Maslow's pyramid of human needs. You don't feel supported or inspired

Good afternoon. specific character from real life useless. It's just an image. The meaning of the dream is that the dreamer is waiting for a new relationship. Although he understands that these relationships will not be serious, that they will be childishly naive (bear) and lead to separation (yellow roses). Then why such a relationship? Why flirt and search for a contender among the group of people in which the dreamer has to rotate. For status? Silly. Sincerely, Desdichado.

Dream Interpretation - Dead Friend

AT this case, it seems to me that the deceased Friend is a symbol of the spiritual sphere, and the Child is a symbol inner child dreamer, unknown people- the predominant and as yet unconscious human emotional sphere. The Unknown House is the inner self-awareness and understanding of the Dreamer, that is, not knowing oneself with emotional side. The deceased Friend comes up and says that he loves the Dreamer with the presence of tact / contact - this phenomenon in a dream suggests that the Dreamer and his friend did not understand each other, were completely different, which unconsciously brought them closer and attracted to each other. And the dream that the time has come to understand the very sphere that brings people together is a deep mystery emotional sphere. The waking dreamer grows up and asks questions about who I am, what I am among people, and who are People. If self-realization is successful, the Dreamer will no longer dream of unknown Houses, or the Dream will be completely direct.

Interpretation of dreams from the Dream Interpretation of the House of the Sun

Well, that was inevitable.

I would have liked to get away from the conversation lightly and cheerfully, but then the blow hit the target.

Panic. Disappointment. Self loathing.

“Why did you say that? What should they think of you! You always say such stupid things. They will probably tell all their friends what an idiot you are!”

These terrible thoughts fill my heart as the joy I felt a moment ago slowly melts away in a thick cloud of depression that looms over me.

In truth, no one but myself was to blame for my terrible insecurity. I kind of feed those thoughts, sending desperate messages apologizing for everything I've ever said. I was a toxic friend.

However, there was another moment in my life that contributed to the battle going on in my head.

Other toxic people I have allowed into my inner circle. Toxic people often attract toxic people!

The circle of my close people was full of those who fed all this negativity with their condemnation, pessimism and gossip. And I accepted it all.

I listened to their judgmental judgments, pessimistic views and gossip, and then lived in fear that one day I would become main theme such conversations.

My fear was so real that I could almost feel the condemnation in their eyes.

This is what happens when we surround ourselves with toxic people!

And it is true that one day those who bring gossip to you will spread gossip about you.

So, how do we know if we ourselves are toxic friends, or if we have such people in our social circle? Today I will share with you the signs of a toxic friendship.

9 Signs of a Toxic Friendship

1. Your friend demands your trust.

Simply put, trust cannot be demanded, regardless of position or rank. Trust must be earned. Someone can respect the position without respecting the person holding this position, but this respect does not require the presence of trust. Trust is earned based on a person's ability to be reliable, and a friend who demands your trust is not reliable. A healthy friend will never demand trust from you.

2. You don't feel supported or inspired.

Do meeting friends make you feel depressed, pessimistic, humiliated or inferior, aware that you are being used and need to defend yourself? How often do you notice that in this environment you are treated like a child? Healthy friendships should inspire and build us. The type of behavior that leaves you with negative feelings, should be an indicator of the need to introduce certain restrictions, and this person should not be allowed into the social circle.

3. Your friend often makes fun of other people.

Taunting is a clear sign of toxicity. A person who makes fun of others is far from best candidate in friends list. Sometimes teasing isn't always easy to recognize, so pay attention to how your friend talks about other people. With respect, with reverence, or trying to belittle a person with small remarks, disrespect, ridicule? If so, then this person is not someone you can trust.

4. Your friend gossips.

Remember what has already been said about this? The one who gossips with you, over time, begins to gossip about you. Beware of a friendship that feeds on gossip, it will eventually collapse on its own. In addition, the Bible calls gossip an abomination. If your friend is treacherous in confidential conversations or shares information with you that you understand is not to be disclosed, you can be 100% sure that you have a toxic friend in front of you. A sane person is a fierce protector of all his friends... and you!

5. Your friend is jealous and controlling.

There is a category of people who want to direct your friendship only to themselves, because they are afraid that if you have other friends, you will certainly reject them. Usually, such fears lead them to jealousy and the desire to control the time you spend with other people. Even if at first jealousy may seem flattering to someone, it will flourish until it strangles you with its exclusive rights. Beware of the person who wants you to be his exclusive friend. A healthy person will encourage you to build friendships with others.

6. Your friend is on the defensive.

The Bible says that true friendship similar to iron sharpening iron. This of course does not mean that friendship should be based on confrontation. This is unhealthy relationships. But in every friendship, conflicts will arise over time, because we are not perfect. The blessings of friendly conflict are shown when a healthy friend opposes you with love, always in his heart wanting the best for you. If "truth spoken with love" meets a defensive attitude, and constantly, then this is an unhealthy friendship. A healthy person is one who is able to accept what is opposed to him and get through it, because he has enough humility to admit his imperfection. A toxic person is unwilling to honestly admit his mistakes when told about it.

There is ambivalence, it lies in the fact that often toxic people seem to reject themselves, they will make jokes about own mistakes, because they are ready to make themselves the target of their own jokes, but their venom becomes apparent when someone else points out their mistakes and stumbles upon a position of self-defense.

7. Your friend should always be right.

If your friend leaves no room for error, this is not the person you want to spend a lot of time around. We all know that no one can always be 100% right, but a toxic person leaves no room for error in their life because admitting they are wrong will require them to admit that someone else can be better than themselves. This is unacceptable because a toxic person must always be the best.

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8. Your friend is lying.

Obviously, you cannot trust someone who cheats. And if your friend is cheating, he is not trustworthy. A toxic person will often cheat in a way that does not show imperfection - as stated earlier, he must always be the best. Therefore, he will often cover up his mistakes with lies. This person has no place in your inner circle.

9. Your friend only talks about his own problems.

If your friend doesn't show interest in talking about you, or doesn't try to get to know you better, he's not the person you should invest in. A toxic person is always ready for those who invest in him, in his dreams, vision, ambitions, but when the time comes for a response, he suddenly withdraws. If your friend either neglects your interests or suspiciously disappears when it's time to invest in you, your dreams, vision and ambitions, it's time to rethink that friendship.