How to make the right choice. Open community on systemic constellations

The uniqueness of the method is that, starting from any point, we will definitely come to the place where everything is most important!

When you want to solve your financial questions with the help of a constellation, then you do not have to puzzle over how to build a question.

Enough words to get started: "Something's wrong, but I don't know what!"

The desired changes come very quickly, sometimes instantly.

It is very inspiring every time you see how a question that has tormented a person for years, or even decades, suddenly “dissolves”, and the energy of his life begins to boil like a mountain stream, the channel of which has been cleared of rubble.

So what are financial arrangements?

Financial arrangements are a special psychological practice, aimed at finding solutions to improve personal financial well-being.

How does this happen?

You will be able to ask questions. And participate in a live process! This process is somewhat similar to a performance. But here there is no script and no actors, but there are real people with their own very important life issues, many of which can be solved only by the constellation method and no other!

And you can't fake it. You will feel with all your soul and body that this is a "movie about you."

Monetary arrangements allow you to find solutions to the following problems:

Chronic lack of money, poverty;
Chronic debts, including loans replacing each other;
Lack of visible prospects for increasing income;
"Money ceiling" - a situation where, with all possible efforts, it is not possible to increase income for a long time;
Fear of money, including the fear of big money;
Unfair, low wages;
"Disappearing" money, when everything earned disappears to no one knows where;
The situation when "everyone owes, but there is no money" ;
A situation where all the money goes to poor and sick relatives ;
A situation when money is needed, there is an opportunity to earn money, but there is no desire to earn money.

"Financial arrangement: money and me" - This is a personal arrangement on the topic of finance. You get a personal alignment, you will see the reasons why your contact with the energy of money is blocked and you will find a way out of the labyrinth of financial difficulties. And now a little more about this unique technique!

"Financial flow in constellations" — these are the results you get here and now. Money is like a turbulent river: we clear it - and the flow is restored! At the training, you get a personal arrangement and answers where exactly your financial well-being is blocked. The method works independently, does not require training or any skills of the participants. Are you familiar with this?

We invite those who wish to take part in the study of generic situations related to money.

You can:

Activate cash flows- their own and their kind;
"Stretch" the energy of abundance from the ancestors to you and your children;
Understand what role you have to play in life and what kind of money restrictions this role has;
Remove many generic restrictions on money;
Create a unified group energy of success.

Constellations are powerful effective method to solve financial problems.

Sometimes one or two constellations are enough for a person's life to change radically.

The group is formed during the week from:

participants (those who order their own arrangement according to the formulated request),
deputies (people who perform certain roles).

Feeling of unity, comfort and internal security always appear on our groups in the course of work, even if you see all those present for the first time. Powerful single space groups works for you!

There is probably no person in the world who has never faced financial problems. But what if financial problems drag on and become a chronic condition?

- How does the alignment itself take place?

Psychologist: The Hellinger constellation method works very effectively. It allows you to diagnose the causes financial problems and correct the situation. By the way, with the help of Hellinger constellations, you can solve completely different problems and not just money and career problems.

- Could you explain what the Hellinger constellations are?

Psychologist: Substitutes are placed in the field. This is ordinary people, each of which plays a role. From what they feel, what dynamics arise in the field, the psychologist draws conclusions and produces certain actions. In general, it is very difficult for a non-specialist to explain what the Hellinger arrangement is. Here we should remember the saying: "It is better to see once than hear a hundred times". Come to the Hellinger constellations, if not with your request, then as a substitute, and you will understand everything!

- Based on your experience with constellations, can you identify the main causes of financial problems?

Psychologist: The main cause of money problems is ancestral memory. In about 80% of the arrangements on this topic, it turned out that one of the ancestors, as a rule, during the period of the revolution and subsequent repressions, was exiled, put in a camp, or even killed for being richer than others. In this case, an attitude is formed in the family: "It is dangerous to be rich!" And the descendants of the murdered and repressed nobles, merchants, kulaks and middle peasants constantly face financial problems.

Igor K., who had problems in business, came to see me for Hellinger alignment. For 5 years, he made great efforts to raise his business, but constantly found himself in a financial hole, he could barely make ends meet. Tragic events from his family history appeared in his arrangement.

On the paternal side, he is from a merchant family, which, in principle, indicates that he has a "trade streak". But his great-grandfather, a merchant, and great-grandmother were killed and robbed by brave revolutionaries. Their children (one of them is Igor's grandfather) miraculously survived and were brought up by distant relatives. It is not surprising that in this family the program was passed down from generation to generation: "Wealth is dangerous to life. Because of money, you can lose health, honor and life."

Despite the fact that Igor knew nothing of this, the events of the past had strong influence on his life. Both Igor and all his relatives unconsciously did everything to earn money just enough to barely suffice for a living. With such a program, no matter how much you work, no matter how much you develop your business, you still won’t cope with financial problems, and you won’t get rich. Igor unconsciously avoided not only wealth, but also a good, prosperous life, free money. Unconsciously, he only allowed himself to earn a living.

- Did it turn out with the help of the arrangement?

Psychologist: Yes, all this manifested itself in the arrangement, and Igor later became convinced of this by talking with his paternal grandfather.

- Is this the end of the arrangement?

Psychologist: The purpose of the Hellinger constellations is not only to diagnose the situation, that is, to understand its causes, but also to correct it, to find a good solution. AT this case with the help of special therapeutic techniques, a solution was found.

But you could just change negative program“It’s dangerous to be rich” to a positive one, for example, this one: “It’s useful and pleasant to be rich. Wealth gives great opportunities in life".

Psychologist: In this case, this is not enough, although positive programs necessary. After all, as you know, how much money is in the mind, so much money is in the wallet. But if someone in the family has suffered greatly because of money and social status, it is necessary to work with family history. And the Hellinger constellation method is one of the effective and short-term methods that can be applied in this case.

- Well, not everyone had rich ancestors or relatives who suffered because of money. What then could be the cause of financial problems?

Psychologist: There are cases when the arrangement shows that some ancestor participated in the expropriation, exiled, imprisoned, shot "bourgeois", i.e. was an executioner. Then, perhaps, his descendants, in expiation, become "victims" of financial problems.

The brightest example the above is the coming to me for the arrangement of a married couple. They have a family business. Both with higher education. She is a financier, he is a lawyer. Despite all efforts, the business did not develop, it seemed to hit the ceiling, the family was constantly experiencing financial problems. The arrangement showed that his great-great-grandfather was a jeweler, for which he was killed in the 18th year, and her great-great-grandfather served in the Cheka and was engaged in requisitioning.

The next cause of financial problems is the so-called "tribal loyalty". Sometimes in constellations it is clear that someone's family from generation to generation lived in poverty. And a descendant of this kind, as if out of "solidarity" with their ancestors, completely unconsciously cannot afford to become rich. As soon as he begins to get out of financial problems, earn a little more than other relatives and live better than parents and grandparents, how he feels guilty before the family, it seems to him that he is betraying his ancestors and his family. And his financial situation is deteriorating, which makes him feel more comfortable.

Such a person, as it were, says to the ancestors: "I'm just like you. I'm like you. It's just as hard for me to make money as it is for you. I'm yours." Of course, the person himself does not realize the fact that he feels more comfortable with financial problems and does not suffer from guilt. This is revealed only in Hellinger constellations.

In addition, as the Hellinger constellations show, relationships with parents are very important.

Bert Hellinger said: "Money lies at the feet of the mother." And if financial success largely depends on the relationship with the mother, then social success (career) depends on the relationship with the father. Unsettled relationships with parents can be another cause of financial problems. Therefore, if you have problems with money, then you can work out relationships with your parents on the Hellinger constellation, which will give you a huge resource for financial and social success.

Are there situations in which constellations may not help?

Yes, unfortunately there are... There are people whose ancestors made a lot of serious mistakes, were very unfair and cruel to others. Now the descendants have a certain stage in their lives, they need to go through a certain road, when moving along which they will face serious trials, aimed primarily at showing mercy to people. Tests can be different: lack of money, illness, lack of partnerships, and even a test of power and money, that is, those social values that are extremely difficult to resist. If a person has not gone through the path of trials, he aggravates the situation in his clan, shifting responsibility onto the shoulders of descendants.

Whether deterioration after arrangement is possible or probable? Yes, it is possible if the constellator is inexperienced.

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I stopped resisting the questions "how to arrange the arrangement for myself" and began to collect constructive ideas :) Additions and new ideas are welcome :)

Arrangements for oneself (for the time being, without a group, that is, in splendid isolation in general) are difficult because the person himself cannot feel the excluded dynamics in his system. If he had felt them, he would have deciphered and lived them long ago. But he cannot feel them directly, and that is why he lives "someone else's fate."
However, there are some things you can do for yourself.
Let's start simple :)

The first idea: "Let's go to the cinema?"

So, to go or not to go to the cinema? Should I go to Professor Preobrazhensky's seminar? Stay in Verkhnyaya Pyshma at the Sheraton or Hilton hotel?

Today at 19-00 in the cinema. The Moscow City Council is filming "The Elusive Avengers". Do I need to go there?

In a room where (preferably) there is no furniture and enough free space, we mark the place "I'm in the cinema named after the Moscow City Council on Elusive Avengers today." You can mark it, for example, with a sheet of drawing paper. Just put the paper on the floor. Better not an A4 sheet, because in the cinema you are surrounded by space, and in the arrangement it is better to be surrounded by space too. Smaller furniture is better so as not to catch extra speakers in chairs and tables, both from the cinema and your own.

We stand at a distance from the drawing paper, look at it and slowly walk. We monitor our condition. Sometimes already at this stage one feels, for example, "an insurmountable barrier". You can put it on a chair or stretch it with a rope.

Sometimes it suddenly becomes clear that "there will be no kina", i.e. there is simply no object of our movement. If this event is really announced in the poster and it is today (and not in six months), then this is very strange. Two options - either it really won’t happen (you looked at the wrong poster), or you got into some kind of dynamics with this movie and are simply not able to stage and see “just a movie”. For example, in the cinema Moscow City Council 20 years ago, Mitya said that this is your last date. You have long forgotten this, but the body remembers .... Or it was said by the groom to your grandmother.

Just in case, you can put "where this actually leads me" (also a chair) and see if this figure is visible. If the figure evokes strong sensations and another barrier rises, we have arrived. Keane will not. You for a professional placement.

The difficulty with this arrangement is that the "movie" target is quite difficult to place. For example, if the building of the cinema them. The Moscow City Council is being attacked by raiders from Truba LLC, then the owners of the building and these raiders radiate such trash into the space that it can score anything. If the film is "cult" and a million people have already watched it, then it already has an "egregore" and it can make noise so that you won't find yourself there. All the girls are already in love with Lanovoy, and on the spot "in the cinema" you feel the energy of girls touched by the head, and not yourself in this cinema today.
A professional arranger could clean up the trash and put the configuration cleaner, but we don’t want to do it ... :)

And yet: "I'm in the cinema named after the Moscow Council on the Elusive Avengers today."
We stand on whatman, we feel. Well, how are you today? :-))

You can complicate the task and divide the object into (for example): "what kind of film", "what kind of people", "how are they fed", etc.
It is possible that the film is garbage, then there you will meet Petya ... Or a classmate Masha and she will say that ...

Important addition: If a we are talking about whether to go to the cinema with Vasya from a parallel class, the arrangement should be completely different! About this next edition of our radio show.

About the hotel, I put, for example, "silence". If there is no silence, then I do not need "comfort", "location in the center" and so on.
About seminars, you can separately put "personal benefit", "usefulness in learning", "people", "status / for a piece of paper", etc.

How often do we hear terms that are not entirely clear. For example, "Hellinger arrangements" - what is it? Let's start with the fact that the author of this method, Bert Hellinger, is a well-known German psychologist, philosopher, teacher and practitioner. His works are relatively young and are aimed at solving human problems.

What did Hellinger study?

The scientist formulated some laws and patterns that lead to undesirable events, conflicts between spouses or colleagues. Hellinger worked for a long time on such questions: “How does the adoption of feelings occur? How does conscience (personal or family) influence the way of life of a person? Is there a system that governs relationships? In fact, these are just a few of the topics in a whole list of Burt's teachings.

Today, his arrangements are becoming more and more in demand. With this method a large number of people were able to find the origins of their troubles and eradicate them. Many practicing psychotherapists are increasingly using Hellinger constellations in their work with groups, couples, or individuals with individuals.

"Space" is the place of the individual in space. The method itself resembles a game of chess. That is, each participant is assigned a specific role that reflects his subconscious image in a situation that requires elaboration. This can be not only a family situation, but also problems in the team, failures in business.

Arrangement method according to Bert Hellinger. Session start

So, a man comes to a psychotherapist with an urgent problem. To begin with, the specialist conducts a short conversation with him, during which it is decided whether he needs an arrangement or everything is much simpler. After all, you can send a person to ordinary worldly advice- and his life will go back to normal. But when the situation is complicated, a more detailed conversation is conducted with the client.

To begin with, the problem itself is highlighted. For example, in this case, a man drinks, his wife “saws” him daily and believes that all family problems are associated with alcoholism. The man, on the other hand, does not think so. After all, before his marriage, he did not drink so much alcohol.

The therapist asks the client to talk about their lifestyle. Hellinger constellations require a systematic consideration of the problem. That is, it is important to understand what each of the spouses is doing all day, what kind of relationship they have in general, which is why conflicts occur. Finally, individuals are themselves in family life or play someone else's role.

The specialist separately considers the parents of the husband and his wife. How did they behave with each other in the family? If it turns out that on the part of the man, the father and mother lived in perfect harmony and there were no problems with alcoholism, then most attention wife's relatives.

Having previously sorted out the first conversation, the specialist recommends that the man come to the next appointment with his wife. After all, the root of evil is most likely in her, and it is impossible to get rid of it without her participation.

After all, she did not work out family life, and all the time she asked her daughter the installation: “Look, all men are the same. Your father is just like everyone else. Drinks, brings home a penny. With imposed thoughts, the daughter grows up and involuntarily notices only negative traits in the surrounding men.

Nevertheless, the girl begins to meet with a nice guy. Soon our heroine marries him, but after a while it seems to her that her husband is not “her person” at all. Whatever he does, everything she sees is negative.

It would seem that the chosen one is not so bad, his positive features outweigh the disadvantages. But the woman continues to maintain internal aggressiveness and sends him negativity at the energy level. A man catches this signal, realizes that his partner despises him, and gradually begins to seek solace in alcohol. This helps him forget for a while, but the problem remains.

The following actions

The Hellinger constellation method involves playing roles. Therapist offers a couple to lose certain situation. For example, he asks a woman to describe how she behaves in the workplace. The patient comments on her official behavior, communication with colleagues, and it turns out that she is “white and fluffy” at work.

What changes when she crosses the threshold of the house? Why one of your appearance Does the husband irritate the woman? The couple play the quarrel scene in front of a psychotherapist. The wife tells her husband her usual phrase: "I would stop drinking, and everything would work out."

From that moment on, the specialist asks the couple to stop. Systemic family constellations according to Hellinger, they require time to concentrate on important point. In the case of this couple, that time has come.

The therapist says to a married couple, "Let's try to understand the source of the problem that forces one of you to drink." Further, all the reasons contributing to this are crossed out. For example, the following are excluded: big money problems, workplace conflicts for a man, health problems. What remains?

The patient frankly admits that he is oppressed by the eternal discontent of his wife, who constantly finds fault with something or, on the contrary, is silent and avoids marital intimacy. In this case, the partner suffers from a lack of female energy.

Often, due to a lack of love for a partner or out of a sense of resentment, female representatives punish the chosen one in this way. They actively sublimate their energy into caring for children or load themselves with household chores. While the spouse is trying to get some positive attitude by drinking alcohol. There is a vicious circle.

In the future, Hellinger arrangements imply a deep study of the problem. In this case, the therapist will try to inspire the woman with the idea of the need to eradicate the attitude that her mother unwittingly asked.

By her behavior, the wife provokes a man to drink alcohol, in fact, she makes her play the role of her alcoholic father. If, along with this, the woman still has some resentment towards her husband, then during the session it is proposed to get rid of her. "It's important to free yourself from negativity," says Bert Hellinger. Family constellations offer many techniques for this.

In fact, the whole process is not as simple as it seems at first glance. In the history of this married couple, the specialist will have to give the characters new “roles”, and in such a way that an even exchange of energies takes place between them.

The impact of egregor on a person

After a constellation session, you may be surprised: “How did it happen that I began to play a role in life that was not my own? Why did I speak with someone else's thoughts? In fact, few people think about whether he really does what he wants, and whether he lives the way he wants it.

In most cases, it turns out that our daily thoughts, feelings and actions are borrowed by us from the people around us: our own family, team and society as a whole. In other words, a certain energy-information space (egregor) has its own direct influence on personality.

Each society (collective) is subject to certain system values. The influence of egregor can be both positive and negative. Everyone develops their own value system. For example, a church egregore seeks to influence people through sermons.

And any terrorist organization creates its own egregor, manipulating the consciousness of the participants with a certain theory. Sometimes more strong personalities can create their own egregors and influence others. Such an individual should be the most energy-intensive, since his task is to lead and influence, that is, to manage many energy flows. Egregores are described in detail in one of Bert's works entitled "Hellinger Constellations". The book tells that often the root of the problem can be found in life values that are passed down through the family.

life stories

Family gender is a system that has its own specific tasks. And family members (mother, father, son, daughter) are elements that must fulfill their functions. What happens if someone gets kicked out of the system? For example, the son did not want to become a military man in spite of the family dynasty. And my father really wanted it.

In this case, the function of the son may be redistributed among other members of the family, or it may be overplayed: the daughter marries an officer. The father is extremely happy, tries to establish strong contact with his son-in-law and shares plans for the future to continue the military tradition.

The method of the German psychotherapist deeply affects the problem of the older and younger generations. Can the Hellinger arrangement help everyone? Reviews about this are different. However, most agree that generic egregors can provide Negative influence for descendants.

For example, a young woman is deeply unhappy in her marriage. It would seem that all methods of resuscitation of relations are ineffective, rudeness and violence reign in the family. There is only one way out - divorce. But the older generation of this woman unanimously repeats: “There were no divorced people in our family. We do not accept this and it is considered a disgrace.”

That is, the generic egregor of this woman dictates her principles to her and requires submission. Only a complete rethinking and rejection of the role of "victim" will help such a person to accept important decision and start a new life.

hereditary aggression

Hellinger's systemic constellations help many couples and individuals to deeply understand the origins of evil. Here is a simple example of a problem with which men often turn to psychotherapists.

So, a conditional young man came to see a psychologist. He could not understand his behavior towards women. After numerous divorces, he faced the fact - the chosen ones leave because of his unmotivated aggression.

In all other areas of life, the man seemed positive. During a conversation with a specialist, it turned out that the man had once “unconsciously” tuned in to a revenge program. How did it come about?

As a rule, in similar situation it turns out that the patient grew up in a family where the father was constantly humiliated and depressed by his wife. The boy could not resist his mother in order to protect his father. Thus, as he grew older, the young man worked out his own plan (revenge program).

This led to the fact that, being in a relationship with the girls, he periodically felt a fierce hatred for them. As soon as the right opportunity came, he took out his anger on them with his fists. Bert Hellinger's arrangement should show the man that these feelings do not belong to him. They are inspired and fixed in the mind from a distant childhood. But the client has a different situation, and the girls have a different character than his mother.

And most importantly, he can become happy only when he realizes this and begins to change. This is a gradual process. Much depends on the natural temperament of the individual. One needs 2 sessions, while the other will need several. The method of arrangement according to Bert Hellinger is unique in that knowing family systems (orders), a person can not only avoid failures in life, but also protect future generations from them.

How does the group method work?

Let's talk about group sessions. The phenomenon of these activities is that a group of people live the roles actors in the client's problem. Situations can be different: a person cannot find a mate, is constantly ill or has financial difficulties, although there are no good reasons for this.

The Hellinger constellation method is difficult to explain in detail, but it happens according to this scenario: the corresponding roles are distributed among the participants. And they begin to feel similar emotions of those who asked for help. The phenomenon has received the term "substitutive perception".

That is, there is a transfer of internal images from the client to all participants and to the space in which the arrangement takes place. People selected for specific roles are called "deputies". During the session, they aloud assess their condition, trying to restore the problematic situation.

Systemic constellations according to Hellinger help the main person to unravel the tangle of their conflict situations, build the correct hierarchy and restore energy balance. The work is built by moving "deputies" in the field of arrangement due to various rituals.

The session can be considered successful if all participants do not feel discomfort. And - most importantly - there should be physical and psychological relief for the client. The arrangement method according to Bert Hellinger forces to fully activate different levels perceptions: emotional, mental, auditory, tactile.

What does this method give?

As a result, the individual gets A New Look to their problem, acquiring a different model of behavior. Certainly the most The best way evaluate the methodology - take part in the group session yourself. Exactly real experience will help you understand how it actually works.

Nowadays, many have already heard about such a method as Hellinger constellations. There are also negative reviews about it. But despite this, the popularity of this method is growing. After all, the range of sessions is quite expanded - this is psychotherapy, medicine, pedagogy, and even esotericism.

All information obtained during the sessions is confidential. In order to take part in group work, there must be motivation and a conscious desire. To date, it is not difficult to find a Hellinger constellation group. In Moscow, the number of fans of this method is constantly growing, as it is recognized as professional.

Arrangement using tarot cards

Finally, we come to the part that leaves an esoteric imprint on the method of the German psychotherapist. The fact is that not every person can come to a group of people and openly talk about their problem. In this case, a person can participate in a group session, but at his request, a hidden arrangement takes place. That is, the client himself doses the openness of information. A great way out of this situation is the arrangement of Bert Hellinger using Tarot cards.

The deck in this case serves as a tool for diagnosing the ongoing process. The client is asked the question: “What is the essence of your problem?” A person chooses, without looking, a card, and describes what he saw on it. "Deputies" are also selected, following the chosen arcana.

According to their problem, the client, with the help of the facilitator's prompts, shows each participant where to stand and what to do. The next stage is the emotional experience of the situation. "Deputies" exchange impressions: "I just thought that ...", "I got the feeling that ..."

At this point, the client is also included in the process. He listens to the opinions of all participants and takes the place of the one who hurt his emotions the most. And, based on new role, he says the words that he considers important.

The arrangement ends with a survey of each participant. Despite the fact that the client's problem is played, the "deputies" are also under close attention psychotherapist. It is important for him to know how this or that person felt in someone else's role, what he experienced and what conclusions he made.

Also, a specialist can evaluate the diagnostics on the maps - was it possible to fully provide assistance to the client or did the system not fully reveal the situation? After all, the customer is not immediately able to objectively evaluate the session. For this he will need time.

Individual placement

Is it possible to conduct such a session yourself? Not excluded. After all, not everyone has the opportunity or desire to work in a group. In this case, the arrangement according to Hellinger independently is possible.

True, for this one should get acquainted closely with the theory of the method of Bert Helling. And important to professional level understand the interpretation of tarot cards. So, the problem is indicated, and the cards will play the role of "deputies". The work is divided into three stages.

First - you should choose cards: yourself and "deputies". Next, you need to lay out the rest of the cards as your intuition tells you. Then, one by one, open and collect information from each, adding it to the big picture.

The second stage depends on the question posed. If it concerns a family, then cards of ancestors should be laid out from above, descendants - from below. If necessary, you can take additional cards if in doubt. During the process, it is necessary to move the "deputies", as would be the case with real people. It is recommended to listen to your physical and psychological sensations.

The third stage is completion. This happens when a person feels satisfaction from a lost situation. Based on the result of the interpretation, it is up to the client to decide whether he has worked through his problem.

To an uninitiated person it may seem that it was a fortune-telling session. But this is far from true. The individual placement method using Tarot is shown only to professionals. The rest is recommended to resort to this method under the guidance of a qualified psychotherapist.

The psychological method of the German doctor Bert Hellinger has earned the recognition of specialists in various fields: pedagogy, psychotherapy, sociology, and marketing. The uniqueness lies in the simplicity of the method, the ability to find the root of problems in various fields human life, as well as to determine ways to solve the identified negative states and situations. Hellinger constellations have been used successfully for several decades. However this method has not only admirers, but also opponents who believe that the system harms program participants.

What are system arrangements

The teaching is good practice, which was introduced in 1925 by the German philosopher and psychotherapist Bert Hellinger. System constellations are the ability to feel, “scan” the energy and information field of a problem situation. Hellinger's method is based on the innate ability of people to feel. Our feelings after are proof of it. random encounters with people. Some awaken in us exclusively positive emotions, after communicating with others, I want to take a shower and wash off negativity and irritation.

Hellinger constellations involve working with a group of people. Each participant must use the natural ability to "feel" people and the problem situation that was set by the leader. As a rule, people easily read information about the difficulties in different areas of life from the main participant (the person whose problem is being worked out).

Each of us is a complementary part unified system. People are connected by tribal programs, family relations, religion, national traditions, friendships, business partnerships. We influence and depend on each other, we seek mutual understanding and love, but among huge amount people often feel lonely. This sense of self is dictated by the state of isolation: a person extols suffering and pain, his own exclusivity.

The Hellinger installation serves simple method helping people to realize the commonality of their problems. With the help of constellations, program participants can get rid of many far-fetched problems, mental beliefs revealing their root causes. As a rule, they are destructive family programs and unfinished problem situations in the family, providing negative influence to the fate of man. With the help of Hellinger constellations, it is possible to uncover the root causes:

diseases (drug addiction, alcoholism, genetic diseases);
difficulties in family relationships, in relationships with the opposite sex;
various phobias, depression, panic attacks;
childlessness (if there is no infertility);
business problems;
unfulfillment in life.

What are the constellations according to the method of Bert Hellinger

Psychological consultation, based on any approach (classical or systemic), begins with identifying the client's problem. At this stage, the specialist determines which placement method is best to apply. Hellinger's system implies several main types: family, structural, organizational, client and spiritual constellations. What are their features and differences?

Family

The type of constellation involves working with family problems. Family constellations according to B. Hellinger include study intrapersonal conflicts, generic messages that negatively affect a person's life. Experts are convinced that the difficulties of many clients are due to traumas that have been transferred within the boundaries of the family system in the past. Problems are often associated with a failure of the order of the hierarchy or the principle of "take-give" (the desire of parents to take from children, children's awareness of their superiority over their parents, and the like).

Bert Hellinger believed that family traumas are main reason any health, personal or financial problems. The psychotherapist is convinced that the root of any problem is the desire to erase (forget) the participants in the family trauma - both the perpetrators and the victims. This desire to exclude what happened from memory becomes the “causative agent” of various problematic situations and incorrect mental programs in subsequent generations of the family. The Hellinger constellation method helps to find hidden reasons unhealthy state of the client and get rid of them.

Structural

This type Hellinger constellations helps to establish such areas of life as work, finances, illness, and get rid of fears. The method is extremely effective if it is impossible to logically substantiate the reason for the repetition of the same problem. Structural constellations help to extract the underlying causes of problem situations to the level of consciousness. The program implies the transformation of a person - this allows him to independently change at a deep level.

Organizational

Designed to solve problems among the members of labor collectives. Special areas of application of the program are working with business consultants, script writers, and researchers. Organizational constellations by the Hellinger method imply "playing" roles, main character traits, specific stories. The purpose of the method is to unite the team to increase the productivity of the team or to resolve internal conflicts. The priority of organizational constellations is the employees themselves, their community.

Client

Constellations according to the Hellinger method are aimed at people whose professions involve helping others (doctors, social workers, psychologists, teachers). This type of program helps to consider the relationship between helpers and help recipients. Through client constellations, it is possible to see how effective this support is, what motives drive the helpers and, if desired, correct them.

Spiritual

The doctrine positions the spirit as something that stimulates development. This Hellinger constellation identifies the therapist and participants as instruments for the manifestation of the spirit. The technique is somewhat contrary to therapeutic constellations, where the main role is assigned to the therapist, who is looking for a solution to the client's problem. The system does not use the concepts of "problem" and "solution". Spiritual constellations view the situation through free movement consciousness.

Laws of the order of love

family method constellations is based on two main concepts - conscience and order. The psychotherapist in personal philosophy relies on the aspect of conscience, which acts as an analyzer and "organ of balance" of a person. The system will work well only if the conscience is calm - then there is inner confidence that family life has developed. Anxiety means that a person can no longer belong to the system. This notion is a power detector internal balance.

Hellinger divides conscience into unconscious and conscious. If the individual acts in accordance with the latter, he violates the rules of the unconscious. So, the conscious conscience gives us excuses, and the unconscious makes us feel guilty. The therapist says that the conflict between them often causes problems in the family. The relationship of husband and wife in such a conflict will be destroyed even in the presence of strong love.

Many people believe that established family orders can change under their influence or that they can be easily overcome with some effort. However, love is not able to give order, since the latter is a fundamental principle, and love is only a component of order. Thus, love is formed exclusively within an order, and to change it through own efforts impossible.

How is the system placement

Group therapy involves working with each participant, which can last from 30 to 90 minutes. The duration of the system placement is determined depending on the number of requests. The person whose problem is being worked out determines for himself who from the group will play the roles of members of his family. For example, a woman who has a problematic situation with her husband chooses participants to be herself and her husband. client, led own ideas and feelings, according to the instructions of the psychotherapist, arranges the participants around the room.

Amazing things happen during the program: “deputies” (they are also participants) on own experience the feelings and emotions of family members, whose roles they perform, live. So, strangers immerse themselves in the situation so deeply that they can clearly express situations that are happening to someone. Thanks to this effect, there is no need to talk much about the events that took place in the client's family.

What is the danger of the method

Every profession is associated with risks to some extent. For example, an unprofessional driver can knock down a pedestrian, an inexperienced lawyer will deprive a person of freedom, an unqualified doctor will let the disease kill the patient. Due to the lack of experience or low qualifications of the psychologist, the client may lose personal integrity or mental health. In the hands of a non-professional, even psychological work.

The benefits of the constellation method are directly related to the professionalism of the presenter. Only an experienced specialist will determine which version of the system is best suited for use for a particular person, and which one can cause harm or turn out to be useless. Through Hellinger constellations, participants come into contact with other people's personalities as they play roles. The therapist's guidance makes the process safer for the "actor" who, without negative consequences out of the assigned role.

Features of teaching the methodology

The constellation school will be of interest to beginner or practicing psychologists, family doctors, psychotherapists, social workers, teachers and everyone who works with people. The main teaching methods that are used in the program include a theoretical and practical part. The first one involves studying the basics of constellation, reading philosophical notes, considering the methodological and morphogenetic prerequisites of the system. Practical part contains analysis of specific situations and work through the method of family constellation.

During the course of study, students are introduced to the psychological and philosophical teachings of the constellation method. Students learn about the basic prerequisites of the system, such as positive conditions for developing healthy family or work relationships. During the training, it is considered how love relationships are formed or destroyed. Course participants can study their own problem situations through the prism of Hellinger's constellations and see how to solve them.

Video about system constellations according to Hellinger

Modern psychotherapists are convinced that the method is most valuable in practice, not theory. However, in order to reach best results group work according to constellations, you need to understand what the basic concepts and principles of the system are. With the help of the video below you will get basic knowledge and ideas about psychological method Hellinger.

A clear sign that your previous relationship with someone is still not completed is a repetition of the relationship development scenario. That is, those same - the notorious "rake".

When you break up with all your partners in the same scenario. Or when one of the links in the business structure is constantly "weak" - no matter who starts working there, it constantly "breaks": people themselves leave this particular position, or some events occur that interfere with business processes in this particular position. plot.

Both in the case of personal relationships and in the case of business relationships, if you want everything to go smoothly, you will need to “look at the root” - that is, explore the very first relationship in which you first stepped on these already disgusting you now "rake". And if these relations did not end quite calmly for all parties, you can try to even out the balance now.

This is done using the method of systemic constellations - if you turned to a systemic therapist for help. But you can try to do it yourself - by conducting the so-called arrangements of the imagination.

The simplest version of such constellations, which is available to anyone, is to mentally imagine a person with whom the relationship has not yet been completed, alone with oneself. If it’s already completely difficult for you with imagination, put some object in front of you that will play the role of this person. What follows is, looking into the eyes of your imaginary partner, calmly, without emotion, admit everything that happened between you and how it affected you. And all the bad things must be acknowledged first. But be sure to use a constructive model of conversation.

For example, if a man left a woman, then she can say the following: “You cheated on me. I was very hurt". Such a phrase speaks of a fact that describes the bad that was caused to her, but, at the same time, about her feelings. And everything that is remembered should be in just such a bundle: fact - emotion, fact - emotion.

In other words, you need to build a conversation as if you were actually talking to your partner., but constructively - without insulting the person himself, but with a statement of facts and your emotional state due to what happened. A conversation in this vein does not aggravate the situation, affecting the partner’s emotions, but allows you to explain to him the connection between what happened and the subsequent change in your emotional background.

And according to this scheme, you need to remember all the bad things that you remember now - because if you still remember it, and even with emotions, it means that resentment towards your partner is still deep in you.

By the way, if such constellations are carried out not in the imagination, but with the help of deputies (people who will temporarily portray your partner or even you, if you have a couple of assistants), then in the case of a really incomplete relationship with someone, you will see that either the deputies cannot calmly look into each other's eyes, or it will be quite difficult for you to do it yourself. Even if one of those with whom you have trusting relationship in life, and you usually calmly look into his eyes.

However, for the purity of the experiment, it is desirable that people who take a neutral position in relation to what happened act as deputies - that is, they do not emotionally take sides.

You ask why they use substitutes for system constellations at all? I answer: the easiest way to figure out what is happening inside the system is to temporarily exit it yourself.

Being in the position of an outside observer, it’s easier for you to see what is really happening between people, how they react to each other, where they look and how they feel.
Being inside the system it is difficult for you to objectively look at what is happening, and on a purely physical level it is impossible to see everything that is happening around you - you can be sideways or back to someone, and this person can seriously influence what is happening inside the system.

But let us return to the continuation of the description of the arrangement of the imagination. Next step: after working through all the bad things you remember, you must definitely remember all the good things. For example, in the case of the woman described above, she could say the following: “I am grateful to you for the love that was between us, for our common children. If it wasn't for you, they wouldn't be there either." In general, if later, looking at her children, a woman can calmly see in them their father, the woman’s former partner, then the fate of the children themselves will be more successful. Otherwise, role substitution may occur.

How do imagination constellations work?

Very simple! If the mother tells the child that his father is bad, then the child subconsciously identifies himself with the "bad" dad and can manifest himself in relations with the mother in the same way as the "bad father" did, and even repeat his fate in some way, or bad habits, although, it seems, in the present there are no prerequisites for this. And this is very well illustrated by the constellations according to the method of Bert Hellinger.

That is why, when conducting family constellations, the model of the current family most often includes the former wives and husbands of family members, and even the subsequent spouses of these "former", as well as those who were the very first love, even if these relationships did not end in marriage.

So, if you really deeply carry out such an arrangement according to the scenario described above, then you will feel the energy of that love that was once between you and your former partner. And this feeling of the flow of love will be a sign that you have energetically completed your relationship with him.

The same principle is used to end relationships with unfairly dismissed subordinates - if we talk about the aspect of business relationships, and to end relationships with betrayed fellow comrades - if there were any.

Although, as one psychologist friend of mine wisely remarked, the word "betrayal" should be considered as derived from the word "transfer." And if there hadn't been any of the betrayals in your life, you might never have moved to new level own development, where you were "transferred" - after all, it has long been known: "thunder will not strike, the peasant will not cross himself" ...

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