilliantly confirmed by Louise Hay from her own experience. “Every disease comes from unforgiveness,” she once said to herself and, adhering to this postulate, managed to heal herself from an ailment before which official medicine signed in impotence.

Wise people have known about the great significance of this action since ancient times. In Christianity, for example, there is a holiday - Forgiveness Sunday. On this day, each person can come to another and ask him for forgiveness or, in turn, forgive someone. This is a quiet, joyful, soul-enlightening holiday.

But what if our offenders (or those whom we offended) are no longer on earth, or they are so far away that they can no longer be reached? There is only one way out - to mentally imagine these people, talk to them and sincerely, from the bottom of your heart, forgive them everything (or ask them to grant you forgiveness).

If relief does not come, you should repeat the meditation and repeat it until the disturbing echoes in the soul completely subside. The same should be done with unpleasant situations, the memories of which have been tormenting you for a long time (maybe even decades).

This refers, in particular, to those moments when you could say something, but did not say (or, conversely, said too much), when you could do something, but did not (or, conversely, went too far), when you could have done well, but acted differently. Mentally play out the detrimental situation in every detail, bring it to a critical moment, and then direct it in a positive direction, that is, mentally do what seems right to you. Repeat the meditation until the pain subsides. After all, since childhood, an observer has been sitting in us, who understands well when we do something “wrong”. The name of this observer is our conscience.

Meditation of the act of forgiveness

An example of a cleansing meditative action that removes negative layers from the soul.

Close your eyes, enter the image of a sad, unfortunate person. You are in an empty cinema. The hall is in darkness. The screen is still blank, but you know that a movie about you will be shown on it. How it was built, what it will tell about - nothing is known. In the soul, curiosity, mixed with anxiety, it grows, pain cuts through behind it. Everything dear that you had is gone forever, but it’s as if it didn’t exist: the past consists of nothing but troubles, disappointments, humiliations, insults ... Memory sorts out these insults, goes deeper, to youth, to childhood ... the first sorrows ... emptiness in a candy wrapper instead of a candy, the neighbor boy took away a toy... and something else, and another, and another...

The screen lit up, some silhouettes, shadows, faces are moving there ... you peer, but without tension, the sharpness gradually increases, you begin to recognize someone in a series of faces. Look, these are the people you have met in your life. Many of them hurt you, and you hurt someone ... After all, you didn’t call anyone here on purpose, but they came, they are here, which means they need it, and you need it. So you have to talk to everyone who comes.

Mentally enter the screen, become a participant in the action, say to each of your offenders something like this: “Yes, you once made me feel very bad. It hurt me a lot, but now it’s in the past, it doesn’t exist, it didn’t exist - I forgive you! hearts: “You are left in the past, I am here of my own free will to say goodbye, my life is real, I forgive you! ..” Do not stay with anyone for a long time, move from person to person, but talk to everyone, even to those who are not familiar to you, and listen to everyone, and forgive, and ask for forgiveness from those whom you yourself could hurt. Be affectionate with everyone, especially with loved ones, loved ones cause us the greatest suffering, but sometimes they themselves do not know what they are doing ... forgive them everything. If tears appear, do not hold them back ... Cry, cry, tears bring relief, everything that tormented and crushed you leaves with them, everything that will never return now.

Mentally tell yourself - enough. I visited the past, but only because I myself wanted it ... Now I'm not the same as I was before, my life is the present. All the bad things that happened have nothing to do with me, there is no place for him in me. Yes, there were many mistakes, resentments, disappointments and disappointments in my life, but I LIVE, which means that I had the strength to survive everything, which means that I have the strength to move on, and I will never return to my former self, I will never I will become the same, I do everything in my power not to become the same, I want to become renewed, different ... I am already different. I think, I feel, I breathe, and this alone is already happiness, but before that I did not understand, did not know, did not appreciate.

Everything that I need for happiness is with me and in me, I have a goal in life and nothing prevents me from moving towards it. I am young, I am confident in my abilities, I will do everything to make my life full, happy - I know that I can do it. (Clearly formulate a specific goal, the movement towards which fills your life with joy, meaning. Children, family, work ... Everyone can have something of their own here.)

If you manage to conduct this training in the right way, if you can sincerely and wholeheartedly forgive all your offenders all your old and recent grievances, you will feel an incredible relief, similar, perhaps even with bliss. Your soul will be freed from heavy oppression, and the "naughty" image of youth will slide into the vacant place, it will merge with you and become part of your being.

Rise - fall, tide - ebb, day - night, heat - cold, light - darkness ... The world order in which we exist is characterized by rhythmic qualitative shifts of things and energies to the polar points of their states. Our moods also fall under this general law. We sometimes mope for no reason, sometimes we become cheerful, sometimes we feel that we are ready to move mountains, sometimes we notice that the work is not going well and scold our “leaky hands”. Our state is subject to changes that at first glance do not depend on us.

Meanwhile, the quality of the healing process directly depends on the mood of a person. According to the observations of American scientists, 30% of people suffering from severe oncological diseases overcome this scourge. Psychological studies of those who were healed showed that they were all optimists by nature and during their illness not only did not mourn their bitter fate, but did not even think about a sad end. They did not fight for life, they lived (daily, hourly, every minute), rejoicing in their small successes and not losing heart in the hours of defeat. They believed that the clouds covering their horizons would certainly leave. It is no coincidence that despondency in Christian ideology is considered one of the gravest sins.

That is why it is so important for each of us to be able to cope with the tides of melancholy (oppressed state of mind). How to do this using the skills learned from emotional training is covered in the next chapter.

Chapter 6

Optimism. (How to become an optimist with a pronounced tendency to pessimism).

Optimism, as we have said more than once, directly contributes to the speedy recovery of our body and spirit. About how you can become an optimist, even with a pronounced tendency to pessimism, you will be told in the following chapter. Once having decided to build a temple of health and youth, drain the swamp in which your good intentions are drowning!

It is best to start reclamation of this kind when you more or less clearly begin to understand your emotions and learn how to more or less control them.

The oppressed state of the spirit brings destruction, in it is the truth of death.

An optimistic mood contributes to creation, in it is the truth of life.

Throwing both on the scales, it is not difficult to establish whether you are wandering along the sunny or shady side of the street, and thus you can get a chance to get over to the sunny side in time if it turns out that you are a pessimist.

Let's create a work schedule first. To do this, within a month we will have to assess our well-being and performance every day. We evaluate on a 10-point system. 10 divisions up the vertical axis from the zero mark - an assessment of positive well-being (light), 10 divisions down - an assessment of negative well-being (black, shadow). The horizontal axis of the graph is the time scale.

Day after day, we evaluate our condition and put points on the graph corresponding to the assessments. Connecting them in a month with a smooth line, we get a wavy curve (the line of our mood). We find the middle line between the extreme (upper and lower) points of the graph.

It is she who will show us how we "stand" in this life. That is what we should try to raise to the proper height, that is, direct it towards creation and health.

In the course of further observations, the schedule will be more and more refined. Similarly, you can make a daily schedule. Keep in mind that mood swings are highly individual. These cycles are different for different people - they range from 20 to 34 days, and sometimes longer. Only you can define your cycle.

A person, depending on the “color” of the day, reacts very differently to the same things. See the next page for examples of such polar reactions.

High mood (bright day) / Low mood (rainy day)

Morning: Cheerful rise, the rustle of invisible wings in the air. / We barely open our eyes, there is some kind of disgust in the air.

Attitude to the universe: I love everything, I embrace everything. / Eyes would not look at anything.

Mirror: And I'm still very, very! / Well, erysipelas!

Wardrobe: Carefully choose a shirt. / We get into anything.

The way to work: We look around with curiosity. / We see nothing. Get there sooner.

Stranger (stranger): Desire to impress. / All sorts of people go here! There is no way out of them.

Conversation: Smile, complimentary. / Closeness, unwillingness to speak.

Rain: God, what freshness! / That stupid drizzle again!

The eyes of the oncoming (oncoming): Shine like stars! / Two hooks. Gape, gobble up with giblets!

Coming to work: Hello! Good morning! Glad to see you! Hello old man! / Silently we make our way to our place. In response to greetings, we grumble something indistinctly.

Plans for the day: A couple of witty ideas. / Gloomy contemplation of one's own hands.

Thoughts: Soar like birds! / In the head porridge, confusion.

Performance: Ready to move mountains! / Everything falls out of hand.

Discussing a work problem: Striving for a win-win solution. / Irritation, readiness to explode and remind someone of all the sins.

Creativity: Search for a non-standard option. / Don't care at all.

Dinner: Swallowed with gusto. / Not soup, but slop! I wish the cook would pour this vodka by the collar!

House: Laughter, kisses, cheerful chatter. / Sighs, coughs, petty nagging.

Before going to bed: Tea, pleasant smooth feeling. / A glass, spleen, a feeling of vague anxiety.

Tomorrow: In rainbow colors. / Something dim, incomprehensible.

So, let's start correcting our mood. Strictly speaking, there is nothing daunting in this work. It’s just that on “black” days you need to carefully monitor yourself and not get out of the image of a calm, strong, self-confident person. Your whole appearance should indicate that everything is going well with you. Force yourself, but without much pressure.

The mood curves for both optimists and pessimists have a constant distance between their high and low points. Your task is to reduce the distance between the bottom point and the background line of the chart from cycle to cycle and, accordingly, increase it between the top point and the background line. Show your will, do not let your mood line slide down. The rise should not be carried out from the lowest point of the chart, but much earlier - from a point artificially created by you. Thus, from cycle to cycle, the low point of your chart should go higher and higher.

And a few more words. It's especially important to stay optimistic when you don't feel like it most, as well as on days of intense training. Remember, blues, laziness is not yours. Your guidelines are health, youth, optimism.

So, dear readers, we hope that you have sufficiently familiarized yourself with the principles of self-healing practice sam chon do (a school that teaches a person to resist any negative manifestations of external forces). You also got an idea about the importance of the image of youth and health in the process of self-healing of the body and spirit, understood what it consists of and how it is formed. Plus, you should have well understood the essence of the exercises aimed at educating the spirit. Emotion training, meditative constructions, meditation on the act of forgiveness, mood correction - all these are means that serve a single purpose: to awaken the dormant forces of your soul and mobilize them for the practical solution of the paramount and urgent task - to return to a full life your premature fading (and perhaps even already and decrepit) organism. A person can live without aging up to 120 years and more, there are many examples of this in the history of mankind. (Here it is appropriate to recall our contemporary, the famous American scientist Paul Bragg, familiar to the knowledgeable reader from the book "The Miracle of Fasting", who at the age of 95 remained a lively, energetic and active person until a tragic accident cut his life short.)

Now you and I must get down to work, each stage of which will be accompanied by a specific return, namely, real changes in your physical condition, followed by healing and rejuvenation of the whole organism, for which you are given a tool that has stood the test of time, which is the Norbekov self-healing system, the use of which leads to to stunning results, if a person actively, diligently and relentlessly follows all her instructions and believes in success.

Lesson 7
Good day to you, which we, as usual, start with a set of warm-up exercises.
We are not lazy, we do not miss a single position, we "breathe" through the spine.
Allow me to make a clarification here.
We do all the exercises, artificially creating a good mood!

Have you ever wondered why a person is so attracted to all sorts of shows?
Why did the people of Rome demand from their rulers not only their daily bread, but also circuses?
Why do football, hockey, baseball games gather tens of thousands of fans?
Why in the Middle Ages, seeing the wagons of a traveling circus, the peasants quit their jobs?
Why at all times acting, music, dancing, theatrical performances were so attractive to people?
It is the opportunity to experience strong emotions, to accumulate sensations of rapidly changing impressions for some time, that restores in a person the emotional flexibility lost in the everyday monotony of life.
Have you noticed how your spiritual experiences either life-giving or depressing effect on you?
Sudden grief in an instant deprives you of strength and can break even very strong people, and unexpected joy inspires you, and at this moment you feel that you are ready to move mountains.
Children react especially vividly to sadness and joy.

Emotions are energy.
Positive experiences fill with life-giving energy, cause a surge of strength. Negative - absorb or neutralize it.
That is why it is so important for us to develop emotional flexibility, and this is achieved through training.
The constant deviation of the pendulum slightly towards the plus side is called a mood correction.
The fact is that it is very harmful for a person to fall into and be in peak emotional states for a long time.
Strong rage, and delight, and deep sadness, and unbridled joy are equally dangerous.
The ancient East teaches us that we must be very careful with our emotions. You can’t raise them too much, just as you can’t lower them too much.
Therefore, during the exercise on the pendulum of emotions, the most important moment is the transition from a state of grief, depression, apathy to a state of joy, serenity, and love of life.
It is the ability to move from expressive emotion to calmness that trains the necessary flexibility, and also helps to find optimal solutions in any situation.

Consider the energy aspect of the process of emotional buildup.
Any of our emotions, in fact, is a signal-order to the body to put into action this or that mechanic of counteracting or facilitating the situation, it does not matter - real or just imaginary.
Each workout is a search, knowledge, an additional step towards the ideal.
When you train your emotions, you artificially plunge yourself into the abyss of sadness or rise on a wave of rapture.
By training emotions, you constantly open up more and more new perspectives for improvement.
So a small bud turns into a leaf many times larger than it, and a tight bud, blooming, becomes a lush flower.
Magical outbursts of emotions, strong movements of feelings knock down, figuratively speaking, scum from a person's soul.
It is not for nothing that it is noticed that suffering purifies the soul, that people who have experienced a lot are especially benevolent and wise.
Spiritual involvement is the return of energy. That is why it is important to be aware of where this energy goes, what it feeds, because training without a sense of purpose is a road to nowhere.
Let's remember how you trained emotions according to the book "Training of the body and spirit."
You artificially deflected the pendulum of your emotional state to extreme points, and then brought it to a neutral position, that is, to a state of calm.
In this we were helped by imaginative thinking and the ability to get used to the role.
If emotions affect the appearance, then the appearance should influence them!

So, emotions play a huge role in the energy balancing of the body. In fact, it is they who affect our energy tone.
Negative emotions take energy from us, positive ones replenish the treasury of our resources. A good, even, calm mood indicates that everything is fine in our energy sector.

By training emotions, we first of all learn to manage them so that after an emotional outburst we always come to an even frame of mind.
By adjusting the mood, we ensure that the mood is upbeat.
In high spirits, a person works better, acts, makes decisions, and generally navigates life.
In the future, the training of emotions should be carried out daily and not only as a special exercise, but also in everyday life.
Then working on yourself will become a habit!
Good day to you, success in your work and ... congratulate yourself. You have successfully completed the main part of this training program.
Now you can maintain strength, replenish energy with the help of exercises from the "Canon for future rulers" in the book "Training of body and spirit", and select exercises from the Atlas of Mental Medicine (tentative title), which is forthcoming.
These exercises contribute to physical, spiritual and, if I may say so, energy recovery.
Work until slight fatigue appears, listening carefully to yourself.
Tinnitus or heaviness in the head are alarms that tell you to immediately reduce the load, stop exercising and rest for two to three days.

Remember that overvoltage is harmful in any business!

Icons allow you to pin representation of children about human emotions. Children should consider pictograms and drawings depicting various facial expressions, compare them. It is worth paying attention to the expression of the eyes, the location of the corners of the lips, the chin, and the like. An adult must explain that, despite the dissimilarity of people among themselves in age, appearance, expression of their faces, they are sometimes similar. This happens under certain circumstances: at the moment when people are happy, sad, scared, angry. When demonstrating pictograms, children should pay attention to the fact that the face is drawn on paper using geometric shapes (square, circle), dots, lines. Such a drawing is a conditional image. A more accurate image of a person's face is conveyed by photographs. In addition, you can see yourself in the mirror, in the ponds. Before there were still cameras, people drew pictures, which also depicted their own face or the face of their relatives.

Gradually, preschoolers will learn to use pictograms to determine their own mood, the mood of their parents, relatives, adults who are not indifferent to them..

Exercise "Choose the right"

The child (children) examines cards with images of emotions. An adult conducts a conversation with her (him) and offers to complete the task.

Task: listen carefully to the adult’s message and use it to determine which card is most appropriate for the situation:

What happens to a bear that gets bitten by bees?

How do you feel when others affectionately address you, smile, say nice words?

How does a boy feel when he breaks his favorite toy?

How does a girl feel when she sees a sick cat on the street?

How does a grandmother feel when her grandchildren give her a bouquet of flowers?

How do you feel when children call you "bad" words?

What does a bunny feel when a fox is chasing it?

What does a boy feel if his socks are soiled by other children?

How does the boy who got lost feel?

How does the boy who was treated to something tasty feel?

How will a person who was attacked by an angry dog ​​feel?

What does it feel like for a boy who can't fasten a button?

How do you feel when other kids don't take you to play?

How does a girl feel when she sees that other children have destroyed the sand house she made?

What do you feel when you managed to draw a beautiful drawing?

Conversations of a psychologist with children on the topic of emotions

Explanations and conversations should be carried out systematically by adults. When informing a child, information should be repeated, consolidated and consistently disseminated. For children of younger preschool age, the duration of the conversation is indefinite. In kindergarten, conversations should be conducted individually or in small groups. Targeted preventive conversations with those children who constantly violate the rules of interaction with peers who are aggressive and prone to manifestations of violence will also come in handy.

In educational work, it is desirable to systematically use conversations about the basic emotions of a person, their characteristics, and the events that caused them. Talking with a child about the feelings of an adult will allow him to realize that there are things in the world that do not leave indifferent - through them a person is happy, sad, surprised. It should be emphasized that joy, surprise, sadness and anger are natural sensations of a person at any age, and it should be emphasized that it is not the emotions themselves that are condemned, but the actions that accompany them.

During the conversation, the child is not only enriched with knowledge. Conversations become an integral part of relationships and relationships with an adult: the child realizes that he is understood, he is not indifferent to another person, his feelings are significant.

We emphasize the importance of explaining to a younger preschooler the features of a person's emotional response. The child must realize that an adult, just like him, is upset, angry, offended, happy.

He may be in a good or bad mood. It is necessary to pay attention to the fact that the mood is transmitted to other people: sadness or anger from one person passes to another. Therefore, it is better to share pleasant impressions, joy, smiles than to “infect” each other with sadness and rage. It is equally important to explain why different people react differently to the same events. For example, if a toy is lost, it will cause despair and sadness in one child, anger and rage in another.

It is worth paying the attention of preschoolers to how people react to various events. Choose moments when peers most clearly show emotions, and give the opportunity to observe their emotional expression.

When should the interview be held?

It is definitely impossible to answer this question. The guideline should be the situation and the needs of the child himself: his desire to expand his own ideas, get clarifications, advice, help.

The only thing that should not be done is to have conversations with one child every day at a strictly defined time. In addition, it is important to prevent the conversation from becoming instructive notation.

Indicative topics of conversation:

- "Affectionate name",

- “Different people - different faces”,

- human movements

- "Pleasant - unpleasant" and others.

Exercise "Affectionate name"

Children are around the adult, forming a circle, and in turn say their name. Repeating it together with others, the adult pays attention to what the child who named himself has: appearance (color of hair, eyes, lips, etc.), clothes, mood. Other children greet the child, sincerely smile, gently touch him, looking into his eyes. An adult asks the pupils how to address the child in a different way without changing his (her) name (Elena - Alena - Lenochka). After listening to peers, the child tells how close adults address him, how his family members call him (Sun, Bunny, Asterisk).

An adult asks who in the family is called the same, if there is such a child in the circle, then both children go to the center of the circle: other preschoolers must find similarities between them.

Exercise "Different people, different faces"

An adult offers to carry out an extremely important “research”: close your eyes, touch your own nose, forehead, cheeks, hair with your fingertips, turn your head to the side, open and look at your neighbor, first with the right, then with the left eye. An adult focuses on the fact that different people have different faces. Looking closely at those who surround you, you can see that some have big eyes, others have small ones, some have plump lips, others have narrow ones. There is similarity and dissimilarity in the size and color of the eyes, cheeks, lips, their location. These features distinguish one person from another and make it possible to remember him.

Also, people have different facial expressions. Facial expression, like a New Year's mask, a person can change at will. Everyone decides for himself what expression he likes, he will have a joyful face or dissatisfied. The child should be explained that the feeling affects the appearance of a person: a joyful person is calm, his eyes “shine”, his voice is quiet, his movements are balanced, his shoulders are straightened, his lips are “stretched” into a wide smile. Feeling joy, a person claps his hands, sings, dances. A sad person is restless, lethargic, has eyes half-closed, wet from tears, a quiet voice, pursed lips. Sad, he tries to avoid communication with others, remains alone.

A special facial expression occurs in a person when there is discontent, resentment. The fact that a person feels anger is evidenced by his frowning eyebrows, narrowed eyes, clenched teeth, lowered corners of the lips. Anger causes tension not only in the muscles of the face, but also in the body: the arms are bent at the elbows, the fingers are clenched into a fist.

Inviting the children to carefully look at each other's faces, the adult pays attention to the facial expression of the neighbor (s) on the left, on the right, on the contrary. On the count of three, each child shows a different facial expression.

Exercise "Pleasant - unpleasant"

During the conversation, it should be clarified what each person is capable of experiencing. His feelings are both pleasant and unpleasant. It is interesting to know what is pleasant for you, your loved one, your parents. Pleasant and unpleasant can be people, animals, objects, events.

If you gently touch another, it causes pleasant sensations (an adult gently touches, strokes each child), if you behave rudely, for example, tightly squeeze a person’s hand, this is unpleasant and can even cause pain. Under such conditions, the facial expression of a person shows what he feels and whether he likes it. It is imperative to explain to younger preschoolers that, in addition to touching, a person reacts to the words of others, the tone of conversation and their behavior. Unpleasant words, offensive comparisons also cause discontent, indignation. And yet - each person is quite sensitive to the strength of the voice of another person, the chirping and singing of birds, the cries of animals, the sound of musical instruments.

Exercise "Human Movement"

An adult draws attention to the need for a person to change the position of the body. Emphasizes that every child loves to play, jump, run, dance. Since it is very difficult to stand or sit in one position for a long time, you have to constantly change the position of body parts (arms, legs, head, torso, neck). Children are invited to stand on one leg and freeze (feel how comfortable / uncomfortable it is), jump, dance, stomp, spin (circle around a chair, toys), in pairs.

It is appropriate to pose the question: “do other children see nothing, like you, at the time when you close your eyes?”

You should definitely pay attention to the fact that it is possible to move without colliding. Sometimes a person gets into the crowd. Among a large number of strangers, it is extremely important to be observant, attentive. If you do not take into account the direction of movement of people around, you can harm yourself and another person. An adult notes that pushing, touching another, even accidentally, can cause inconvenience, cause pain, which, in turn, causes irritation, indignation, anger. Of course, this can be avoided if you pay more attention to your own movements, develop body flexibility, receptivity.

It should be noted that a person moves not only for his own pleasure. Movements of hands, fingers, tilt of the head, torso help people nearby understand his well-being.

The age of a person also affects his movements. A small child, an adult and an elderly person move differently. Thus, the gestures of an adult who feels well are clear and expressive. Children should think about why older people are not as skillful as little children.

You should also pay attention to the fact that the gestures of boys and girls differ from each other. The latter move with ease, smoothly. Boys' movements are sharper. It is worth comparing the movements of people and animals. A person who feels threatened, scared, unsure - closes his eyes, trying to hide his face. This is exactly what a huge bird does - an ostrich, hiding its head in the sand, or a monkey that climbs high on a tree and closes its eyes with its paws. If a person is joyful and contented, he claps, bounces, spins. And in this case, his behavior, postures, gestures resemble the actions of representatives of the animal world. For example, a swan dances on the water, a dog bounces in place.

When conducting conversations, it is necessary to help the child find answers to the following questions:

When is a person happy?

When is it scary?

When does a person cry?

What makes people smile?

When does a smile appear on your face?

Who do you enjoy talking to?

Who in the family always makes you happy, and who upsets you?

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Can an evil person be beautiful?

What was the most pleasant thing in life?

Which of your friends has a beautiful voice?

How can you please others?

How can you upset a loved one?

Approximate options for a conversation between a psychologist and children

Conversation "MOOD"

1. What does it mean to “feel good”?

2. How do you know what mood you are in?

3. When do you have a good mood?

4. Who spoils your mood?

5. How do you feel now? Why?

6. Can you help improve mood? How exactly?

Conversation "WISHES"

1. What do you want the most?

2. Is this wish feasible? Why?

3. How will you feel if it actually comes true? Why?

4. On whom does the fulfillment of this desire depend?

5. What do you most dislike? Why?

6. What can you do to prevent unwanted things from happening?

Conversation "Love"

1. What does it mean to "love"?

2. How to recognize a person who loves?

3. Who do you love? Why?

4. Who loves you? Why?

5. How do you know that you are loved?

6. Do you love yourself? For what exactly?

7. What do you dislike about yourself?

8. Who do you not love? Why?

9. Who doesn't love you? Why?

10. Is it possible to live without love?

11. What is the difference between the feeling of attachment, sympathy, camaraderie, falling in love, love?

Conversation "TIME OF HUMAN LIFE"

1. How old do you think you will live?

2. What important thing happened to you when you were little?

3. What interesting thing happened to you today?

4. What pleasant - unpleasant events can happen to you:

a) soon?

b) When will you finish school?

c) When will you be an adult?

d) when will you turn into an old man?

Conversation "VALUE OF LIFE"

1. Are you satisfied with your life? Why?

2. What is the most precious thing in life for you?

3. Do you have personal plans? What?

4. What in life depends on you?

5. What have you achieved on your own?

6. What is needed to win?

7. Are you a good person? Why do you think so?

8. Why are you special?

9. How is it similar to others?

10. What did you do according to your conscience?

Organize from time to time individual thematic conversations aimed at helping the child become aware of his experiences and eventually learn to regulate them. This is necessary because it gives an understanding of the inner world of each child (topics: "Mood", "Desire", "Fears", "Joy", "Respect", "Love", "Resentment", "Duty" ...)

To enable the child to free himself from fear, tension, negative experiences by drawing (with paints, pencils, crayons...)

To expand the idea of ​​the world of human feelings - joy, interest, grief, sadness, suffering, contempt, fear, shame, guilt, envy, chagrin, anger, conscience.

Pantomimic studies at work

Performing pantomimic etudes allows you to freely express your own feelings, contributes to the development of expressiveness of movements. You should not focus on the angularity of the child, the lack of expressiveness, the dissimilarity of his movements with the movements of the character she has chosen. An adult must understand that a younger preschooler is only learning to focus on himself, weaken his muscles, and show flexibility. It is important to notice shifts in a positive direction, to highlight and emphasize the positive points “yesterday you were not able to do it, but today you succeeded, you are great”, “it used to be not as similar as it is now”, “today is much better than yesterday” , "you tried, and it became more convincing, I'm sure next time it will be even better." Observation, flexibility, perseverance, diligence of the child should be emphasized.

Using pantomimic etudes, it is advisable to conduct an introductory conversation and use fragments of musical works by children's composers, enhance the expressiveness of movements, and provide an opportunity for liberation. Performing pantomimic studies will help develop the child's emotional susceptibility, imagination, body flexibility.

In working with younger preschoolers, you can use pantomime studies: “Slender birch”, “Music”, “Builders”, “Balloons”, “Butterflies”.

Exercise "My favorites"

Before performing a pantomimic study, you should find out if the child has a pet and provide an opportunity to tell how he looks, in what conditions he lives, what he loves the most. Attention is paid to whether the animal always feels and behaves in the same way in different conditions; how he perceives hosts and strangers, how he reacts to water, how he relates to his favorite food; How does he express his displeasure? Find out if the child has the language of animals and how he communicates with his pet. After listening to the baby, remember those animals that are the main characters of fairy tales and children's stories ("Three Bears", etc.). Find out which of them is a favorite hero, who is not, what exactly children like about some animals, and others they do not like.

Invite the child to portray his pet (when he sleeps, walks around the apartment, plays with the child, asks for food, communicates, bathes, etc.) or portray any fairy-tale character that parents, educator, psychologist, other children, etc. .