How to be a spectacular girl. Nourishing mask recipe

Metro: people in gray, people in black, on the face - gloom, dullness, fatigue, indifference. “I’m 50, where do I need a bright coat? Let's get black! says the woman in the store, although a joyful yellow or red would suit her very well. Color is the most banal manifestation of the fear of not being like everyone else, of being brighter, of being different from those who are called "gray masses". Why are we afraid to be bright? What is it like to be yourself? Psychologist's advice.

Why is it difficult to be bright, not like everyone else?
Think back to experiments in your childhood. The little girl puts on her mother's shoes, takes her mother's lipstick. What is the most common reaction? "Put it on it's place!" There are very few parents - although the situation is changing now - who are loyal to various manifestations child. After all, we are still the generation that was brought up with the words “no”. Plus the Soviet past, when everything was the same for everyone.
I was in school when they wore school uniform. In the 90s, beautiful leggings and skirts began to appear. The lucky ones came in fashionable things under their uniforms. We were delighted. The teachers were called to the director, ordered to take it off. Therefore, we have a program: "To be like everyone else is safe." It is difficult to be a black sheep and stand up for your own, especially in childhood, when you belong to a flock of identical kids in uniform, with the same hairstyles.
But if he addresses me adult woman, who is afraid of being flamboyant and blames the school/mother/system for it, the question arises: “You lived to be 30 years old. Why haven't you worked through the problems that prevent you from being yourself?
And then the second question: what does it mean to be yourself. What is individuality?

Yes, what is individuality?
Appreciate your own qualities and not compare yourself with others. “Will mom/dad/teachers approve of this?” It's not about individuality.

My friends and I had a photo project "MurMariDay". We photograph women of different sizes, different ages, status. Each at the beginning says: “I'm not photogenic at all. It's hard for me to pose, I can't. Can you photoshop my flaws?". Although objectively, every woman is beautiful.
The project involves a make-up artist, a stylist and a psychologist - all in order to not only transform the participant, but also relax her. A person comes frightened or with mock joy. All this is anxiety. A woman enters into an image - an ideal picture, which she tries to imitate. When a woman plays, it turns out artificially and comically, no matter how correctly she sits. Here I am connected: we are talking about life. She is distracted. And at this moment the photographer takes the most successful shots.

Beauty and naturalness are the individuality that wakes up when you are as relaxed as possible. When you don’t think about anything, you don’t compare yourself with anyone, you don’t try to look better or worse, you don’t take standard poses.
There is always a difference between a brightly dressed person with personality and a copycat. It would seem - both in pink blouses. But one is a personality, the other is a freak. If you talk to them, it turns out that the first one didn’t really think about what he put on - such a mood, a desire, he feels that way. If you ask a freak, most likely he will talk about trends. Individuality does not think about what effect it will produce with its clothes, behavior. Because this appearance- a natural extension of the personality, and she does not need someone's approval or disapproval.

Individuals are capable of external factors be calm and happy. Imitators are always on the lookout for what will give them that happiness. They depend on pleasure.
If you are unable to reproduce and maintain a stable level of happiness inside, you will always be dependent on external factors: approval, compliments, etc. Individuality always knows that it is an individuality. This is - constant feeling satisfaction.

Why is it difficult for others to perceive someone else's brightness?
Because it is a threat. Each of us is an individual. It's just that someone forgot about it, trampled it, because it's easier to be "like everyone else."
The child is interested in everything. For him, the world is an opportunity to explore himself. The child takes mother's varnish and paints everything with it. Mom: "Aaah!" Child: "I must have done something wrong." The child put panties on his head: “Look, mom, panama!”. And he answered: “Take it off, it’s impossible! "I'm doing something wrong again." And so it gradually comes to the point that you can’t do what you want, because it’s frustrating important people. We begin to come up with masks and images to match the opinions of others. A lot of people around who have pushed their personality to the bottom, live with the feeling “I'm not good. I'm upsetting my mother." You may not remember it, but something stirs in your soul when you see a bright person: “But he did it! He was able to defend himself! And then there is resentment. What is the easiest thing to do at this moment?

- I would do what I was forbidden to do. Now it's possible!
As an option. But in most cases, a person will devalue this “irritant” and begin to condemn: “No one walks like that. You are not like that."

Women who do not take care of themselves, who find it easier to be in a sweater and jeans, is it a fear of being themselves or dislike for themselves?
It would be more correct to call it a consequence psychological trauma- protection, mask. “Here I am, go all through the forest.” Most of the time it's the consequences. And the fear of being yourself.
There was an experiment: a flea was planted in a jar. A flea can always jump out of a jar, as it is in their physics to jump over everything that is higher. But if you close the jar with a lid, after a couple of days the flea will never be able to jump higher. She humbled herself and adapted to the environment.
When a woman is traumatized in the context of “I can’t be myself,” it automatically comes out of it: “I don’t know who I am. I don't know what I want and what I don't want." When you don't know anything about yourself, you do what others say. You go to the university your parents sent you to. Are you marrying the right person, because his parents chose him or you have been dating for many years. Over time, a person becomes like that flea and is afraid of change, he is comfortable in his dullness. At the same time, such women love to talk about changes. And find 1000 reasons why they can't do it.

What do I need to do if I want change? Go to an image maker, get a new haircut, buy bright things?
You need to say to yourself: "I'm already an individual." Most likely, somewhere in the body it will “sting”. Where it pricks, there is a marker.
Reduces the stomach - fear of being yourself. “What will my mother say? How will my husband rate me? What if I get so sexy that I find a new boyfriend and I have to quit what I have now !?
If the signal in the throat is the fear of being heard, express true desires . “I will stop being ashamed of my opinion, swallowing all grievances. What will I be then? Will I be able to tell my loved ones that I'm not interested? I can?".
Listen to where your fear sits and work it out with a body therapist or psychologist.
The second option is to honestly, objectively, and critically take a “self-inventory” of how you fit your understanding of individuality. Is your hair okay? Is the waist beautiful? Is it an even smile? For example, “I have a good figure, but there are a couple of extra pounds”, “I have good skin, but unkempt nails.” Look at yourself, write down the pros and cons. Do the same for your wardrobe. And then make a plan of action.
But the most important thing is to feel relaxed. If something is wrong with you - buttocks, hair, thighs - ask yourself what you need to do to move to another level. Close your eyes, imagine that you have fulfilled your plan, and look at yourself in a new way. Monica Bellucci is already there - you will not become her. The stylist and the surgeon will be able to make her out of you, but can you be a 24/7 Italian star? Be yourself. How do you imagine yourself after all the changes? Are you comfortable? Has the energy gone? Then act! Individuality is not about appearance, but about inner.

In order to collect compliments daily from both close people and casual acquaintances, you need to devote a lot of time to caring for your appearance. Regularity is very important in taking care of yourself: if you buy a bunch of expensive creams and use them for a couple of days, and then forget about them for a month, then such use will not give any effect. There is no need to spend a lot of money for self-care - most procedures can be easily performed with improvised means and at home.

Beauty through the eyes of men

The perception of beauty through the eyes of men and women is strikingly different. What excites girls often causes a state of shock in guys. For example, women often admire a manicure in the form of sharp bright nails, while men almost unanimously condemn the owners of "stilettos", considering such a work of art a real ugliness.

Similar disagreements arise in the perception of clothing. For a woman, for example, a long gray skirt will symbolize refined taste and elegance, while most men would prefer a girl to wear more revealing clothes that emphasize the beauty of the figure and open the legs. Some men say out loud that a woman should dress modestly, but they are also pleased if their companion looks spectacular and attracts the views of others.

How to become attractive to men

Why home care is better than a beauty salon

There is an opinion that if there is enough money, a woman may not worry about her appearance at all - professional cosmetologists, manicurists and hairdressers will take care of her face and figure. But this is not entirely true - it is enough to read the mass negative reviews, left by distressed visitors to beauty salons after procedures that only worsened their appearance.

Taking care of yourself at home can bring more benefits than in a specialized salon, for the following reasons:

Not all women are so wealthy that they can afford the constant services of a cosmetologist and makeup artist. Usually, a course of procedures is required, consisting of at least 5-10 visits, and one-time care will not give a visible effect.
For use at home, a woman buys cosmetics for herself, which means that she monitors its quality and expiration dates. In unscrupulous beauty salons, masters can cheat and try to use cheaper or expired cosmetics in order to save money. The result of such savings can be very deplorable for clients - starting from the simple inefficiency of the means used and ending with an allergy, which will take a long time to be treated.
In self-respecting institutions, manicure and pedicure are performed with disposable instruments that are printed out at the client, and reusable instruments are disinfected by boiling or using special sterilizers. But for visitors to beauty salons, there is always a risk that the master will forget to perform these operations or decide to save time by starting to work with the next client with tools that have not been processed since the previous visitor. The result of such forgetfulness can be various infections - there is a danger not only of getting panaritium and losing a nail, but also of contracting one of the sexually transmitted diseases that are transmitted through dirty tools with accidental cuts. At home, when a woman uses an individual set of tools and wipes it herself with alcohol wipes, the likelihood of infection is minimal.
The banal saving of time also testifies in favor of home care. If a woman knows how to take care of herself, then she will not have to spend time on the road to the beauty salon, and cosmetic procedures can be carried out in parallel with household chores. For example, apply a mask on your face and at the same time iron your clothes or do a manicure while baking is cooking in the oven.

Becoming a beautiful and well-groomed girl should be gradual. If you try to immediately correct the appearance of your face, hair and nails in one day, applying dozens of different cosmetics at the same time, then they most likely will not give any effect or even cause allergic reaction. In self-care, it is important to perform the procedures consistently and regularly. First of all, it is necessary to pay attention to the condition of the skin - a girl with acne or age spots on her face cannot in any way claim the title of a spectacular beauty. In parallel, you should start daily hand care. When the condition of the skin of the face and hands improves, it will be possible to devote more time to nourishing and improving the hair. A girl with clean skin and healthy hair looks well-groomed, even if she does not use decorative cosmetics.

What if I'm ugly

How to become beautiful and well-groomed

In order to become a beautiful and well-groomed girl, you do not need to make a lot of effort. In this work, the most important thing is the regularity of the procedures carried out.

Even if a girl is busy with work or study (and sometimes both at the same time), you can always set aside 15–20 minutes in your daily schedule that you need to devote to caring for your appearance.

Facial care

Many girls complain about the appearance that nature gave them. Some do not like the shape of the ears, others do not like the nose, others would like to change the lips. But if a girl has clean and delicate skin, then the rest of the flaws in her appearance are not so striking, and can even become a kind of highlight.

There are many examples of famous actresses and singers who have a large nose or close-set eyes. They were able to use the peculiarity of their appearance as distinguishing feature that makes a woman unforgettable. But with such skin defects as age spots or acne, you must definitely fight, because a person with such shortcomings cannot be called well-groomed.

Fight against skin imperfections

Exist a large number of options for masks and face creams that can be prepared at home. Such products compare favorably with store-bought ones by the absence of harmful “chemistry” (stabilizers, preservatives, extra dyes and fragrances), which means they are much more natural and less allergic than cosmetics of popular brands:

The simplest black dot mask includes two components: gelatin and milk. Gelatin must be mixed with warmed milk until a homogeneous consistency. The resulting substance must be applied to the area of localization of black dots (usually the nose, cheeks and chin). When dry, the mask will harden, and after 10-15 minutes it can be removed. On that part of the hardened film that was adjacent to the face, after separation, sebaceous plugs that “popped out” of the pores will be clearly visible. The remains of the mask that could not be removed mechanically can be washed off with warm water. Then, in order for the cleansed pores to narrow, you should rinse your face. cold water. Despite the ease of implementation, such a mask is very effective and will allow you to rid your skin of blackheads for a long time.
Lemon juice is a popular home remedy for acne scars. If the skin is not very sensitive, then you can wipe the pigmented areas with a slice of lemon, hold for 10-15 minutes, and then rinse your face with running water. If the skin is sensitive and prone to irritation, then it is better to refuse to use this method. More suitable in this case would be gentle whitening with cucumber juice. Pieces of cucumber (even cucumber peels can be used) are applied freshly cut to areas with pigmentation, or the entire face is rubbed with cucumber slices. After a couple of weeks of such care, the face will look cleaner and fresher, as minor redness and darkening will disappear. If there are dark circles under the eyes, then under the influence of cucumber juice they will also become less noticeable.
To get rid of acne will help regular rubbing problem areas with cotton pads with applied large quantity salicylic or isopropyl alcohol. The bulk of cosmetics sold in the store contains exactly one of these components as active substance. You can quickly remove inflammation and reduce the size of an individual pimple using a method known to all schoolgirls - apply a little toothpaste to the inflamed area and wash it off after 3-5 minutes. Toothpaste dries the pimple, and the inflammation will soon become less noticeable. Naturally, such methods will not have much effect if skin problems occur due to internal failures in the body (disturbances in the hormonal system, problems with the stomach or intestines). In this case, you do not need to get rid of external signs and undergo examination and treatment by qualified specialists - doctors of the appropriate profile.
Daily face cream is also easy to prepare yourself. As a basis, you can choose any inexpensive baby cream. Products for children usually contain less fragrances and dyes than cosmetics for adults, therefore they are safer and less allergic. Such a cream is mixed with any components that you want to add. For example, adding olive oil will give the cream moisturizing properties; a small amount of vitamin E, previously purchased from a pharmacy, will increase the anti-aging properties of the resulting product. To get a pleasant smell, it is recommended to add a few drops of your favorite to the composition. essential oil. If you apply this cream every day, then the skin will become soft and velvety in 1-2 weeks.

Long eyelashes and dark eyebrows

Psychologists have long found out that the first thing people pay attention to when they meet is the eyes of the interlocutor. Therefore, every woman is faced with the task of making her look captivating and charming. Of course, a lot depends on internal state girls: if she is frightened, angry or arrogant, then her look is unlikely to be called attractive. However, much depends on external characteristics: The longer the eyelashes and the darker the eyebrows, the more expressive the look.

To care for eyebrows and eyelashes, there is no need to buy expensive cosmetic serums. There is such universal remedy, which promotes the growth and strengthening of eyelashes and eyebrows, like castor oil. It is sold in pharmacies, and its price is relatively low. The most effective would be such a scheme for the use of castor oil: 2-3 hours before bedtime, take a cotton swab, dip in castor oil, draw along the growth line of the eyebrows and eyelashes, remove the excess with a paper towel. Before going to bed, wash your face so as not to stain the bed linen with oil. Some cosmetologists advise leaving the product on eyelashes and eyebrows all night to achieve a greater effect. But sometimes castor oil causes swelling of the eyelids, ranging from slight swelling to noticeable swelling. To prevent such consequences, it is better to wash off the remedy before going to bed.

After a few weeks of using castor oil, many girls note that there are more eyelashes, thicker eyebrows, the hairs themselves grow darker and longer, so there is no need to use mascara and pencil.

Gentle lips

The lipstick purchased in the store often does not improve the condition of the lips, but, on the contrary, exacerbates the situation: delicate skin begins to dry, chapped, painful cracks appear. Homemade lip balm can moisturize damaged skin, heal cracks and make lips attractive at any time, even when they are not wearing decorative cosmetics.

The method of preparing the simplest lip balm: melt natural beeswax, add melted honey, vitamins A and E, various oils to taste (tea tree oil, olive oil, castor oil). Such a balm will nourish delicate skin well. If there is no beeswax, then you can create a Vaseline-based lip product - it will also have moisturizing properties and help heal small cracks.

Hair care

In order for the hair to look spectacular and beautiful, they need to be nourished regularly. At home, the following natural remedies are quite affordable and almost always at hand, which will make hair strong, healthy and shiny.

Egg yolk can not even be mixed with any other components - it itself includes a whole system beneficial vitamins and amino acids that improve hair structure, promote hair growth and even get rid of dandruff. The application is not difficult: egg yolk is applied to the hair (it is desirable that as much of the substance as possible gets on the roots of the hair), after which the hairline with the applied product is closed with a plastic bag for 30-40 minutes. Then you need to wash your hair with shampoo as usual.
Burdock oil has long been famous for its ability to stimulate hair growth, make them healthier and stronger. To achieve the greatest effect, you should moisturize the hair and apply oil to the entire growth area, then wrap the hair with polyethylene and wrap it with a towel on top. This layering gives a warming effect and enhances the effect of the applied product. Burdock oil should be kept on the hair for an hour, then washed off with shampoo in the usual way. After a few applications, a visible effect will be noticeable: the curls will become stronger, healthier and shiny.

After washing, the hair should be rinsed with cool water - this procedure also favors the appearance of a healthy shine. When shaping the styling, you should not use a large amount of mousses, varnishes and gels, because they contribute to faster contamination of the hair and the hairstyle will look sloppy. A girl with clean hair will attract more attention from the representatives of the stronger sex, because light and fresh curls involuntarily make you want to touch their owner, while a woman with greasy hair will look dirty. Therefore, to create the image of a well-groomed girl, you do not need to do complex hairstyles and styling - just such simple procedures as regular washing and combing are enough.

well-groomed hands

A woman's age can almost always be determined by the condition of the skin on her hands and neck. And if the neck is usually not forgotten, paying attention to it along with the face, then the hands often look very deplorable. To care for the skin of the hands, you must regularly perform the following steps:

Moisturize and nourish the skin of the hands every day with the help of various creams. Even lubrication with the simplest baby cream will help make your hands soft and tender.
Do not forget to apply the cream before going out, especially in cold and windy weather, and be sure to wear warm gloves.
Regularly file your nails with a nail file, keeping the length the same. A girl cannot be considered well-groomed if her nails are bitten or they are of different lengths.
The cuticle can be both pushed back and cut off - in this case, it all depends on the preferences of the owner of the manicure. It should be noted that a cut manicure (when the cuticle is removed with tweezers or nippers) is fraught with possible injuries, while an unedged manicure is safer in this regard.
Nail polish can be applied colorless or completely dispensed with. It is important that nails look healthy, clean and beautiful. There is nothing worse than when women try to hide the dirt under their nails with a bright manicure.
From time to time you need to remove the varnish to give the nails a chance to recover. Constant stay under a layer of decorative varnish can lead to various diseases of the nail, up to the occurrence of a fungus, which then will have to be disposed of for a long time.

The mentioned tips are also suitable for foot skin care and pedicure - regular moisturizing of the heels will relieve calluses and corns, and keeping the toenails neat and well-groomed will allow the girl not to be ashamed if she suddenly has to take off her shoes.

The above rules will help any girl look well-groomed at minimal cost, and regular self-care will certainly result in admiring compliments from numerous fans who will definitely appreciate such beauty.

Very often we see unique, bright and independent people. And then questions arise in our heads: “Can I become the same? How to become interesting personality? Be sure there is a way! After all, even if under the influence environment and parental upbringing you grew up shy, this is not a problem, since confidence can always be acquired. With considerable effort, any timid and insecure person can change and become a strong personality.

How to become an interesting person for others

Strength of mind and self-confidence is something that was valued at any time. But how to become a person if these qualities are not there? For such people, there are a number of tips that will give self-confidence and help reveal individuality.

Conversation with yourself

With constant encouragement of oneself, the formation of personality occurs. Once again, try to praise yourself for what you do for yourself and those around you. At the same time, do not overdo it. Also, one should not compare oneself and others, because this has never been beneficial;

Reading biographies of famous and famous people

Such literature is now more than enough. Their stories have repeatedly inspired and will inspire you to great deeds, as well as simply help you learn how to present yourself to others. These examples will allow you to overcome obstacles with confidence and eventually become a strong personality;

Appearance is the key to success

Often the path to becoming a strong personality should begin with work on your appearance. To become an interesting person, make every effort to be attractive anywhere, whether at home, work or an evening walk. This will help you attract the attention of others and add self-confidence. Realizing that you are at the height of confidence will come by itself;

We train speech

A person, in addition to a good appearance, must be able to speak competently and confidently enough. Therefore, try to make your speech bright, competent and emotional. After all, many people know that they will never pay attention to a mumble who speaks indistinctly. Your words must come alive. If your speech is confident, then with it the gait and look that will be inherent in a strong personality will begin to change;

Your opinion

Any dissatisfaction must be expressed directly. After all, remember that only a strong personality can say what she does not like, while not using any workarounds. A clear opinion, independent of others, highlights strong personality and makes her person more colorful compared to weak man.

How to be an interesting conversationalist

All basic properties and features of a particular personality of a person, due to his inclinations, and are fully manifested in his activities. But also this activity depends on the characteristics and nuances of his personality.

It must be remembered that the most important link in the formation of any personality is self-esteem, which is based on the assessment of an individual by outsiders and his assessment of these people. The concept of "personality" is used in a much narrower sense than general concept"Human".

Since the very concept of "man", as a rule, reflects only common features which are inherent in absolutely our entire race, but a personality is a certain specific representative of the human race - an individual, and he is characterized by quite certain - purely individual - social significant features behavior.

When the last phrase is spoken, speech in this case goes about the views inherent in this particular person - the individual - the views, their own beliefs, behavioral characteristics: what this person loves, appreciates how he relates to his own duties and other people, whether he is able to provide all possible assistance, protect, show some care, do some good deed, and so on.

If you want to become an interesting person, keep in mind that everyone who dreams of this must certainly develop the consciousness of the most successful person in themselves. Consciousness of such successful person- this is the state of his mind tuned and opened in a certain way, and at the same time allowing him to see success and all the possibilities.

There is absolutely no room in the mind of such a lucky person to think about failure. At the same time, the loser sees only one obstacle and obstacles on the way to the desired goal. Such a person in everything sees only the shortcomings of ongoing situations.

The vices of the surrounding world, people and, of course, their personality. Quite a few will agree that healthy self-esteem is essential to achieving the necessary adequate understanding of one's self. self-importance, respectively, and for the formation it is enough successful person.

But how can this be achieved? In order to see and, of course, understand the path to adequate self-esteem, let's carefully analyze a number of mechanisms for its formation.

The foundation of our self-esteem is the elements laid down in childhood, and what this very foundation will be, and, accordingly, what kind of self-esteem will be built on this foundation (adequate, excessively low or, on the contrary, overestimated), will largely depend on the previously laid in us life values.

Constantly learn something new for yourself. You may be surprised when you find that yesterday's article, which you read and dedicated to biology, useful to you today in order to create something new or to joke aptly.

Train your imagination the same way bodybuilders train their muscles. To achieve excellence, they visit the gym every day.

To become a creative and interesting person, find a creative solution to any problem! Decide conflict situations, if any, creatively. At first this may seem difficult. However, it will only get more interesting in the future.

Don't be afraid of anything! Many of us are quite dependent on the surrounding opinion. This is one of worst enemies on the way to creativity.

If you want to become creative personality sign up for courses acting skills. The skills and knowledge that acting classes provide will work like a springboard that will allow you to look at everything that surrounds you in a completely different way.

Stop listening to sad and dull music! As a rule, such music brings back memories, and it seems that the moment of "NOW" quietly slips away. And with it, the possibilities of something new slip away.

The author was saying: Do I like to WRITE a screenplay or do I want to WRITE a screenplay? Feel the difference? Wish instant result Or do you like the process? In the case when you like the process itself, it will be an indescribable pleasure to bring in newer creative and interesting ideas.

Hobbies will help you become an interesting person. If your activity does not inspire you at all, think up some kind of hobby for yourself, unless of course it already exists. To become a creative person, take some time to figure out what you really like to do, and once you decide, start creating in this area. This wasted time will probably make a fantastic upheaval in your life. There will be much more knowledge on how to become a creative person.

Bring your creative ideas to life! It happens that a brilliant idea comes to you, but there is no time to put it into practice, it is scary or reluctant. But time will pass and this brilliant idea will no longer seem so brilliant and courage will not appear to bring it to life. And after some time, you suddenly find that someone has already implemented your idea. It just turned out to be braver, but we have already said above that there is no need to be afraid of anything!

Improvise! Don't be afraid to be different. Experiment with your options.

Really, bright people attract everyone. I want to communicate with such people, to make new achievements. But what if you, from childhood, did not try to stand out from the crowd and there you won the title of “black crow”? Please learn how to become bright. You are simply not noticed by others, and you want to quickly withdraw into yourself and forget yourself forever. Don't think that you are the only one. There is a way out of this wonderful situation. Read on!

First steps...

1. Take the first step towards fear first! Finally stop attracting only yourself. Get out of the darkest corner. You can be a bright girl, you can be very beautiful and charming, so why are you afraid of something. Stupidity. Every day you meet many people with whom you would love to talk. So you will talk to him, you yourself will not even notice how easily and pleasantly the time will pass.

Time is fleeting, and you don’t notice it especially when you enjoy something wildly. Drink delicious tea, do any business. Then your friends become: happiness, smiles. It's nice, this very moment comes often, and you don't even notice how a couple of hours have already passed.

2. Be natural at this very time, sincerely wish the person all the brightest. Listen to your interlocutor, if you interest him in something, then this will be a huge plus. He wants to see your eyes and face again. Such is human psychology. If you get something in another place, then, as usual, it becomes an ordinary place. That's where divorce comes from.

If the first time you didn’t manage to communicate, then you should not be upset. Your brightness and individuality will attract a lot more good people. Seek and you will succeed. So, figured it out, this was the first and main step.

3. What is the most important thing to remember? Don't waste your precious energy on empty people. And if you really like someone, then anyway, in any case, try to stay in harmony with yourself. Do not leave to chance, control even the smallest details of life.

4. Review your social circle. At the sight of all this, can you realize that these people are able to appreciate and respect you? Can you, with your current charisma and ardor, lure something, bewitch? Try to identify in yourself those qualities that you can boast of in right moment apply to your advantage until you reach what you will see that the question of how to become bright is not difficult.

You should be a kind of magnet, approaching which you can feel dependent on you. Be unique in any enterprise. If it’s great, it turns out to tell fascinating stories, act. There is a high probability that they will follow such a bright line and obey.

Found that your company does not suit you? Get away from it. Find those who are smarter.

5. Choose bright clothes for yourself. Get up early while everyone is sleeping. What if you looked in the mirror, you blushed and caught fire with an unusual burning desire to make your appearance even better. Motivation is the strongest and most powerful. Do not just be horrified if you feel discomfort inside. This is temporary and only shows that you are moving in the right direction.

6. Leave all your past. What can be found there? Nothing but disappointment. But after all, you survived all this, gained experience and now you can live a new, magical life that will not be like your past. Are there any more gray tones, gloomy moods in your memory? Take care of it, replace it all with a new, pleasant meeting with a person. Drop everything and move on to something new. In any fold of the body, thoughts, look for dignity. So few people do, be the first.

7. Show others by example. Discover something new in ordinary things. It's your friend's birthday. The most ordinary day, but it can turn into a bright and fabulous phenomenon. It's nice to start. become bright various competitions will help you, communication with each other will bind your friendship with eternal ties of love and grace.

Beautiful voice. Let anyone you meet be willing to express your opinion, and could help with advice on how to act in any situation. Bright is smart girls who can represent themselves with dignity and in no case let certain people underestimate your self-esteem. What you think about yourself is your thoughts. No one decides for you how to behave in a critical and acute situation. Such independent personalities excite the minds of men. Many poems and songs are dedicated to them. But there is only one secret: the independence and steadfastness of their opinion,.

It's good when you know what your place under the so-called sun, no one will take. You can navigate with confidence and draw the right conclusions. Who can entertain the company? Only you, offer those ways that others cannot offer. You give all this mass a piece of your priceless time, they show you respect and honor. No matter how ridiculous it may sound, but this factor appears before us as a "key to success", gives us hope, and not burn out in the usual place.

8. On one only brilliant appearance you will not leave. It just so happens that the “genius” lives in everyone, but it shines differently for everyone. When you get too arrogant, it goes out, and there is not even hope for recovery. You probably managed to observe "free birds" in your life. They can evoke delight in the listeners with just one glance! And look oh so good. Due to its beauty, you can easily move on career ladder. In humans, the ancient instinct works flawlessly. What glitters, you reach for. How highly you value yourself, and still do just to keep up, not paying attention to shortcomings, then you achieve instant and fiery success!

In conclusion, we can say that you need to start, first of all, with yourself. Don't blame others. Something happened, even if you are not to blame, mentally shift the blame onto yourself. You will be able to look at the very root, you will quickly learn the very process that controls your life. Emotions! Don't forget about them! Be always positive, mysterious, funny!

I wish you endless luck! Do I need to experience for myself how to become bright? We need to do this right now! Let the consciousness that all people will talk about you every minute will give you determination. Be a memorable person!

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There are thousands, if not millions, of answers to this question! Books, movies, fashion magazines and websites, as well as celebrities, bloggers, designers, stylists - everyone can suggest and advise something! And how to understand such a sea of opinions?

A few rules for a spectacular image

Look spectacular and expensive - how is it? Let's try to figure it out!

A spectacular woman is snatched out among all the others, she remains in the memory! I want to look at her!
An effective woman is perceived as beautiful. Not necessarily a "glossy" beauty! But this is the beauty that is interesting - I want to look longer and unravel the secret: why is this woman so impressive?
A spectacular woman looks (and dresses) for her age. She is not perceived as “youthful” or striving to “grow up” rather.
Her image carries a specific idea, has a certain character. One can unmistakably say about her what she is today, what she wants to show herself to the audience - active, creative, sexy, emotional, feminine? ..
Spectacular image - solid, harmonious and complete. There are no obviously superfluous details in it, but there is also no impression that something is missing.
But you can say it's all beautiful words, but what exactly to do with your appearance in order to look spectacular?

Our site has prepared quite specific recommendations for you:

Clean well-groomed skin, nails and hair are the basis, without which spectacularity is unattainable. Grooming does not necessarily mean super-rejuvenation or some unusual extensions, coloring, etc.! It is enough that there are no redness, black spots and other troubles on the face, and split ends on the hair, the haircut does not grow into incomprehensible tatters, there would be no peeling varnish on the nails, and all the nails were of the same shape that suits you.
Evaluate your external data objectively. If the hair is thin and not thick, then it is better to wear an interesting haircut than to suffer with styling that imitates volume on thin long hair. If your problem is completeness, then it is better to open the neckline, but avoid the mini. Etc. There are a lot of rules on how to hide flaws and present advantages as effectively as possible - use them!
An effective woman does not wear low-quality things! A simple linen thing looks much more impressive than consumer goods from synthetic Chinese "satin"! High-quality accessories are especially important!
Makeup is needed. At least the minimum. Study your face, experiment, go to a professional makeup artist at least once! You should know what make-up accents make your face fresher, and your eyes wide open and radiant! The minimum makeup that suits most women is black mascara, lip gloss natural shade without pearl. The best thing is to learn how to do the make-up that suits you “on autopilot”, and go naked only when it is objectively inappropriate.
Whatever your hair length, do at least minimal styling. Long hair can be straightened or curled, shoulder-length hair can be volumized with a hairdryer and a round brush, short hair (if it does not hold a haircut by itself) must be styled with fixatives.

What clothes will help you look spectacular?

Of course, one article is not enough to give recommendations on what to wear when various types figures, appearance color types, etc.
In addition, to look spectacular means to have your own good taste and style in clothes! But here are some tips to help you:
Don't know what to wear? Maxi dress is almost a win-win option, it will always draw attention to your image!
Heels "pull" most of the images, they look spectacular on any legs! The main condition is that you can move normally on them and maintain a beautiful gait.
If you open the top (arms, shoulders or décolleté) - the bottom should be closed (not short). And vice versa.
The golden rule is that you should not combine more than three different colors in one image.
There are things that require a perfect figure. If this is not entirely true in your case, discard them! These are: skirts shorter than 20 cm above the knee, tops that open lower part belly, capris and cropped trousers, tops and sundresses with thin spaghetti straps, tight-fitting knitted dresses.
If there is metal in the image (jewelry, accessories, handbag and / or shoe accessories) - make sure that the metal is the same shade everywhere. Gold and silver cannot be mixed (even if it is an obvious fake-imitation). The same applies to shiny decorative elements - sequins, embroidery with silver or gold thread, rhinestones, etc.
White color in the image is always refreshing, and at the same time emphasizes other colors (bright and dark).

But the main rule of how to look spectacular is that you should like yourself! Your reflection in the mirror should make you think "Damn it, I'm beautiful!" (and not “Oh come on, that’s fine…”)!

Please yourself - and be sure to make an impact on others!