Rovshan Askerov: “A person needs to be in love. Endless feeling of joy

Against the background of all the others, Natalya Sergeevna stands out. You could even say it stands apart. And the point is not only in inexperience and young age (Genka has already noticed more than once the glances of high school students thrown at her during breaks), but also in its basis. The basis of Svetlana Mikhailovna is clarity and standardization, by which she evaluates the compositions of students: she wrote a couple of stereotyped, generally accepted phrases - “five”, you start to climb with your thoughts, reasoning, views - a maximum of “three” with a big, big minus, climbing beyond the margins of the notebook . The basis of Ilya Semenovich is the strict frame of his glasses and an old, shabby volume (I think Klyuchevsky) on desk. And behind the thick glass of glasses - eyes, gray-blue, always thoughtful, as if he was not here, not in the history office, but somewhere in the eighteenth or nineteenth century. Only then does his gaze clear, and the corners of his lips barely noticeably rise when a figure in a black sweater flashes through the crowd of the corridor - "Natasha ...".

But the basis of Natasha is different. Genka feels this on a subconscious level, on which he also experiences Rita's dry, short answers, thrown so casually, in between times, and every word from his poems, which he deduces, not paying attention to blots, in an empty park after school.

Natasha (“Natalya Sergeevna,” Genka mentally corrects himself) periodically flickers dark curls and a broad smile between the uneven lines of poetry, and the ninth-grader cannot help himself. And what are you actually going to do here? Do not throw away the sheet, especially since the sketches come out really good. Sometimes it seems to Genka that if you look at them for a long time, the lips of the drawn Natasha will open, laugh, and say: “Good morning, children! .. How do you do? .. Sit down, please! ..”.

When he closes his eyes, completely focusing on the image of a young English teacher, it seems to him that here she is - her basis - on the surface, it is felt almost physically, you just stretch out your hand. It is more sublime than others, but at the same time more understandable, closer, and the soul perceives it differently. Tremulously, tenderly, fading, - really? .. Did you find it? .. Is it really in this wide world there is a person who... Then the soul shudders, remembering Rita by inertia, but Genk cannot continue. Words are not enough. He cannot pick up one such capacious, whole, in order to fully describe what kind of person he is, who are few in this world, and to find whom is a huge treasure. It goes beyond the standard "I understand you", but still falls short, breaks down before the significant "I love you", each of which seems to contain much more than just a feeling. This has to be reached. Crawl, skinning your palms and knees into blood, swim, grow, reach out - through poetry, sketches, sleepless nights, waiting after school, rolled mountains ...

After all, he sees how Natasha ("Natalya Sergeevna", Genk corrects himself with annoyance and once again) looks at Ilya Semenovich. She hears how from time to time in English lessons she draws analogies with history. She remembers how, in spite of everything, she waits for him after school in the corridor, looking thoughtfully at the door of the office - perhaps she remembers what this door was like in the eyes of student 11 "A" Natasha, going crazy from an incomprehensible, languishing feeling inside . And also from the fact that less than a year separates her from graduation. And from goodbye - maybe forever? - with Ilya Semenovich.

Genka does not study with him for so long, but he still knows that this is not the kind of person who decides to marry at the end of his life. Also on his former student. This means that their relationship will last a few more years, as a maximum, until he, completely gray-haired, suffering from rheumatism, stabbing pains in his heart and a constant cough, retires. And she will stay. A caged tit - in these high gray walls that only make me sad when at the end school day students are leaving. It will remain for another twenty or thirty years, until it turns into some kind of Svetlana Mikhailovna. Genka thinks that, apparently, you have to love a person very much in order to ruin your life, working as an English teacher at a school, just for the sake of a few years next to him.

A poor girl.

Genka thinks with an indescribable melancholy that comes from nowhere and incomprehensibly to whom:

“I wonder if love is always… like this?”

Love- a wonderful sublime feeling that every person experiences at least once in his life. It helps to discover new perspectives and opportunities in yourself, to get to know yourself and the people around you better. Falling in love is often compared with an obsession, a person is sometimes able to lose control over himself, but at the same time, this feeling is idolized, they are looking forward to its appearance in their lives, they are considered chosen.

The more mature a person becomes, the deeper she lives this state, the great opportunities for self-improvement before it open. Love requires focus on a partner, the ability to perceive someone else's life as your own, and all this is actually a lot of hard work. Thousands of people are not ready to experience the state of falling in love just because they do not know how to give and cannot receive. This is the only reason why suffering arises that a person does not have the opportunity to throw out, speak and be heard. unrequited love - one of the most bitter life dramas, but necessary for the formation of personality. And most often it happens to those who love themselves a little. The feeling of falling in love sometimes does not seem to depend on the person himself, but it certainly teaches him something.

Falling in love: symptoms

Many people are sincerely interested: by what signs can one understand that a person has fallen in love? There are a number of characteristic symptoms that make it easy to recognize this feeling.

Endless feeling of joy

It embraces the lover and accompanies him throughout the day. A person can do work, do any work, but inside he is warmed by his own sun of warmth and joy. These positive feelings come simply from knowing that a loved one exists. Outwardly, the state of being in love may be imperceptible, not striking to outsiders, but those who know the person well will still notice visible changes in her behavior. Falling in love in itself gives a person tremendous strength, opens up previously unnoticed opportunities. Now the perception of the world itself is changing: if before it seemed implacable and cold, now it is bright and fabulous.

Can everyone experience the feeling of being in love? Much depends on the degree of openness of the heart, on the ability to accept a divine gift. In one way or another, falling in love sooner or later comes to each of us. Another thing is how we deal with the opportunity given to us. Someone deliberately repels this gift from himself, even "without unwrapping the wrapper." This person is losing. Another gladly accepts, but begins to manipulate a loved one. And the light feeling goes away.

Especially noteworthy is youthful love. When, if not in youth, to make amazing discoveries, to perform feats in the name of a wonderful feeling that blooms in the chest? At the age of 16 - 18, a feeling is taken as an absolute truth, it seems that this is forever, for good, and nothing like this will happen again. But in practice it turns out that the sublime youthful love, so often mistaken for true love, is only a threshold, a preparation for the future. family life and more mature relationships.

Need for dreams

Feeling in love for the first time young girl or a young man discovering a completely new, wonderful world full of mysteries and mysteries. And yet yesterday's child begins to immerse himself in new feelings and experiences, dreams. Girls aged 13-15 actively dream about future love, build in their heads the ideal parameters of a boy they might like.

The value of every minute of communication

If you watch two lovers, you can almost always notice that they are not talking about serious things, but about any nonsense. In general, serious scientific discussions are not what partners expect from each other. Much more important is the feeling of security and the realization that you are loved. Significantly a sense of understanding, establishing a spiritual connection between lovers, the ability to compromise. Falling in love is sometimes given to a person as a test, showing what else is worth learning from life. It is for this reason that the first youthful love in rare cases is happy and mutual. Basically, she is unresponsive and very bitter. But therein lies the lesson, to learn to accept it. The mistake is made by those young people who begin to run after their “beloved” and demand reciprocal feelings from him. Parents, if they notice such behavior in their child, should immediately try to stop and prevent such behavior, so as not to make the teenager even more painful, not to make him suffer even more. Everything passes with time, and even the strongest feeling will someday be forgotten, the young man will simply outgrow it.

Constant thoughts about a loved one

A characteristic feature of all lovers is the presence of constant thoughts about the beloved. A girl or a boy dreams of their halves and knows exactly what they should be. Moreover, inner world a young girl is incommensurably richer than a young man. The latter has a long way to go through maturation before he is able to love at a mature level. However, the girl also needs to gain some experience, and it does not have to be in the number of guys. Being in love helps a person to realize himself, to come to an understanding of his own infinite essence.

The person becomes vulnerable

In addition to the joy and inspiration it brings, love, like a medal, has back side. This state makes us vulnerable, touchy. The personality seems to cease to belong entirely to itself, now its thoughts and moods largely (though not in all) depend on the partner's behavior. What if one of the partners said harsh words, had the imprudence to offend or anger with something? The mood will be guaranteed to be spoiled by his half. Being in love implies the presence of some painful “button”, and if you press it in a certain way, you can easily manipulate a person. This state of being in love is dangerous: the lover often does not notice that he is being used.

Willingness to make sacrifices

When we love, it seems that we are ready to do everything in the name of a loved one. If necessary, we can walk even through the whole city, donate personal time, rest. And all this for her or him. It’s good if the other half reciprocates and, in turn, is ready to offer something in return. And if not? Then the lover will remain devastated and will feel deeply unhappy.

The willingness to make sacrifices must be mutual. No matter how much you would like to accomplish a feat in the name of great and bright love, you always first need to think, but is your soul mate ready to accept such a generous gift? After all, it may turn out that she does not need your ardent love, and then the heart of the lover will be broken for a long time. In order not to lose in love, you need to acquire a clear view of things, including learning to look impartially at your own feelings.

How long does love last?

Many scientists and thinkers agree that over time, the feeling of rapture, the delight of seeing a loved one, interacting with him, gradually decreases. At the beginning of a relationship, at the sight of a lover, our heartbeat quickens, our palms sweat, and various other signs of arousal appear. nervous system but gradually they pass. Those couples who have managed to “translate” falling in love into love so far are already on a different level. Those who did not, unfortunately, are doomed to remain “with nothing”

Falling in love by itself cannot last for years, because this is a very exhausting state, and it carries a certain burden on the psyche, on the body as a whole. Scientists have conducted relevant studies and calculated that on average, falling in love can live for about three to four years. This time is quite enough to form sensitive, trusting relationship and get to the next step. In fact, this is the task of each individual couple. The age of love is much greater. If the feeling is constantly maintained, developed, then you can carry it through your whole life.

What is the difference between love and infatuation?

Many young people, experiencing a strong feeling of love, mistake it for inexperience. true love. One must understand simple thing: love itself is a rather deep feeling, and it cannot arise in a few weeks or even months after meeting. It takes years to mature and develop. Moreover, the contribution of both partners is of great importance in the formation of love. Love cannot be carried on one hump, that is, one cannot truly love alone. Based on this statement, unrequited love (precisely love with capital letter) does not exist. The Creator would be too cruel if he allowed the suffering of one of the partners to please the other for a long period. Unrequited love has a place to be, but such a test is always given higher power as a necessary lesson, and nothing more. For those who have it, they need to reconsider life values draw appropriate conclusions for themselves.

How to distinguish love from falling in love? There are several criteria that help to understand this difficult issue.

Depth of feeling

Love is a larger feeling than falling in love. It covers a person from the inside, helps him to open the hidden depths of his own "I", to find and determine the meaning of his existence. Love, despite all the severity of the manifestation, the feeling is very superficial. It does not affect the transcendental depths of the heart, but is located near the lover. This state can be compared to drug intoxication when a person enjoys rather own feelings than rejoices in the fact that he can really give something to his beloved. This feeling, most often, we experience in youth and early youth. A person becomes capable of loving maturely much later.

Most often, in their youth, a young man or girl does not think about how to make their partner happy. They still have a lot to understand about themselves, and this is not always a quick and painless process.

Form of manifestation

Love, unlike falling in love, finds manifestation in deep things: concern for the well-being of a partner, his health and well-being. Falling in love is rather aimed at satisfying one's own needs and requirements. Being in a state of love, a person enjoys the extraordinary sensations inherent in it and thinks that he loves. In fact, as practice shows, he is mistaken. Only having fallen in love for real, he understands how great and significant this difference is. In love, both are equal and a completely different relationship arises. Love, moreover, is less noticeable to others.

The ability to selflessly give

If a person truly loves, it would never occur to him to demand that his partner satisfy some of his needs, he will not do it at the expense of another. Loving, first of all, to take care of the well-being of his beloved, he will not allow vain suffering, tears and disappointments shed through his fault. The one who loves strives in everything to make the life of his partner happier, brighter and emotionally rich.

Falling in love is characterized by some self-centeredness, focus on oneself, on one's own well-being. Falling in love is experienced by most young people and girls. It is characterized by the excitation of all the senses, the opening new reality, but at the same time, this feeling is quite superficial and does not lead to committing any moral deeds in the name of a loved one.

Thus, only one detail actually distinguishes one concept from another, namely, the ability to disinterestedly give, take care, share the warmth of one's heart with a partner. And I would like to wish such love to everyone - bright, pure, from which you yourself become better.

Falling in love with a man

It is known that men and women love in completely different ways. For a man, the most important thing in a relationship is trust. Therefore, he perceives the very fact of treason extremely painfully. For him, this means losing control of the situation, ceasing to be in charge.

Woman falling in love

Women are unpredictable and impressionable creatures. For the fairer sex, love is synonymous with care and fidelity. If a woman suddenly decides to cheat on her husband, it means that she no longer loves him. It is extremely important for her to feel support, security, and in order to achieve this goal, she will look for an appropriate companion. A woman who has a child and raises him alone, when choosing a partner, will definitely take into account whether a particular man can be her baby good father. Falling in love with a person himself will also be determined by the fact how reliable he is in everyday life and family life.

How to get rid of love?

Sometimes falling in love brings a person only disappointments, deprives him of peace, joy, and bright feelings. Sometimes the feeling exhausts the personality, undermines it from within. This happens when love is not mutual, unrequited or rejected. In order not to make yourself suffer even more, in some cases it is useful to know how to get rid of obsessive love, to return the heart back. Almost always have to endure a duel with own feeling, go through a war with the whole world, which is enclosed in ourselves.

It is necessary to get rid of love addiction. But it can be defeated only by one's own willpower, having a sound mind and prudence. The following are ways in which you can win back the soul and become a self-sufficient person.

Recognize that your feeling is unhealthy. It means that you need to realize the need for change. It is impossible, being in suffering, to become truly whole and whole. happy person. If your relationship with the chosen one brings you only pain and disappointment, destroys or humiliates you as a person, you definitely need to get rid of this kind of addiction. Recognizing that there is a problem is the first step towards healing. There should be no unhealthy love in your heart. Recognize that your connection only brought you disappointment, made you an addicted person. Nothing helps to cope with exhausting love so much as the desire to become a self-sufficient person. Let it become a necessity decision, firm intent.

• Allow yourself to experience pain. No one will argue with the fact that parting is very difficult. You feel like it's falling apart the whole world, the whole Universe loses colors before your eyes, sometimes even life loses its meaning. It is important here not to focus only on your own experiences, but to be able to be distracted. At the same time, do not contradict feelings: if tears flow like a river, allow yourself to cry (only it’s better not to do it in public).
• New impressions. After parting, there is often a feeling of emptiness that needs to be filled with something. Become your own mother. Trust me, no one can take care of you better than you. Others may not even know about your inner pain, and you do not concentrate on it for too long. An interesting hobby, a trip to the sea or a trip to another country will help get rid of unnecessary love. At some point, you will notice that emotions recede and you just relax.
• Avoid dating your ex. This will not give you anything, it will only open up the healing wound and you will have to start the path of healing anew. Ask yourself: Are you willing to work for years to forget this person? Isn't it better to do it right away, without additional worries and torments? Try not to date the person you are trying to forget. If possible, it is better to exclude even the possibility of meetings. That way you will get better sooner.
• Love yourself. This is essential component, without which the entire success of the operation will tend to zero, and in general is meaningless in itself. Remember that love should be only mutual. If you are being used, then you allow it. What kind of love, in this case, is it all about?
• Believe in the best. Even if it's hard for you right now, remember that given state temporary, and it will surely pass. Take advantage of loneliness to understand the reasons for the former unrequited love, to find factors that contribute to the formation of an unhealthy attachment to another person. Don't need to start right away new novel. Let go of all your loves. Let be time will pass. And then, having healed old wounds, you can readily accept another feeling in your heart - big and bright.

The state of being in love- the most amazing and wonderful feeling, but only if it is mutual. This is a whole journey together, a process of self-discovery, leading to discoveries and accomplishments.

When does a person begin to realize that he is in love? When a week can't stop thinking about beautiful stranger Or is he imagining asking a pretty co-worker out on a date? Love gives us clues. Scientists have long wondered what goes on in the brains of lovers. They found a unique chemical composition, which distinguishes love from feelings such as lust or affection. These dizzying signs may be part of falling in love.

All thoughts are concentrated on this person

When you are in love, you are able to attribute special unique qualities to this person. In your eyes, he is the kindest, the bravest, the strongest and the most beautiful. This blind faith is developed as a result of advanced level dopamine - chemical, which is responsible for attention and focus on a particular object. That's why you don't notice anyone around. There is only one person in the whole world for you now.

Idealization

People who are in love tend to focus on positive qualities their partner, while for some reason they seek to belittle their abilities. They are very fond of collecting objects around them that will remind them of their loved ones: photographs, cute souvenirs and gifts. This is close attention to details is also produced by increasing the level of dopamine and norepinephrine - biologically active substance produced in the adrenal glands. Scientists have linked noradrenaline to an increase in memory capacity in the presence of novel stimuli.

Emotional and physiological instability

As you know, love robs people of peace. A person in love has powerful mood swings. Now he is happy and smiling, in a minute he is alarmed and excited, by night he cannot fall asleep in any way. At the sight of the object of desire, he feels euphoria and a surge of strength, and in separation he feels anxiety, panic and a feeling of despair. In addition, lovers are not alien to loss of appetite, trembling in the knees, increased heart rate and accelerated breathing. You will be surprised, but similar mood swings are observed in drug addicts. Scientists conducted such an experiment: they showed lovers photographs of their chosen ones. Scanning showed that this activates the same department as that of drug addicts - the basal ganglia of the brain. And this means that falling in love can be safely classified as one of the forms of addiction.

When adversity brings

When you walk with another person through fire, water and copper pipes, it brings together like never before. With scientific point From our point of view, the increase in attraction can again be “attributed” to a familiar neurotransmitter that activates the reward center in the brain. When people have coped with the trouble together, dopamine-producing neurons are sent to the middle area of ​​the cerebral cortex.

Partner Obsession

Did you know that 85 percent of the thoughts of lovers fall on the object of desire? It means they are thinking about their partner most time. This form of compulsive behavior is called intrusive behavior. This may be caused by a decrease in serotonin levels in the central nervous system.

Wanting to be there all the time

Lovers regularly show signs of dependence on their relationship. They are characterized by wild jealousy, a desire to control a partner and be with him all the time. In addition, they develop some phobias. For example, they are afraid of being rejected and cannot bear separation. Even after parting, the partner who was abandoned will retain feelings of tender affection for some time. Functional magnetic resonance imaging showed that this phenomenon is facilitated by the activation of several parts of the brain at once, including the cingulate gyrus, which plays an important role in the formation of cravings for cocaine.

Dream to die on the same day

The emotional unity with your lover or beloved is so great that your dreams of a joint future flourish in a stormy color. You see how you get married or get married, raise children, then grandchildren and surely die on the same day. This can be explained in terms of evolution as part of the reproductive strategy of humans. These dreams are based on primitive nervous conditions: reward and euphoria. This puts romance on par with other survival systems.

sacrifice

Lovers feel strong feelings empathy. This allows them to feel the other person's pain as their own. This makes it possible to make any sacrifices for the sake of a loved one.

The desire to preen

Being in love can streamline your daily priorities. You begin to carefully monitor clothes, preen, change habits, manner of speaking. All this is aimed at better synchronization with the beloved. To some extent, you try to copy the behavior of your soulmate. But really the best choice there would be a desire to remain yourself, because your chosen one is unlikely to like being next to his exact copy. At least, chemical processes in the brain are focused on finding opposites. For example, testosterone-dominant personalities (people with high analytical skills and emotionally dry) are often looking for a connection with individuals in whose brain there is high level estrogen and oxytocin (sensitivity, education, gullibility, sensuality.)

Wanting to be the only one

Those who are deeply in love also feel an unbridled sexual attraction to their partner. There are strong emotional components attached to this phenomenon. For example, passion develops a sense of ownership, a desire to be the only partner, wild jealousy, and even suspicions of infidelity. This feeling could also develop thanks to evolution, when a man in love with all conceivable and inconceivable ways pushed other suitors away from his passion. Thus, he received guarantees that the connection would not stop, at least until the moment of conception of the child.

When emotional connection is paramount

Nevertheless, in lovers, far from everything rests on sexual relations. The most important is the desire for an emotional union. One of scientific research showed: 64 percent of lovers of both sexes disagree with the statement that sex is the most important part relations.

When things get out of hand

Lovers often claim that their passion is involuntary and uncontrollable. When psychologist Dorothy Tennow asked 400 Connecticut men and women to answer a questionnaire containing 200 love statements, she found the following. Many participants agreed with the feeling of helplessness that can spontaneously overcome them. They noticed that their obsession had no logic at all and often appeared against their will. People note that someone seems to control them.

Attachment

Unfortunately, love, like everything in this world, cannot last forever. Its main goal is to create a couple and procreate. That is why so many marriages fail. But still, alliances are not uncommon when love develops into a long-term attachment. It is worth noting that if for some reason there are physical or social barriers between lovers, and they cannot see each other on a regular basis, then the love phase lasts longer.

30.11.09

On November 27, MGIMO students were able to chat with the player of the intellectual TV quiz “What? Where? When? ”, the owner of the Crystal Owl, a journalist, now the PR director of the magazine“ Baku ”Rovshan Askerov. The meeting was organized Azerbaijan club. Our students staged a real blitz for the well-known connoisseur. By the way, the authors best questions will be able to attend the filming of the famous game.

The guest was introduced by the Deputy Chairman of the Azerbaijan Club Natik Aliyev. “A person needs a state of love. In someone or something. Always. All the way. Otherwise, it is not interesting to live,” Rovshan Askerov instructed the MGIMO team, quoting “We'll Live Until Monday,” his favorite film. The meeting was very informal. Rovshan spoke about love for his hometown- Baku: “It is always a pleasure to share this feeling, therefore, work in the Baku magazine gives me great pleasure.” He admitted that he admires Audrey Hepburn and Kira Nutley, which does not prevent him from admiring his own wife no less, but in a different way.

For a long time Rovshan Askerov worked in sports journalism. He was a columnist for the Sport-Express newspaper and a correspondent for NTV +. Traveled to illuminate Olympic Games to Athens and Turin. “Eight years with sports,” says Rovshan himself about this time. “Was it easy to communicate with the athletes and which of them do you remember the most?” the students are interested. “In different ways, you can learn a lot from athletes. An example for me was Stanislav Pozdnyakov - a famous saber fencer, multiple Olympic champion in fencing, a man of amazing will, intelligence and, at the same time, absolutely childish spontaneity.

Students, among whom were participants in the sports version of “What? Where? When? ”, Rovshan was asked many questions about the famous TV quiz. “It's a game, and like any game, luck is extremely important,” he said. - There were times when people with amazing knowledge and intelligence could not get a single owl in their entire lives. At the same time, the owl often unexpectedly got to those who did not really strive for this.

There were even two owners of the Crystal Owl in the hall that day - Rovshan Askerov and Valentina Golubeva, the captain of the only women's team in the elite club, which currently teaches a special course "Culture of Leadership and Team Building" at the Department of World Literature and Culture of MGIMO. For the first half of the meeting, Valentina modestly sat in the hall and joined Rovshan at his request when they asked about the captains - what qualities are needed to lead a team of intellectuals. Both Valentina and Rovshan noted intuition first of all.

At the end of the meeting, the experts themselves began to ask questions to the students. It was light by the standards of “What? Where? When?" brain teasers. For example, Valentina asked which animal is considered black in Africa and white in Europe. The answer was simple, although it did not sound right away - a zebra!

The winners of the impromptu quiz and the authors of the best questions, Rovshana Askerova, were awarded gifts from the Baku magazine. In addition, Valentina and Rovshan promised to help distinguished students get into the What? Where? When?" during filming. “It is worth visiting, if only to hear how the host of the program, Boris Kryuk, talks about the rules before the broadcast,” Rovshan Askerov admitted.

Interview with Rovshan Askerov

Students Ivan Suraev and Alexei Vershinin interviewed Mr. Askerov, in which they learned his opinion about MGIMO, state of the art movement "What? Where? When?”, as well as Russian-Azerbaijani relations.

- Is this your first visit to our University?

I visited MGIMO at various events held by the Azerbaijan Club. But the main character of the meeting I happened to be here for the first time. I have certain associations with this university. In 1989, when I was finishing school, my parents dreamed that I would enter here, and I almost gathered my courage, but at the last moment I did not dare to go so far from home - we lived in Baku. As a result, he entered the Baku State University. I can not judge whether my life is good or bad, I am satisfied. But now I go to MGIMO like a visitor (laughs).

- Remember yourself as a freshman, did you already try yourself as an expert?

By the time I got to the university, I had already tried to play with the school team. There was a note in the Sobesednik newspaper - “those who wish to play in a telephone tournament are invited”, it was necessary to assemble a team, send an application, make a small contribution and leave a phone number. The guys and I got together, in the same apartment, they called us from Moscow and asked questions. According to the results of this tournament, our team got into the Brain Ring program, which was just being created at that time. Apparently from that note my career as a connoisseur began.

You happened to play in many teams “What? Where? When?" Who was the most fun to play under?

It's kind of hard to compare. I myself like being a captain more - although it is difficult, it is an honor. In 2002, I played as the owner of a crystal owl. I myself was the captain of the team, I recruited it myself. In general, I dream of playing someday under the leadership of Andrei Petrovich Kozlov, he is a very tough and at the same time competent captain, behind him you feel like behind a stone wall. AT this moment I play in the Blinov team. Alexey Blinov is the legendary captain, playing with him, you feel that you are touching something great. It tones up, makes you gather.

- You yourself are the captain of a team consisting of five women besides you, what is it like to play in such a team?

Amazing! When there are five women nearby and everyone obeys you, you feel like in a harem.

- How do you assess the current state of the movement “What? Where? When?"?

The game is very popular and I am pleased that MGIMO has gathered a whole hall of people who want to talk about it. It's great that there are so many What? Where? When?". In other countries, the program also has viewers. People love this game and want to see it performed not only by the members of the Moscow TV club, but also by their own players. There are TV versions of the game in Georgia, Azerbaijan, Belarus, Ukraine.

- You worked a lot in sports journalism. What do physical and mental sports have in common?

The main thing, of course, is the struggle of characters. As far as you can resist circumstances, take a hit, surpass yourself, achieve your goal. You are up against a team of viewers, and sometimes a host who can push. If you were able to withstand everything - well done. In sports - similarly, it is necessary to come to victory in spite of circumstances.

Now we are in a diplomatic university. How would you characterize the current relations between Russia and Azerbaijan?

Azerbaijan and Russia as neighbors are simply doomed to coexistence. These are, by and large, two friendly states. There is a Russian-speaking culture in Azerbaijan, it is developing, and no one is preventing it. Transmission "What? Where? When?”, by the way, is published in Azerbaijan in Russian. That is, at first it appeared in Russian and has been going on for three years, while in the Azerbaijani version the game has existed for only a year. Newspapers and magazines are published in Russian. A Russian person who has arrived in Azerbaijan can freely live and communicate there. Many Azerbaijanis live and work in Russia. Our presidents communicate and make friends. So I consider the development of our relations to be natural and, of course, I assess it positively.

Interviewed by Alexey VERSHININ and Ivan SURAEV,
Media and PR Department

How to understand this incomprehensible feeling - love? Here, for example, are rational reasons force a woman to fall in love with a married man and have a lover herself? Such relationships are seriously exhausting, so it is not surprising if, over time, the question arises: how to get rid of a lover and stop loving him?

The effect of love on our body

Forgiveness comes from love, for it is love that heals in the first place. You have focused enough on the difficulties and pain, now it's time to balance them with something positive. And it is here.

You just need to look. You can look at the rain and feel depressed, or you can perceive it as something that quenches the thirst of plants, fills rivers and gives water to people. From this point of view, rain is nourishment. The choice is yours how to treat it.

Liven up love: think with love, speak with love, read with love, act with love, walk with love, breathe with love, sing with love, touch with love, eat with love and sleep with love.

At the moment of approaching death, the only and deepest desire of many people remains to say the words "I love you" addressed to their loved ones. So it was with me: when I thought that I could die, I only regretted that I would not have time to tell people dear to me how much I love them.

But you don't have to wait for death to say it. Say "I love you" at least once a day - every hour, if you like - to yourself and others. Say it out loud, not mentally.

Give love a voice that will revive it, bring warmth, gratitude, reliability, comfort, healing. If you can't speak, write. Write to those you love, tell about your feelings. Write words of love addressed to yourself. Write poems and songs dedicated to love. Fill your thoughts with words of love.

Get in touch with love. Let it shine through you as you reach out your hand to support, caress, soothe. It is known that without touching, babies can die, and adults can go crazy. Touch everyone with love, treat everyone with respect.

Walk with love, feel the beauty of your body movements, feel the love in your breath, bones, muscles, blood, nerves, organs, joints, and even in your toes that gently support you throughout the day.

How love affects our body

The body works as a whole, each part of it is connected to another and exchanges information with it. A toe can ache due to back pain, and shoulder pain is sometimes due to pelvic problems. To understand one of the parts, you need to understand its relationship with all other parts of the body.

So, problems with the knees are associated not only with the function they perform, but also with the functioning of the hips, legs in general, the pelvis, back, even the neck, as well as with the setting of the body and general character movements.

A figure can tell a lot about you. Of course, some things are inherited, but there are also traits that correspond certain forms and postures.

Just as a forester can read the history of a tree, so good specialist according to the thinker, he is able to read the history of a person’s life by his constitution, noting the setting of the figure, the members that move freely or, on the contrary, are tense and clamped.

Influence of love on our body: study your body!

The body is like a walking autobiography, the structure of the muscles and the rest of the flesh reflects your experiences, wounds, anxieties and mindsets. If you hold yourself timidly, that is, bending over, feeling tension, constantly taking a protective posture - you learned all this at the earliest time in your life, and the experience gained was reflected in your figure.

Try to carefully examine yourself in the mirror - without clothes! Do you stand up straight and straight, or do you stoop, squint? If so, how and when were you taught not to be direct with people? How will you feel if you straighten up?

Which side of your body is dominant? Do you keep your head up or tilt it slightly to the side, as if trying to avoid a confrontation? Can you look the world straight in the face? What happens when you move your neck? Are you rigid and unyielding or able to move smoothly and easily?

Are your joints free to bend? See where you hold your joints and muscles. Are they locked in a certain position to hold your feelings? What needs to be done to free them?

Is your upper body larger or smaller than your lower body? The top half reflects the social and personal aspects, while the bottom is more connected with practical, earthly issues.

The influence of love on the body: what the figure of a person will tell about

A strong, heavy torso, combined with thin or weak legs, is usually characteristic of a very sociable, friendly, self-confident person, an extrovert who, nevertheless, does not have solid ground under his feet and experiences uncertainty when confronted with physical, earthly questions.

Thick or strong legs combined with a small or weak torso can indicate a person who is firmly planted on the ground, very practical (sometimes even too practical) who, however, lacks the energy to communicate or develop self-confidence. Such people usually lack playfulness and spontaneity in their actions.

Note exactly what your main physical difficulties are and how this part relates to all other parts of you. What part of the body is smaller and weaker? Which one is more tense and less flexible? Too strongly developed and hypertrophied?

If the body aches, what does it want from you? To support him? Comforted? If the body wants to move, where does it want to go? Give free rein to your movements and see what happens. Where exactly are the areas that hurt or don't work as they should? What inner feeling do they evoke?

Try drawing yourself with paint, pencil sketching, or just describing how you feel about your own body.

Look attentively, but without judgment; just watch, get to know and try to make friends with your body.

The influence of love on our view of the world

AT English language the word "love" (love) has many meanings. The child loves his teddy bear. A teenager loves a pop star. The young man loves his new car. The husband loves his wife. The mother loves the child. The disciple loves his guru.

A single word expresses the feelings of a person in a wide variety of situations, since love is a connection that expands our perception of "self". Love unites the part with the whole, the individual with the universe.

We use this common expression in most different values depending on our age and self-perception. But every time the essence of love is a craving for unity.

Love is the experience of returning to wholeness. A person who identifies himself primarily with physical body- believing that "I am my body" - strives for unity through physical contact. Parents who hug their children, friends who throw themselves into each other's arms, entwined bodies and lovers - all this physical manifestations love, for touch blurs the boundaries between self and other.

The Influence of Love You Don't Even Know About

In the moment of the hug, people connect, thereby expanding their sense of "I".

When my eldest daughter Sarah was three years old, she often woke up and came to sleep in our bed.

I knew that there were different points vision on how to help a child sleep soundly all night: from the principle of a “family bed” (when the whole family sleeps together) to the most stringent prohibitions.

When I asked a neonatologist I knew about this, he replied: “It’s strange that most single adults I know are constantly looking for a person with whom they could sleep in the same bed, but for some reason we want little children to sleep alone." By touching another body, our body satisfies the need for unity.

When we perceive the world through the senses, we strive to find unity through openness and consonance. We hope to be accepted for who we are, and strive to find a person who would share and enhance our perception of ourselves and the world around us.

At the first meeting with a stranger, we show him only one facet of our persona - a mask that we want to show to the world. If a person responds the way we expected, we have a desire to show him the other side of us.

Thus, in the hope that we will be accepted and recognized, we gradually open up. The people closest to us are those who love us for this and despite what we are. With them, we are not afraid to be ourselves, we are not afraid of evaluations and condemnation.

When we learn to see and accept a variety of qualities in ourselves, our ability to be creative and compassionate is revealed. By integrating the hidden properties of our nature, we gain peace and integrity, and this is the most main factor healing and awakening.

The influence of love on search dark side my "I"

At the beginning of the 20th century, the psychologist Carl Jung coined the concept of "shadow self", which is understood as those parts of our "I" that we deny and hide deep in the unconscious.

In the process of growing up, each of us develops a “shadow self”, in which all those qualities that we consider undesirable or unacceptable for our family and culture are hidden. The most common shadow qualities are greed, addiction, selfishness, insecurity, and envy.

As a rule, we hide them because we are afraid that they will prevent us from satisfying our needs. However, when we can safely manifest the hidden within us dark forces without fear of losing love, our heart expands. Emotional manifestation love connects our individuality with another person.

Each of us has the ability to unconditional love. Most selfish manifestation love is like a laser beam focused on one object of attention, in this state we do not notice anyone around.

Selfish love is like a barter exchange - "I give to you and I want to get something in return." Higher love is a manifestation of an expanded perception of oneself.

How important is love for a woman

(Love wins love, i.e., causes reciprocal love).

I consider life without love to be a sinful and immoral state. van Gogh

We know the world better through love than through knowledge. Umberto Eco

Love is very important for every woman. We, women, came into this world to be happy and to give joy to the people around us. Including men.

We are made for love. We cannot imagine our existence without it. For us to love is as necessary as breathing. And almost equivalent to the concept of living. This is our mission and inalienable right- to love and give love - to children, men, the world.

Do you remember the words of one of the characters in the movie We'll Live Until Monday? A person needs a state of being in love - with someone or something. And a woman needs it in more than a man.

It is this feeling that radically changes our life, gives it new meaning. How important is love to a woman? A woman especially needs love, in the so-called female happiness. Without a doubt, men need love too. After all, they are also people, and nothing human is alien to them.

However, they can be forgotten in the work. They have their adult male toys - cars and mobile phones, as well as their male activities - hunting, fishing, sports. In addition, they are generally by nature more pragmatic, rational and down to earth, less romantic and emotional than we are.

As for a woman, even if she is a super-business and successful business woman to the marrow of her bones, she still remains a woman at heart and needs love, a home, a family and children. Otherwise, her life is incomplete.

And it does not fulfill its important (if not the main) purpose given to it by the Creator. To attract love into your life, you must first learn to love yourself.

How important is a woman's love for herself

Love yourself too. Love is not something you get from others. It is, first of all, what you give yourself. As Seneca once said, it is more important for a woman to love herself than to be loved. Falling in love with us and all sorts of signs of male attention, of course, are pleasant and flatter our female pride.

But only our own state love inspires us and makes us truly happy. Open your heart to love. Be ready to let her into your life. And don't you dare think you're too thin, too fat, too ugly, or too old to be loved.

As A.S. Pushkin, all ages are submissive to love. If you don't believe me, watch the movie The Bridges of Madison County or Love with or without Rules. Love is everywhere. This is the cosmic energy that permeates our entire life. You just need to tune in to its wave and vibrations and let them pass through yourself, through your body and soul.

How important is love to a woman? Love is the best thing that can happen in your life. in the life of any woman. In terms of the sharpness of sensations, the intensity of feelings, nothing can compare with the state of being in love. With the first touch and the first kiss.

Love is inexhaustible source joy and happiness. She has always been and remains the muse of all creative people, a source of inspiration for poets, artists and musicians. How important love is for a woman.

In all countries of the world and at all times, from time immemorial to this day, in all languages ​​of the planet, poems are composed about it, performances are staged and films are made. Under her influence, they paint masterpieces and compose immortal music. Love is the engine of progress.

In the name of love, great discoveries have been made and great madness committed. Love gives us incomparable happiness. It can bring us incomparable suffering.

But even if your heart will be broken, it's worth the risk anyway, because it's the only way to know and experience the fullness of life. As the song says: Love is never without sadness. But it's better than sadness without love.

A similar thought is expressed by the English writer Margaret Kennedy: It is better to break your heart than to do nothing with it at all. It's true, isn't it? Love is the basic commandment of all religions. It is not for nothing that they sometimes say that God, no matter what names they give him, is Love.

And the way of comprehension of God is the way of cognition of Love. The Bible says: Love your neighbor as yourself. If you have learned to love yourself, then half the battle is already done. If not yet, read Louise Hay's "I Love Myself" interview. After all, if you do not know how to love yourself, how can you love others?

Why is it so important for a woman to love herself? Learn to love yourself as a beautiful and perfect Divine creation. Open your heart to love, and it will certainly enter your life and transform it. As my lover said contemporary writer Paulo Coelho: great goal every human being to know love.

The Importance of Parental Love

Reconnecting with your father or mother can drastically affect your emotional state. It is curious that the fifth commandment, given in the Old Testament times to the Jewish people, says: "Honor thy father and thy mother, that it may be well with you, and that your days may be long in the land which the Lord your God is giving you."

The New Testament also emphasizes the importance of building strong relationship with parents: "Honor your father and mother", this is the first commandment with the promise: "May it be good for you, and you will live long on earth."

Initially, love should come from the parents, then the child will feel loved and it will be easy for him to show respect to his parents. If a child grows up in a family where there is no love and affection, where he feels lonely and unhappy, it is difficult for him to honor his parents.

But as children grow up, I think they themselves need to take responsibility for improving relationships with their parents, especially if they did not meet their needs. There is nothing more powerful than love. Love, breaking all barriers, seeks to serve others.

The importance of loving parents. The amazing thing is that love is not a hostage to our emotions. Whether we feel resentment, loneliness, disappointment, or depression, we can still show love to our parents.

Love is not so much a feeling as an attitude accompanied by corresponding actions. Love is a decision: "I will take care of your well-being. How can I help you?" Love is also expressed in constructive and positive actions.