What is experience in human life. Life experience for professional and personal growth

A person living in the third millennium does not need to be convinced that the world is changing rapidly, it has become so obvious. Insofar as new reality is accompanied by changes, then people must change, but it is extremely difficult to agree with this, especially when it comes to the person himself. The need to change others can be accepted, it is much more difficult to recognize the need to change oneself. The mechanism for counteracting new conditions is psychological barriers as specific form manifestations of the “resistance to change” syndrome, which has two sides: fear of losing the old, familiar and fear of the new, unusual. Let us dwell on this psychological phenomenon in more detail.

AT broad sense"barrier" (from the French. barriere) means an elongated partition, placed as an obstacle on the way, or a barrier. By analogy, this word is also used in the field of psychology to refer to those obstacles, internal or external, that prevent a person from achieving his goal.

The psychological barrier - " mental condition, which manifests itself as inadequate passivity, preventing the implementation of certain actions. Its emotional mechanism consists in strengthening negative experiences and attitudes, low self-esteem. AT social behavior psychological barriers are represented by communicative barriers, manifested in the absence of empathy, in the rigidity of interpersonal social and other attitudes, as well as semantic barriers.

The problem of barriers is solved within the broader framework of the concept of a psychological attitude - the readiness to perceive and act, understand and interpret the object of perception, thinking or future events in a certain way. This special "vision" underlies the selective activity of a person, his behavior. It regulates conscious and unconscious forms mental activity in all areas: motivational, cognitive, emotional. Attitudes are formed as a result of a person's life experience and create both colossal advantages and colossal limitations.

Psychological attitudes play a positive role, because they: determine the sustainable, consistent and purposeful nature of the activity, allowing you to maintain this focus in a continuously changing situation;
release a person from the need to make decisions and consciously control activities in standard, previously encountered situations.

Psychological attitudes play a negative role: acting as a factor causing inertia, inertia of activity;
making it difficult for a person to adapt to new, changed situations.

The attitudes on thinking have a particularly detrimental effect, which manifests itself in its stereotyping, stereotypedness, rigidity, i.e. difficulties - up to a complete inability - to change the planned program of activity in the new conditions, which objectively require its restructuring. The rigidity or flexibility of thinking essentially depends on the conditions of the initial training.

Let us illustrate how attitudes are formed in the experiment with monkeys.

There are five monkeys in the cage. A bunch of bananas is tied to the ceiling. Below them is a staircase. Hungry, one of the monkeys approached the stairs with the clear intention of getting a banana. As soon as she touched the stairs, the experimenter turns on the faucet and hoses down all the monkeys. cold water. A little time passes, and another monkey tries to eat a banana. The experimenter again turns on the water and pours it over all the monkeys. When the third monkey tries to get a banana, the others grab it, not wanting a cold shower.

Now one monkey is taken out of the cage and replaced with another. The new girl, noticing the bananas, immediately tries to get them. To her horror, she sees the angry faces of the other monkeys attacking her. After the third attempt, the new girl realizes that they won't let her get the banana.

Now one more of the original five monkeys is removed from the cage and a new one is launched into it. As soon as she tried to get a banana, all the monkeys attacked her in unison, and the one that replaced the first one (and even with enthusiasm).

Gradually, all the monkeys were replaced, and five monkeys were in the cage, which were not watered, but which do not allow anyone to get a banana. Why? Because that's the way it is here. Isn't it a very familiar situation?

The theoretical development of the installation problem belongs to G. Allport (1935). His formulation of the concept of installation (as a state psychological readiness, which develops on the basis of experience, which has a guiding, dynamic influence on the individual's reactions to all objects or situations with which he is associated) remains one of the most authoritative in foreign psychology. Later, this concept, supplemented and refined by various researchers, was interpreted as an “unconscious socially significant reaction”, as “a state of readiness of a person’s thoughts, feelings and actions in relation to any social object"or as" readiness for a positive or backlash in relation to the respective objects. most developed in Soviet psychology the theory of installation by D.N. Uznadze and his students. Representatives of the Georgian school characterize the concept of attitude as an unconscious state that precedes this or that activity and determines its implementation.

A. G. Asmolov, trying to find significant points contact between the two leading psychological concepts: the theory of activity of A.N. Leontiev and D.N. Uznadze characterizes the concept of installation as multilevel education, "activity stabilizer", "behavior inertia factor".

Depending on the direction, three types of attitudes are distinguished: operational, target and semantic, respectively, reflecting three levels of regulation of human activity: methods - how I do it, goal - what I do and meaning - why I do it (Fig. 23).

How quickly are new psychological attitudes formed?

It is definitely impossible to answer this question. Much depends on the nature of the attitude: operational ones are formed faster than target or semantic ones. The psychophysiological characteristics of a person are important, which determine the dynamic characteristics thought processes, the level of education and the ability to reflect.

The development of new technologies forces people to change their operational settings quite quickly. For many years, psychologists have been using the A. Lachins “Measure” method: the group is offered ten similar tasks for an individual solution; the first five problems are solved using cumbersome calculations using all the data, the last five involve a simpler solution without using all the data; one of the tasks contains the answer already in the condition. Influenced by the learned way of solving the first five tasks and following all procedural requirements ( consistent solution tasks, absence of pauses) an operational setting is usually formed that does not allow a person to see a change in the conditions of subsequent tasks. In the 1970-1980s. in study groups the number of students who accepted such an attitude reached 40%, in last years they are extremely rare.

Operational attitudes change during training under the influence of speech influences, instructions, explanations, etc. Everything new that has character practical advice, ready-made methods and techniques, is perceived quite acceptable at almost any age. Especially if you apply adequate styles and methods of teaching. Operational attitudes are overcome, and quite successfully, but the attitudes of more high level- target.

Goals are the core that preserves the integrity of a person and in any circumstances allows him to remain himself. We can say this: the goal creates a person, it also saves him. “Purpose: a conscious image of the anticipated result, the achievement of which is directed by a person’s action”; the image of the “required future” (N.A. Bernshtein), which determines the integrity and direction of behavior and activity.

The process of goal-setting is complex and multidimensional, it is carried out simultaneously in different planes. There is no definite answer to the questions of how exactly the process of accepting goals proposed from the outside takes place, and how the process of internal goal setting is built, there is no definite answer yet, although work in this direction has been going on for many years.

In foreign psychology, experimental studies of goal-setting go back to Würzburg School(XIX century). In the developments of its representatives, the emphasis was placed primarily on the connection between motivation, rational and emotional forms of cognition. Subsequently, this direction was continued and received a special resonance in the study of the process of goal-setting under conditions of uncertainty. It is the interaction of the sensual and rational principles that allows a person to navigate life tasks, which are characterized by a high degree of uncertainty. If in solving technical problems the role of the rational principle acts as a determining one, then in problems interpersonal interaction the leading role is taken by the emotional sphere.

Y. Habermas notes: “Until the question “What should I do?” As far as pragmatic problems are concerned, our observations, investigations, comparisons, and reasonings are of such a kind that we rely on empirical information to act on the basis of efficiency considerations or with the help of other rules for solving problems. Practical reasoning moves here within the limits defined by the horizon of goal-rationality, and its task is to find suitable technical means, strategies or programs. ... Such a guide to action tells what "should" or what "should" be done in this case if we want to realize certain values ​​or goals. However, once the values ​​themselves become problematic, the question "What should I do?" takes us beyond the limits of purposeful rationality.

The mind operates with certainty. Where the sphere of the unknown begins, a person uses emotional assessments as a goal-setting tool in his activity. They are inaccurate, and sometimes erroneous, but allow a person to act. The process of human mental activity, and in particular goal-setting, is fundamentally not algorithmized, thanks to which a person is able to act in incompletely defined conditions, - such a conclusion is made in his work by A.F. Kogan.

Until now, it is believed that the most significant results in the field of pilot study goal-setting were obtained by representatives of the school of one of the founders of Gestalt psychology, the German psychologist K. Levin. Their experiments showed the existence of a connection between the spheres of goal-setting and reflection, the dependence of the choice of the complexity of tasks (goals) on the level of a person's claims.

Goals are usually divided into two categories - those that are generated by the person himself, and those that are set to him from the outside, in particular, due to the conditions of work.

One of the purposes of training is to transfer the trainee from the external method of goal formation to the internal one. This happens, firstly, through the acceptance of external goals as one's own; secondly, through the development of goal-setting methods. The second is not only preferable - it is necessary condition work in tough competitive conditions, which forces you to respond flexibly to changing market conditions and focus on the future, on what does not yet exist, and only by creating it ( new technology, material, method, etc.), a person gets a chance to win. But it is not easy to learn to accept someone else's, for example, a new strategic goal. What tasks does a person usually solve in the course of daily activities? The ones he was offered today? Nothing like that, a person always solves his problem, realizes his goal setting. “And I understand so!” he says.

Target settings are caused by the goal and determine the sustainable nature of the course of the action. If the action (striving for a goal) is interrupted for some reason, then the goal setting manifests itself in the desire to complete the interrupted action, to achieve the intended goal, sometimes even when objective need it has already disappeared. Having reached a goal once, a person will prefer to reproduce it again, instead of setting a new one. This substitution of goals occurs unconsciously.

Semantic attitudes are the most difficult to correct. In the process of life, a person develops one or another mentality, orienting him to certain values ​​and life meanings. A person is born and grows in a particular society. Each society has its own "ideology" of behavior and a system of rules, its own views and values, as well as patterns of "good" and "bad". In the process of upbringing, a person learns social standards, which are transformed into his personal behavior, his personal views and values, i.e. into psychological settings. We can say this: standards and rules are a social phenomenon, and a person’s personal attitudes are their psychological copy.

Semantic barrier - misunderstanding between people - a consequence of the fact that the same phenomenon has for them different meaning. The discrepancy between meanings, statements, requests, orders creates obstacles for the development of interaction between partners. The most pronounced semantic barriers are manifested in situations global change affecting the foundations of human life, its values, the system life rules. In this case, even understanding the correctness of the new requirements and accepting them on a conscious level, a person continues to act, relying on the previous system of his personal meanings.

The semantic setting is complex in its structure and content. It includes several components:
informational - a person's views on the world and the image of what he aspires to;
emotional-evaluative - likes and dislikes in relation to what is significant for a person;
behavioral - the willingness to act appropriately in relation to what has personal meaning for a person.

With the help of semantic attitudes, a person joins the system of norms and values ​​of this social environment, provides himself with psychological protection when meeting with a "stranger", asserts himself. In the process of repeated functioning, semantic attitudes turn into personality traits, therefore it is impossible to change them only by persuasion. Even if they convince authoritative people. "Why do I need it? - the person asks a question and he himself answers - I can’t do it any other way. Semantic attitudes are answers to numerous questions about “how to do, think, live…” correctly. To hurt the semantic attitudes of a person means to cause an emotional storm. They are protected by powerful mechanisms psychological protection, which instantly "work" when approaching a "foreign" view, experience, ideology.

Answering the question about what semantic attitudes prevent a person from achieving his goals, both in personal life, and in production activities, foreign psychologists provide very impressive lists of reasons. Here are the most common.

The certainty that the gritish problems lie "outside of man". - cause of occurrence problem situations often
are own actions person, so it is better to look for it in yourself.
The hope that the problem will go away on its own, “somehow it will resolve itself.”
- “If a person does not participate in solving a problem, then he participates in its creation” (E. Cleaver);
- Before solving a problem, you must take responsibility for it, say to yourself: "This is my problem."
The difficulties that a person experiences in solving a problem are due to the objective complexity of the situation.
- Complexity is a subjective category, the roots of which lie in barriers inherent in a person, stereotypes, patterns of thinking. As such internal obstacles both inadequately assessed life experience and habitual ways of behavior and communication can act. It would be necessary to abandon them, but sometimes a person simply does not realize them.
Expectation psychological help in perfect certain form- advice, teachings.
- It makes no sense to move away from your own decision-making and shift it to others. A person needs to master the role of a seeker and creator, and the role of a passive follower, waiting for prompts at every step, is best left in the past.
To be a thinking person means to always be right or be witty.
- To be a thinking person means “to have a conscious desire to give birth to a qualitatively complete thought” (E. de Bono).
There is only one correct solution, and that is what you should be looking for.
- In life, just the opposite is required: the ability to navigate in the infinite, to work with uncertainty, to look for one's own, one's own, and every time anew.
- It is possible to gain power over uncertainty, but first you need to free yourself from acquired restrictions - attitudes that have begun to interfere.
- Rejection of old views, departure from the conquests of the past, disturbance of peace: this is not a quick success, this is a risk, this is pain, in other words - DEVELOPMENT.

The study of semantic attitudes with the help of verbal test questionnaires is a difficult task. It is preferable to use projective techniques allowing you to look into the deep layers of the unconscious. However, verbal methods are most suitable for working on oneself, because they allow a person to make his own attitudes the Subject of his consideration, analysis, evaluation.

One of these methods, which has proven itself well in practice, is the Dysfunctionality Scale (DFS). D. Berne revised the list of the 100 most common self-damaging positions (installations), reducing it to 30 and adding five new ones. Using a five-point scale of the degree of "agreement - disagreement" with the proposed statements (strongly agree, partly agree, neutral, partly disagree, completely agree), Berne suggested using the key (scoring) to determine the degree of psychological stability and vulnerability. Actually we are talking about the degree of expression, accentuation of certain beliefs.

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A person's life experience shows that any type of activity created should be useful for his existence, but at the same time, activity can be a source of negative impacts or harm, leads to injuries, diseases, and sometimes ends in complete disability or death. Any activity can cause harm to a person: work in production (labor activity), different kinds recreation, entertainment and even activities related to the acquisition of knowledge. Human practice, therefore, gives grounds to assert that any activity is potentially dangerous.

A person's life experience shows that any created type of activity should be useful for his existence, but at the same time, activity can be a source of negative impacts or harm, leading to injuries, diseases, and sometimes complete loss of working capacity or death. Any activity can cause harm to a person: work in production ( technological process), various types of recreation, entertainment and even activities related to the acquisition of knowledge. Human practice, therefore, gives grounds to assert that any activity is potentially dangerous.

It develops in the process of a person's life experience, through exercise, analysis of shortcomings made during observation.

Of no small importance for work in the public personnel department is the social and life experience of a person. Of course, it does not follow from this that the department should be staffed only with people of respectable age.

The attitude usually arises on the basis of the person's previous work activity and life experience.

The process of processing information by a person is extremely complex - it also depends on a person's life experience, on his education, on erudition, on his profession, on his interest in certain information, and even on the temperament and moral attitudes of the individual.

This process is accompanied by the expansion of the rights and obligations of a person, which determine the measure of his possible influences on the state of his environment. The possibilities of such a change are contained in the systematically formed life experience of a person. The basis of the social in a person is his natural inclinations, which, as a result of their cultivation, reach the level of abilities, giftedness, and talent. Of course, the makings as potential abilities vary from one child to another. However, for normal children, this initial variation can be easily compensated for in the course of education and training. The result of socialization decisively depends on how this process proceeds, how the principle of continuity and conjugation is observed, at what moments the person’s level of development is fixed and reflection is carried out.

An image of this type minimizes the influence of a person's life experience and the resulting influence of all kinds of associations. Three experiments previously described in the psychology literature were repeated.

This creates areas of closely related questions and answers. It is this ability to generalize experience that makes main value education, erudition, human life experience. Experience of the first kind is depicted in the form of two fixed scales. Each point on the question scale corresponds to a point on the answer scale.

A person is a personality formed by hereditary factors and life experience. A person's personality is influenced by his innate characteristics, but, however, as a person's life experience increases, he gradually becomes who he is at the moment.

Science as a set of true and systematized knowledge about the world arose at a fairly late stage in the history of development human society, although from its very appearance, man sought to know the world that surrounded him. However, on early stages development of society and man, there were no conditions for scientific explanation world, and the scientific view of the world was preceded by a religious and common sense explanation of it, which exists today, despite all the development scientific knowledge peace. The roots of religious ideas go back to human practice and experience, although their creators and adherents deny this fact, arguing that they are divine revelations, truths that are communicated by a deity (Buddha, Christ, Muhammad) and as such are eternal, unchanging and not can be subjected to objective verification, but require only that they be believed. Ordinary knowledge (knowledge common sense) are based on the life experience of a person, acquired by him primarily in the process of his production activity.

Now look at the concept and at the sensory image: does not the concept concentrate in itself what is called universality, and does it not represent the sensory - immediate reality. Is there a way out here to the interrelationship of the sensual and the conceptual that lies in the eidetic and conceptual intuition. Isn't the operation of these forms of intuition based on billions of repetitions in individual activities man of this linking of universality and immediate reality. It seems to us that there is such a connection here. In this case, the life experience of a person is important.

In our opinion, value expresses the human dimension of culture, embodies the attitude to forms human being, human existence. It seems to pull together all the spiritual diversity to the mind, feelings and will of man. Thus, value is not only a conscious, but also a vital, existentially felt being. It characterizes the human dimension public consciousness, because it is passed through the personality, through its inner world. If an idea is a breakthrough towards comprehending certain aspects of being, individual and public life, then value is rather a personally colored attitude to the world, arising not only on the basis of knowledge and information, but also on the basis of a person’s own life experience.

In the views of people, this behavior exists as a system of roles - ordered and consistent actions that are relevant in a certain way. The latter are structured in positions, statuses or ofip. A position is a set of rights and obligations, indicated by one word, for example. In the event that a person does not fulfill or poorly fulfills the role expectations presented to him, social sanctions(taunts, boycott, threats, physical. This is how social control. AT social interaction roles are defined by positions, not by people who temporarily occupy these positions. Most of the roles, however, are not very rigidly prescribed and leave room for individual variation. Like a role and position, I am a kind of symbol, the content of which a person learns from communication with others. I, as that which can be an object to itself, is in essence social structure n arises in the process of social experience (Mead G. Founders role theory believed that I am a mirror of others: a person treats himself as an object, the meaning of which is determined by the corresponding opinions and actions of others. However, the attitude of others to the subject is largely determined by his role. Since the whole life experience of a person can be represented as a follow. I am considered as a trace of many roles with which a person has identified himself, or, in short, I am the sum of roles. The ego, as a product of the opinions of others, is preserved behind the ego, while the basic self is treated as a product of pre-social experience. So, Sarbin believes that the self is integrated from a number of empirical self - substructures that are formed at various stages of human development (see A preface to a psychological analysis of the self, in the journal.

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People who love to teach others to live, believe that they have a right to do so, because they have rich life experience behind them, they can give a hundred examples various situations and correct behavior in them. But can such advice be effective?

Why do we need life experience?

On the one hand, the answer to this question lies on the surface, we need life experience so that we have the opportunity to gain knowledge, skills and abilities. If we don’t remember what happens to us, that is, if we didn’t get this experience, we would have to learn to walk again, hold a spoon, etc. every time. Life experience helps us not only gain new knowledge, but also remember our erroneous actions so as not to repeat them again. Lack of experience is often a source of people's fear, in most cases it is the fear of failure. In the event that a person has experience in performing any work, albeit insignificant, he manages to solve many problems faster and easier than people who do not have any skills in such work.

Thus, life experience is a powerful mechanism that allows us to adapt to the reality around us.

Is life experience always useful?

Despite the fact that in many cases our own life experience can be useful, it may not always be useful, and if we are talking about someone else's experience, then we often simply cannot perceive it. There are many examples when a mother, guided by her rich life experience, teaches her child what to do and what not to do. What does the child do in this case? Almost always goes against the words of the mother, sometimes out of a sense of contradiction, but most often because someone else's experience is us even in adult life not always perceived, we all need to try on our own.

Having matured, we acquire the ability to listen to the opinions of others, but listen to other people's advice, that is, we can adopt someone else's life experience only when we ourselves want it. That is, if a person needs advice, he will ask for it (will go to training or courses), unsolicited recommendations will not be heard.

With our life experience, too, not everything is so simple - we need it, but sometimes we find ourselves in its trap. Finding ourselves in a similar life situation, it seems to us that everything will happen, as in last time and therefore we act accordingly. The problem here is that there are no absolutely identical situations, and looking at the world through the prism of the past, we lose the opportunity to see other solutions. So experience is a good thing, but you don’t need to forget about life in the present either.

Experience is the name everyone gives to their mistakes. O. Wilde

For every problem we create, there is a solution, and every test ends only when it gives us the opportunity to spiritual growth. Remember that there is always a solution to emerging problems, that the answer to the question of how to act correctly in a given life situation, you will find exclusively in yourself, in your inner “I”. Know that no matter what happens, every problem always has its causes and its solutions.

Remember that you cannot teach the truth, because everyone comes to the truth on his own! What you experience as truth becomes your truth.

The wisdom of a person, apparently, consists in calmly accepting what is objective
But what depends on the person, meaning the attitude to the objective, can and should be a controlled process.

Any life situation provides an opportunity to gain the experience necessary for our development Life is an amazing process of learning, understanding, compassion, patience and love.The best opportunity for spiritual growth often occurs during the most difficult moments of life, when a person is tested for strength.

Life is a garden, the flowers in it are amazing experience . The life of every person is an amazing garden, and the flowers that sprout in it are an amazing experience for everyone living on earth. Every day, individual bouquets of people are replenished with new, amazingly beautiful flowers.

Own experience is effective way learning . Through our own experience, we learn that we can do things differently.

Each person has their own experience. No experience meant for another . This is true, as is the fact that everyone has their own life and no one can live someone else's life.

Every experience has its own meaning. . It is thanks to our experiences that we acquire life wisdom which accumulates over the years. Wisdom is not transmitted; knowledge can be transmitted, not wisdom. Wisdom is not transmitted by words, it is transmitted exclusively by life experience. Know firmly that every problem has its solutions.

Spiritual development should be, like everything in life, with a sense of proportion . If people who "head" go into spiritual self-improvement and development of their own inner world. By doing this, they violate the fundamental law of the Universe - the Law of the unity of the internal with the external world.

Face the truth, make way for it . Don't turn your back on the truth right time in the right place it comes out, thus declaring itself.

Learn to take every challenge from a creative standpoint . Use your circumstances as an opportunity. Free yourself from the delusion that "little good does no good" and "little evil does not cause harm." Know that, on the one hand, if you do not accumulate good in small ways, you will not get big good. On the other hand, if you do not abstain from evil in small things, a great crime will be committed.

"Unpleasant" is an amazing experience that you must go through. . Having received “unpleasant” from your actions, look at this state as a signal from your own subconscious that somewhere in your thoughts, intentions or actions you have come into conflict with the Law of Love.

The most important human need is the need for truth. . When a person hears a lie, his subconscious mind reacts to it as an act of violence against the inner "I". And it does not matter from whom this lie comes: from other people or from oneself.

Learn to see the big in the small . Learn to find freedom among prohibitions, to find abundance in the empty, to always see life behind any death.

Everything is possible in your life . By believing that anything is possible in your life, you will allow all answers and solutions, all changes, to come into your life.

Before evaluating anything, get at least a rudimentary understanding of it. . Before challenging the practicality of the techniques presented in this manual, try, live in a new model of behavior, and only then judge and evaluate them. Don't be like a man who argues about the contents of a book without even having elementary representation about her (do not be like the hero of M. Zhvanetsky, who argues to the point of hoarseness about the taste of oysters without tasting them). Also be especially careful of the opinion of a person who already knows the answer before he understands the question.

Follow the most important principle of wisdom - do not deny anything . Be aware that there are various teachers and spiritual mentors: some will definitely forbid something, while others, without denying or forbidding anything, will suggest the direction of development and improvement.

The wise do not deny anything, the wise learn from everyone . When we deny (do not accept) something, we deprive ourselves of the opportunity to learn something useful and wise.

Every situation in life presents an opportunity for growth and personal development . a wise man understands well that each new rebirth becomes a lesson, the possibility of change is an opportunity personal growth.

Earth reality is a great learning experience . A person stays in earthly reality in order to experience various states of being, and not in order to evaluate, as others do.

Life teaches even those who do not want to learn from it . Remember that it is not in the power of man to avoid the influence of the laws of life on a person.

The life situation will be repeated until the learning lesson is learned. . The learning situation will be repeated (so-called "déjà vu") until you learn how to properly respond to the learning situation.

The situation we're in is the lessons we have to learn . If learning does not occur in a learning situation, then it will be repeated again, but with much greater energy costs for a person and consequences for him. When all the learning takes place and the lesson is successfully completed, the situation is resolved and will not happen again.

The absence in your life of any creativity usually negatively impacts health . Know that monotonous work, unloved work, as well as work that is motivated by some kind of fear (fear of being left without a livelihood, fear of being alone, rejection, fear of losing love) usually undermines health. loved one etc.).

Remember that life's mistake is natural component our spiritual growth and development . When a person feels sorry for himself in something, expresses doubts about what has happened, he creates discord in energy system own body, which can adversely affect the potential of his health.

Nobody knows what he's capable of until he tries. . There are many people who do not fail. This happens most often because they never make any attempt. If something goes wrong, just try not to follow.

Learn about the main ways to gain life knowledge . Remember that we were born to seek the truth and only, and not at all to possess it. At least three paths lead to knowledge: the first path is the noblest, the path of reflection; the second path is the easiest - this is the path of imitation; the third path is the most bitter - the path of experience.

Once a thought is known, it cannot be lost. . If something is not clear to you, know that the time has not yet come for you to know any truth. However, be sure that the seed of knowledge has already been sown and the plant with will appear in time and, like a lotus flower, will unfold naturally and gradually.

A problem is an excellent opportunity to change for the better. . Most problems are generated by vibrations emanating from us, and all problems are nothing more than the opportunity, surprisingly given to us, to change for the better.

Each difficult situation has a very great educational role . In absolutely every situation that is difficult to resolve, there is a very significant personal reason that we must eliminate in one way or another. For your own good, learn to express your own feelings like a child: rejoice and grieve sincerely. Get rid of the fear of other people's reactions to the manifestations of your sincere emotions, especially if you do not offend them feelings.

"Obstacles Grow" . Life's obstacles and hardships are amazing opportunity for growth and development in a new direction. Learn to see your life as amazing school where each situation gives us a useful life lesson.

Lamborghini on Wall Street, celebrity bags from Louis Vuitton, mansions in which they live. The list goes on.

We delude ourselves into believing that the only thing happiness depends on is the brand of our car or the number of zeros in the bank account. We put financial success on a pedestal and convinced everyone to share these beliefs.

In a society that idolizes material values, life turns into a useless endless journey.

The key to happiness is not to spend money and time on things. The key to happiness is to invest money and time in your life experience.

MasterCard is telling the truth: "There are things you can't buy."

Our experience defines us

In December, while on a trip to Hawaii, I attended a ten-day meditation course. It was the most difficult but most instructive experience I have ever had: I have never before felt so close connection between mind and body. More importantly, it pushed me to make a change and fulfill my dream of leaving the company I joined last year and moving to New York.

Any experience brings with it a mistake or a triumph, as well as an understanding self. Experience helps us understand our thoughts, understand what kind of people we want to see around, and ultimately find what makes us happy.

At the end of the journey, it doesn't matter how many days you've had in your life. What matters is how much life was in your days.

Abraham Lincoln, American statesman, 16th President of the United States

We live in a society where the material is the highest value. We love being able to hold what we buy in our hands. This happens because things are related to the currency, which dictates its value in the market.

It is impossible to physically experience the cliff diving experience on a Sunday afternoon. The same is true with our first experience of dealing with partners: we cannot sell it.

If we could sell our own experience for the price we got it for, we'd all be millionaires.

Abigail Van Buren (Paulyn Phillips), American journalist and radio host of the 20th century

We accumulate everything we have ever seen, heard, tasted and felt. This is an experience that teaches us not to count working hours in a tiny office, but will lead to a breakthrough idea for .

In other words, experience brings with it life lessons. Material values ​​do not bring anything, but they bill us.

Experience stays with us

What are our fondest memories? I remember not the gifts I received for the holidays, but the guests who came to my birthday, or the smell of hot chocolate on Christmas morning. I remember my first cycling lesson with my brother and my first date, which, by the way, went terribly. It's something that puts a smile on my face to this day.

The main disadvantage of investing in things is their limited shelf life.

When we buy a thing, not only does its value in the market decrease, but after a while we stop feeling its value. Experience is quite different. It is emotionally durable and can be multiplied as we develop throughout life. At any moment the experience remains with us.

According to research, more than 80% of people remember their mental purchases more often than actually made ones. This means that experience brings us happiness not only when we have it, but also when we just think about it.

How to get experience

We give three tips to help you give up things in favor of experiences.

1. Change your financial priorities

If we want to get real experience, we must prioritize in order to adjust to the adventures that lie ahead of us. It's as easy as saving up for a TV instead of going to South America.

Think about what you really need and what you need seriously and for a long time. In fact, we need very few material things to enjoy life. Learn to rationally approach the purchase of things: once saved a trifle will help to gain an experience that will change everything.

2. Say yes more often

As adults, we learn to make decisions by calculating risks, by thinking carefully. If we want more experience, we will have to push these principles into the background. Best Adventure They start when you least expect them. Constantly telling yourself: "What if" - Right way lie on the couch all your life, watching other people's adventures.

Start saying yes. Learn to live in the present. The next time you have an opportunity to gain experience, ask yourself a simple question: “Will I regret if I don’t take this opportunity? Tomorrow, next week or next year? If the answer is "yes" or "maybe", the adventure should also answer "yes".

The future is uncertain. But you can manage it by thinking less and doing more.

3. Start small (and cheap) adventures

Are you one of those people who watch the same thing over and over again, walk the same paths to the same office, eat at the same restaurants?

You need a break from your daily routine. Be open to new experiences. Instead of going to the usual Italian restaurant near the office, visit some new place.

The most valuable experience is not expensive. He is nearby. You just need to find it.

There's a lot negative feedback about sites of advice for every day, however, such resources will be useful to you. Personally, I've tried everything from salsa ($15 for ten classes) and medieval dinner cooking classes ($39) to flying lessons ($88). Coupon sites are the cheapest way to have incredible adventures with friends or on your own. Start taking some risks. You will be surprised how quickly it will take you over.

One day we will all die. But before that, let's ask ourselves the following questions:

• Did I live?
• What do I regret?
• Have I experienced everything I wanted to experience?

It is up to you to decide what is most important: brand or adventure and freedom. But try to invest in something that will give you impressions, not bills. Let your assets be minimal, but experience is rich.