Call Child Protective Services. If you are under 18 and understand that you live in a dangerous environment, contact Child Protective Services in your state for assistance. The first major step is to get to a place where you will be safe. Once you've made it out of your family's home, SPP will help you figure out how to proceed so your parents don't hurt you again.

• If you are in doubt about whether to call SZR, talk to an adult you trust, such as a teacher, counseling school counselor, or friends of your parents, about your choice.
• When you turn 18, your parents won't have legal right make decisions for you. You may not get along with your parents, but are they putting you in real danger? If not, just wait until the age of majority. When you turn 18, you will be able to live as you please.

Decide whether to seek emancipation. If you are a teenager, the only one legal way to abandon the family - to become "liberated" from it. This means that you will be legally considered an adult with the right to take own solutions and your parents will no longer be your legal guardians. In most cases, you must be 16 to be emancipated. This will right decision if the following statements are true:

Become financially independent. The judge will not grant you emancipation until he is satisfied that you can live independently without your parents as an adult. This means that you must be able to earn enough money to pay for your housing, groceries, medical bills, and other expenses. When you are released, your parents will no longer be legally responsible for providing you with money to cover your basic needs.

• Start looking for a job as soon as possible. Postpone as much as possible more money and don't waste it on nonsense you don't need.
• Move from your parent's house to your apartment. You can also stay with relatives or friends as long as the person agrees that the contract is valid.

Get parental permission. The emancipation process is much easier if your parents agree not to be legally responsible for you. If they do not agree to emancipation, you will be forced to prove to them that they are useless parents.

Submit the proper documents. You need to file a petition for emancipation, which you can obtain by going to the District Court in your jurisdiction. You will also need to provide documentation of your financial status, employment status, and living conditions.

• If possible, seek the help of a legal representative to complete the paperwork. An attorney familiar with the laws of your state will help you complete the paperwork correctly. Consider ways to hire a lawyer if you are on a low income.

Come to the preliminary meeting and court hearing. After you have applied and Required documents court, you will be told the date of the preliminary meeting, which you and your parents need to attend. Your situation will be assessed, and if the parents do not agree to emancipation, you will have to prove in court that they are unfit parents.

• The study of the home environment will be carried out after the preliminary meeting.
• If you have successfully proven that you are capable of living adult life, you will be allowed to cut off all ties with parents and family members - in fact, refuse them.

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Refusal to testify

I have a question, he refused to testify in the criminal case in court, he explained that pressure was exerted by the investigators, now they are calling for explanations to the investigator ... perhaps not to go or what to do in this situation? The case is still pending in court. In the case I go through the victims.

Remember the responsibility under Articles 306 and 307 of the Criminal Code of the Russian Federation. Give only the correct testimony.

Can I retract my already given testimony if a criminal case has already been opened? I am a witness, I testified under pressure from the investigators and in a very drunken state.

Yes, you have every right to.

SW. Olga, alas, it’s impossible to simply refuse, because. risk being prosecuted for refusing to testify. But you need to send the investigator a written request for your interrogation. During the interrogation and explain that they gave false testimony.

I gave evidence as a witness, but now I don’t want to say anything at all, can I refuse them?

No, a witness does not have such a right, except if you testify in accordance with Art. 51 of the Constitution of the Russian Federation.

Good afternoon! If you testified in a criminal case, then you can refuse to testify only on the grounds established in Art. 56 of the Code of Criminal Procedure: 3. The following shall not be subject to interrogation as witnesses: 1) judge, juror - about the circumstances of the criminal case, which became known to them in connection with participation in the proceedings on this criminal case; 2) a lawyer, defense counsel of the suspect, accused - about the circumstances that became known to him in connection with the appeal to him for legal assistance or in connection with its provision, except in cases where the lawyer, defense counsel of the suspect, the accused requests interrogation as a witness with the consent of and in the interests of the suspect, the accused; (as amended by the Federal Laws of 04.07.2003 N 92-FZ, of 17.04.2017 N 73-FZ) 3) a lawyer - about the circumstances that became known to him in connection with the provision of legal assistance, unless a lawyer intercedes as a witness with the consent of the person to whom he provided legal assistance; (as amended by Federal Law No. 73-FZ of April 17, 2017) 4) a clergyman - about the circumstances that became known to him from confession; 5) member of the Federation Council, deputy State Duma without their consent - about the circumstances that became known to them in connection with the exercise of their powers; 6) executive tax authority - about the circumstances that became known to him in connection with the information provided, contained in a special declaration submitted in accordance with federal law"On voluntary declaration individuals assets and accounts (deposits) in banks and on amendments to certain legislative acts Russian Federation", and (or) the documents and (or) information attached to it; (clause 6 was introduced by Federal Law of 06/08/2015 N 140-FZ) 7) arbitrator (arbitrator) - about the circumstances that became known to him during the arbitration ( (Clause 7 was introduced by Federal Law No. 409-FZ of December 29, 2015) 4. A witness has the right to: 1) refuse to testify against himself, his spouse (his wife) and other close relatives, the circle of which is determined by clause 4 of the article 5 of this Code. If a witness agrees to testify, he must be warned that his testimony can be used as evidence in a criminal case, including in the event of his subsequent refusal of these testimony; If there are no such grounds, then refuse You are not allowed to testify and you may be prosecuted for doing so.

What are the legal grounds for refusing to testify at the tax office?

Article 51 of the Constitution of the Russian Federation. No one is obliged to testify against himself, his spouse and close relatives, the circle of which is determined by federal law.

Do I have the right to withdraw my testimony against myself.

Hello, yes you are right.

I agree with my colleague. You can refuse at any time, only primary readings will be taken into account.

Can I refuse to re-testify as a witness. The accused is my husband, I refused to testify against him.

Yes, you have the right to refuse in accordance with Article 56 of the Code of Criminal Procedure.

Can I not testify against my husband if the investigator asks. Can I refuse to testify.

Yes, you are entitled to it.

Hello, can I refuse to testify and explain at the first stage, and how do I do it.

You can, in accordance with Art. 51 of the Constitution.

SW. Alexander, if you are a suspect, then you have the right to refuse to testify in accordance with Art. 51 of the Constitution of the Russian Federation. If you are a witness, then you have no right to refuse to testify, with the exception of testimonies in relation to close relatives.

Can I retract my testimony as a witness?

For giving knowingly false testimony and for refusing to testify, criminal liability is provided (). So, if you were previously warned during interrogation against signature about criminal liability for the above, while the change in testimony / refusal to testify does not concern your close relatives, you risk being attracted. So it goes.

I would like to know how to refuse to testify in court, in a criminal case against a spouse.

Hello! Easily. Based on Art. 51 of the Constitution of the Russian Federation.

The child turned out to be a witness to an accident, the child is a minor, can I refuse to testify as a witness, since the child does not have the right to answer questions without me, the child is 14 years old,

The child cannot participate in investigative actions without your participation. He may refuse to testify on the basis of Art. 51 of the Russian constitution.

Hello! Yes, your child has the right to refuse to testify.

Can I actually manually retract the self-incrimination that I gave 5 days ago?

You can, but the court will not consider it.

Vania! everything is in your power - BUT Obviously you imagine that if you refuse your own testimony, then they will be gladly accepted by the judge and the prosecutor. It should also be obvious to you that the Constitution gives you the right not to testify against yourself and close relatives. And the testimony given by you earlier will be used as evidence, which the judge will evaluate according to his personal conviction. That is, she has the right to decide what to believe in what you showed earlier or what you say now. But as you and I understand, this will not strengthen our position with you.

Can I refuse to testify in court if I previously testified against my spouse to the investigator?

Giving false evidence is punishable by law. They can also initiate a criminal case for false denunciation if you admit that you initially slandered the person.

If I testified, can I retract it at trial? It will be about the husband.

Nobody canceled Article 51 of the Constitution of the Russian Federation. No one is obliged to testify against himself, his spouse and close relatives, the circle of which is determined by federal law. At the same time, it does not matter whether he gave evidence before the trial or not.

You can refuse everything .. even from your husband .. But the fact is that the previously given testimony during the preliminary investigation was drawn up in an interrogation protocol and is in the case file as one of the evidence. And the judge evaluates all the evidence in their totality according to his personal conviction, based ... but still remaining his own and personal ... Therefore, in jurisprudence there is such a thing as the refusal of evidence against oneself and close relatives. Do not say anything because everything that you say may be regarded by the court not in your favor .. Well, saying one thing, thinking another, and doing the third, in principle, is not beautiful. Be courageous!

Can I refuse to testify if a criminal case has not yet been opened?

Hello Christina. You can always use Art. 51 of the Constitution of Russia.

If you believe that possible evidence may be interpreted to the detriment of you or your close relatives, then in accordance with Article 51 of the Constitution of the Russian Federation, you have the right to refuse to testify. In addition, if they want to interrogate you as a suspect, then you have the right to refuse to give any evidence, since, in accordance with Article 46 of the Code of Criminal Procedure of the Russian Federation, it is the right, not the obligation of the suspect, to testify.

You can not. Interrogation - investigative action as part of the preliminary investigation of a criminal case, is to testify on the merits of the questions asked. Before interrogation, the witness and the victim are warned on criminal liability for refusing to testify and for knowingly giving false testimony. CONCLUSION: the witness and the victim cannot refuse to testify, under pain of criminal liability.

Hello. Yes, you can. In accordance with Art. 144 of the Code of Criminal Procedure of the Russian Federation, before initiating a criminal case, not testimony but explanations are taken. Obtaining an explanation at the stage of initiating a criminal case differs from the testimony of a witness (victim, etc.) given during interrogation. Their differences are as follows: 1) the person questioned by the preliminary investigation body is not obliged to answer the questions put to him; 2) information from the interviewee should be obtained at the place of his location (residence, work), in other words, the law does not provide for the right of the investigator (interrogating officer, etc.) to summon somewhere for these purposes (by subpoena or otherwise) a person before initiating a criminal case, who may be aware of the circumstances mentioned in the statement (report) about the crime; 3) the respondent cannot be brought to the court; 4) a person who informs the body of preliminary investigation prior to the initiation of a criminal case, information relevant to the consideration, resolution of an application (report) on a crime, is not warned about the responsibility for giving knowingly false testimony and for refusing to give evidence.

Can I refuse to testify... I'm a witness for disqualification...

Hello. Yes, it is your right. Art. 51 of the Constitution of the Russian Federation.

Can an infected person refuse a polygraph for medical reasons, without having other illnesses.

He can refuse even without problems, forcing him to take a polygraph is unlawful.

What threatens the victim if he refuses his testimony during the consideration of the case of theft in special order?

Threatens with criminal liability for refusing to testify or for giving knowingly false testimony.

Dear site visitor! Under a special procedure, interrogations are not carried out, because. The defendant fully admits his guilt. If he or you do not agree with this, then there will be court hearings in the "normal" manner, if he is acquitted and the verdict comes into force, get a criminal record under Art. 306 of the Criminal Code of the Russian Federation.

You can refuse testimony that was obtained under pressure from law enforcement agencies.

If you were interrogated as a suspect, then you can. According to the current legislation, it is possible to defend oneself in all permitted ways, including giving various testimony. However. If you want to refuse testimony referring to pressure, you need to prove it.

Dear Tatyana, Syktyvkar! By this fact I recommend that you contact the Attorney General. Good luck Vladimir Nikolaevich Ufa 11/23/2018

It is possible, but this is an ineffective method if the testimony was given in the presence of a defense lawyer. And such pressure needs to be justified somehow.

Hello Tatyana, it all depends on what status you testified in. Firstly, if it was an explanation, then it has no legal force; during interrogation, you can already indicate the information that is in reality, different from the testimony in the explanation; secondly: if you are a suspect and earlier in the protocol of interrogation of a suspect you said one thing, then you can change your testimony at any time - this will not threaten you with anything, since this is your line of defense; thirdly: if you were interrogated as a witness or a victim, and you currently want to radically change your testimony, then this may threaten you with criminal liability under Art. 307 of the Criminal Code of the Russian Federation (giving deliberately false testimony), if you do not prove that you really gave this testimony under pressure from employees law enforcement, which is very difficult. Respectfully!

How to withdraw evidence against a spouse? Without consequences.

Art. 69 Code of Criminal Procedure of the Russian Federation: "The right to refuse to testify: 1) a citizen against himself; 2) a spouse against a spouse, ...

Can I refuse to testify as a reason for the case?

Good afternoon Christina! If you or close relatives are accused, you have the right to refuse to testify under Art. 63 of the Constitution of Ukraine. If you are involved in a case as a witness, you are required to testify truthfully about what you know about the case.

At the beginning, the testimony is signed. Consequence. The court may refuse. From the testimony of article 319.

It depends on the status of the person. The defendant may refuse to testify, and the witness and the victim may refuse to testify only against themselves and their loved ones.

What is the penalty for refusing to testify?

Hello Valery. If a person has not been sentenced to which your testimony is based, then you are not subject to criminal liability. This is according to Art. 306-307 of the Criminal Code of the Russian Federation.

How can one refuse to testify in court in connection with threats from a criminal?

Good afternoon Olga, in your case, if you refuse to testify, you may be prosecuted for false testimony! Therefore, do not refuse anything, contact the police - you are entitled to protection. The provisions of the criminal procedure law on ensuring the safety of participants in criminal proceedings are detailed by the Federal Law of 08.20. Decree of the Government of the Russian Federation of October 27, 2006 N 630 "On approval of the Rules for the application of certain security measures in relation to victims, witnesses and other participants in criminal proceedings", Decree of the Government of the Russian Federation of March 3, 2007 N 134 "On approval of the Rules for the protection of information on the implementation state protection victims, witnesses and other participants in criminal proceedings". According to the provisions of the listed legal acts, several or one of the following security measures may be applied simultaneously to a protected person: 1) personal protection, protection of home and property; 2) issuance of special personal protective equipment, communication and warning of danger; 3) ensuring the confidentiality of information about the protected person; 4) relocation to another place of residence; 5) replacement of documents; 6) change in appearance; 7) change of place of work (service) or study; 8) temporary placement in a safe place The grounds for the application of security measures are data on the presence real threat murder of a protected person, violence against him, destruction or damage to his property in connection with participation in criminal proceedings, established by the body that decides on the implementation of state protection.

Hello. According to Art. 307 of the Criminal Code of the Russian Federation, Note. A witness, victim, expert, specialist or translator shall be exempted from criminal liability if they voluntarily, during the course of an inquiry, preliminary investigation or trial, prior to the pronouncement of a court verdict or court decision, declared the falsity of their testimony, conclusion or deliberately incorrect translation. If you need help, please contact.

I want to abandon the child 3.5 months after birth for medical reasons. The child is recognized as palliative and Disability 1 degree. What do I need to do.

You need to apply to the court with an application for waiver of parental rights, however, you must understand that until the age of 18 you will pay child support.

I gave evidence to the investigator that could harm ex-husband. Can I refuse these statements?

Hello, didn’t the investigator warn you about Article 51 of the Constitution, on the basis of which you have every right not to testify against yourself and your loved ones? Were your rights explained? You can refuse, though I don’t know for what reason, what reason you will name. The main thing to remember is that there is also responsibility for giving false testimony ... and simply to say that you lied ... it means to bring yourself under this responsibility.

Is it possible to refuse water meters if the readings are too high?

Hello Svetlana! If the water meter fails for any reason (including mechanical damage). Then it will be necessary to officially report this to the management company (HOA, water utility - depending on the water supplier). After that, the calculation of consumption will be made according to the standards.

Instruction

Reasons why people refuse disability, can be different: a non-working group and, as a result, a feeling of social isolation, a drop in self-esteem, financial insecurity, and much more. Business firms are reluctant to deal with people with disabilities who are supposed to additional leave, the possibility at any time, if necessary, special working conditions, etc. As for the detour for the next re-examination, this is generally a separate unpleasant topic for almost all disabled people. Also, often people simply refuse to be confused, because they see only parties in obtaining the status of a disabled person and do not know their rights under the law.

In addition, you are entitled to free travel on any type of urban and suburban transport, a mandatory labor leave, which is 30 calendar days, and leave without pay, amounting to 60 calendar days, as well as a free sanatorium once a year.

The list of benefits provided by the first group includes a reduction in the working day or working week, as well as a ban on engaging in night and overtime work without their prior consent. Disabled people of the first group are also exempted from paying land.

If you have a second group of disabilities, you are entitled to the same benefits as the first group. In addition to them, you are partially exempt from paying taxes related to ownership Vehicle and real estate.

People with the third group of disability are provided with a smaller amount of benefits compared to people with disabilities of the first and second groups. In the list of benefits: free travel by public transport (except taxi), 50% discount on travel by rail in the period "autumn-spring", free spa treatment 1 time in 2 years.

Disabled people of the third group can also apply for compulsory labor leave of 26 calendar days, as well as leave without pay for 30 calendar days. With the consent of the management of the organization, a disabled person of the third group can work part-time or part-time working week. The salary will be calculated in proportion to the hours worked. The list of benefits for such people also includes a ban on their forced involvement in night and overtime work.

Disabled people of the first, second, and third groups are entitled to receive a monthly cash benefit, the amount of which does not depend on their length of service and the circumstances under which the injuries were received or that led to disability.

Only a medical and social examination (ITU) can recognize a person as a disabled person. Based on its results, a person can be assigned one of three disability groups.

If an adult partially or completely loses his ability to work at any age, he is recognized as disabled. Children may be such as soon as an appropriate diagnosis is established. It can be a birth or intrauterine trauma. As a result, there may be a need for ongoing treatment and care.

After the disease is fixed by a neurologist, the child is assigned a disability for a period of two years. After this period, the disabled person is subject to re-examination. If once again the manifestation of syndromes does not weaken, disability is issued indefinitely. There is no disability group for children. It is for adults only. The indications by which a person is recognized as disabled are established by the Ministry of Health.

The pension for disabled since childhood is equal to the minimum old-age pension. Children under 16 years of age receive a supplement of half the amount. In addition to material payments, people with disabilities from childhood have a number of benefits.

Benefits for people with disabilities since childhood

Children with disabilities have a wide range of benefits. They can:

Under the age of 16, purchase medicines for free, as well as handrails, strollers and other rehabilitation equipment;
- as a matter of priority, be provided with places in kindergartens, treatment-and-prophylactic and health-improving institutions;
- ride free of charge on all types of public transport, except for taxis (for visually impaired children, without two limbs or with their paralysis);
- receive a seasonal discount from the price of a ticket for travel on railway, water, intercity road transport;
- free of charge to issue vouchers for sanatorium-and-spa treatment;
- be provided with a 50% discount on travel to the place of such treatment (disabled children from 3 to 16 years old inclusive and persons accompanying them, which may be one of the parents, guardian, trustee).

Since February 2013, payments to parents of disabled children up to 18 years of age have increased. Decree No. 175 "On monthly payments to persons caring for children with disabilities and disabled since childhood of group I" increased their amount by 4.5 times. Non-working parents of disabled children can count on this money. And, at any age.

What you need to receive a monthly cash payment (UDV):

Accruals are made based on the data that is in the Pension Fund of the Russian Federation. Therefore, those who had the corresponding status before 2013 do not need to submit any new documents there. For everyone else, you need to collect the following documents:

Passport, birth certificate or residence permit in the Russian Federation order, payment;
- extract from the certificate of examination in the GSME;
- passport of the person who cares for the disabled person, birth or adoption certificate;
- certificates of housing authorities;
- documents from departments of the Federal Migration Service;
- personal statement.

Of course, you need to bring both copies of documents and originals for verification. If some documents are not enough, specialists must still accept the existing ones. After that, you need to collect the missing ones. From the first day of the month in which the appeal was received, the amount will be accrued. To do this, it is important to ensure that the date of their submission is indicated when receiving documents. The disability benefit is added monthly to the existing pension.

Advice 5: Do they give a disability group for a hernia of the spine

With such a dangerous disease as a vertebral hernia, a person can completely or partially lose his ability to work. Indeed, with such a nuisance it is difficult not only to fulfill duties at work, but even to do household chores.

Medical and social expertise

The state must recognize legally. For this, the patient undergoes an ITU - medical and social examination. It is her passage that can become evidence that a person is. In the process of examination, everything is found out: the level of a person's income, ability to work, legal capacity, degree of disability and other factors.

Very rarely, with a vertebral hernia, people who have a good passive income or material support from non-poor relatives. This is due to the fact that in this case the patient can be treated for a fee. And in paid clinics, in case of illness, better rehabilitation is given than in public hospitals.

All people with spinal hernia are sent for medical and social examination immediately after surgery. This procedure was created more in order to identify and remove improvements in the patient's health than to confirm a person's disability.

In what cases with a vertebral hernia do not give disability

As already mentioned, in the case of financial assistance from relatives, the patient will not be given a disability group. It will also happen when getting sick passive income. All incomes of a person are clarified just during the medical and social examination.

But sometimes it happens that a person is to blame for not receiving a disability. For example, if a person says that they are doing an excellent job, but does not mention that they work part-time. At the medical and social examination, such a statement is likely to be perceived as an improvement in the patient's health. This may be the reason for the removal of benefits from a person who already has a disability. As a result, the patient will have to work all day. And with a disease like

The refusal itself means that right now our expectations have not been met. Each person can count many situations in which he was refused: someone was not given a visa, someone did not get his favorite job, and someone heard “no” from a loved one. But you can react to this fact in different ways. Some give up and lower their bar. Others try again, with renewed vigor. What can be learned from the latter?

1. Quantity turns into quality

According to Gallup polls, on average, each smoker makes more than three attempts to quit smoking. Every attempt, no matter how unsuccessful, is new experience. Each time we learn a little more about ourselves, our capabilities and limitations. It’s the same with failure: whatever your goal, you have to go through a phase of failure in order to achieve sustainable results.

When one door closes another opens

In order to get a new job, we will have to listen to the phrase: “You are not quite suitable for us” several times in a row. To find a partner - an offer to remain friends, a short "no" or even a puzzled look. Do not get hung up on experiences, think that every failure brings you closer to your cherished goal.

Inventor Alexander Bell once said very exact words: “When one door closes, another opens. And we often look at the closed door with such greedy attention that we do not notice at all those that are open to us.

2. Rejections (like misses) make us prettier in the eyes of others.

Oddly enough, the history of failure can play into our hands. Psychologist Elliot Aronson came to this conclusion back in 1966. He observed the behavior of the spectators, who evaluated the two participants in the intellectual competition. The first was confident and answered most of the questions correctly, the second was confused and generally made an unconvincing impression.

At some point, one of the players spilled coffee on himself. If a loser did it, the audience didn't sympathize with him. But if a competent player made a mistake, they sympathized with him even more: now he seemed more “earthly” and humane.

Your failures are what keeps you alive. Consistent success generates distrust, but failure creates a sense of drama and empathy. Treat them with humor, make fascinating stories out of them - this way you will make them work for you.

3. Refusal is the prerogative of free people

The inability to say “no” is a sign of self-doubt. Low self-esteem does not allow us to feel our value and forces us to turn to other people in order to “earn” the right to exist. On the contrary, refusal is a free choice of a person who knows his own worth. Ability to accept rejection flip side refusal skills.

4. Look for constructive meaning

Sometimes we are rejected directly and rudely. But sometimes rejection can contain grains life wisdom. The main thing is to see them. Remember that refusal is always more honest than consent given under pressure or out of a desire to maintain good relations.

5. The hardest thing is not rejection, but waiting

Most often, it is uncertainty that causes anxiety and feelings of powerlessness. We count hours and minutes waiting for a letter, phone call or a doorbell. Anxiety grows making us imagine worst case scenarios. In such a situation, any answer becomes a relief: at least the lingering silence is broken, and you can move on.

Remember: Rejection is part of real life. It only means that the door is closed. Instead of banging your head against it or crying at its doorstep, you can go in search of another - open.

about the author

Ellen Hendricksen - clinical psychologist, specialist at the Center for Anxiety Disorders at Boston University (USA), blogger.

For everyone, unnecessary relationships are about their own. I do not know the specific definition of unnecessary relationships.

If you experience any relationship as “unnecessary” for yourself, it means that they are such at the moment.

It seems to me that there are certain factors that indicate that this relationship is not needed. Namely:
- these relationships do not benefit you,
- they pull down
- in these relationships, you often experience acute discomfort and experiences more than pleasant moments.

Unnecessary - these are relationships that will not lead you to anything good.
These relationships do not personally carry any future prospects for you.

This does not apply to moments of quarrels. All couples go through this. But if conflict situations there are a lot, and there are always reasons for them, then it’s still worth thinking about.

And for me personally, this article does not apply to married couples. There is a separate story.

Relationships began, perhaps you began to live together. Everything started well, you were happy. Then something went wrong, but the binding remained. You understand that you need to “run away” from these relationships, and the sooner the better, but for some reason this cannot be done.

If you still consciously want to end this relationship, then it is important to follow certain recommendations - and all at once! Separately, they do not work.
The semantic message of the recommendations can also carry the reason - why the relationship cannot be completed.

The first thing that is very important to understand is that you need to stop feeling sorry for your partner.

• “He can’t cope without me, how can he do without me?”,
• “No one except me needs her, who will get along with such a character.”

While you are thinking like that, you are wasting time. Most likely, during this period (while you are about to leave), you would have already burned out and met another wonderful person. Until you can complete this relationship, you are wasting time, precious time. It is important to love yourself more than your partner.
And take care of yourself more than your partner.
Think about your own perspective, this is much more important than taking responsibility for the life of another person.

You have to really plan your time. When you were with this partner, you gave him your time, thoughts, actions. The absence of a partner is experienced as emptiness. So, nature does not like emptiness! And so that this void does not form, it must be filled.

This is the principle of working with any addiction. You can't deprive an alcoholic of drink until a replacement is found. If you do not replace the emptiness, there is a big risk of slipping into this relationship again.

Think about what you will be doing. It can be anything. Even something that has long been dreamed of, but for some reason did not do it. Here, of course, you decide what it will be. The main thing is that it brings you pleasure and takes your time.

And as much communication as possible! With different, interesting people. It is also possible to communicate with old friends with whom they stopped communicating due to past relationships.

It is important to find and set a goal for yourself, and a plan for it..
Why, in fact, make such an effort?
Why are you leaving this partner?

The goal must be specific. Think it over and write it down. This is really important.
The goal “I want to be happy” will not work. You need to understand what needs to happen in order for you to feel this happiness.

Perhaps this is another partner who will look like this, do this, work in this way, do this for me, love ice cream, like me, etc., etc. Perhaps it will be new job or promotion. But again, specifically - what position, what salary, what the office will look like. If an increase, then how much, and in connection with this, what shines for you. And the more specific the better.

This is all in order to call / write / meet with the object of your former adoration with every desire - you once again understood why you should not do this. You need to clearly understand that you abandoned it (him) FOR SOMETHING specific, and not just like that! It's all on a global scale.

And, as you know, large-scale plans are easier to support with small principles. And in this issue I recommend using the " if… - then... ". It should look like this:

• if I want to call her (him)
  then I will call a friend (girlfriend) and invite me to the cinema (to visit);
• if roll on sad memories,
  then I read literature (article) about my goal;
• if I see that her (his) number is calling me, then I will leave the phone and go for a walk (meditate, listen to my favorite song, do 10 push-ups).

Perhaps at first it will desire“give yourself a slack”, which means that the goal that you set is simply not charged. Emotionally uncharged. In the sense that it is actually not so important to you. If you notice such a turn - once again return to the goal.

In conclusion, the truth is that "unnecessary" relationships are quite common. And the main reason for NOT leaving this relationship is that a person values ​​himself less than a partner. At the same time, he has little own life, their interests and plans, in a word - little autonomy and interesting life outside of relationships.

The recommendations from this article, when implemented, actually help to partially develop their own autonomy and become more interesting person for yourself and for those around you. And this, in turn, affects the quality of the partner who is next to us.