What feelings does the person experience? The ability to feel is the main wealth of a person.

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Hello dear reader. In order to show the relevance of our today's conversation, I want you to stop reading the article for a few moments and answer the question: “What emotions do you this moment are you experiencing?"
Thought? Answered?

Now let's see what problems often arise when answering this question.

Many people answer such a question as follows: “Yes, I don’t feel any particular emotions now, everything is fine.” Does this mean that there really are no emotions? Or does it just mean that a person is poorly aware of his emotional condition? The fact is that a person always experiences emotions, every moment of his life. Sometime they reach a high intensity, and sometime their intensity is low. Many people only pay attention to the strong emotional experiences, and emotions of low intensity do not attach any importance and even do not notice them at all. However, if emotions are not very strong, this does not mean that they are absent.
Another possible answer to the question posed is: “Somehow I feel uncomfortable. I feel uncomfortable." We see that a person is aware that there are unpleasant emotions inside, but he cannot name which ones. Maybe it's irritation, or maybe disappointment or guilt, or maybe something else.
Often our question is answered in a similar way: "I feel like it's time for me to get up from the computer and get down to business" or "I feel that this article can be useful to me." Many people confuse their emotions with thoughts and desire to do something. When trying to describe their emotional state, they describe anything but emotions.

Meditation exercise for understanding emotions

In my work with clients, I often use meditation exercise helping to better understand own emotions. It is so effective that I decided to make an audio recording so that anyone can use this technique. The mechanism of action of the exercise is based on the connection of emotions and bodily reactions. Any, even the most insignificant, emotion has its reflection in the body (read more about this). By learning to listen to your own bodily reactions, you can become more familiar with your emotions.

You can do the exercise right now. Here is the entry:

Once you have learned what emotions are and how to easily describe your internal state You may be interested in a deeper exploration of yourself. For example, you might want to know which positive meaning can carry emotions that, at first glance, are absolutely meaningless and even harmful. Read about it in the next

To understand what feelings are, you need to understand by what criteria they can be evaluated. Criteria is another basis for classification.

Criteria serve to ensure that experiences can be measured, characterized and called a word, that is, defined.

There are three criteria for feelings:

valency (tone);
intensity (strength);
sthenicity (activity or passivity).

The table of feelings No. 1 allows you to characterize any complex experience:

For example, a person may experience a positive strong sthenic experience. It could be love. If the intensity of sensations is weak, it is just sympathy.

The table of feelings, characterizing experiences, does not allow us to call them a word. The name can only be guessed. A person does not always have enough knowledge and experience to decide how to correctly name the emotional excitement experienced. This is not surprising, since there are a lot of them. However, some people cannot even name ten feelings, and yet so many, on average, a person experiences every day.

The third basis for classifying socially conditioned experiences is based on the underlying emotion.

American psychologist Paul Ekman identified seven basic emotions:

joy;
sadness;
anger;
fear;
astonishment;
disgust;
contempt.

The table of feelings No. 2 involves the search for the name of the experienced emotional experience, starting from the first four basic emotions:

BASIC EMOTION	DERIVATIVES
Fear	Anxiety, confusion, panic, nervousness, distrust, uncertainty, insecurity, apprehension, embarrassment, anxiety, doubt and others.
Sadness	Apathy, despair, guilt, resentment, concern, sadness, depression, weakness, shame, boredom, longing, depression, fatigue and others.
Anger	Aggression, rage, disgust, rage, anger, envy, hatred, discontent, disgust, intolerance, disgust, contempt, neglect, jealousy, annoyance, cynicism and others.
Joy	Cheerfulness, bliss, delight, dignity, trust, curiosity, relief, revival, optimism, peace, happiness, peace, confidence, satisfaction, love, tenderness, sympathy, euphoria, ecstasy and others.

The second table of feelings complements the first. Using these two, one can understand what kind of power has taken possession of the mind and heart, how to describe and call it. And this is the first step towards awareness.

List of moral, intellectual, aesthetic feelings

To the question: “what are the feelings”, each person can give his own answer. Someone often experiences strong and deep feelings, while for someone they are light and short. The ability to feel depends on temperament, character, principles, priorities and life experience personality.

Most often, feelings are classified depending on the sphere in which the object of experience is located:

Moral

These are sympathy and antipathy, respect and contempt, affection and alienation, love and hatred, as well as feelings of gratitude, collectivism, friendship and conscience. They arise in relation to the actions of other people or their own.

They are conditioned by moral norms accepted in society and acquired by the individual in the process of socialization, as well as his views, beliefs, worldview. If someone else's or one's actions correspond to moral standards, satisfaction arises; if not, indignation arises.

intellectual

A person also has such experiences that arise in the process mental activity or in connection with its result: joy, satisfaction from the process and result of work, discovery, invention. It is also inspiration and bitterness from failure.

aesthetic

Emotional unrest arises when perceiving or creating something beautiful. A person experiences incredible sensations when he sees the beauty of the Earth or the power of natural phenomena.

A person feels a sense of beauty when looking at a small child or an adult harmoniously built person. beautiful works art and other creations of human hands can cause delight and spiritual uplift.

Since this classification does not reveal the entire palette of feelings, it is customary to classify them for several more reasons.

What is the difference between feelings and emotions

All people experience soul feelings and unrest, but not everyone knows how to name them and express them in words. But it is precisely the knowledge of what feelings are that helps not only to correctly determine, but also to control, manage them.

Feelings are a complex of experiences associated with people, objects or events. They express a subjective evaluative attitude towards real or abstract objects.

People in everyday life and some psychologists use the words "feelings" and "emotions" as synonymous words. Others say that feelings are a kind of emotions, namely higher emotions. Still others share these concepts: emotions are classified as mental states and feelings to mental properties.

Yes, there is a direct relationship between them, because they are human experiences. Without mental unrest, the individual would not live, but exist. They fill life with meaning, make it diverse.

But still, there are significant differences between feelings and emotions:

Emotions are the body's innate and instinctive responses to change. environment feelings are social experiences developed in the process of upbringing and learning. A person learns to feel, everyone knows how to express emotions from the moment of birth.
Emotions are difficult to control by willpower, feelings are easier to manage, despite their complexity and ambiguity. Most of them arise in a person's mind, emotions are often not recognized, as they are associated with the need to satisfy an instinctive need.
The feeling changes, develops and fades away, varies in strength, manifests itself in different ways, can develop into its opposite, emotion is a certain reaction. For example, if a person feels hatred for another person, it is possible that this experience will develop into love, and the emotion of fear is always fear, regardless of the object (it can be unreasonable). Fear is either there or it isn't.
Emotions have no subject correlation, feelings do. They are experienced in relation to something or someone differently. For example, loving a child is not the same as loving a spouse. And for example, bewilderment is always expressed in the same way, regardless of what specifically causes it.
Feelings are a stronger motivator than emotions. They encourage, inspire, push to commit acts in relation to the object to which they are directed. Emotions only give rise to actions in the form of responses.
Emotions are short and superficial, albeit vivid manifestations, and feelings are always complex and strong emotional disturbances.

It can be difficult to determine when a combination of emotions will give rise to a feeling, and what higher experience is expressed in a particular series of emotional manifestations. These are close, accompanying phenomena, but still they need to be distinguished. A person is responsible for his highest emotions and for the actions that they entail.

How to manage your feelings

When strong feelings and worries take possession of a person, even if they are positive, the psychological balance is disturbed.

For mental health and well-being, you need to be able to moderately both rejoice at positive feelings, and be upset by negative ones.

To cope with excessive sentiments that prevent you from responding adequately and acting reasonably, you need to:

Characterize emotional sensations: determine valency, intensity, sthenicity (Table of feelings No. 1).
Determine the underlying emotion. Choose what the experience is more like: fear, sadness, anger or joy (Table of Feelings No. 2).
Decide on the name and try to understand the experiences on your own.

Sometimes spiritual impulses take possession of a person so much that he literally can neither sleep nor eat. Prolonged strong experiences are stressful for the body. It is not for nothing that nature intended that even a bright period of falling in love, when the blood is oversaturated with adrenaline, oxytocin and dopamine, does not last long, developing into a calm and thorough love.

Each person must have his own table of feelings if he wants to be a conscious person.

The eternal dispute between the mind and the heart is the question of the ability to regulate emotional, sensual impulses through the mind.

Experiencing deep and powerful experiences, a person lives life to the fullest. Limiting your sensitivity is unwise, and sometimes simply impossible. It's all about what experiences a person chooses: positive or negative, deep or superficial, real or fake.

Everything that a person encounters in his life evokes this or that attitude in him. A certain attitude of a person is manifested even to individual qualities and properties of surrounding objects. The sphere of feelings includes annoyance and patriotism, joy and fear, delight and grief.

Feelings are those experienced in different form relationship of man to objects and phenomena of reality. Human life unbearable without experiences, if a person is deprived of the opportunity to experience feelings, then the so-called “emotional hunger” sets in, which he seeks to satisfy by listening to his favorite music, reading an action-packed book, etc. Moreover, emotional saturation requires not only positive feelings, but also feelings associated with suffering.

most developed and complex shape emotional processes in humans, these are feelings that represent not only an emotional, but also a conceptual reflection.

Feelings are formed throughout a person's life in conditions. Feelings that respond to higher social needs, are called higher feelings. For example, love for the Motherland, for one's people, for one's city, for other people. They are characterized by the complexity of the structure, great strength, duration, stability, independence from specific situations and from the state of the body. Such an example is the mother's love for her child, the mother can get angry with the child, be dissatisfied with his behavior, punish, but all this does not affect her feeling, which remains strong and relatively stable.

The complexity of higher feelings is determined by their complex structure. That is, they are made up of several different, and sometimes opposite emotions, which, as it were, crystallize on a certain subject. For example, falling in love is less complicated feeling than love, since in addition to falling in love, the latter implies tenderness, friendship, affection, jealousy and other emotions that produce a feeling of love that cannot be expressed in words.

Depending on the nature of the relationship of a person to various objects social environment the main types of higher feelings are singled out: moral, praxical, intellectual, aesthetic.

moral feelings a person experiences in relation to society, other people, as well as to himself, such as a sense of patriotism, friendship, love, conscience, which regulate interpersonal relationships.

Feelings that are associated with the implementation of a person and other activities are called praxic. They arise in the process of activity in connection with its success or failure. Positive praxic feelings include industriousness, pleasant fatigue, a sense of enthusiasm for work, satisfaction from the work done. With the predominance of negative praxic feelings, a person perceives labor as hard labor.

Certain types of work, teaching, some games require intense mental activity. The process of mental activity is accompanied by intellectual emotions. If they acquire the qualities of stability and stability, they appear as intellectual feelings: curiosity, joy of discovering the truth, surprise, doubt.

The feelings that a person experiences when creating beauty in life and in art are called aesthetic. Aesthetic feelings are brought up through familiarization with nature, admiring the forest, the sun, the river, etc. In order to comprehend the laws of beauty and harmony, it is useful for children to engage in drawing, dancing, music and other types of artistic activities.

Over the course of human development, a special shape mental reflection significant objects and events - emotions. The same object or event triggers different people different emotions, because everyone has their own, specific attitude.

Emotions are the subjective reactions of a person to the influence of external and internal stimuli, reflecting in the form of experiences their personal significance for the subject and manifested in the form of pleasure or displeasure.

In the narrow sense of the word, emotions are the immediate, temporary experience of some kind of feeling. So, if we consider the feelings experienced by the fans on the stadium stands and sports in general (the feeling of love for football, hockey, tennis), then these experiences cannot be called an emotion. Emotions here will be represented by the state of pleasure, admiration that a fan experiences when watching a good game.

Functions and types of emotions

Emotions were recognized as an important positive role in people's lives, and the following positive functions were associated with them: motivational-regulating, communicative, signaling and protective.

Motivation-regulating function is that emotions are involved in the motivation of human behavior, can induce, direct and regulate. Sometimes emotions can replace thinking in the regulation of behavior.

Communicative function lies in the fact that emotions, more precisely, the ways of their outer expression, carry information about mental and physical condition person. Thanks to emotions, we understand each other better. Observing changes in emotional states, it becomes possible to judge what is happening in the psyche. Comment: people belonging to different cultures able to accurately perceive and evaluate many expressions human face, to determine from it such emotions as joy, anger, sadness, fear, disgust, surprise. This also applies to those peoples who have never been in direct contact with each other.

Signal function. Life without emotions is just as impossible as without. Emotions, argued Ch. Darwin, arose in the process of evolution as a means by which living beings establish the significance of certain conditions to meet their urgent needs. Emotionally expressive movements (facial expressions, gestures, pantomime) serve as signals about the state of the system of human needs.

Protective function It is expressed in the fact that, arising as an instantaneous, quick reaction of the body, it can protect a person from dangers.

It has been found that the more complex the organized creature The higher the step on the evolutionary ladder it occupies, the richer and more varied the range of emotions that it is able to experience.

The nature of the experience (pleasure or displeasure) determines the sign of emotions - positive and negative. From the point of view of the impact on human activity, emotions are divided into sthenic and asthenic. Sthenic emotions stimulate activity, increase the energy and tension of a person, induce him to actions, statements. Popular expression: ready to move mountains. And, conversely, sometimes experiences are characterized by a kind of stiffness, passivity, then they talk about asthenic emotions. Therefore, depending on the situation and individual characteristics Emotions can influence behavior in different ways. So, grief can cause apathy, inactivity in weak man, while the strong man redoubles his energy, finding solace in work and creativity.

Modality- main quality characteristic emotions, which determines their type according to the specificity and special coloring of experiences. Three basic emotions are distinguished by modality: fear, anger and joy. With all the diversity, almost any emotion is a kind of expression of one of these emotions. Anxiety, anxiety, fear, horror are various manifestations of fear; malice, irritability, rage - anger; fun, rejoicing, triumph - joy.

K. Izard identified the following main emotions

Interest(as an emotion) - a positive emotional state that contributes to the development of skills and abilities, the acquisition of knowledge.

Joy- a positive emotional state associated with the ability to sufficiently fully satisfy the actual need, the probability of which up to this point was small or, in any case, uncertain.

Astonishment- an emotional reaction that does not have a clearly expressed positive or negative sign to sudden circumstances. Surprise inhibits all previous emotions, directing attention to the object that caused it, and can turn into interest.

Suffering- a negative emotional state associated with the received reliable or apparent information about the impossibility of satisfying the most important vital needs, which up to this point seemed more or less likely, most often occurs in the form of emotional stress.

Anger- an emotional state, negative in sign, as a rule, proceeding in the form of affect and caused by the sudden appearance of a serious obstacle to satisfying an extremely important need for the subject.

Disgust- a negative emotional state caused by objects (objects, people, circumstances), contact with which ( physical interaction, communication in communication, etc.) comes into sharp conflict with the ideological, moral or aesthetic principles and attitudes of the subject. Disgust, if combined with anger, may interpersonal relationships motivate aggressive behavior, where the attack is motivated by anger, and disgust is motivated by the desire to get rid of someone or something.

Contempt- a negative emotional state that occurs in interpersonal relationships and is generated by a mismatch of life positions, views and behavior of the subject with life positions, attitudes and behavior of the object of feeling. The latter are presented to the subject as base, not corresponding to the accepted moral standards and aesthetic criteria.

Fear- a negative emotional state that appears when the subject receives information about a possible threat to his life well-being, about a real or imagined danger. Unlike the emotion of suffering caused by direct blocking of the most important needs, a person experiencing the emotion of fear has only a probabilistic forecast of possible trouble and acts on the basis of this (often an insufficiently reliable or exaggerated forecast).

Shame- a negative state, expressed in the awareness of the inconsistency of one's own thoughts, actions and appearance not only with the expectations of others, but also own ideas about proper behavior and appearance.

Emotions are also characterized by strength, duration and awareness. The range of differences in the strength of internal experience and external manifestations is very large for an emotion of any modality. Joy can manifest itself as a weak emotion, for example, when a person experiences a feeling of satisfaction. Delight is an emotion of greater power. Anger ranges from irritability and resentment to hatred and rage, and fear ranges from mild anxiety to terror. Emotions last from a few seconds to many years in duration. The degree of awareness of emotions can also be different. Sometimes it is difficult for a person to understand what emotion he is experiencing and why it arises.

Emotional experiences are ambiguous. The same object can evoke inconsistent, conflicting emotions. This phenomenon has been named ambivalence(duality) of feelings. For example, you can respect someone for their hard work and at the same time condemn them for their temper.

The qualities that characterize each specific emotional reaction can be combined in various ways, which creates many-sided forms of their expression. The main forms of manifestation of emotions are sensual tone, situational emotion, affect, passion, stress, mood and feeling.

Sensual tone is expressed in the fact that many human sensations have their own emotional coloring. That is, people do not just feel any smell or taste, but perceive it as pleasant or unpleasant. Images of perception, memory, thinking, imagination are also emotionally colored. A. N. Leontiev considered one of essential qualities human knowledge a phenomenon that he called the “bias” of the reflection of the world.

Situational emotions arise in the process of human life more often than all other emotional reactions. Their main characteristics are considered to be relatively small strength, short duration, quick change of emotions, low external visibility.

Humans have five basic senses: touch, sight, hearing, smell and taste. The interconnected sense organs send information to the brain to help us understand and. People also have other senses in addition to the main five. Here's how they work.

People have many senses. But traditionally the five human senses are recognized as sight, hearing, taste, smell and touch. There is also the ability to detect stimuli other than those regulated by these most widely recognized senses, and these sensory modalities include temperature (thermal detection), kinesthetic sense (proprioception), pain (nociception), balance, vibration (mechanoception), and various internal stimuli (e.g. , different chemoreceptors for detecting salt concentration and carbon dioxide in the blood, hunger and thirst).

Having made these remarks, let's look at the basic five human senses:

The sense of touch is considered the first sense that humans develop, according to the Stanford Encyclopedia. The sense of touch consists of several different sensations transmitted to the brain through specialized neurons in the skin. Pressure, temperature, light touch, vibration, pain and other sensations are part of the sense of touch and are all attributed to various receptors on the skin.

Touch is not just a sense used to interact with the world; it also seems to be very important for a person's well-being. For example, touch as compassion of one person to another.

This is the sense by which we distinguish the various qualities of bodies: such as warmly and cold, hardness and softness, roughness and smoothness.

Seeing or perceiving with the eyes is a complex process. First, light is reflected from the object to the eye. The transparent outer layer of the eye, called the cornea, bends light as it passes through the pupil. The pupil (which is the colored part of the eye) acts like a camera shutter, shrinking to let in less light or opening wider to let in more light.

The cornea focuses most light, and then the light passes through the lens, which continues to focus the light.

The lens of the eye then bends the light and focuses it on the retina, which is full nerve cells. These cells are shaped like rods and cones and are named after their shapes. The cones translate light into colors, central vision and detail. The wands also give people vision when there is limited light, such as at night. The information translated from the light is sent as electrical impulses to the brain via the optic nerve.

Hearing works through the complex labyrinth that is the human ear. Sound is directed through the outer ear and fed into the external auditory canal. Then sound waves reach the eardrum. It's a thin sheet connective tissue, which vibrates when sound waves reach it.

Vibrations travel to the middle ear. The auditory ossicles vibrate there—three tiny bones called the malleus (hammer), incus (anvil), and stapes (stirrup).

People maintain their sense of balance because the eustachian tube, or pharyngo-matian tube, in the middle ear equalizes air pressure with atmospheric pressure. The vestibular complex in the inner ear is also important for balance because it contains receptors that regulate the sense of balance. The inner ear is connected to the vestibulocochlear nerve, which transmits sound and balance information to the brain.

The sense of smell, through which we distinguish odors, different kinds which convey different impressions to the mind. The organs of animal and vegetable origin, as well as most other bodies, when exposed to air, constantly send out odors, as well as a state of life and growth, as in a state of fermentation and putrefaction. These effluvia, drawn into the nostrils along with the air, are the means by which all bodies exude.

According to researchers, humans can smell more than 1 trillion scents. They do this with the olfactory fissure, which is located at the top of the nasal cavity, next to the olfactory bulb and fossa. The nerve endings in the olfactory fissure transmit odors to the brain.

In fact, a poor sense of smell in humans may be a symptom of a medical condition or aging. For example, a distorted or reduced ability to smell is a symptom of schizophrenia and depression. Old age can also reduce this ability. According to data published in 2006 by the National Institutes of Health, more than 75 percent of people over the age of 80 may have severe olfactory disorders.

Taste is usually classified into the perception of four different tastes: salty, sweet, sour, and bitter. There may be many other flavors that have not yet been discovered. In addition, spicy, the taste is not.

The sense of taste helps people to check the food they eat. A bitter or sour taste indicates that the plant may be poisonous or rotten. Something salty or sweet, however, often means the food is rich in nutrients.

Taste is felt in the taste buds. Adults have between 2,000 and 4,000 taste buds. Most of them are on the tongue, but they also extend the back of the throat, epiglottis, nasal cavity, and esophagus.

It is a myth that language has special zones for every flavor. The five tastes can be felt in all parts of the tongue, although the sides are more sensitive than the middle. About half of the sensory cells in taste buds respond to several of the five basic tastes.

Cells differ in the level of sensitivity. Each has a specific palette of flavors with a fixed ranking, so some cells may be more sensitive to sweet, followed by bitter, sour, and salty. Full picture flavor is produced only after all the information from different parts language is merged.

In this painting by Pietro Paolini, each individual represents one of the five human senses.

sixth sense of man

In addition to the traditional big five, there is a sixth human sense, the sense of space, which is about how the brain understands where your body is in space. This sense is called proprioception.

Proprioception involves the sense of movement and position of our limbs and muscles. For example, proprioception allows a person to touch the tip of their nose with their finger even when their eyes are closed. This allows a person to climb the steps without looking at each one. People with poor proprioception can be clumsy.

Researchers from National Institute health (NIH) found that people who have particularly poor proprioception, such as the feeling when someone is pressing on your skin, (may have a mutated gene that is passed down from generation to generation) may not work, so their neurons cannot detect touch or limb movements.

People's Feelings: List

Here is a list of other human senses regarding the main five senses:

Pressure
Temperature
Thirst
Hunger
Direction
Time
muscle tension
Proprioception (the ability to recognize your body in detail, relative to other body parts)
Sense of balance (the ability to balance and feel the movement of the body in terms of acceleration and change of direction)
Stretch receptors (these are found in places such as the lungs, bladder, stomach, blood vessels, and gastrointestinal tract.)
Chemoreceptors (This is the medulla oblongata trigger in the brain that is involved in detecting blood. It is also involved in reflex vomiting.)

Subtle human feelings

There are more subtle feelings a person that most people never perceive. For example, there are neuron sensors that sense movement to control balance and head tilt. Specific kinesthetic receptors exist to detect stretch in muscles and tendons, helping people keep track of their limbs. Other receptors detect oxygen levels in certain blood flow arteries.

Sometimes people don't even perceive feelings in the same way. For example, people with synesthesia may see sounds as colors or associate certain sights with smells.

Emotions do play huge role in human life - this is one of the foundations of our existence, without which a person will no longer be himself. They do not add pluses to the interlocutor, but sometimes it is very difficult to restrain emotions. That is why we want to tell you how to better deal with negative emotions, and tell you a little about what they are and their role in communicating with a person.

It should be understood that the causes of negative emotions can be very different, but most often they hide suppressed dissatisfaction with oneself. Depending on the irritation factor, types of negative emotions can manifest themselves when faced with triggers. How to deal with them and keep the splash under control negative energy so as not to harm others and your health? Let's try to understand all these issues.

Negative emotions in human communication and their role

Emotions accompany a person throughout life, starting from birth. And from the very early childhood we learn to deal with negativity and look at life lightly, with humor and a big smile. Unfortunately, in life, not everything always happens the way we want, and it can be very difficult to control ourselves and our feelings. negative emotions in human communication they do not leave a chance for success - they do not give us a chance to become happy and successful, taking all our strength and energy for unreasonable anger and swearing with others.

You should be aware of the role of negative emotions in human communication - you should not constantly make excuses or justify your actions. If you just apologize for the mistake, the result will be much better. Every time you blame someone - you give the person control over their emotions, you allow him to control them, leaving you angry and insecure inside yourself.

Causes of negative emotions and how to deal with them

To become truly happy man, you need to set yourself a goal: to free your inner world from negative emotions - fear, anger, hatred, jealousy, revenge and greed. But they do not arise just like that, but are most often due to certain factors. The most common causes of negative emotions found in a modern person:

rationalization and justification. Often this is just a defense, explaining an unacceptable action with acceptable explanations. It's like trying to create beautiful swan from the ugly duckling. That explanation sounds very, very good, even when what you did was the exact opposite of what you said. This action keeps the negative emotions inside you. To avoid this, you need to stop making excuses for everything you do. You, like any other person, have the right to make mistakes - we all live for the first time. And do not wind yourself up, constantly reminding yourself of one oversight.

Hypersensitivity. You understand that everything you do is a desire to earn the respect of others or not to lose it. And what do we get as a result? Your biggest concern is what people will think or say about you. Even more: for some people, all self-esteem is determined by how other people interact with them. Their foundations and values are based on the opinions of others, which are constantly changing and very, very subjective. As a result, if these opinions are negative, we let negativity into our lives and negative emotions start dancing in your life. Exit from such vicious circle quite simple: the next time a wave of depression hits you or bad mood- try to understand the reason for what is happening and learn to be above the opinions of others about you. Such a skill will save you a lot of nerves and charge you with a good mood for a long time. So it's time to form your value system and your self-esteem.

Justifying your feelings. If you justify your negative emotions by the fact that you have the right to experience them, it will cause the opposite effect, they will simply flood your inner world.

And it will be oh how difficult to be saved with such a motto. Good example: You failed the test. After that, you are very angry with the examiner and justify your anger by describing all the reasons why you failed this test. Some go so far as to raise the issue of higher authorities. And as long as you continue to act in this way, your negative emotions will not go anywhere, I will say more further, they will increase like a snowball. What if you say, “Well, I failed the test, but I'm not the first to do so. I better start preparing now and try to pass in a week.” Now the negativity recedes, paving the way positive emotions, good mood and focus you on achieving your goal. Your activities will become more effective after you stop making excuses for yourself.

Now you know what causes negative emotions and how you can easily deal with them by controlling your psychological state.

Types of negative emotions and their control

Negative emotions, like positive ones, can be completely different. And here are some views and their controls:

fear - we calculate the options;
feeling of guilt - let go;
anger - we take the place of the culprit;
depression - looking for positive aspects in the established position;
pride - we recognize the merits and dignity of the people around us;
jealousy - we recognize the right of freedom of choice for another person;
self-pity - we cultivate pride in our strengths and capabilities;
increased anxiety - relaxation and switching attention to more pleasant moments;
resentment - forget and forgive;
envy - we strive to achieve the same success;
disappointment - looking for something new in life;
shame - you need to admit the thought that nothing ends there;