Natural human magnetism: how is it manifested and how to develop? Getting rid of negative thoughts. What is magnetism

It differs from other people in an unusual manner of behavior.
This man is polite to everyone, but behind his outward calm lies an extraordinary inner strength, thanks to which he can his will other people.
People with personal magnetism know perfectly well what they want, but they are not inclined to rush, because they are convinced that sooner or later they will get everything they want, everything they want.
The magnetic personality radiates calmness and strength, you will never see this person nervous or excited. It can be said from him that he, if desired, could say and do a lot, but for some reason does not want to fuss.
The look of a person who has developed magnetism is piercing, but not defiant. When talking, he looks the interlocutor not in the eyes, but in the region of the bridge of the nose, attentively and kindly. This person does not like disputes, he is laconic and listens more.

So personal magnetism? Like a battery, a person emits positive and negative charges constantly giving or receiving energy. This ability, in fact, is magnetism, or psychic currents. When you hold back any of your desires, you thereby accumulate psychic energy. And if you satisfy this desire, the energy leaves and, accordingly, the strength of your magnetism decreases. Of course, there are people endowed with a pronounced magnetic force from nature, the rest need to develop and accumulate it in yourself. The basic rule here is: while you feel any desire, try to restrain it (within reason, of course). In other words, you need to learn to look at your desire as a means to achieve success - and success is guaranteed to you. By suppressing your desires, you are thereby filled with energy, strengthen your will, turn into a person whose impulses fascinate and influence others.

Exercise "We extract strength from desire." You need to imagine that you are influenced by some kind of temptation or an impossible desire. Which, in general, would have been unpleasant for you before. Now you meet every desire as a source new strength. So let's start extracting. Stage 1: within 8 sec. slowly, with all the lungs you need to draw in air. At the same time, mentally repeat: "At this moment, I consciously appropriate all the power of this desire." Stage 2: within 8 sec. make a slow exhalation, repeating: "From now on I have the measure and balance with which I can command the magnetic force accumulated by me." This exercise should be repeated several times. Temptation loses its power over you from the moment you realize that you can fight it.

Exercise "Detachment". Suppose there is a certain person whose approval and friendship you seek. However, he is not interested in you, and yours is indifferent or even unpleasant to him. Do you know? Remember, do you get affection from this person for you? - Not. Does he get it from you? - Yes. However, he does not even try to get it. In other words, wittingly or unwittingly, this person draws power from you. How to change the situation? It must be avoided for several days. Your task is to keep yourself the strength you used to waste. When meeting with him, maintain dignity and some detached indifference, be absolutely calm. After 4-5 days you will see the results of such exercises. The energy accumulated in this way will begin to work. And then - sooner or later - you will switch places with this person.

Exercise "I said!" To develop authority, you can train in a secluded place: for example, in nature, or in your own room. Breathe slowly and deeply for five minutes. Now you need to suddenly get up and start your monologue, referring to an imaginary person (to your reflection in the mirror, to a photograph of a person, to some image). Practice this skill on this phantom. It is not so important what you will say, the main thing is how, while thinking over each phrase in advance. You need to speak in a confident, sonorous voice. Do not forget to make accents and the necessary semantic pauses. Feel free to go if you need to big steps around the room and gesticulate. This exercise will give an effective result, even if you only do this exercise for 30 minutes. An example (albeit negative, but still) is Hitler, who was constantly engaged in such exercises. A trained person can have an extraordinary magnetic effect on the masses of people.

The popular book by William Atkinson "The Power of Thought, or Magnetism of Personality" invites everyone to get acquainted with 15 lessons that allow you to influence other people. It is not surprising that this book quickly gained success: almost every person dreams of having the gift of persuasion and being able to get his own from other people. However, the great power of thought can be used not only according to Atkinson's instructions.

Natural human magnetism

Some people naturally have magnetism - a special ability to effortlessly attract the attention of others, to seem to them an authoritative, mysterious, alluring person, to be a secret that you want to touch. The magnetic personality, as a rule, does not know where this power over the minds of people comes from, but quickly learns to use it to advantage.

It is not difficult to recognize such a person: he attracts, inspires confidence, he feels a huge inner strength. You will never see such a person doubting his words - his confidence comes through in his eyes, conversations, gestures. As a rule, people are drawn to magnetic personalities, they are respected, their opinions are listened to.

How to use the power of thought?

Even if you are not among those lucky ones who are endowed with magnetism from birth, you may well achieve what you want no less successfully. The power of thought will help in love, career, personal growth and absolutely any field of activity. It is important to learn how to use it correctly.

For example, you want to gain popularity, you want people to reach out to you, ask for your advice. In this case, you need to work on your beliefs and behavior, and the power of thought will help you achieve what you want.

Consider if you have any negative beliefs. For example: “People never like me”, “no one loves me”, “I don’t look 100”. Any belief that is stuck in your head, the brain perceives as a command. As a result, you pay attention only to those events that confirm the given thought. To reshape your personality, you need to change your beliefs to positive ones.

For example, instead of “no one likes me,” you need to train yourself to think “people like me, they are drawn to me.” Speak this thought several times a day, and it will be perceived by the brain as a command. As a result, your perspective will shift, and on the contrary, you will concentrate on situations where people are drawn to you, reinforcing this belief and getting confirmation of it.

Similarly, you can work with beliefs in any area. Don't expect quick results: it will take 15-20 days to replace negative thoughts with positive ones before the new belief takes root in your head and takes effect.

Van Tail Daniels

Personal magnetism (course of lectures)

INTRODUCTION

“Personal magnetism is that quality or property of a person that attracts to him the interest, trust, friendship and love of other people.”

At the same time, it was mainly meant that the reader could use the results of studying the proposed lectures immediately, immediately, while the acquired knowledge can serve personal benefit. But not when hopes disappear and the forces that allow you to enjoy life run out - when even an initiate in the secret can no longer use it to achieve personal success.

Students of this course claim that the author achieved his goal. They even say that the strict avoidance of any theoretical rhetoric in these lectures greatly contributed to the rapid understanding and successful application of the fundamental propositions presented, and that real course therefore it can count on a much greater success than many other more pretentious, but also more ambiguous and confused writings on this subject, containing incomprehensible and disconnected provisions.

Relying, therefore, on the testimony of readers, the author does not find it necessary to justify the simple and conversational tone of this manual he deliberately adopted.

I take it for granted that men and women have the same desire to influence others.

This power of influence can bring a man power, power, wealth, happiness; to a woman she will give public respect, popularity, self-satisfaction, love. It must be said clearly and definitely that there is such a desire good wish. There is nothing demeaning in the desire to influence others. There is nothing unworthy in the desire for wealth, since wealth in itself is only a means to raise our own usefulness. Turning back twenty years or more, you will remember that the eminent and powerful men and women of the world have been cited to you as examples to emulate.

They were shining lights in the eyes of people older than you. Your parents and mentors spoke of them with respect and wished that you would follow only their path and reach the same height as they did. Were they not deluded by appreciating so highly human character? I don't think so. The great minds of the world must constantly stand before us in full splendor, and the analysis and understanding of the character of one of the great people explains to us the secret of their worldly wisdom that made their life so sublime and full of charm. May I be allowed to reveal to you the secret of their success.

In the first three lectures of this course, I will try to illuminate some of the general, basic features of the doctrine of personal magnetism. This will prepare you for further special study.

POWER RECOGNITION. - REPLACEMENT BATTERY. - AVAILABILITY OF SPIRITUAL CURRENT

POWER RECOGNITION. I want to talk to you sincerely and frankly. If, however, my mere similitudes offend the super-scientist, then I ask him to postpone his sentence until he thoroughly understands this manual and can observe the effect of the teaching contained here in its application to Everyday life. I speak for the majority in terms of easy and understandable comparisons, since every average, ordinary person, ordinary woman need only facts. The general public demands scientific reasoning and, above all, to improve its own position.

REPLACEMENT BATTERY. Perhaps the thought did not occur to you that you yourself (your body) are a kind of permanent electric battery, continuously either receiving or releasing power from itself. This battery constantly produces attractive and repulsive currents. These currents are felt at times, for example, if you wish to impress others; sometimes they do not confess, for example, in cases where you, in addition to own desire and consciousness make a pleasant or unpleasant impression on others. Continuously and constantly, either you act (influence) others, or others influence you, whether it is by your will or against it, it doesn't matter. This is the first fact you need to know.

AVAILABILITY OF SPIRITUAL CURRENT. Here the presence of the work of force is obvious.

But is it the power of thinking?

No. Because the presence of this force is revealed even without a conscious thought on your part. However, perhaps, thinking partly plays a role here as well.

Isn't it electricity?

But electricity is only a name for a force unknown to us.

What is it?

This force is called magnetism, because we do not know how to call it otherwise. But it is best to call it a spiritual current, because in many ways it can be likened to electric current. We can learn to use and control electricity without knowing the essence of the latter. The origin and source of power is a mystery to us. But we will accept it simply as a secret of nature, and pass on to the study of the use of this power.

PROPERTIES OF A MAGNETIC PERSON. - A FEELING OF CALM. STRANGE LOOK. - ALWAYS POLITE. - THE WEAK WILL BE WEAKER. STRONG - STRONGER. - A MAGNETIC MAN KEEPS HIS KNOWLEDGE TO HIMSELF. - HE WORKS ACCORDING TO CERTAIN LAWS. - YOU ARE LOCATED FOR HIM. -HE USES YOUR POWER

PROPERTIES OF A MAGNETIC PERSON. Our first step will be to critically observe the working of the power that the people around us are exercising; we will also examine the essential differences in its character and the logical consequences that follow from its known properties.

We all know the type of magnetic personality - male or female - it doesn't matter, because women are just as susceptible to magnetism as men. I note once and for all that everything said about men in equally applies to women. As regards the attainment of magnetism associated with influence, both sexes are quite equal.

FEELING OF CALM. If you are in the company of a magnetic person, the first impression you get from such a person is a sense of calm. He is neither nervous nor agitated. In addition to this calmness, you will notice in him a kind of reserve force, contained somewhere in him, but you cannot tell where it is and what it consists of. It is not in his look, nor in his manners, it is not in his language and in his actions. But this force is an essential point: it is a part of it, and a few minutes ago, however strange it may seem to you, it (this force) was to a large extent a part of you! Some part of this attractive force, which he developed and which you were formerly aware of in yourself, has now passed from you to him without your knowledge. But we'll talk more about this later.

The magnetic person often gets his strength from others.

STRANGE LOOK. Let me now look more closely at this person to find the reason for the charm he produces on you. First of all, pay attention to his eyes. His eyes are not directly focused on you. He does not look into one or the other eye, but directly between both eyes at the bridge of the nose. His sharp, hard look seems piercing to you, but not at all defiant. You feel that he is not insolent and cannot even be so. Notice also that he does not look at you when he talks. He waits, as if wishing to know first your opinion and then to tell you his own. When he speaks, he looks at you attentively, as if, we would like to say, considering something, however, benevolently. He is not arrogant, but he also does not like unnecessary disputes.

Each person has a personal magnetic properties, to a greater or lesser extent acting on the rest. Consider what magnetism is and how it can be controlled.

Our first step will be to critically observe the workings of the power that the people around us are exercising. Let's look at the differences in characters and the logical consequences that follow from this.

We know the type of magnetic personality, male or female, because women are just as susceptible to magnetism as men, and are no less skillful in the methods of magnetism in relation to others in order to influence in their own interests. Everything that will be said applies equally to women. As regards the attainment of magnetism associated with influence, both sexes are quite equal.

Some people at the first meeting feel sympathy for each other, enjoy communication, willingly support the conversation, feel free and at ease. There is something between a man and a woman irresistible desire to see each other as often as possible, although due to circumstances this does not always end in an affair. It is unpleasant for us to communicate with others, or they are simply not interesting to us, indifferent, which indicates a mismatch energy charge or repulsive charges.

A magnetic person is secretive, keeps his knowledge to himself, is very prudent and does not want to open up right away, reluctantly transfers his experience to others. Sparing in statements, listens to others more than speaks himself. Usually such people are people born in early spring. It is difficult for them to find a common language with "winter" people. They are very lonely at heart. They achieve significant success in life, but are rarely grateful to those who helped them in their development. Favors are taken for granted. When talking, they do not look into the eyes of the interlocutor, fearing that he can read information from his eyes. Often such people have deep-set eyes, a heavy, somewhat lazy look.

However, such a strange look may have an inexplicable magnetism, an attractive force. Try to observe such a person to find the reason for his attraction to you. First of all, pay attention to his look during the conversation. If the eyes are not directed directly at you, but to the side, he tries not to look into your eyes, then such a person does not want to be frank with you, does not want to maintain the confidential tone proposed by you. If his gaze is firm, sharp, seems piercing to you, but not defiant, then the person is studying you, he is open to communication, ready to keep the conversation going, to build relationships. If he does not look into your eyes when you speak, it means that he is waiting, as if wanting to first know your opinion, and then express his own. When he speaks himself, he looks at you attentively, as if considering something, benevolently, not arrogantly, but does not allow hasty conclusions. Such a person is most often a person born in the fall.

He is proud, reasonable, does not rush to conclusions. Knows how to influence the interlocutor, disposes to himself, but keeps a certain distance, warning you against rash statements. The actions of such a person are consistent, very predictable. Easy to communicate with, nice to have business relationship. He is tactful, not prone to criticisms, knows how to accept people as they are, is firm in character, keeps his word. Cautious in statements, carefully thinks through every word. He feels the interlocutor well, if he cannot win favor immediately, he can postpone business conversation for more auspicious time. Business man, charming. He does not put things off indefinitely, immediately gets to work. Act decisively, but deliberately.

When a magnetic person begins to strive to achieve fame, influence, wealth or success - he achieves them and takes everything by right, as a necessary result of the law of cause and effect. He achieves wealth and fame by influencing others, he rules through magnetism. With his help, he attracts people to himself, uses their abilities for his own benefit. The psychology of his character is complex, irritates many, but attracts many with his originality. In particular, it is attractive to indecisive, performers by nature, but not leaders. He is an excellent organizer analytical warehouse mind, practical, assertive, knows how to captivate others with his ideas and lead him. To achieve the goal, he believes that all means are good, which do not go beyond the bounds of decency. He can resort to flattery, insincerity, cunning tricks, but he is not capable of vile deeds, otherwise all his magnetic attraction loses its strength, turns into nothing.

According to the law of magnetic influence, the positive must act on the negative, and the negative must allow and obey the power of another. known strength, to transfer to this force a part of its magnetism. Regardless of whether the magnetic personality wants or does not want, it depends on the people around it, and even communication with a person who has little effect on him does not pass without a trace for him. There are individuals who are able to influence only a certain circle, who perceive this influence: this is our intelligentsia in various fields arts, sciences. Such people have remarkable creativity which is not always in demand by all segments of society. But every magnetic personality, far from art and science, will certainly fall under the influence of these people.

Magnetic personalities have different psychology, differ in behavior, are not the same in character. Consider some options for human behavior and how to behave with them.

The magnetic personality chooses a correct, gentle manner of communication. Such a person is always compliant and polite, listens attentively to you, but you feel that an irresistible will is hidden under this outward calmness, goodwill, you feel his influence over you, this person who has to obey. In a word, the impression he makes on you is that this person knows well what he wants, but he is in no hurry, because he is sure that he will get everything he wants. This is where his calmness and confidence come from. Knowledge is power, and he knows that his success is based on the law of cause and its effect. Most often, such people are found among born in summer or in January. They are charming, attractive and even attractive to others. Self-confident, smart, good interlocutors. They do not like disputes, they do not enter into conflicts, they are a kind of catalyst in any misunderstanding. Reasonable, but at the same time they have sparkling humor, with which they can get away from any kind of trouble.

It is very important to be able to win over the interlocutor, to set a confidential tone of conversation from the very beginning, and it is much easier for a magnetic personality to do this than for others. Such a person, in some strange way, completely inexplicable to you, quickly establishes friendly relations. You feel that from the first minutes of communication there is a desire to be with him as long as possible, mutual sympathy is established. You cannot free yourself from its influence even if you were removed from it. He conquers you with a kind look, you trust him, expect something from him that you lack in life. He does not force you to do anything, but warms your soul, awakens in you best feeling, impulse to noble deeds. Such a person easily influences your subconscious, knows how to change the worldview of everyone who encounters him. He talks little about himself, does not ask anything about you, but you feel a desire to tell him everything, to hear his opinion. His magnetic attraction is so great that you are waiting for a meeting with him, you want to continue the conversation. And every time you feel that the conversation is not over, there is still a lot to say. A handshake can also be magnetic. The way you shake hands can tell a lot about a person. If you want to impress, look the person kindly, but not directly into the eyes, but into the bridge of your nose, try to cover his hand as completely as possible, taking it from below. Don't pinch his fingers. After a quick, warm squeeze, immediately withdraw your hand, sliding your fingers over his palm and the limbs of his fingers. This is a natural, hearty squeeze, and it also works. You can’t squeeze your hand strongly, this is considered a bad tone, but a weak, sluggish handshake speaks of indifference to a person, of indifference to his problems. Many are charged with the energy of the person with whom they shake hands, so shaking hands too long is unnecessary.

Learn to apply your abilities, correctly calculate the forces. Big force possesses not the one who undertakes work with great zeal and begins this work impetuously and intensely. He may be able to cope with the task set, but he wastes his strength and energy too much and he cannot be compared with a calm and reasonable person. The latter sets to work deliberately. He laughs at his failures and patiently starts the business again, quite sure of the final victory. For him, his work is not a struggle, as it is for others, but only a period of spiritual activity, the result of which is success.

Always avoid flattery. A charming and magnetic person never talks about himself. Therefore, others talk about him more, are surprised, approve, so that the result is greater than if he himself devoted time to talking in order to arouse flattery and satisfy his vanity. Everyone seeks approval in one form or another, to a greater or lesser extent. Those who seek it most intensely achieve the least.

However, you should not reveal yourself to others, keep your secret desires in yourself. The more secrets you keep within yourself, the greater your secrecy, the greater will be your reserve of saved power, which, under important circumstances, will always serve you as necessary.

The magnetic man is mysterious and you can't figure him out because he won't let you. He is incomprehensible. You also need to be like him, but you should not be intrusive, vulgar. Oddities in behavior, the desire to be original harm the true strength. It is not the strangeness or eccentricity of genius that draws us to it. We respect genius no matter what. Arouse interest in yourself, try not to lose the true respect of other people for you. Therefore, try to keep those around you about your personality in some kind of obscurity. Excite their interest in yourself, do not take even the most amazing news too emotionally, keep calm and equanimity, react indifferently enough to what so excited the others.

If you manage to interest others - stop, you are on the right way. Leave your opponents or like-minded people for a few days. Save wisely the forces that you can uselessly spend in the near future in order to win the sympathy or authority of others.

Think about something you did today that you would love to tell others about? Leave it for later. Keep it a tight secret. It is not so easy, but the habit of talking about every trifle for the sake of momentary satisfaction or encouragement makes it difficult for you. It defeats your caution, makes you powerless, you lose your power of magnetism. Suppress the lust of both the body and the soul. This is the law of fortitude, which is not difficult to verify. First of all, resist outside force and turn it to your advantage.

If you practice the above rules, you will soon notice a clear change in yourself: your self-esteem, unconscious dignity and sense of strength will increase. After each deliberate suppression of the desire-force, you will actually feel a new power in your nerves. Then you will notice a big change in how other people treat you. First of all, many will look for communication with you, opportunities to talk with you and spend more time. By following the "don't satisfy curiosity" rule, you can always easily maintain and enhance your merge. Continue to arouse the surprise and attention of others, but do not let it be seen that you are doing it on purpose.