How to learn to sing on your own, what you need to do to sing well. How to make yourself better

The very first mentioned that modern world our results in more depend on energy and focus rather than "time management".

And where does our energy come from? We will certainly talk about motivation and inspiration. But first, to be productive, you just need to feel physically good. It sounds trite, but this is a fundamental level, and it is surprising how many people do not pay attention to it.

First, of course, health is the most valuable resource, which is not worth saving, which should not be sacrificed or neglected. Well, for most this is an obvious thought, so forgive me for writing. Yet for some reason great amount people, for example, endlessly put off going to the doctor.

How do you feel better and have more energy? So far, my understanding of this boils down to the following four things:

, to drink a lot of water;
Arrange yourself regularly;
Rest, not work all the time, switch, go on vacation.

I would like to write a separate post about each of the parts, there is something to talk about. In the meantime, a couple of general considerations.

First, all four parts are important and complement each other. You can't get away with one or two. For example, a few years ago, a familiar designer complained that no matter how much he slept, no matter how much he went on vacation, he still felt that he had very little strength. The work is hard, you get tired instantly, you are too lazy to do everything. It turned out that at that time he had absolutely no physical activity, and the reason seems to have been mostly this.

Secondly, surprisingly, even tiny changes in one or two directions can have a significant effect that accumulates over time. In addition, taking even one small step, it is easy to get carried away, and then you want to take another step, and another, and another.

For example, it is not at all necessary to immediately become a militant healthy lifestyle, buy an annual gym membership or register for a marathon. You can just take the stairs a few times a day instead of taking the elevator. By the way, this is my favorite thing. Whenever possible, I prefer the stairs. Or instead of sitting with a colleague in a meeting room, take a walk around the office together. Well, if the area and weather allow. In Intercom, we are very lucky in this sense, our office goes directly to the main city park - it's a pleasure to walk there. Or go to bed a little early. I think you can easily continue the list. The main secret is to choose something that will make you happy.

Invisibly, but pretty soon, small pleasant changes lead to new habits. And habits lead to great results.

As you yourself write, for many years you served one master. Not a day goes by that you don't think about him, about what he wants, what he asks for, what he plans. However, your master was a mortal man and - died. But there is an immortal Lord who does not die, who was Lord both over your master and over all the kings and courtiers of this world. This is the Lord God, Creator and Sustainer of heaven and earth. Is it not natural for people who are subjects of this Master over masters to think of Him every day? To learn His will, to study His commandments, to penetrate into His intentions? But precisely what would have been completely natural, people rejected and began to live according to their own will, their own thoughts, according to their own rules and laws. And the fruit of such a life is obvious: turmoil, delusion, despair, an abyss in the souls of people and between people.

Seeing all this yourself, you ask with surprise: what should we do to live better? I will not answer you, I will give the word to one holy man ...

They say that once ancient egypt strife began between people, similar to the present. Then two brave friends from Alexandria decided to go around the world to find at least one wise and happy person. After a long and fruitless search, they came to a certain saint who lived in seclusion in the forest. He bowed to the ground and joyfully received them in his hut. After a long conversation and questioning, the travelers, convinced that they really found a person in whom wisdom and happiness were combined, exclaimed: “Man of God, but we cannot live like you! How can we find happiness?" The man of God wept, raised his eyes to heaven, and through his tears said: “And you must not live like me. But to be happy, stick to these rules:

think about God at least as much as you think about people;

fear God at least as much as you fear people;

honor God at least as much as you respect people;

pray to God at least as much as you ask people;

hope in God at least as much as you hope in people;

ask God for help at least as much as you ask people;

fulfill the law of God at least as much as you fulfill the human;

thank God at least as much as you thank people;

praise God at least as much as you praise people!”

After listening to this lesson of life, the friends returned home happy. This is the answer for you too, brother... and you shout about it in the ears of your neighbor. I can add one thing: bypassing this simple primer, no one will ever be able to take on a difficult textbook.

The Lord will make you happy.

At one fine moment in my life, I realized that something was missing in me: it seems that you live, but something is not right and wrong. I looked at myself from the outside and in the mirror, went through one strong training on my own, read a couple of developing books. I made disappointing conclusions that I have a bunch of bad habits, I hardly devote time to my health, I'm not popular with girls, my level of disorganization goes off scale, and besides, I often get away from solving complex life tasks.

It doesn't matter how many days are in your life, what matters is how much life is in your days!

Sport

It all starts with its implementation in your life. Starting with basic exercises but you have to do it every day. This is simple exercises: squats, on the press (lifting the torso), push-ups. It all starts with a repetition of 5 times and every day increases by 1 time, you can perform two visits per day. In a month, you will squat 35 times, do ab exercises 35 times, and do push-ups 35 times. Then you can increase the number of repetitions as needed, but be sure to do it every day.

Each person needs to find his own sport, and you should not be led by fashion: everyone runs, which means running, everyone does yoga, which means yoga. Look for your sport that will suit you completely: loads, interest, time, financial component, people. It should be an extension of your essence.

I tried for a year, gym, boxing, running, jiu-jitsu, aikido, cycling. At the same time, he was engaged in several types for several months. It was a great time, because it was an absolute benefit for my health, and I also understood more and more what exactly I want from sports.

My choice fell on jiu-jitsu and swimming is the basis of my sports development. Now this is for life, because the pleasure that I get in the classroom is difficult to put into words, and my success in this field only reinforces this conviction.

Books

You will have to read a lot. Excellent result- This is 40-50 books per year. I have read 42 books and I understand that 50 books a year is realistic. The main thing is to read without stopping. And, of course, do not watch TV and do not stay too long on social networks.

Read only to develop your mind: psychology, Russian and foreign classics, self-development, finance - no tabloid or entertaining books.

Outline the essence of what you read, what impressed or disliked the book, memorize quotes. So you train your memory and you can always surprise your interlocutors clever sayings from books.

Ayn Rand's book Atlas Shrugged greatly influenced me with its fundamental nature and strong dialogues, as well as situations similar to events in my life.

My morality, the morality of reason, is contained in one axiom: reality exists in one choice - to live. Everything else flows from here. To live, a person must consider three things as the highest and decisive values: Reason, Purpose, Self-Respect. Reason as the only tool of knowledge, Goal as the choice of happiness, which this tool should achieve, Self-respect as an indestructible confidence that he is able to think and his personality is worthy of happiness, which means worthy of life. These three values require all the virtues of man, and all his virtues are connected with the relation of existence and consciousness: rationality, independence, purity, honesty, justice, efficiency, pride.
Ayn Rand, Atlas Shrugged

Discipline

What distinguishes strong personality from ordinary person- This . Regardless of your mood, motivation, external circumstances, family relationships, do what is necessary in this moment time.

Learn to swim against the current life circumstances educate yourself so that internal state no matter what is going on around. It was very hard and not everything worked out right away, as there were breakdowns. But I went forward again and again with the support of loved ones and an inner desire to go this way at all costs.

Where can you start? From the morning ritual. Here is the simplest effective method to hone discipline: get up immediately at the wake of the alarm clock, wash your face, turn on the music, do exercises with strength exercises, then a contrast shower, a healthy breakfast (without fried and sweet) and reading a book (you can on the way to the office).

So you need to do until you can do it automatically and without forcing yourself. It took me 3 months, sometimes, of course, there were failures, especially after overloaded days. I recommend to anyone who wants to change their lifestyle to develop their own morning ritual.

We must learn to control ourselves: our speech, gait, gaze and gestures. Wherever you are, at home, at work, in the gym, you should radiate confidence and act without too much fuss. Remember the principle feedback: even if you don’t feel like that, this feeling of confidence and discipline will come.

Highly useful exercise for the development of inner strength - despite all your natural fears, do not look away from the interlocutor, from the people passing by who look into your eyes. Frankly, martial arts helped me in this. But it is also good to look with a warm look, showing that you are benevolent.

To educate myself, I learned to deny myself pleasures: bars, alcohol, sweets, cigarettes, impulsive shopping, idleness, empty talk at work. This may not happen right away, but we need to think about it all the time, work in this direction. And one day I said to myself: “Yes, I do not drink alcohol for three months and I haven’t eaten sweets for two months.”

I attended sports classes or courses despite my mood, circumstances, weather and my motivation. Set a schedule and stick to it, discard all your favorite excuses. I liked coming to the hall when something was stopping others and when there were like-minded people who were ready to support me in these endeavors.

And most importantly - you need to learn to control yourself when little is working out, and a mess is going on around. Be an island of calm and cold endurance.

Finance

Keep a financial journal. Lead it for a month, second, third and do not stop. And do not just keep it, but analyze every month what goes where, why and how to fix it.

I had big expenses for coffee - 1,300 rubles a month. I realized that it was time to reduce its amount, and now the level of spending on coffee is 600 rubles per month. Coffee is my weakness that I don't want to get rid of.

Many say that a magazine is a useless thing: "I already know how much I spend and earn." And you try to keep it for 1 year with accurate analysis and graphs and you will see the whole picture of your financial literacy or illiteracy.

Keep yourself in financial asceticism, stop buying what you don’t need or is imposed by advertising and acquaintances. Most of our purchases are useless and will not be useful in life, and it is quite easy to do without them.

Find additional income, even if it is small, but it will motivate you to achieve even greater achievements. Let it be an increased workload, extra work(any format), freelancing, selling unnecessary things, teaching other people. Majority mistake - everyone wants a lot of money for early stages, but that doesn't happen. You do not immediately earn a lot at work, and in life everything is gradual.

Relations

This point is more about men who have not found their soul mate or even do not want to, which I was. If you are alone and have a lot of time, develop the skill of meeting girls. Register on dating sites, meet in cafes and on the street, chat in the gym, ask friends about girls you know.

Try different communication strategies: gentleman, macho, modest, sports guy. Meet girls smarter than you, admit it, conquer them.

AT different situations not everything will work out: wrong words, wrong method, not your person, failures in bed. But you do not stop, it should temper you.

And over time, you will learn to understand the opposite sex, learn how to easily start a conversation, make beautiful compliments. Girls will often reciprocate, feel in you interesting personality. But do not be self-confident, look for the one who will appreciate your qualities "without cuts", and be faithful and faithful to her.

If it's simple - love, suffer, conquer, disperse and start anew. Become the one with whom you want to spend time, with whom you will be comfortable in any situation, be able to understand and listen to the other person. And remember that your significant other can always leave you, so enjoy every moment together.

Skills

Start developing skills you didn't have before, such as breaststroke, typing, contextual planning, emergency driving. Master them, find a mentor on the topic, get training. Such achievements develop the personality, make it multifaceted.

You will also learn how to deliberately step out of your comfort zone and overcome the fear that will later become yours. driving force. All great achievements begin with small victories over yourself.

In the past 12 months, I have been doing things I have never done before: heavy weight training, meditation, training with children, training, austerity.

Spirituality

Determine your values in life, create for yourself internal and social rules find your "I".

Finally find the answer to eternal question: Why am I here? What is my mission?

How? Ask yourself important questions, do not look at other people who are drifting like a boat in the ocean, become a guide both for yourself and for others. Read spiritual books, visit spiritual places and, finally, create your own picture of the world order. This is very important, so you will become steadfast and you will have your own faith. Not the one that is shown in the media, but its own inner one.

Most people are afraid to ask themselves difficult questions and are closed by materialism, like me in my time, but this is a dead end branch of development. Things and household fuss cannot be closed, they will not give you the happiness that you will feel when you find something important inside that will lead you further.

Good Habits

As you get rid of bad habits and change structurally, you will need other habits - and it is better that they are useful.

For example, if you talk a lot, learn to be silent and listen to the interlocutor, even when your tongue is itching - be silent.

If you eat a lot of sweets, replace it with nuts or dried fruits, do not eat so much chocolate and cookies, drinking sweet tea.

Books are a great rescue from TV and Internet addiction. It's just that the brain doesn't want to "thin" anymore.

If you have nothing planned and everything happens just like that, start a notebook, write down all your tasks for the day, week, month. Write down the thoughts that come to you, fresh ideas, describe events and people. Keep track and analyze your life.

If you smoke, quit and immediately hit a sport, preferably one where the lungs work the most to expel all the resins from yourself.

Algorithm for structural change in 12 months

Sports load every day. Decide on your sport for a long time, do it, no matter what, for a whole year.
Read a lot of books, 3-4 per month. Write down a summary of what you read.
Develop discipline. Deny yourself pleasure. Stay calm when it's stormy. Try to deny yourself something every month.
Develop financial literacy. Keep a financial journal and find extra income throughout the year.
If you are single - look for your soul mate and develop the skill of seduction. If you are not alone, fall in love again with your chosen one.
Learn new skills you didn't know before. Desirable - 1 skill in 2 months.
Find an answer for what you are here for, even an approximate one - it will already be good. Spend as much time on this as you see fit.
Get good habits instead of bad ones. This is everyday work.

Victory over yourself is the true success in life.

Change is difficult, but possible. The main thing is to want to set yourself interesting (and not so) goals and achieve them, no matter what. Everything will not work right away, there will be misfires, breakdowns, but the movement vector must be maintained, and you will definitely break through the barrier of your weakness.

If you think that this requires motivation or money, you are mistaken: you only need one pure desire to become better than you are, and time, which is already so small in our lives. But remember, there is no limit to perfection, this is a constant work on yourself, and it continues until the end of your days. A developed personality lives much happier than those who are weak in front of themselves and recede before life circumstances.

A person spends a third of his life sleeping. And this is good. After all, sleep is natural. physiological process necessary for the normal functioning of the body. In a dream, we restore strength, “digest” the information accumulated during the day and fight diseases.

1. Hang up

Not only children, but also adults should observe the sleep and wakefulness regimen. Determine for yourself the optimal time for "lighting out" and strictly adhere to it, even on weekends.

2. Rise

Set not only the end time, but also the wake up time. Otherwise, the balance will be upset. Slept in bed for an hour longer? fall asleep in right time it will be very difficult.

3. Diary

One of the main causes of poor sleep is stress. We go to bed with a lot of bad thoughts in our heads. Because of this, we cannot fall asleep for a long time and sleep very restlessly. To remedy the situation, start and at the end of the day “tell” him about everything that worries or upsets you. Psychologists have proven that journaling helps you focus on the positive rather than the negative aspects of life.

4. Magnesium

Another factor that affects our sleep is magnesium. Its deficiency leads to sleep disturbances. That is why it is recommended to eat foods rich in magnesium. For example, spinach or pumpkin seeds.

5. First aid kit

Sometimes medications can be the cause of poor sleep. If you are taking any pills and notice that your sleep has become worse, carefully study the annotation. Is there among side effects insomnia?

6. Coffee

Caffeine reduces the level of adenosine, which makes it difficult for a person to quickly calm down and fall asleep. A cup of coffee with dinner can lead to insomnia or poor sleep quality. Therefore, try to drink coffee only in the morning.

7. Technology

To understand what specifically prevents you from sleeping well, refer to modern technologies. Exist mobile applications and special devices (Zeo Personal Sleep Coach, Wakemate and others) that help track the duration and quality of sleep. For example, for iOS there is an application Sleep Cycle , and for Android's SleepBot .

8. Sleep rate

Optimal sleep duration varies from person to person. But on average, it is believed that 7-8 hours are enough for normal life. Violation of the norm of sleep leads to an increase in the level of cortisol (the death hormone) and various serious diseases. So try to get at least 7 hours of sleep a day.

9. Bonus

Has it been a tough week? Did you go to bed after midnight? Give yourself the bonus of an extra hour of sleep to rejuvenate and get back to your daily routine.

10. Siesta

A short afternoon nap is very good for health. But only a short one - no more than 30 minutes. If you doze for longer, the body will fall into deep stages of sleep - it will be difficult to wake up and return to business.

11. Yula

Can't sleep? Do not roll from side to side, like a top. Get out of bed and do some quiet activity. For example, read or listen to the lounge.

12. Pets

Many people like to sleep with a loved one or. But, in terms of healthy sleep, this is a bad idea. You can fall asleep in an embrace with Barsik, but then it is better to drive him to his place.

13. Alarm clock

Many people keep an alarm clock on their bedside table (and if the phone does it, then right under the pillow), which is actually a mistake. Constantly keeping track of time means being on edge. And stress, as you remember, equals bad sleep.

14. Curfew

Also, many spend the evening buried in a computer monitor or sitting in front of the TV. Then turn them off and "fall" into bed. But if you're aiming for a really healthy sleep, then two to three hours before lights out, arrange a curfew for all gadgets. The time before bed is time for relaxation.

15. Bedroom

Your brain should automatically associate the bedroom with relaxation. So please use this room for its intended purpose. Relax in bed. The bedroom is sleep and sex, not work and the Internet.

16. Comfort

For a good sleep you need to create comfortable conditions: buy a comfortable mattress, hang blackout curtains on the windows, eliminate sources of noise that prevent you from falling asleep. Sleep alone? Discuss with your partner what factors affect your and their sleep, and create an environment that is comfortable for both of you.

17. Temperature

16-24ºС - this should be the temperature in the bedroom. In a stuffy and too hot room, a person often wakes up and falls asleep worse.

18. Light

Bright lighting, and sometimes "harmless" light from the TV, can also create problems with sleep. If it is impossible to eliminate light sources, then so that they do not interfere with your rest, use a sleep mask.

19. Workout

Physical exercises not only strengthen strength and develop endurance, but also improve the quality of sleep. We are talking, in particular, about aerobic exercises that saturate the body with oxygen.

20. Everything has its time

Sport improves the quality of sleep, but you should finish your workout at least 2 hours before lights out. After all physical exercise saturate the body not only with oxygen, but also with adrenaline, and it is a bad “sleeping pill”.

21. Muscle relaxation

Before going to bed, it is better to carry out the so-called muscle relaxation. It consists in alternately straining and relaxing various groups muscles. We strained the muscles of the legs, counted to five, relaxed; tense the press, one-two-three-four-five, exhale, etc. This procedure can be done while lying in bed. Meditation also helps prepare the body for sleep.

22. Walks

Another secret to good sleep is evening walks. Even if it is not very warm outside and you are too lazy to get ready, overcome yourself. You will be surprised how much better you will sleep at night if you walk for half an hour before going to bed.

23. Hot shower or bath

Before going to bed, the body must relax, so before you go to the realm of Morpheus, treat yourself to spa treatments. A hot shower or bath will help relieve stress and make you sleepy.

24. Music

In addition to the bath, music has a very calming effect on the body. Classical, folk or jazz - everyone has their own melodies that give harmony. Find one that brings you peace and listen to it before bed.

25. Lavender

Aromas also affect the quality of sleep. Lavender is an excellent remedy for insomnia. Use scented candles or essential oils to fill the bedroom before bedtime with the scent of lavender.

26. Warmth

As you already know, it should be cool outside, but inside, on the contrary, it should be warm. Drink a glass of warm milk, cocoa or tea before going to bed, and you will immediately want to sleep.

27. Chamomile tea

By the way, about tea. This is a "grandmother's" remedy for a sound and healthy sleep. Chamomile has a calming effect, which means it helps fight main reason bad sleep - stress.

What do you do to sleep well?

Perfection is the only thing in man that has no limit. How to become better on your own and stop doing nothing? Why do you want to grow, despite the stability? How to start trying, and not just pretending? If an insight has come to you that life is becoming unattractive or even going downhill, we begin combat readiness. Eliminate deficiencies today using simple tips. By starting now, you will at least save precious years, and at the most you will become better!

How to get better

Living Consciously

How to become better if you do not give an account of thoughts and actions? We are not robots that live on autopilot. This is not possible, because blind adherence to the schedule erases the boundaries of the world. Mindfulness is the ability to understand everything around and give it meaning.

Relationships in the family are not without meaning, the journey to observe the world is also not without meaning. So it is important to reinforce daily affairs with connections with what we are doing it for. There is such clever expression- causal relationships. This is the law of the Universe, which works between a person and the outside world.

Value your own and others time

The phone call is delayed for 40 minutes, instead of a short "Hi, how are you, what's new?". Friends are constantly late for any meeting, although they agreed on 17:00. Disrespect for one's own and other people's time lives in many people. Lack of punctuality, brevity in actions create others bad habits. Disrespect for time is a manifestation of lack of concentration, without which you will not go far in life. You can become better if you attach importance to every minute of yours and someone else's.

Don't focus only on yourself

So that a person is not disappointed in the world, it is important to pay attention to others. Not everything revolves around the person itself - there are so many things around that need attention. Compassion - forte personality, which many neglect. Charity and mutual assistance, support reveal the inner potential.

No damage will come financial help for orphans, planting a tree in the yard or a community work day in the park. It is also important to listen to others. The advice of experienced people can bring undeniable benefits to someone who is just starting development. In the understanding of the surrounding people lies the philosophy of self-consciousness.

Learn to be flexible in society

Criticism destroys self-esteem and morally crushes? You can not take everything to heart! It is normal that some do not agree with your opinion, dispute it, moreover, dissuade it. Important to have own opinion, which is not amenable to other people's judgments.

Listening to advice is one thing, but being plasticine in the wrong hands is unacceptable. Not everything has to go to the account of the person! People may just like to play with the emotions of others. If you show that it is not interesting, then they will eventually fall behind.

Appreciate yourself

How to become better when there is no feeling of self-love inside? Rejection of one's life is a very powerful decision, but rejection of oneself is a detrimental one. When a person has love for his individuality, this feeling is reflected in his environment. After hard work, you can spend time with a light soul in the company. Go to the movies, sing karaoke, take time to the spa - relaxation and encouragement of their efforts give a strong motivation. It is worth saying to yourself: “You are the one who will be able to come to success, and I believe in you. You have strength and you are a great fellow! Such words out loud help to reinforce self-confidence and not give up.

Saying and doing are inseparable things

Thoughtlessly saying “And I will have a big house, and I will have public recognition, and I am this and that” is a stupid idea. This is familiar to many, and it is periodically traced in ourselves. Reliability is a trait of a man of his word who does not scatter to the wind. Reliable people are often guided by others and set as an example. It is important to develop the will and character that will speak of inner strength. It was said that the meeting would take place tomorrow, and then I suddenly got overwhelmed - it’s worth going and meeting with responsibility face to face. For a long time we are talking about losing weight? A great reason to start right now!

How to make yourself better

The desire to grow involves resetting a mind that has been dormant for a long time. “Life goes on as usual” or “everything is fine with me”, and even more often “slowly” - this is what we hear every day from people around us. You look at such a person and it reflects all the pain, depression that have grown over the years. Of course, every day can't feel like a Disney fairy tale with rainbows and cotton candy - anything can happen. If this always continues, then you need to include the Sherlock Holmes method. Why not become a detective in your own investigation?

How to become a better method famous detective? Be attentive to details! By adhering to just two rules, a person can acquire that lacking skill - concentration. So what's the secret:

You don't need to spread out on a lot. It is enough to pay attention to one thing. How do errors occur? If you do things in a hurry, as they say, lax. It's hard to keep important information in the mind, if you are in two bazaars (many will understand).
Emotions are everything! How to become better if nerves constantly rule the parade? Anxiety and many other negative phenomena break the whole picture of the world. To think creatively, it is worth turning on positive side myself. A pessimist always looks at the world worse than a positive one.

The ability to become better develops in the presence of only two components: great desire and penetrating perseverance. Without them, change will simply bypass doors and not knock on them. Now you need to take a piece of paper and a pen. For the solemnity of the process, they must be beautiful (this is not unimportant) - so the process will be official. It is important to write down the following points that you need to adhere to on the way to a new "I":

Switch from non-serious goals to more important ones. At first the mind will be a little shocked, but without it in any way! Quit your job within the next few months for your dream job. Develop self-control - do not sit for hours at the TV, computer, but do yoga, reading literature. In general, what we have been thinking about for a long time.
Conduct a deep analysis of reality. Write things that do not suit you and you need to do away with them. Near each one - write ways to solve the problem, replace "this" with "other".
Write step by step plan. Do not earn a million in 3 years, but paint how you can do it. Under the big words should be the stages of implementation. It is worth including as many resources as possible to fulfill the dream.
Work on weaknesses. What is killing time? Not going to the forest for mushrooms (this, on the contrary, is a plus), but thoughtlessly sitting at the phone, playing consoles until night, aimless shopping trips. It is important to eliminate the stimuli that hypnotize us.
Monitor the achievement of goals. It is important to record each result in a diary and compare with each other. How to become better if you do not understand at what stage you are now? It's nice to realize that a month ago we were at the foot of the mountain, and today we are practically at the ridge.

How to become better? Activate your consciousness to the maximum and do not let go of this desire to the bitter end! The tips above will help you just get up and running, despite the obstacles. Surely, you will not apply all of them, but you will definitely not stay in the same place. If you liked the article - share it with your friends and start new stage life together.