When a person lies. People who love to tell the truth

Everyone uses a lie - someone out of sports interest, someone for the sake of their salvation, someone in selfish purposes. Yes, and you yourself sometimes sin this too, don’t you? But how do you know if a person is lying?

Features of speech

Even if you are talking on the phone and do not see the eyes of your interlocutor, you may well understand when you are being told a lie. The speech of a liar has some peculiarities. Let's take a look at them.

It is possible to determine that a person is lying by “extra words”. This is especially noticeable if you know the interlocutor well and know that he does not suffer from such speech garbage. If, however, unusual “so to speak”, “well, for example”, etc. suddenly appeared in the speech, it is quite possible that they are lying to you. And the bottom line is that a liar can come up with something on the go and will try to mask the pauses with all sorts of “so to speak”.

Uncertainty

Too many words. This includes "somewhere", "somewhere" and so on. “I will do something for you” means that nothing will be done for you. This also includes expressions that indicate a person’s insecurity: I will try, I will try, I will make an effort, I will try to help you. Here introductory words: maybe, maybe...

You are assured of authenticity

Do not even doubt that if you are told "do not even doubt", you are definitely being lied to. This is true, because the liar projects onto you doubt in his sincerity.

Just not wanting to speak

It is your unwillingness to lie.

excuses

I just want to tell you ... after all ... only ... A person who has such words in his speech unconsciously (or consciously) feels guilty or embarrassed.

Ask him for details

And remember. Over time, the liar will definitely get confused in them and there will be inconsistencies in the story. If there are too many details and without questions, you can also suspect that you are being told false information.

Gesture hints

How to recognize a lie by the movements and plasticity of a person? Pretty simple. Here are some labels.

Minimum gestures during speech. If a person tells the truth, there will be many gestures: this is how he splashes out own emotions, trying to stir up. If there are almost no gestures, or a person is standing like an idol, perhaps he is now lying. Gestures perfectly betray us.
If the person is very mobile, make sure that the gestures match the words. For example, if a person agrees with everything, but shakes his head negatively ( classic example!), the body speaks the truth.
The liar may be hiding from you. No, not in the pantry, but at the computer, for example, or at the table. Again, even a person with a weak intellect understands that his body will definitely betray him.
The power of touch. How to find out that a person is lying using a piece of paper? Look what he does with it. A liar will definitely turn a piece of paper, a curl, a pencil, a flash drive in his hands. However, this does not apply too much emotional people who always do this. And a lying person constantly touches his face. Special attention pay attention to the lips. If a person constantly touches them, he is definitely lying. Also, the lips can be closed, or a person will bite them. However, if this is just a habit, do not pay attention.
The man takes a break. For example, to drink coffee or smoke, coughs. During this time, he can come up with a continuation of his lies, if anything. This also does not apply to nervous and emotional people.
A liar may hug himself during a conversation, or deviate. And also move back sharply. In addition, during a lie, gestures will be closed.
The liar is very tense during the conversation. He may not blink when speaking.
It becomes difficult for him to speak. Sometimes with a lie, the throat begins to dry up and the breath gets confused. It will be noticeable.
Another alarm signal is when a person sharply tilts his head when direct question. It doesn't matter if it's back or to the side. Also, make sure the person is not poking their fingers at you or somewhere else. This may indicate that he was angry that he was caught in a lie.

Other tricks of liars

Pay attention to the person's communication style. Sometimes he will not give himself away with a single gesture, but will change his communication style. We pay attention to such changes too.

Insincere behavior

It is always noticeable. A person can put on new role to hide your lies. A striking example is a girl admiring her friend's new hairstyle. In fact, the hair color or hairstyle may be terrible, but the girl may gloat over the failure of a competitor.

Liar includes "fool"

If you ask a person a question, and he pretends that he did not understand its essence, most likely you will fall behind: what to take from him. And the liar will breathe a sigh of relief. This will differ markedly from a real misunderstanding in hypertrophy and emotionality. From the same series, the inclusion of amnesia when you need to comment on any situation.

Aggression

If the interlocutor does not want to reveal the truth, then he can begin to accuse you, and of all sins at once, and translate the arrows. Crushed by guilt, you are unlikely to continue to search for the truth.

excuses

The liar will blame everyone except himself. He will blame for everything on you, on a neighbor, on a colleague.

Luscious affection and flattery

This method is used by many who want to cloud your mind and distract from the topic of conversation.

Religion cover-up

If a liar cannot justify himself in any way, he may begin to cry out to God and crucify himself on the topic that religion will not allow him to do this. This is also a lie.

Evasion

A liar can not only translate the topic of conversation or appeal to God, but also defiantly go to work or be distracted by important matters, so as not to speak to the point. Such a zero for the mass is obtained. This is also a way to lie.

All of the above are just very generalized behaviors of people who lie. You should not accuse of lying a person who is simply bad with nervous system. Just look into your eyes and much will become clear.

How to understand when a person is telling the truth, and when he is blatantly lying? Psychologists identify several signs by which you can determine how sincere your interlocutor is.

Catching a person in a lie is not so easy. What tricks do liars not resort to! But there are weapons against them too - just observe the behavior, gestures, movement, voice of a person, and immediately everything becomes clear.

How to understand that a person is lying

The liar, telling his invented story, tries hardly gesticulate, since gestures can give it away.
If a person is lying, then he unconsciously tries to hide from the interlocutor, for example, goes to another room under any pretext or tries to hide behind a book, computer or phone.
Liar often touches his face. He rubs his forehead, straightens his hair, averts his eyes, scratches his nose, and so on. So he hides his excitement.

Liar all the time fiddling with something- a pen, a lock of hair, a telephone, etc. While this behavior may just be talking about nervous state person, and not at all about the fact that he is telling a lie.
Often, before starting false story or answer a question man takes a break. For example, he may drink a sip of water or cough. This is the time he gives himself to think about how best to lie.
Liar often includes "fool", that is, he pretends that he does not know at all what he is talking about or does not understand the essence of the issue.

Virtuoso liars always know that the most best defense is an attack. That is why, when they are suspected of lying, they make the other person feel guilty. For example, a liar can shame his opponent that he suspects him in vain, and in general, how could he think such a thing about him!?
Transferring the conversation to another topic- another trick of liars with experience. If the liar feels that he cannot withstand a series of questions, as a result of which there is a great risk of slipping, then he tries to translate the topic as quickly as possible.
Unnatural smile. A person cannot smile naturally if he is not telling the truth. His smile will be forced, strained.

Liar speech. Pay attention to how the liar speaks. If a chattering too fast, then, it means that he is prepared and wants to blurt out his invented story immediately and in detail, so that the interlocutor does not have any questions. If a person speaks very slowly, then this may mean that he is deliberately taking time to properly consider his lie.

We wish you good luck in recognizing and exposing liars, and don't forget to press the buttons and

Learning to read a person's facial expression and determine if they are telling the truth can come in handy and keep you out of trouble. This skill will help you know whether to trust a charming stranger you recently met on the street, and whether to go on a date with him. On the lawsuits juries often use these lie detection methods, they are also known to the police and judges, which makes their work easier. In order to master the art of recognizing lies, you need to know something about body language and the meaning of facial expressions - usually people do not attach importance to such trifles. You just need to read our article and practice a little in using the newly acquired knowledge.

Steps

How to know that you are lying to the expression of the face and eyes

Watch the microexpressions on the face of the person you're talking to. Microexpressions are expressions that appear on the face for only a fraction of a second, usually they express the real emotions and feelings that a person is experiencing. Some people can automatically recognize such micro-expressions without additional training, others need to learn this. We will tell you how to learn it.

Usually, if a person is lying, then his face will express anxiety - the inner ends of the eyebrows raised up, forming wrinkles on the forehead.

Another well-known sign of a liar is touching the tip of your nose or covering your mouth with your hand. People who lie very often touch their nose with their hand. This is most likely due to an increase in the level of adrenaline in the blood - in particular, in the capillaries located at the tip of the nose. Therefore, the sensation of itching appears on the nose. A person who is lying is likely to keep their hands as close to their mouth as possible - as if trying to cover their mouth and stop telling lies. If a person has clearly tense or pursed lips, this means that he is tense and anxious.

Follow the eyes of the person you are talking to. Usually, when people are trying to remember something that actually happened, their eyes look into left side or in the upper left corner (if the person is right-handed). When people try to turn on their imagination and come up with something or lie, their eyes look to the right. For left-handers, respectively, the directions will be opposite. Also, people who lie tend to blink more frequently. If a person rubs his eyes (especially a man), he is most likely telling a lie.

If a person does not look you in the eyes, this does not mean that he is lying. Contrary to popular belief, liars don't always avoid eye contact. Also, people often break eye contact to focus on their memories. Liars, on the other hand, look into the eyes on purpose so that their lies seem more sincere, in order to “prove” to the interlocutor that they are telling the truth.
- Research shows that some liars make eye contact too often, with little to no eye contact. Therefore, investigators usually take a long eye contact with the suspect as a sign that he is trying to hide something. When a person avoids eye contact with you, it means they are anxious or puzzled.
Keep track of the amount of detail in the conversation. If a person talks too much to you and mentions a large number of details, for example: “My mother lives in France. It's very beautiful there, isn't it? Do you like the Eiffel Tower? It's very clean and wonderful!” - this may mean that he is desperately trying to make you believe in the veracity of what he says.

Watch for emotional response. When a person lies emotional reaction will be untimely - for example, because he knew in advance what you would ask, and rehearsed his answer and reaction.
- If a person answers immediately after you ask a question, he may be lying. He could think over his answer in advance and only waited for the moment when you ask a question.
- Another sign of a liar is omission important facts and events. For example: “I left for work at 7 am, and when I returned at 5 pm, he was already dead.” In this case, the person does not talk about what he did between 7 am and 5 pm. This may mean that he is lying or trying to hide something.
Pay close attention to how the other person responds to your questions. The one who tells the truth, most likely, will not make excuses and prove his case, will not take a defensive position. A liar, on the other hand, will prove his case, respond with insults, change the subject, deviate from the answer, and so on.
- The person who tells the truth will respond to accusations with explanations and large quantity details. The liar will only repeat what he has already said and insist on his own.
- Watch out for late responses to your questions. An honest answer usually follows immediately after the question - if the person remembers well what happened. How more people lies - the more difficult it is for him to follow what he says, so he ponders over each answer, afraid to betray himself and say something contrary to his previous answers. When people look away and look away, it may mean trying to remember what happened.
Watch what words the interlocutor uses. Here are some signs that a person is lying:
- Repetition of the same words when answering a question.
- Avoiding answering or trying to delay the answer - for example, asking to repeat the question. Other methods of avoiding a quick answer are, for example, when the person says that this is a great question, or that it is not so easy to answer, that it all depends on what exactly is meant, etc.
- Liars often avoid abbreviations and emphasize negative particles. For example: "I did NOT do this." This is an attempt to convince the interlocutor of his rightness or innocence.
- Incoherent speech, sentences that do not make sense and incomplete phrases are signs of a liar.
- Using humor or sarcasm to get away from a direct answer.
- Use of the expressions “to be honest”, “to be honest”, “not to lie”, “to be accurate”, etc. may be a sign of deception.
- Too fast a response or answer to a question with an exact repetition of the sentence structure. For example, the question: "Did you wash the dishes not very thoroughly?", the answer: "No, I did not wash the dishes not very carefully."
Repetition of sentences already said before. If the interlocutor continues to answer with the same words and repeat the sentences already said, he is most likely lying. When a person comes up with a lie, he usually remembers it in the form of a certain expression or a well-thought-out sentence or statement made by him. If you ask him about the same thing several times, he will repeat the same thing all the time.

Move on to another topic. If a person suddenly takes the conversation in a different direction or changes the subject, it may mean that he is lying. For example: “I was walking home, and then suddenly on the way ... hey, did you cut your hair or what? Suits you"
- Liars know that people like compliments. If your “suspect” at the “interrogation” suddenly starts complimenting you, this cannot but arouse suspicion. A person rarely makes compliments just like that, out of the kindness of the soul.
Look at the big picture. When you look at body language, verbal responses, and other metrics, consider these factors:
- Is the person under stress not caused by this particular situation?
- Perhaps a person's behavior is influenced by such factors as the traditions and culture of his people?
- Are you personally biased towards this person? Maybe you expect or want him to lie? Be careful with your feelings!
- Does this person have experience? Maybe he's a master liar?
- Does a person have a reason, a motive that makes him tell a lie?
- Are you good at looking for signs of deception? Maybe you just think that this person is lying? Be objective about yourself and your abilities.
Try not to thicken the clouds. Let a person feel a normal non-hostile attitude - then he will relax and behave naturally. Never show a person that you suspect him of lying. If he does not suspect anything, a more favorable situation will be created for you in looking for signs of deception.

Determine what is normal behavior for this person. Watch how he behaves when he's not lying. This will help you notice signs of unnatural behavior in a person if he suddenly begins to lie. Ask him a few general issues and watch his reaction. Ask questions to which you already know the answers.

Often the people who are trying to deceive you will tell true stories, deviating from the topic of conversation in order not to directly answer the question you posed. For example, if the question "Have you ever hit your wife?" the man replies "I love my wife, why should I beat her?" - this means that he is trying to get away from a direct answer to the question. He can tell the truth without answering the question. It means he is trying to hide something.

Ask the person to tell the whole story again from the beginning. If you are not sure that he is telling the truth - ask him to tell you what happened, again and again. If he is lying, it will be difficult for him to stick to the same story with its numerous repetitions.
- Ask the person to recount what happened backwards – starting with the most recent event and working backwards chronological order. This is very difficult to do even for a professional, experienced liar.
Look at the liar with disbelief. If he lies, he will be uncomfortable. If he tells the truth, he will get angry or upset (pursed lips, lowered eyebrows, lowered eyes).

Use silence as a tool. It is very difficult for a liar to remain silent. Silence leaves him in the dark - did you believe him or not? Liars are not patient, they will fill the silence with meaningless talk, even if you do not ask them anything.
- Liars try to determine if you believed them or not. If you remain impartial and don't give away your thoughts, they will start to worry.
- If you are good at listening, you will not interrupt your interlocutor, allowing him to completely finish his story. This will help identify inconsistencies in what he is telling you.
Check everything the interviewee tells you. If you can, check all the facts and details he mentioned. Talk to possible witnesses, if any.

The more you get to know the person you are talking to, the easier it will be for you to understand the course of his thoughts and the better you will be able to distinguish the truth from the untruth in his mouth.
Liars can use the objects around them to create the details of their story. For example, if there is a pen on the table, they can include it in their story. This is another sign by which you can recognize a liar.
A quick and abrupt change of topic or inappropriate jokes can indicate a lie. It is also indicated by being overprotective or looking away, trying to convince you by staring at you. Sometimes they can distract you with questions. Some people are good at pretending. Some people are very good at lying and hardly give themselves away, so you should rely on your own intuition.
Some of the symptoms described above may appear during deep thought or an attempt to recover lost memories. People who are often nervous, shy, easily frightened, guilty of something, etc., may show signs of deception where there is none. Some people are just nervous and don't know how to adequately respond to stress or pressure, so they will behave strangely and suspiciously - like liars, even when they have absolutely nothing to hide.
If you think that someone is lying, then try to find some details in the behavior. * If they become shy or touch their face, then this may indicate that the person is lying!
Some people have a reputation for liars and deceivers. Keep this in mind, but do not treat such a person with prejudice. People change all the time. Reputation is not everything, and even signs of deception should be part of the big picture, which must be carefully examined before drawing conclusions.
For training in identifying liars, you can watch television programs, such as those about lawsuits. Try to determine by the end of the program which of the defendants is lying. If it turns out that you were right, then you are good at distinguishing truth from lies.
Try to determine if what the other person is saying makes sense. When people lie, they get nervous, so often they come up with lies that make absolutely no sense.
Make sure the person is really lying before making any decisions. You don't want to ruin your relationship with this person for no reason.
It is much easier to recognize a lie if you know the person well.
Although any of these signs may look like a lie, a combination of these gives a more accurate result.
Many people in most cases tell the truth. They value their reputation. Liars can also maintain an impeccable reputation so that they are easy to believe.
Some people are just shy, and may not actually lie, although they fidget or avoid eye contact at this point. So don't rule it out.
Some people are professional liars. There may simply be no flaws or inconsistencies in their history. Every time we say something, we form memories. Therefore, if a person is a professional deceiver, he can talk about fictitious events with a certainty that will confuse even an experienced detective. Some liars are simply impossible to recognize.
Liars don't talk too much. If you ask them simply, "Did you do this?" they will simply answer yes or no. Be careful. More detailed questions can lead them to clean water.
If you say "I don't believe you" or if you say "That doesn't sound convincing" the liar may start talking louder. Try to have a dialogue, and not just recite that the person is lying.
Some liars, on the contrary, are overly talkative.
When someone lies, they fidget or stutter and do everything to make you believe them: cry, beg. They also look into your eyes to convince you so strongly that you feel embarrassed.
Clinical psychopaths and sociopaths can engage in deception professionally. They skillfully manipulate people and reality, so it is almost impossible to catch them cheating. Such people do not care about anyone but themselves, and they can lie for any reason on any topic, regardless of the consequences.
Some of the above symptoms may appear when a person simply concentrates. (For example, when difficult topic or when a person stressful condition).
Also, watch your eye movement speed. The liar will keep his face in front of you, but instead of looking into your eyes, he will look around or look around.
Instead of a close interrogation, you can ask related questions for several days.
When a person remembers events, his gaze moves down. If a person continues to look at you at the moment of remembering, then most likely he is lying.
Liars can often draw out words and drag out time when answering.
Watch your body movements, voice and eyes. Usually these moments betray a person when he is lying.
Plastic surgery or Botox injections can make it difficult for you to recognize the facial expression of the interlocutor.
Be wary of people who constantly agree with you. Some liars like to just go along with it all the time.
If you know a person well and see that he is in a stressful state, you can easily bring him to clean water.
If a person knows that you like him, he can say that he is already in a relationship. In this way, a person wants to check how much you like or make it clear that he is not interested in you.

Warnings

A forced smile is most often just an attempt to be polite. If someone is insincerely smiling at you, they may just be trying to get at you. good impression or show respect.
Deaf or deaf-mute people may constantly look at your lips and not at your eyes - because they read lips.
Some people just like to make eye contact all the time. They do it all the time; maybe their parents told them it was polite. This does not necessarily mean that they are lying.
Be careful, if you are constantly trying to find lies where there are none, people will avoid you and will feel uncomfortable spending time with you. No need to constantly suspect everyone and not trust your loved ones. It's unhealthy.
Body language is just one of the signs, not a guarantee that a person is lying. It is not necessary to base all your conclusions solely on the above indicators. Find evidence that the person is lying before accusing them of lying. Do not be biased towards the interlocutor, do not look for deception in his words just because you want to find him.
Some people with autism or Asperger's disorder almost never make eye contact. This is not a sign of their dishonesty.
Studies show that the interrogation of a suspect should always take place in his mother tongue, since even people who are perfectly fluent in another language will not behave naturally when speaking it.
In some cultures, eye contact is considered rude, so such a person may constantly avoid it. People who have suffered abuse or had difficult relationships with their parents often avoid eye contact when speaking. Shy or socially phobic people often act like they have something to hide. Their behavior is very similar to the behavior of a deceiver. Before drawing conclusions, make sure that this person is really a liar, based not only on the above signs, but also on specific facts.
Some people have a very dry mouth, so they can always swallow and cough frequently.
Some people fidget and fidget when they want to go to the toilet or if they are cold/hot.
People with bipolar disorder speak very quickly when they are overexcited.

Whether we like it or not, we often meet with deception. They try to fool us all the time and in everything. It is not necessary to go far: let's take advertising as an example. How beautifully and interestingly they describe the miraculous effects of any product! Dear girls, have you often felt the effect of miracle shampoos or creams? Surely not.

AT Everyday life, in communicating with other people, we also often meet with this unpleasant moment. Sometimes, when you know for sure that a person is lying, then hatred and disgust wake up to him, but sometimes you want to bring the deceiver to clean water. We dedicate this article to how to understand that a person is lying. Psychology is exactly the science that will help us figure this out.

Psychology of communication

Our communication consists of several elements that can be divided into two broad categories:

verbal communication;
non-verbal communication.

Verbal communication plays a small role in the conversation, it is the very words that we pronounce. Non-verbal communication occupies the lion's share of communications. It includes:

facial expressions;
movement;
gestures;
gait;
pose;
speech volume;
tone, etc.

As it has already become clear, non-verbal communication is communication using body language. It is thanks to him that we can answer next question: "How to understand that a person is lying?".

What gives us away?

If a person tells the truth, then he does it without hesitation, his voice sounds even and confident, he does not avoid direct eye contact with his interlocutor. And when he tries to hide or dissemble something, everything happens exactly the opposite. It is difficult for him to look into his eyes, his voice trembles, intonation and volume change, trying to think of something on the go, he stumbles, gets confused. Trying to behave naturally, a person makes many different gestures that are completely unusual for him. Very often they give out a liar during a dialogue of facial expressions and posture.

We easily reveal the lies of our loved ones, because we communicate with them daily, we know how they speak openly and heart to heart, but if we see a person for the first time in our lives, then we have difficulty recognizing lies. How to understand if a person is lying if we know him for only a few minutes?

Lies or embarrassment?

When we meet a new person, we often encounter the fact that the dialogue does not go quite smoothly. There are shy and shy people for whom a new acquaintance is a real test of strength. Many may mistake isolation for a lie.

Everyone knows that the posture in which a person is talking says a lot about who is in front of us. So the poses of a liar, a person hiding something and just shy person who tells you the honest truth are very similar. You should not judge a person by the first minutes of communication. It takes time to understand and understand.

How to understand that a person is lying? If gestures and posture do not give us a liar in the first minutes, then facial expressions and eyes can reveal all his secrets to us.

facial expressions

Changes in our face, emotions can tell the interlocutor whether we are truthful with him. How to understand by facial expressions that a person is lying? Mimic movements on the face that tell us about lies can be counted on the fingers. Let's consider the most significant of them.

Asymmetry. No matter how hard we try, we can't play any feeling. If a person is sincere, if he really experiences any emotions, then he will not be able to hide them. Another thing is a deceiver, he does not worry, but tries to portray, so the muscles of his face begin to give out, there is a lack of synchronization. A smile will look more like a smirk, etc.

duration. The duration of any emotion on a person’s face speaks volumes. True feelings are short-lived, except in extremes like deep depression, rage, and so on. If you see the same emotion on the face of the interlocutor for more than ten seconds, then be sure that he is lying.

How to understand that a person is lying because of the asynchrony of emotions, words and movements? If a person first speaks and then shows emotion, then this indicates that he is lying. We subconsciously do it at the same time.

Silly smile. This phenomenon is familiar to many. Often a smile appears on a person’s face if tension rises during a dialogue. For example, when reporting sad, bad news, a person may smile, this does not mean that his words are not true, this indicates that the person is very worried. So are cheaters. As you know, if a person lies, then the tension grows, in order to remove it, he puts on this mask. This option is also possible: a person smiles when he wants to express respect for the interlocutor, such a smile is different from a sincere one.

Eye contact. When we have nothing to hide, we do not avoid direct eye contact, but a deceiver cannot speak like that with his interlocutor. Let's take a closer look at this issue below.

How to understand that a person is lying in the eyes?

As you know, the eyes are the mirror of the soul. No matter how hard we try to hide something, they will always tell the truth. So, how to understand that a person is lying, if you look only into his eyes?

As mentioned above, a person who does not hide anything will not hide his eyes. Most of The dialogue takes place with direct eye contact between the interlocutors. If, while talking to you, a person looks away at the ceiling, at the floor, to the side, or looks over your shoulder, as it were, then this indicates that he is lying. If you want to check it, then just ask a question that concerns what he hides. The liar will look away to come up with an answer that sounds more believable.

How to understand by gestures that a person is lying

Body language tells us a lot. Highly good example is negotiation.

If the interlocutor rubs his forehead, then he makes a decision. If he taps his fingers on the table, he is nervous. If he wipes his glasses, then this suggests that it is better to wait a bit. If he stretches his open palms towards you or leans back in his chair, then this indicates that he fully supports you in the decision made.

There are a lot of such speaking gestures, they all mean something, we make these movements involuntarily on a subconscious level.

There are several common lying gestures: rubbing the nose, chin, sorting out clothes, collar, rubbing the knees if the person is sitting. Pay attention to how your interlocutor behaves. If the gestures that he demonstrates are unusual for him, then this indicates that he is deceiving you.

Voice

Pay attention to the pauses your interlocutor makes. Very frequent and long ones say that a person does not know the right answer to the question posed. During pauses, he buys time in order to come up with such an answer that he fully satisfies you. Weighs all the pros and cons. When a person tells the truth, the information that he really knows, then there will be no pauses and hesitation in his voice.

We are always and everywhere faced with a lie, it is very important to learn how to recognize it and bring deceivers to clean water.

All people lie without exception, only the regularity and scale of lies differ. One person will tell Mom that he was late at the store, casually silent about a minor accident on the way home, and the other will tell a long and fascinating story, made up from beginning to end. And yet in some situations it is almost vital to know the truth. How to understand that people are lying, and bring them to clean water?

Important Features

If you really want to get to the bottom of the truth, get ready to watch and listen carefully. It is important to evaluate what and how your interlocutor says. But not only words matter, pay attention to gestures, facial expressions and postures. Only the presence of several signs of a lie will help to avoid mistakes. How to understand if a person is lying? This is not always easy, if you have a real lie specialist in front of you, he can hide all the signs with sufficient quality and behave quite naturally, telling a lie. And yet, some little thing will definitely give it away. But inexperienced liars are quite easy to recognize.

What will the face say?

Even if a person holds himself confidently, with a false story, he will still be excited. Note that liars rarely make eye contact. However, the movements of the eyeballs can be controlled. How to understand whether a person is lying or not, if he looks into his eyes? Due to the release of adrenaline into the blood, the pupils will be dilated. However, this sign is rather indirect, since it can be observed with pleasant emotions or due to the peculiarities of the lighting in the room. Another evidence of lies - often blinking, even deliberate deception - this is a serious stress to which the body will definitely respond. Some liars are automatic but, of course, this action cannot be considered as a 100% symptom of untruth either.

Sign language

A person who tells the truth should be calm and relaxed, if there is an unreasonable increase in sweating, redness or pallor of the skin - there is reason to doubt the honesty of the interlocutor. When excited, many automatically fiddle with an object in their hands or straighten their clothes too often. How to understand that people are lying? There is nothing easier - see if the person's leg is twitching, or maybe he is beating some kind of rhythm with his fingers? Some experts claim that lying provokes a completely physical itch in the neck and lower face. And this means that the liar during his story will scratch this area, pull his chin or straighten his shirt collar. Another typical feature lies - the desire to cover his mouth with his hand, speaking as if ashamed of his words.

Methods for determining falsehood

We have all seen spy movies in which they love to demonstrate a lie detector. Such devices exist in reality. During their work, they evaluate the body's non-verbal responses during responses or narration. And yet their results cannot be considered one hundred percent. To the question: “How to understand that people are lying?” Experts answer that it makes sense to try specialized pharmacological preparations or hypnosis. On practice experienced psychologists with the help of these means they can not only reveal the untruth, but also get to the bottom of the truth. A similar method can be tried in everyday life. Create for the interlocutor the maximum comfortable conditions- offer him delicious food, relaxing tea or alcohol. Try to win sympathy in the same way, and your chances of finding out the truth will increase significantly. But hypnosis and “pills of truth” are not recommended for non-professionals. However, drugs that suppress the will, you are unlikely to find in a regular pharmacy.

The abundance of minor trifles and details in the story may indicate the speaker's desire to distract from the main problem. Liars love to completely translate the topic. This technique can be used against them. Offer to talk about something else on your own. The interlocutor should not have obvious relief and joy at such a turn in the conversation. a person telling a lie, you can, specifying the details. It is advisable to do this after a while. Go back a few sentences and casually ask, “So how do you say you got there?” or "And why things went that way - I did not understand." The answer will most likely be received, but it will also take some time to think it over, and it will not be possible to hide such confusion. You already know how to understand if a person is lying on him, but you can additionally use a simple exercise. Memorize the whole story in detail or even record it on a voice recorder. Later return to this conversation and ask to tell again. Obvious differences in the reproduction of the same story is a clear sign of untruth. You can go the other way, after completing the story, ask to retell everything again, but backwards - from the result and end of the story, to its very beginning. But keep in mind, this will only work with your absolute memory. In addition, even when identifying differences in the story, the liar will try to convince you that the first time you listened to him inattentively or misunderstood. If you suspect a lie, try also asking unambiguous questions that can only be answered with “yes” or “no”. Liars are usually bad at specifics, the answers will be slow, labored, and the excitement will increase.

How to understand if a person is lying by correspondence?

All the above signs and tips are most suitable for personal communication. And how to calculate a liar during correspondence? You can try some of the tips from the previous paragraph, but keep in mind that even instant real-time chat gives you a few seconds to think. In virtual communication, we will only have to evaluate words and phrases. Firstly, extra assurances of the veracity of what was said should alert. If your interlocutor used “I’m telling the truth” several times, “Have I ever lied?” or “if you don’t want it, don’t believe it!” before you reproached him for lying, then there is reason to doubt. Beware if the letter is too emotional - with an abundance of exclamation points and text highlights.